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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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boy and i am different fom every body else what should i do??

I'm sorry, your question seems to only be half there? Because I have no clue what you are really asking here.

I'm going to tell you that being different from everyone else is not a bad thing at all. You are obviously a unique individual who hasn't conformed to be a look-a-like follow-the-leader robot like most people.
Congratulations! You are your own person!

As for this guy, I have no clue what the problem is. I'd say that if he deleted you from everything you used to chat on, he's probably lost interest?
Have you asked him why it is he has done this?

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maybe this is totally wierd and it dosent happen to anybody else, but whenever im really close to or dancing with a guy i like, afterwards my legs start shaking like insane! why is that? andd how do i stop it?!

thanx!

My guess would be that nerves are what causes that. Kinda like sometimes a person gets sweaty palms in a similar situation.

Personally, I'd take the shaky legs over the sweaty palms any day...

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I am 15 years old and I have 3 nephews and I have 2 neices and 1 on the way so I have babysitting experience my 1 nephue has special needs and needs meds and stuff so I can deal with that. I want to know if you guys think I am able to babysit and I think if people would hire me thank you.

I'd consider hiring you to sit my kids.
Why?
You have quite a bit of experience sitting kids already, and on top of that, experience sitting a child with special needs.
You have experience giving medication to children.

I don't have kids that need meds (if they did, you could be trusted to ensure they took them properly in my absence) and I don't have kids with special needs, but if you can handle that, you can handle a lot more than most kids your age.

Something else that is ALWAYS good to do before starting babysitting is to get emergency training. Like for CPR, choking, etc. You should be able to get certified through the Red Cross, I believe.
Even if you already know what to do in such an emergency situation, a certification is a good thing to have.

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i am trying to find this baby calender that you put on myspace. I have seen other people with it but im trying to find it for my friend who is pregnant does anyone know what im talking about? I really want to show this to my friend! lol thanks

This?

http://www.widgetbox.com/widget/pregnancy-calendar

That's what I have on mine. It does a countdown and shows an 3D image of what baby may look like that updates daily.

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My and my man have been together for 2 years but a few months ago we broke up a few months back for a few months and at that time i had gotten with this guy and regretfully had sex with him. now that im back with my boyfriend and hes forgiven me for what i did he now has this bump like sore thing on his penis. its not herpes, it like closes up when we havent done it in a while but when we do it it opens up and it hurts him. The other day it started bleeding while we were doing it and its never done that before. is it an STD? does it sound like anything you know of?

Well, best way to find out is for him to get tested.
I sure hope you practice safe sex by using condoms. If not, you'd be wise to have yourself tested just in case.

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We just started volleyball and I already have these huge bruises all over my arms and there's like these little red dots everywhere on them.

It doesn't hurt but it just looks really painful and gross. I just want to know, can bruises scar? Like if my arms are liek this constantly, it'll look like that forever? (Like how they say if you got acne and don't do anything, it'll scar)

I've never heard of such a thing as bruises scarring, so no worries.
So far as I know, bruises are cause from broken blood vessels under the skin, or something along that line.
Your arms are all beat up from sports, but they will heal and go away. If they don't heal up and go away, you should talk to your doctor.

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im 16 and im pregnant with my boyfriends baby.

i need a lot of help.
im NOT getting an abortion so thats out of the question, even if my boyfriend left me.

heres my backround information.
THIS WAS NOT A MISTAKE. I WANTED TO BE PREGNANT! my birthdays in early december, im a softmore, im currently living with my mother (hoping to move in with my dad) *parents are devorcing*, i have a dog that i will not leave without, i DONT have a car or licance YET, i come from an above middle class family, im a varsity cheerleader for my high school and i LOVE it, my moms sister had a child at 16 so my mom is always warning me not to, im a only child, and lastly, my parents are TOTALLY over protective.

here are the things i need advice on...
-how to i tell my mom
-how do i tell my dad
-am i too young for a house/apt. with my boyfriend (same age)
-how will i finish high school/ go on to collage
-should i start work/get a job
-what do i do about cheerleading. do i have to quit
-what should i do with the child while in school
-could i get home schooled for part of the pregnancy
-how can i hide the bigness
-how where do i plan everything
-how do i get parents support
-how do i get friends to understand
-how will friends throw baby shower
-how hide it from friends parents
-will parents but baby stuff or make me pay for it
-any other things that i need to know.
-if its a girl/boy
-baby names

although this not a "planned" preg. its not like it was like one day, OH IM PREGNANT. we decided this. and its a big responcibility but i feel we can handle it. please, i need as much help from anyone and everyone including boys, and girl, other teenage mothers, and older mothers. anyone who can help me. it would be greatly appriciated. thank you.

