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well i have fat but its not alot and i really wanna lose it for the summer and ause it will make me feel better i tried eating healthier and getting more attive but its kinda hard staying away from things and resting
does anyone have any ideas how to lose the extra few

=) thanbks

You need motivation,
but the only way to lose weight
is to eat healthy and exercise.

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I'm so confused about my boyfriend, I mean he's the nicest guy, but he's so shy. He's forgetful too so he doesn't call all that often. The only things I seem to focus on about him anymore are his faults. I really do love him but sometimes I just get the feeling that he doesn't know what he's doing. Yet sometimes he does cute things (like grabs my hand which guys don't seem to enjoy) but usually only when were around my friends that are couples (I'm guessing he just copies what they do?) When were alone it's completely different, we talk about everything and nothing yet it still seems awkward; We don't go to the same school so that can account for being a bit awkward around each other since we don't see hangout as often. I want a bond with him like all my friends have where they play fight with each other, talk about their relationship and call each other just to say "Hi"
I don't know how to show him that I'm really into him and want to step it up a bit. Any advice?

Well sometimes that happens, when you are in a relationship for a while all you start to see are the imperfections of your boyfriend or girlfriend. Dont dwell on them, because you probably do a lot of stuff too that he finds annoying, or things like that. He is a shy guy, and atleast he is open when he is alone with you, some guys are like that.

But really you cant want what other people have in relationships, because that will just screw yours up, focus on what you do have. Maybe he doesnt call you beacuse he truly does forget, so you should call him.

If you really like him, you'll forget about his imperfections, take a step back and look at yourself as well, and you'll try to talk to him more, and bond, and communication is the key, so theres nothing anybody can say on adviceanators that will help your relationship, because its all how you approach your situation.

Good lucky sweets.

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OKay if you to to my myspace
www.myspace.com/moshele6
and look how my pic thingy is centered and like all my stuff is centered and connected.... how do i get it back to regular?!?!?

Take your layout off.

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I cant take it anymore
I really cant.
My parents are so overprotective.
Whenever I go out, they always want me to be home by 10 PM. latest
I need revenge
dont you dare say its cuz they care about me. i know that and im sick of all this shit
i need help now
I cant take it anymore

Its against the policy to give you advice on how to revenge against someone.
Even your parents, and I dont care if you dont want to hear that they care about you.
Because they do, and I'm not going to give you nice advice that you want to hear, you can give me a 1 for all I care.
Well if you would have included an age then it could be determined if your parents were actually being fair.
If your 16+ you should talk to your parents,
but if your younger, than I would get used to it until your old enough to be responsible.
The only way to get your parents to make it later, most likely 11. Is if you sit down and talk to them calmly and explain how you are feeling, it wont help if you yell and scream at them, it will just make them angry.

good luck.

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My cat has been gaging like he's going to puke but then he dosn't and he does it especialy when you pick him up. Also he's breathing out of his mouth. I know for sure that theres nothing stuck in his throat... and the weirdest part is that my other cat is starting to do it now too. Does anyone know what might be causing it. Im really woried and dont have the money to go to the vet. Please Help.

Maybe your cat has a hairball.. sometimes you cant see those, or maybe your cat is sick, and your other cat caught it. Well, I'm pretty sure you cant be certain without going to the vet, and thats what you should do for your pet, I know you cant afford it, but I wouldnt wait too long to get help. Maybe someone else could take it to the vet? If you're that worried, I'd do someothing.

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hiya,
well... am 13 n i havn't EVER had a boyfriend! im not tht bad lukin but am sorta big.
Im 13 and i waigh 11 stone! im on a diet atm wich is workin 4 me.. am goin to the gym and so on.
How can i let myself get a boyfriend? any beuty tips or anything.. plus i have bags under my eyes! please help! x

Well you cant make yourself get a boyfriend.
Love, and relationships takes time, and you cant force it upon yourself or anyone else for that matter.
You'll get a boyfriend when you are confident and comfortable in yourself, and when the time is right.
Just because you have some imperfections doesnt mean a guy wont like you, because no one is perfect, but trying to make yourself perfect, is just a waste of time, try accepting yourself for who you are, because a guy will really like you for who you are.
And you are only 13 years old, you have a looooonggg time yet.
So dont worry :)

