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me and my mom are having this stupid fight and I need to know if i'm being ridiculous or not.

ok so my photographer is in the process of moving from cali to colorado and so she hasn't had time to upload all of my pictures for us to go through. She sent us 5 random pictures just so we would have like a sneak peak at something. so my mom decideds to email these pictures to like EVERYONE we know. and they're all printing them out and whatever.

I got mad and told her that she had no right to do that. everyone would've gotten their pictures when it came time to give em out. that was 5 pictures out of like thousands we have to go through and they weren't meant to be printed out or shown to anyone but me and my mom.

am i over reacting for being mad that she did this? she said I sound ridiculous.

but senior pictures are a big deal and I would have really liked to have given the people the ones I liked.. not have random pictures of me all over every ones walls.

that's not how it works..

let me know.. thank you.

Your mum probably didn't know you'd react like this. She just sounds like a proud mother who wanted everyone to see the pictures. Just because she's sent them out already doesn't mean you can't pick and choose other ones to send to certain people.
I can understand you're a little mad at her for not asking you first, but at the end of the day, you shouldn't get into an argument about it. It doesn't make it less special.
Try to see her side as well.

This guy and i have been passing notes for a while in last note he said he wanted to tell me something but he thought it would be awkward if he just told me so after class he gave me a note then walked away of course with courosity i opened it and it said '
" i think your cute is what i wanted to say :] " what does that exactly mean? does he like me?

Hey, thanks for your question.

He pretty much spelt it out to you. Of course he likes you. :)

does canada listen to the same music as the u.s does? like lil wayne, rihanna, chris brown, t.i, cassidy, etc.
?

Why not? The rest of the world listens to those artists, too.. depending on their music taste of course.

Hey. I'm in AP Bio and I have to write up an experiment on plants. I am not an expert on plants at all. Does anybody know of an expirement that I could start and finish within 2-4 weeks?

1. Put one plant in sunlight and one in a cupboard. Observe.

2. Why they need water (check this out: http://www.theteacherscorner.net/lesson-plans/science/experiments/plants.htm)

3. Plants need music? http://ezinearticles.com/?A-Fun-Science-Project---Do-Plants-Like-Music&id=376076
I'm liking the sound of this one!

Okay, so I'm not saying I hate my best friend "Nora?" It's just that she can be really mean to me and to our other friends.

Ex.) On this one site were I posted a story she also did and my story was more successful than hers and she wrote a bad comment about me in my guestbook ,but it was annomonsye[sp?] well i found it was her because her IP addresses matched. Well I was upset about this ,but I got over it.

Ex.) She constantly says she "hates" me and she knows that upsets me. Even thought she might or might not mean it.

Ex.) She constatly offendes me.

Ex.) We both had this friend named "Laura" but one day "Nora" decided to not like and hate "Laura" so she turned on "Laura" while I didn't .

Ex.) She talks about our friend "Michelle" behind her back and tells me how much she hates "Michelle" while I sit there an listen.

Ex.)She tells me she'll never like my type of music/style and then like it. Hiprocritic[sp?] Which strangly makes me mad.

And we are slowely drifting away. I don't know if I should go with the flow considering she's been mean. Or try to remain bestfriends with her [and try to get over all this]

So please tell me what you think of the situation. Sorry it's alot and that it whatever else I could be sorry for.

Thanks in advance. :)

I'll keep this short and straight to the point, because deep down, I think you know what everyone else is thinking.
It's a good job you're drifting away. I wouldn't want a friend like that and I can speak for the rest of the world.
Friends are supposed to be loyal, not hurtful.
She has some serious growing up to do if she wants people to like her.
My advice to you is to TELL HER how you're feeling. Make it crystal clear you will no longer be friends with her if she doesn't stop her ways.

16/f
It seems like I am the luckiest girl ever. I got my period for the first time in may of 2007, and for the past year or so, I have not had any obvious PMS. My mother says that I have not been grumpy ( except for the occasional random bad day), I dont get cramps, breakouts or feel extra tired. The only difference is I gain a few pounds and want to snuggle a lot.
is something wrong? Is this unhealthy hormone stuff or something?
gah!

No, you're fine. Not everyone suffers.
I know for the first few years, I didn't at all.

i find this a bit weird, i was just on the computer just surfing on the internet and talking to my friends online. and it happened... 3 times in a row. my heart went "BOOM" and i gasped. or stopped breathing, i don't know what i did at the same time. and then it happened again after i ignored it before. i thought it was weird, so i decided to take a shower. and when i press my hand against my chest.. not hard, and you have to focus to feel your heart beat, when i just put my hand on my chest... i felt my heart beat hard. for some odd reason, i wasn't running or anything. I WAS JUST SITTING THERE! and then, usually hearts beat a bit slow.. like "boom... boom.. booom" mine was like "BOOM BOOM BOOM BOOM" and it was thumping hard. weird isn't it? and usually when i work out during dance, or walk to school.. i usually don't get that tired or start sweating, but in dance.. i started having trouble keeping up. what's wrong with me? please help!

