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ok so this guy and i were messing around and we ended up having sex. well he didnt have a condom but im on birth control. one of his friends was coming so we stopped cuz we didnt want anyone to know. so he didnt cum but could i be pregnant because i have been really tired and i've started to feel sick.

i just want to know if its possible to get pregnant if he didnt cum

With protection or not, there's always that small chance, even if he didn't cum.
Pre cum CAN contain sperm - and guys don't generally feel it coming out.
Just take a pregnancy test to put your mind at ease, because you can't be certain just from 2 symptoms which can be caused through anything.

do you wear underwear with girl boxers? i just wanted to know

Girl boxers ARE underwear.

can skeit still get a girl pregnant if it gets on your finger and you finger a girl

Of course.

okay well i know what 4:20 is, i think almost every teenager in america knows. But okay this isnt really a thing for advice,its more of a question and i would GLADLY appreciate it!!!

Well this has been happening to me for like about 2 years.
Everytime the time turns to 420 i look at it!
every single day! it is so weird. And my little pot head friends lol say that thats like tight but i really dont know why this happens. Im not even kidding EVERY day at 4:20. i dont know if its a sign or something. Do you think it has to do with the fact that i was supposed to be born on april 20th? because i was. but my mom had me 10 days earlier.

well anyways if you know like what this means or anything please let me know because i think about it everyday!

thank you so much

I genuinely think it's just a coincidence. I do exactly the same thing - not just with 4.20.
I can just tell the time without looking at a clock. and it's always, always right.
Seeing as it's happened alot to you, you may have got yourself into a little routine, where you just remember to look at the clock at 4:20, without being fully aware.
Sounds strange, but it's very possible and the most likely reason.

If you want to think there's more to it, then that's fine. but i don't believe in that stuff, so personally, I say it's just a coincidence.
I'm sorry if it wasn't the answer you were looking for..

im being blackmailed by mty sister because i got arrested yestrday for ditching but my mom and i are keeping it a secret to my dad but my sister just keeps making me her maid if i dont do anything she tells me she yells out "DAD!! you know what **** did yesterday!!!" and then gives out keywords about what happened she ses it out loud and i cant stop crying because im falling for it. i have no other choice i dont want her to tell my dad so i ALLLWAYSSS have to do what she has to say!!! icant stop crying because she keeps controlling me and im so tired of it.. its never gonna end!! any adice? i need to stop this. what can i do! i hate it when she treats me like this!

Telling your mum seems to be the only sensible option here.
Yes, what you did was wrong, but your sister can't keep taking advantage of you for it.
Tell your mum how your sister is behaving about the situation and no doubt she will get in a bit of trouble herself, so she should stop.

Should you shave "down there" every day? (female)

You "shouldn't" do anything.
You should do what you want to do!
If you want to shave every day, then do it. Bear in mind it will probably get irritated more, which in my personal opinion, think it's better to do it every other day if you must.

what topics i disscussed with my girlfriend on phone?

I take it you are asking what you can talk about.

Well, there's everything to talk about.

You could start off with your day and what you have been up to. Conversation flows easily from there.

One point though - if it's full of awkward silences and getting boring, you don't have to stay on the phone. If you make it short and sweet, it's never a bad thing. Like, just to call and make sure she's okay etc.

I'm sure you'll find tonnes of helpful things in this search:

ok i've had my period for exactly 3 weeks straight, it slowed down after the first week i had it and the last two days it was barely there at all so i thought finally it ended, but now it seems like its starting again and i'm really nervous about this.. what do you think it could be, and what should i do?
i've had my period for 1 and a half now so idk

Go to your doctor to check everything is running as it should be.
There are a number of reasons as to why this is happening to you.
Periods can take years to regulate and it could be a simple case of yours not being regular yet - or something which may need treating.
No one here is a doctor, so we can't diagnose you - especially over the internet.

Good luck.

My hair is naturally a darkish blonde and they seem to match my hair but the shade of them drastically changes when I'm in certain lights. Sometimes they look brown and sometimes they look blonde. I'm thinking about darkening them but I'm not sure..

Here's a picture of me:
http://i35.tinypic.com/11vo50i.jpg

I just hate the way it looks when I'm under that kind of light and I think darker eyebrows would make my face look more defined. What do you guys think? Also bear in mind I usually have my hair dyed chesnut brown, my dye has just faded.

You've made some good points and if it makes you feel better about yourself, then yes, go for it.
Just make sure you go to a reputable salon for the best results.

at the top of my head sorta towards the back my hair feels kind of sticky, and the strands are al stuck together. it looks oily/greasy like i havent showered, but when you feel it it feels kind of sticky. i shower everyday and i dont think i did anything different to cause this?!! does anybody know whats wrong and how i can make it go away?! i shower everyday so idk what it is!!

