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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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So my hole family cousins sisters brother aunts uncles etc, all belevie in waiting till marraige and so do i Its hard cause you get tempted but i stick through it.
I know that is what god wants everyone to do and its the right way to do it.

So i was wondering on how you feel about waiting to have sex and doing other things with them?
(besides kissing and makeingout)No fingering bj all that stuff how do you feel about it?

For me personally, I don't believe in waiting until I'm married. However, if other people choose to wait, that's their decision or their belief.

I will do what I will do, and you will do what you will do. If people want to wait, I respect that. I just hope they will respect me back for not waiting.

People can do whatever they want & that's just how it is.

ok so i have A friend
shes around 5'5 or 5'6
shes 13 and ways 147 she says shes fat and i try to tell here shes avrage do you guys think its normal?

She's tall for her age, and that would be an average weight for someone her height. She's fine. :)

Im 16/f and my guy friend from middle school died on monday. His funeral is next monday and I want to go, I dont think my mom will let me because its a school day. What should I do?

I'm sure your mother will let you. If it's someone that you were close with, I'm sure she'll understand & let you go.

I'm really sorry for your loss.

When I was 12 I had my first kiss with this boy that i really liked at the movies, and it was pretty funny it was bad lol. but after that i learned that its not that big of a deal lol and the rest were better ha so anyone have funny first kiss experinces?

Mine was actually kinda horrible. :(

I was around 12 or 13, and my "friends" at the time were very rude & forceful, and I hadn't learned to stand up for myself yet so I let people push me into things I was uncomfortable with and walk over me.

Well, I was riding my bike and the boy that liked me (who I also happened to like) was walking around near my street (he only lived a street away) and my friends were at the corner and they decided to make us kiss. I didn't want to, but they kind of held my bike hostage & said if I didn't kiss him, I wouldn't get my bike back.

So, it was forced, awkward, and I was really pissed off in the end. I wasn't friends with them the next year, and that was that. However kisses after that were better because I felt comfortable and it was something I wanted to do, not something I was forced to do. Thank god that was like 5-6 years ago. :)

guys, how do you feel about a girl who is on the pill and does not want to use a condom. Girls and guys, is that weird for a girl to not want to use a condom? and if you dont mind saying..doesnt it feel better ?

I'm not a guy, but I still feel like I should offer my opinion.

I really think that being on the pill but not using a condom is pretty stupid. You should want to take care of your body better, and that means doubling up on protection (1 condom, birth control pills).

It isn't weird to guys, but I find it weird. Girls should want to protect themselves and keep their bodies healthy & safe. I suggest that if you're going to have sex that you use both birth control pills and a condom.

You shouldn't be worried about what feels better, you should be worried about continuing to be in good health.

before reading this,im gunna ask that you NOT say "oh theres nothing wrong with you, you still have time", etc. because guess what? i am a FIFTEEN year old girl with absolutely NO breasts. i don't fit into the smallest of small size cups because there is nothing there. i know i could just be a really late bloomer, but i have already had my period and i thought you were supposed to develop breasts about 2 years BEFORE getting your period. is it possible i'll stay like this forever? is it really possible i'll never ever get boobs and have the chest of a man? is there anyone else out there like me?

You're only 15. You will get your boobs. Stop worrying.

real chance of love wasnt on yesterday (labor day). and i dont see the make up for it tonight (tuesday) !
when will it be back on !? i miss my boys lol

I checked the Real Chance of Love 2 section on VH1's website, and there's nothing about it on the site. They probably didn't have an episode set up for yesterday. Just look out for it next week.

Do a lot of guys say "that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside" ? I know this is a strange questions but please answer it. Thanks in advance.

It depends on the guy and the types of phrases he uses. My boyfriend has never said it, at least that I can remember, and it doesn't bother me. Even if he has said it, it wouldn't bother me.

I am 3 1/2 months pregnant and most days except like once in a while i am always aggervated or angry. very irritable is this normal

Yes because your hormones are changing and are out of whack.

Whats everyone's view on them. I am always telling my son not to point them at people. His step brother all he does is play with them and point them at my son so of course my son is going to point them back.

At least it's not a real gun he's holding at people, right?

Aside from that, just enforce a no guns rule. If you don't want them playing with toy guns, then take them away & refuse to buy the toys for them anymore.

I was a teen mom.
My parents got divorced while I was pregnant
Also had to deal with a big move
and some other things

I dont have any college education but I am 18 Is it possible to become a counselor?

Probably not. You would need to get your degree to become a counselor since it deals with Psychology & Therapy.

So, basically i had sex with a guy and i was totally stupid bkuz i thought he had a condom and afterwards he told me he didnt..great huh?well, he said that he didnt finish, but idk..i cant be for sure..im super worried that maybe he did and he just didn't tell me..?but i dont wanna get all worked up for nothing..i should have really taken the pill, but i didn't....sooo im wondering if i should be worried at all?or what..?

Thanks guys! :)

You should most definitely be worried. Not having any form of protection is really stupid. This guy could be dirty & have an STD, or he could've finished. He probably lied when he said he didn't because he lied about the condom as well.