It could be anything, from palpitations to an irregular heart beat.
What you've described is fairly common and has probably happened to most people.
My advice would be to talk it through with your doc, just to be 100% sure everything is running smoothly and as it should be. It will also put your mind at ease and will tell you ways to stop it, or give you medication if needed.
When it comes to your health, you should always get checked.

OK people I am sorry I am always asking questions about one guy. and thank-you to the people who have helped me out.Well last night me and my best friend (who is a guy) were talking on the net and some how we ended up doing stuff and him saying he wishes it was in person. Well he has a gf and today he was acting like I was his GF and treating me like it and making sure I was ok with what ever he was doing.Sad part is he dont even do that with his Gf. So idk what to do he is cheating on his Gf with me and I feel more guilty then him.....GAH! I love him more then anything but this isnt right

Don't be responsible for him being unfaithful.
You know it's wrong, so don't do it any more.
If he wanted you, he would be with YOU, not his current girlfriend.

theres this guy i like and ive been meeting him but i ended up giving him end, which i didnt mind but ever since that he txts im all the time asking me to suck him off, he sent me a msg saying...."you can suck it basicly when ever you want ile loan you for a while if you want".... what does this mean i think i no im just not sure and what im thinking i soo hope im wrong

Haha, you let him talk to you like that?
You KNOW what he means, so tell him where to stick it. (no pun intended).

I'm a virgin. I've been proud of that my entire life, since I just entered my early 20's. It feels good to know I have pride in something. But-- It doesn't mean I've been completely prude.

Before my current boyfriend, I'd "hooked up" with one other guy, who I'd been with for 3 years. My new boyfriend and I are doing really great-- but I keep accusing him of giving me STD's, and going on and on about it until he freaks out. But, oral sex is still sex... And I could still catch something.

My vagina had some itching-burning going on.. so before getting it checked out.. I blamed him. Then, after a visit to the gyno.. turned out to be a yeast infection.

The other day, I reached to the back of my mouth.. because I felt like there was food stuck back there, and it wasn't. While trying to pull out food, I popped a blister back there! It was painless, but whatever was inside the blister, tasted sour and gross. Any idea what THAT was??

I got so mad, that I walked up to him and slapped him. This poor guy, he's been tested twice, and honestly doesn't believe he has anything. But I keep doing this to him.

Should I be worried about the blister?
How can I be nicer to him about this?.. he really might leave me one day.

Thank you

Why are you automatically assuming he's giving you diseases? Just think about how much longer he's going to put up with you accusing him of something like that. It can damage your relationship because it proves you don't trust him.
The blister could have been anything, from something you've eaten to an unknown cause - they're really common. If it reappears, get it checked out, but if not, it's nothing to worry about. Read up on them.

Next time you get symptoms, put the fact it COULD be an sti/std to the back of your mind, as it's probably not the case at all.
Go to your doctor FIRST and have them diagnose you, because you're not doing a very good job at it yourself.
Honestly, stop worrying, before you push him away.

okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him.

You've contradicted your self SO many times in this question.
I just can't understand why you would even want to get guys to call him up and say that. How did you think he'd react? Laugh and agree?
You've messed up and now you'll just have to face up to it.
You say you care and you can't lose him.. Sorry honey, but you already have.
You don't deserve him. Move on. Then get help for your suicidal thoughts.

My friend and her boyfriend had sex and I dont know if he came on the bed or not. A few days later she had a sleepover and I slept in her bed. Is there a chance I could be pregnant? My period is late and I'm kinda worried cause' I'm only 16.

The person below has their facts a little wrong - sperm doesn't die as soon as it hits the air - but you'll be happy to know you can't get pregnant 2 days later from sleeping on a bed which may have had semen on!
If you're not sexually active, then you shouldn't worry about your period being late. Forget the sleepover and stop stressing. Periods take a few years to regulate don't forget - and there are other factors for periods being late/skipping.

I'm 16 & just got my first cell phone about a month or so ago. My mother just got the first bill, and I went over everything {text, minutes, & data} and she has to pay a $212 phone bill for me. She said she wasn't going to take my phone away THIS time. The problem is my bill cycle JUST started over and I'm already over everything again. How do I find a way to pay for this? And how do I approach my mom?