i have a dog that i will not leave without
Food/diapers/clothes for baby - food for dog.
Bye doggie. I'm sorry. I can't afford to have you anymore.

i DONT have a car or licance YET
Better work on that. Should have had this already before planning a pregnancy. See, not only do you have frequent trips to the OB, but baby will have frequent doctor appointments. That's if all is well and you don't have pregnancy complications and/or baby doesn't get sick.

i come from an above middle class family
Your PARENTS are above middle class. You aren't. You have nothing that is yours to speak of. Not even a car. Welcome to Poor Town.

im a varsity cheerleader for my high school and i LOVE it
Bye-bye cheerleading. Can't do that when pregnant, and most respecting schools won't allow a teen mom to represent their school as a cheerleader.

my moms sister had a child at 16 so my mom is always warning me not to
Ever stop to think that Mom knows what she's talking about?

my parents are TOTALLY over protective
Can't say as I blame them.

-how to i tell my mom
-how do i tell my dad
Blurt it out. There. Done. Like ripping off a band aid.

-am i too young for a house/apt. with my boyfriend (same age)
As everyone has already said, yes. You can't get into a rental agreement until you are of majority age.

-how will i finish high school/ go on to collage
I truly hope you can get that figured out for your child's sake more than your own. But good luck with that. You obviously have no clue what you've gotten yourself into. Try your best, that's all I can say.

-should i start work/get a job
its a big responcibility but i feel we can handle it
So... why are you asking this question if you can handle it? YES. You need an INCOME. Money does not grow on trees, and it isn't freely handed out. Children are expensive. They require money to care for them for many years.

-what should i do with the child while in school
Well, daycare is quite expensive, so hope like hell Mom and Dad will watch the baby.

-could i get home schooled for part of the pregnancy
If you are going to go that route, you might as well take it all the way and graduate from home. That solves the problem of what to do with baby while at school.

-how can i hide the bigness
Good luck with that one. I wouldn't even bother with all that.

-how where do i plan everything
Why didn't you have everything mapped out already if this was something you decided to try for?

-how do i get parents support
-how do i get friends to understand
Hope and pray for the best.

-how will friends throw baby shower
That is up to them to do, not you. I think you have bigger things on your plate to worry about rather than baby showers.

-how hide it from friends parents
Stop having friends?
Realize you can't hide a baby all your life. Parents aren't blind nor stupid.

-will parents but baby stuff or make me pay for it
its a big responcibility but i feel we can handle it
So since you can handle the big responsibility, you need to figure out how to pay for it yourself. That goes with the territory of planning to have babies.

-any other things that i need to know
Be prepared for your life to change. No more cheer, no more going out on the town, no more having money. No more lots of things.
Welcome to parenthood.

-if its a girl/boy
You can find out around 18 weeks by ultrasound. Be sure to attend all OB appointments. That's very important.

-baby names
http://www.babynamesworld.com/
http://www.ssa.gov/OACT/babynames/

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I'm fourteen years old, and I volunteer at the elementry school, with the after school children.

Lots of them seem really attached to me, but I'm worried they think of me more as there playmate... When I tell them to go stand in line, they won't listen to me, only the adults.

I want to be there friend, I love kids. But, I also need them to listen to me. :)

Any advice is great. And thanks in advanced.

Well, I have to disagree about the puppy thing. Kids aren't like puppies. Puppies learn to obey. Children learn to listen, reason, and respect.

See, the problem is, you have presented yourself as a friend/playmate and not as a friend/playmate/authority figure.

When it comes to kids you can't always be nice. It would be wonderful if the world worked that way, but it doesn't.
Sometimes you have to take that friendly tone out of your voice and replace it with authority to get them to stand in line as they should.

Reason with them. Explain why it is important that they should listen to you. Kids are smarter than we think. They do understand reasoning.

I mean, what if there were a fire? They need to understand that by listening to you and standing in that line is important, especially in such a situation.

They won't think you are mean and not their friend. They will learn to respect that, though you are their friend, you are still an elder who needs to be listened to.

Talk to the adults who volunteer. I'm sure they could give you excellent advice and tips.

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so i've been thinking about having anal sex and im just wondering how bad it hurts, how to do it and some friends who've done it tell me stories about how sometimes when the guy pulls out they have poop on them and im just wondering how much of this is fiction or fact

Well, considering that pooping is what your rectum is for, there will probably be some there.

Remember that you are sticking something in a hole that is only meant and designed for "exit only" so it'll probably not tickle in the least.
In fact, you can be injured out of the deal.