You need to go get yourself tested for STD's and you need to take a pregnancy test. Next time don't be so stupid and so trusting.

i don't understand why guys like girls with the natural look. one of my best guy friends is a very popular guy. he's captain of the football, hockey and baseball team at his school. now i'd think he'd go for some hot blonde who looks like a barbie but not at ALL. he goes for all these girls who don't wear make-up. i'm like so confused! when i don't wear make-up i look very tired! i wear liquid eyeliner on the top lid of my eyes, and mascara. i wear blush every now and then & a bronzer. i honestly think i look better with makeup but now i'm having different thoughts. is it really true that guys think girls with barely any/no makeup are more attractive? i just dont understand how that is!

They like it because it looks better. While they do appreciate a girl who gets dolled up once in a while, they don't want her like that all the time. It's just the idea of simplicity.

And most of the time, girls put so much time into their appearance. It's nice to not only save time, but just to relax a little. Guys like both, but the simplicity and the comfortableness of being in sweats & tanktops are awesome.

I believe that the music you feed your mind becomes part of how you yourself think, feel, comprehend, etc. So I have decided to make a playlest on my ipod Of all Uplifting, powerful, insperational songs and I was hoping you guys had some suggestions.

I Like all Types of music, Mostly R&B but there is no type of music I dislike. Im big on lyrics so if the song holds meaning I will enjoy it

I'd apriciate it alot. Thank you. God bless

I suggest the whole Saosin album. It's self-titled & it was their first release. The album is pretty inspiration, and the running theme is definitely hope.

They just released their second album today, but it's kinda depressing. I definitely recommend their first album. It's kind of a harder rock, but it's amazing. :)

i am 13 years old and i was having a party at my friends house. I got drunk and i really liked this boy. I came down in the middle of the night and he came through to talk to me. Then he kissed me and stuff then he started to finger me i feel such a slut and i don't know what to do. He wasn't drunk but the next day i noticed i had blood in my pants then the day after that i also noticed all this white stuff but i don't know what it is. Am i a slut and what is this stuff
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Sluts are usually defined as girls who sleep around with pretty much anyone they can get their hands on. I wouldn't personally define you as a slut, but other people might if they found out what you've done. It's best if you keep this whole thing to yourself. 13 year olds have big mouths.

However, you shouldn't even be drinking. You're 13 years old. Why the hell would you be drunk? You should be having birthday parties and group dates at the skating rink. Stop drinking before you build up a habit & become an alcoholic, and stick to your damn slumber parties and collage making.

ok so one of my friends thought of a good idea to get a guy to like me. he likes "bad girls" so the plan is to get a rumor started about me that i gave someone a bj and idk if i should do it or not. help me plllleeeeaaasssssssseeeee!

No. It could ruin your reputation & make everyone think you're a slut.

Be a nice girl. If you get that type of rep, guys will only want you because they'll think you're easy. They won't have any real interest in you.

And other girls will talk bad about you. It'll just bring trouble. If he wants a bad girl, he can go find one who already has a bad rep. No need to spoil a good girl. Reputations are easy to make and hard to break.

As ashamed as I am too say this, The last time I picked up a book and read the entire thing was 8 years ago.

My question is does anyone know a really good book? Something that isn't a century long lol..

I saw someone suggest "Speak" on another post it sounded very interesting and I will look into that one. However, I like books about reality, Drama, Real life storys not so much romance novels but survival storys or something that someone went through in life. Also if anyone could suggest some really good books related to Anxiety and Depression would be fantastic!

P.S. I have already read all the David Pelzer books.

Thanks!

I think I was the one who recommended Speak. I know it's not exactly based on a true story, but the situation is definitely a reality where it could happen to anyone.

okay i want this tattoo but idk where it would look the best at. any suggestions ????

http://s340.photobucket.com/albums/o321/sulaysunshine/?action=view¤t=lovely.jpg&newest=1

Your shoulder or your foot.

Im a freshman at college this year and i've been here for about a week. I was fine at first, but now i'm getting more and more homesick. I really miss my parents. I've made a couple good friends but no like a big group which im sure is what is adding to my homesickness. How can I get over this? becuase while my parents are coming for parents weekend in october...i wont be home until thanksgiving.

Thanks!

Try going out with the friends you've made a little bit more. If you've started classes, keep up with your studies. Do you have a job? Maybe get more hours. If you don't have a job, maybe find an on-campus one that you can take up. :)

I definitely understand what you mean. I moved in with my boyfriend 7 months ago, and I'm 2000 miles away from my whole family and I miss them more than anything in the entire world. I'm sure you'll be fine. The homesick-ness can fade in & out.

ok i have hear that having a fan blow on you at night while your asleep is bad. is this true? and if so, why?

I doubt that's true. I sleep every night with at least 3-4 fans in my room. Sometimes I sleep in the living room where the air conditioner is & still have 1 or 2 fans going out there. I think you should be fine.

The only risk I would see is if your hair is wet because that could get you sick but other than that I see no harm, unless you're like an environmentally friendly person concerned about energy & electricity.

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