Be honest about it. First, stop using your phone, then tell your mum. Perhaps you can offer to help pay for it. If you don't have a job, you may be lucky enough to be able to help out around the house (cleaning/gardening etc) At least that way, you're actually paying the consequences and being mature about it by willing to help.

Be truthful - do you use your phone too much? You really should cut down because it's not fair on your mother. The first time was an accident, but you should have learnt your lesson and not use your phone so much this time.
Also, if the phone plan you're on at the moment isn't enough for you (which it sounds like it isn't!) ask your mum to change or upgrade.

is it okay to pluck my white heads around my nose.

You shouldn't really pop spots. It increases the chance of scarring and infection. If you must do it, wash your hands before and after.
but the best way is to just let nature take it's course and let them go away on their own. Everyone gets spots, it's nothing to worry about.

i've been dating this guy for a month and hes absolutely amazing and i know he really cares about me. the thing is that he doesnt go to my school and i only get to see him like 2 or 3 times a week. i constantly want to be with him all of the time and when im not i get upset...is this normal? i havent told him that i love him yet because i think a month is too early but i think i seriously do because i always wanna be with him...what does this mean? is it normal? is it bad? any advice?

Of course it's normal to always want to be with your boyfriend, especially since you've only been dating a month. Relationships are always exciting at the beginning and you'll want to spend as much time as possible together, to build you as a couple.

Well, my friend has a past of making up illnesses to get attention and I have finally decided to catch her in the act..

Is there any way you can get Pneumonia from a busted lip?

No.
MAYBE, she got confused and accidentally called it pneumonia? You never know.. but since she has a habit of lying, you can't blame yourself for wondering.

what free place can i get tested at to make sure i am clean and dont have any disease? i dont think i do at all but i want to know to be sure.

i am 18.female.

What kind of diseases? Sexually transmitted?
Where in the world are you? There should be a clinic near by which offers free tests.
Google where you live and health clinic/free std tests (assuming that's the tests your after) Or, you could drop by your docs and ask where it can be done.

I don't really know about what category to put this in...
i hope it's alright as it is.

ok,
I don't like masturbation at all.
It doesn't make me wet.
It doesn't even turn me on.

Is this weird??
Is something wrong with me?

P.S: some people say it's healthy... is that true?

P.S.S: yes. I've had sex.
[don't know if you needed to know that, just thought i'd put it out there.]

In a nutshell:
Masturbation isn't everyone's cup of tea.
If you don't like it, don't do it.
There's nothing wrong with you for not liking it.
I also think you're using the wrong word for "healthy", because not masturbating isn't healthy .. it's not unhealthy either!

This is how mybelly button piercings been doing:

Day 1-2: Red, tender, top is crusted
Day 3-5: Top still crusted, no longer tender, pus comes out
Day 6: Top crust comes off so it looks kinda healed becuase its smooth
Day 7-8: Still puses and occasionally crusts, but crust falls off real easily
Day 9-10: REDDER. I though that it had been getting much better, but turns out, it got worse? I think... Im worried
I also think it'll be rejected because it looks like its migrating.

I dont know what to do! I dont want it to migrate out. Also, what can I do to make it NOT red?

You haven't even had your piercing for 2 weeks - of course the healing process might not run smoothly for now, especially since it's very easy for that area of your body to become irritated, from moving, clothing, etc.
Redness isn't really a bad sign. If pain and discomfort comes along and a coloured pus (not clear), then it's time to take a trip to your piercer and ask them to look at it.
For now, all you need to do is sea salt soaks with warm water. Just hold the compress over your belly button for about 15 minutes, 3 times a day.
Give your piercing a further 3 days, without forgetting the soaks and whatever you do, don't touch it (unless you're cleaning it), stay the hell away from antibacterial washes. try not to let your clothes rub on it and try not to move that area too much.
Now, migration is a different story - alot of piercings migrate depending on the area. Piercings like yours are more susceptible to migration and rejection since your body doesn't want a foreign object in such a place.
My advice is to go to a professional so they can see it in real life. They will know if it's migrating or showing signs of infection and they'll help you take the necessary steps from there.

Basically, I'm one of those people that rarely straighten their hair (only on special occasions) so I decided to come here for help.

Anyway, in 2 weeks I'm going to party. I was wondering should I straighten my hair on the day of the party, or do it the night before?

My hair is really annoying because it gets greasy real fast, obviously overnight isn't enough to make it completely greasy but sometimes it'll lose shine and volume.

Obviously I'm leaning towards to doing it on the day, but what do you think I should do?

Just do it on the day of the party, but give yourself enough time to do so.
I have curly hair and sometimes I straighten it on the night, but wake up with wavy hair.

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