Some tips which may help you:

Maybe you aren't rinsing your hair properly after shampooing and conditioning.
Have you been using the same shampoo and conditioner for a while? If so, change is good.
Do you even use conditioner? If so, don't put so much on the top of your head - focus more on the roots.
Remember to brush your hair thoroughly after washing and rinse your hair with cool water - not hot.
If you use products on your hair (gel, wax etc), stop.
Do you use a blow dryer? Set it to the cool setting instead.

Still have sticky hair after following the above? Visit a hair dresser so they can see it in the flesh and give you tips.

if you come does that mean you've had an orgasm?

Yes.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cum

Every person i like,
LEAVES!!
Im a teen - every person i have liked,
has left the school, (and they did not know that i liked them)... this isn't just a coincidence. BELIEVE ME - like EVERY single one left.

WHY IS THIS.

is this like some kind of CURSE or sumfin?!?!

All answers are appreciated.

Kronix

I don't believe in curses, so it's just a freaky, annoying coincidence.
No one can explain WHY they are moving to you.. I'm sure everyone that has left has their own reasons.

I just want to get some people's opinions on this: What do you think about girls asking guys out?

ANY AND ALL OPINIONS ARE GREATLY APPRECIATED :)

I think it's normal. I don't feel it should always be the guy to ask the girl out.

So lots of chemicals give me headaches, like perfumes, fake sweeteners, msg in foods, etc.

Those I can generally avoid although my mom continues to buy 80% of food with those things in it, leaving me to eat things like french fries or bananas/fruits/vegetables and water.

I can STILL deal with that. But she has those air fresheners with the smells, like Glade Plug In and stuff, and they give me such a terrible headache/migraine, that i even start crying. She doesn't listen and continues to buy them and puts them all over the house even after i throw them out :( there is no way to get it through her head... i've even shown her websites about it, and she says that it doesn't affect her so she doesn't care.

what do i do??

I suffer from exactly the same. Luckily, my mum doesn't buy things which she knows hurt me.
This is quite a tough question, because since she is your mother, you're going to have to live by her rules if you live in her house - but since it's actually affecting your health, I think you're going to need to see a doctor about your migraines and have the doctor explain it to her. Perhaps she thinks you're over reacting, I don't know. but if you have a professional tell her, she might realize....

so has anyone heard of not bein able to get your tongue pierced because your cord thing that attaches your tongue to your mouth was too long ( it reached the tip of my tongue)

because thats what the piercer that wqas going to pierce my tongue said.. is this true?

Without physically seeing your tongue, it's impossible to say. SOMETIMES, if the piercer isn't confident enough, they will make up crap basically.
Before you get upset about it, make sure what he/she is saying is correct. Go to another piercer and see what they say. If the same thing happens, then sorry, but a tongue piercing just isn't for you.

If I have kinda dark brown hair and I die it at home with dark blonde drug store hair dye what color will it turn...?

If it contains a lightener, it will turn your hair lighter. If it doesn't and the hair dye is for blondes who want to go darker - you won't see any changes.
If you want your hair lighter without bleaching it first, you can buy at home hair colourants (I use to use Loreal). It says it on the front of the box.

my vagina gets tight during what i think is an orgasm. Is this normal?

It's just your muscles contracting. It's normal.

after giving a blowjob do u have to swallow?
whats it taste like it sounds gross.

Of course you don't HAVE to swallow. You do what YOU want to do.
If you aren't comfortable with swallowing it, simply spit it out.
It's useless saying what it tastes like, because it will vary for every male.

if i drink a lot for my first time will i be out of it and not know whats going on if someone trys somthing with me?

Basically, it depends what you drink, how your body can handle it.. and other factors which include if you've eaten.
If it's your first time, pace your self and have water available. You should aim to drink water inbetween alcohol - it won't give you the awful hungover feeling in the morning.
What are you planning on drinking? As it's your first time, I'd steer clear from shots. Stick to one type of drink, as it won't mix with whatever else you drink and make you sick.
Beers and alco pops will probably be your best bet (nothing with a large alcohol content) so see which one you like best and stick to it.
Don't drink to the point of stupidity, because anything can happen to you - and you won't have a clue.
When you're feeling tipsy, grab the water and give the alcohol a miss, for your own safety. and if you're worried about people trying it on with you, stick with the people you know and tell them to watch out for you. It's always a good idea to have someone who doesn't drink alot to check up on you and your friends.

Random question, I know, I know :)

I was wondering, would it be really strange/weird if I went to a drugstore just to buy tampons?
I'm not sure...I was just wondering...
Or should I buy some shampoo or something aswell?

Of course it's not weird. Just buy what you need.. it's what shops are for.

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