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Allright well im 16/f!
and i just wanna say im like really gettin upset and down on not having a boyfriend. i just want to feel needed by someone and know that someone is always there to cuddle with me,hug me, kiss me. ive NEVER had a boyfriend before but now..i just really want one. i know you cant just say you want one and have one because someone just has to come to you..has to be at the right time. but you see im a shy girl around 120 pounds 5'6 brown hair and eyes..tanner..and i just dont know whats wrong with me?? no guy has ever liked me how sad is that. i just want a guy that i can be with and know that they like me back. im just so sick of trying to look and WAITING ... im scared one will never come i feel like such a loser. but i am so shy as i said before so what can i do to help this? there is this kid that my cuzin likes and his name is bobby and well ive always thought he was hot!! but ive never got to meet him before and she wants me to hangout with him and her sometime soon! i want to get his attention but i feel bad cuz my cousin likes him =p i love her so much that i wouldnt wanna do that to her but it would be such a perfect opportunity and she knows that i think he is hot! well thats not the problem really..the whole problem is the boyfriend thing! lately ive been feeling so down and ugly..and alone.
what should i do?
i'll rate 5 for anyone who helps me

Okay, well if you want someone, the morey ou look for someone, the harder it is to find.
You have to not be so consumed on finding a boyfriend, and its not healthy that you want to feel "needed" by somebody. You need to be able to be happy in life first, and be confident and comfortable with yourself before you are in a relationship. Otherwise its not healthy at all. Theres nothing wrong with you, but if you keep acting desperate, then boys arent going to like that. The only think you really can do, is get yourself out there, ask some guys out! The worst that could happen is they could turn you down. But thats not the end of the world.

And jsut because you think a guy is hot, thats shallow, would you like a guy only liking you becuase your hot? You know, you are going to have a lot of oppertunitys in your life to find a boyfriend, but the moreyou want one, the more unstable you will be, and the harder it will be to find one. And dont go for your couisns crush, thats not cool.

hope i helped hun.

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Okay, so theres this girl. Lets call her "M" And personally, I don't like her.

M is claiming to be my friend sean's "favorite" according to his profile. And seriously, I'm thinking to myself, "he's YOUR favorite?" and he's been my friend for a while now. that girl is just mezmorising the boy. She can't really like him, he's my friend.

So, the thing is that I get mad&jealous everytime a girl calls him her "favorite" it's not like a like him or anything, because i have a boyfriend and stuff. But these girls need to leave him alone. Maybe I should get over my jealousy. Please help?

Yeah you should get over your jealousy,
because just because hes your friend, your not dating him, and you dont own him, since he's not your property, if he didnt like her calling him her favorite, he would probably tell her, you know. It could be because you just dont like "M", but dont let this get to you, your still friends with Sean, so thats all that should matter. She can like him if she wants to, just because he is your friend doesnt mean you can say who can like him and who cant, I'm sure you knew that though.

But your correct in getting over your jealousy.

take care,

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here is the deal i'm 17 the guy i'm seeing is 20. i didn't want him to meet my parents yet bC me and him are nothing but friends right now. and i wanted to wait to see where it was going before my parents meet him. well today me and my best friend and her boyfriend and Scott(the guy). where droping me off. my mom said something about wanting to meet them.
dad goes out there and acts really mean, he comes back in and says that i'm not allowed around him anymore. i don't wanna stop seeing scott. cuz we have hit it off so well. no i don' tknow what i need to do. cuz my parents are going to trip really bad now when i'm with Kristina.

Well since your seventeen, you'll be 18 soon, and you wont be under their rule anymore, I would jsut wait until then, because they still have control over you. And he is 20, andyour still a minor.

You know?

hope things work out.

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my friend pushed things with me and this guy and we started going out to soon. we both liked each other but not enoght to be together. well we broke up cause we didnt think we were ready for that type of relationship. well now things are weird between us and i hate it. i still like him and he still likes me but when ever we talk it is akward. i dont know what to do about it. so advice me up!

Okay, well you can make it not awkward,
its only awkward becauseyou let it.
If you act normal, he will be more comfortable.

Just take things slow.

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I was wondering if someoene has the version of the book the Princess Bride with the extra chapter called "Buttercups Baby"

I havent read it since I was a freshman in high school...But i remember in the buttercups baby chapter when Wesley and Buttercup were about to make love for the first times he says something along the lines of being afraid she'd be bad
and he said something to her in response that was sort of cocky but also really sweet...And I can't remember what it was, and it's driving me INSANE


Please help me

Try googling it.
Since you know the chapter, put like
Princess Bride; Buttercups Baby,
I'm sure you can buy it on amazon.com or some book site.

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okay well im 13/f and I KNOW i have a problem...#1 i have REALLY bad anger issues...for example once i punched a wall and fractured (spelling?) my fist all because i couldnt see my cousins for a week or so longer. i've also threw things around just because i was told something i believed in strongly about was wrong. i take temper tantrums and yes its immature but the thing is i dont really realize what im doing..when i have my little fits its like all this energy and i dont know its just weird, it freaks me out a little. OK now heres the thing as soon as im done takin my fits or throwin somethin punchin a wall i will b perfectly fine 5/10 mins later i will act like nothing ever happened sure i'll have a headache but i wont be pissy or anything. Im also like that throughout the day...i'll be really pissed off for god knows what 5mins later im the happiest person in the world...5mins after that im mad again or im sad and depressed or something and hey maybe theres nothing wrong with me but maybe there is and its starting to get annoying when im all happy and then im depressed....
- thanks and sorry if you think im crazy -
~ Rosemarie

I suggest you talk to someone about this,
other than this advice column.
Because we cant go through the screen and help you deal, unfortuently.
But I suggest talking to a counsular, or finding an adult you trust to talk to.
Especially if you know you have a problem such as this.

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What would happen if someone like 15 that hasn't had their period yet has sex? It's not me, I'm just wondering.

You can still get pregnant,
even if you havent had your period.

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theres a kid named Aaron that i really like,and hes in seventh grade,im in 8th.im VERY shy and find it hard to talk to guys that i like.i really want to send him a message on myspace or something so i can start talking to him, but the problem is, i dont know what to say!i dont know him very well.i've asked all my friends, but all's they keep saying is say "hi, i know you from school,i really like you, we should go out" or something along those lines, but that isnt anything at all that i'd say.and i dont want to go out with him right away, i just want to talk and be friends with him.he knows i like him,my friends make it quite clear lol,but im not sure if he knows my name and that.

so does anyone have any ideas on what to say to get a conversation going?

thanks!sorry that was so long!

No no no dont say what your friends say.
Thats not the right thing to say, he'll think you're a physco.

Well remember he is a year younger than you, so if you ask him out and he says no, its no big deal. And also since your in 8th grade, your still really young. :)

You can send him a message on myspace, saying something short and sweet like "Heyy I think I go to school with you!" and he'll probably say somehting back, like what school do you go to? or something, and then you can start a comvo that way.

:)

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This is actually for my friend thats a guy so yeaa. anyways i need this as soo as possible please i rate fives.!


well, my guyfriend has a girl who is really nice and all, but she's never talks to him when they see eachother and he likes another girl [aly] a lot and she does too but Aly is my guyfriend's bestfriend and she still likes her ex.

What should my guyfriend do?

Wowww, complicated.
In my opinion and what I suggest is that
he just finds someone else, I mean its not that simple beacuse your guyfriends bestfriend could not be happy about that.
That was just one suggestion, that he find someone else. OR! he could just go for aly,
and if his bestfriend gets mad, I think he'll have to deal with the consquences.

You know?

Hope things go well hun!

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I have a best friend whom I've known since the 7th grade, and one of the things we promised each other in our ring of friends is that "Friends come first always before boyfriends." However, I feel that this best friend of mine is not keeping this promise. Besides being close friends with me, she also had this really close guy-friend since the 7th grade, who has now become her boyfriend. I know that I should understand that its okay for her to be closer to him because they were close before, and are now in a relationship together, but I feel hurt that its against what we promised... Like, she would always, always stress it to to us that friends are always first, but this now seems hypocritical... We rarely talk on the phone anymore, or talk at all because she's always spending time with her boyfriend... What can I do to repair this friendship, or to understand???

Thank you very much. (16/f - Junior)

When you make promises when your younger, things change. I'm sure if you really liked this guy and he asked you out, you wouldnt let a pesky promise you made in 7th grade, keep you from love, would you? Things just change a lot, she could be saying all that stuff about friends first, but that was before she realized how good it feels to be in a relationship. Its hard to understand when you're not..
Okay, wel its not bad that shes hanging out with her boyfriend a lot, she cant be hangingout with him 24/7 though, so theres got ot be time you can call her. You can tell heryou want to hang out with her, and you can drop the whole being angry about the promise that was made.
Because that seems to be the conflict here. :)

I hope thigns go better!
I really do.

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I have been really good friends witht this chick for a long time but then she got drunk and something happened one night and she did something that i thought would never happen, she flashed me. I didnt care cause we were too good of friends but i told her what she did and then another one of her best friends told her that it never happened and now she believes them and has forgot about me and wont talk to me...however it really did happen and i have no idea what to do about it..how do i convince her it was true and it did happen? Then if i cant convince her how do i gain her trust back? Thanks!

Well go talk to her friends that said she didnt, because they could just be telling her that, because they wanted her to not worry about it.
And see what they say? But you really need to sit down with your friend and tell her that she really did flash you,and that you wouldnt lie to her, or just drop the situation.

But communication is the key.

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What is the age that guys usually bring their girlfriends to their house to like, meet their parents and have dinner and stuff?

When the relationship starts to get serious between you guys. :)

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In May of 2004 my sister graduated, and I met a guy she graduated with. I thought he was totally hot and started to have a crush on him.
Well, I couldn't get ahold of him after graduation and now two years down the road I go to a party and see him.
Things happen and I make out with him. Well now time has progressed and we are friends with benefits.
I don't mind it .. he is hot, cool and stuff.
But now lately he has been calling me alot. ALOT.
It's not booty calls either, he calls and we talk. I invite him over for that reason and he doesnt come over. I'm confused. We flirt alot and there is obvious chemestry between us, but isnt that just what friends with benefits are?
We don't go touchy feely everytime we see each other either.
What's going on? I'm confused.

Well.. maybe he is starting to fall for you?
I hate the term friends with benefits because its so violating each other, and its so sleezy, you're using each other. Which is disgusting.

But maybe he likes you, and you dont need to be all over each other when you see each other, he probably calls when he's bored or desperate or cant get anything from someone else (sorry to say it that way, but thats how it is)

Anyways maybe he doesnt want to come over,
because he likes talking to you on the phone, which is why he calls you so much now..


you know? hope things workout hun!

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Alright well, I have a problem. My brothers best friend is turning 18 on the 17th. He's a senior, and I'm a freshman. I've known him my entire life pretty much, atleast since I was two years old. He's one of MY best friends, including one of my brothers. The thing is, throughout my entire life people were always telling me they though he really liked me, more than a friend. I thought this sometimes as well. He was always doing projects FOR me because he didn't want to see me fail, giving me rides home from school, etc. Well things hit their peak at my parents party. See, he said something to me, and I took it the wrong way, thinking he called me fat. He didn't mean it that way, but already being in a bad mood, I started crying in the car for about two hours. Eventually my other friend, Josh, got me out, got me drinking some red wine, and it basically led to my aunt getting me captian and cokes and me drinking until I got completely smashed. Well, I danced with him and whatnot, and I felt like I really, really liked him. Ever since then, he's been kinda awkward because he thinks since I was drunk, I didn't mean anything I did that night, and that I might still be mad at him. I guess what I'm asking is, given this, what should I say to him? I'm rather confused about the whole thing... but I want to tell him how I feel before he goes to college next year, because I care for him a lot.

Well tell him your still sorting things out,
and ask him what he did say, because your confused about it, and tell him what you think he said.

But I dont think your aunt getting you drunk was a smart idea at all. But write him a letter other wise and give it to him before he goes to college, he wont be going until next year, since right now its summer..
but hope things work out!

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