If you do decide to do such a thing, be sure that he wears a condom for anal and CHANGES the condom for intercourse.
This is not only to protect you against STDs, but to protect you from getting fecal matter in your vagina.
Fecal matter + vagina = BAD THING.

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about a month ago i started a relationship with a guy and we are both really happy. the only problem is he has a crazy ex girlfriend, she knows about us, becuase she basically stalks him in every way possible. she absolutely hates me. I have heard from other people who have been in relationships with her that she is physco. She scares and i dont know how to deal with her. what should i do?

Well, stalking is a crime. So he can deal with that by means of the law if necessary.
If she starts stalking you, you also have that option.
Really, you need to be discussing this problem with your parents. They can help you.

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Hey everyone,
I was "together" with a girl for over a year (meaning i never had the balls to ask her out). Then I actually asked her out and dated her for about 6 months. Out of the blue she decided that she doesn't feel the way she used to and she left me. 6 months later, I realize I still love her and she just wants to be friends. I don't know if I can handle being stuck in that frame of mind. what should I do?

Best thing I can tell you is to spend time away from her until you can get your frame of mind straight.
I mean don't see her, don't call her, don't talk to her.
It's pretty hard to get over someone you love while still playing the friend roll.

Just be honest with her and explain why you are doing this so she doesn't get all hurt.

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im doing a report on Jia Li Jiang, the main character in that book. I have to draw a picture of her a long with the report, but I have no idea what Jia Li would look like.. are there any like images that show how the character was supposed to look or any images that you think would reflect how Jia Li would look? or if you really cant find a picture of a 12 year old girl from the chinese cultural revolution, then just explain to me what she'd look like cause i have no idea. include ideas for clothing as well. thanks a bunch :)

I know this may seem like the dumb, yet blatantly obvious answer, but your best description of this character's appearance should be in the book.

See, the good thing about reading books is you get your own idea of how people and places appear by means of imagination.

When you were reading this book, how did you picture this character's appearance?

Draw that.

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Ok, i know why someone would like someone [as in you find then attractive, they have a good personality, and they are kind and caring people] that part makes sense. But ive always wondered what it is exactly that creates the feeling of liking a person?
For example there could be two guys: both are sweet, friendly, and good looking [obviously everyone has a different idea of what good looks are but physical attraction is also part of liking a person] So both these guys would be cool and fun to hang out with, but maybe a person would only be attracted to one. I wonder why, what creates this attraction to only one, when the other is just as good? There has to be something about a person that you find special, maybe like something about them inspires you. I'm not sure if there is an exact science to it but if anyone might have any ideas please let me know
thanx =D

Well, two guys may be sweet, friendly, and good looking, but one may seem more attractive because he seems more compatible with you.

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I've recently started a relationship with this guy. He's in a dance group and has told me that his ex still had feelings for him & he still liked her a little. I was hurt but in the end he "chose" me. I hated to even be in that situation. I told him to go with her if he really felt that way. I hated it.

Anyways. He talks to my friends and told my best friend that they're sharing a hotel this weekend because they are in a dance company and there's a competition. (There will be other people there, too.)

Soooo.... I don't know how to approach the situation. I don't think he knows I know because I haven't mentioned it to him. The relationship is fresh and I don't want to come across as being ... I don't know. I just don't know to what extent I should take it or if I should even mention it?

I don't see harm in mentioning it. He may be afraid of telling you out of fear that you will freak out on him about it.

The guy is in a dance competition and she just so happens to be as well. You just have to accept that. You certainly don't want to be going off half-cocked making the poor guy feel guilty for attending this activity.

Give him the benefit of the doubt. He's already been honest with you about her still having feelings and all. So maybe he's an honest guy. You know, the good kind of guy to be in a relationship with.

You told him to go to her if that's what he wanted, and, yes, he "chose" you. That means that even though he may still have some feeling for her, his feelings for you are stronger.

Remember: It's not like they are going to be left all alone. And even if they were, you can't just assume that something is going to happen. I mean, they are obviously ex for a reason.

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Awhile back, I joined the newspaper at my college. Unfortunately, I decided that it wasn't a good fit and dropped the activity about a month and a half later. When I had only been working there for about two weeks, I was approached about purchasing a t-shirt with the organization's name on it, and I agreed. Now, several weeks later, I have been informed that the t-shirts have come in. One person (who was in charge of purchasing the t-shirts) has asked me to pay for mine. Now that I'm no longer a part of the organization, I don't particularly want to pay for an overpriced t-shirt that I can't wear. As a college student with no job, I can't really afford to buy things left and right, especially if I don't need (or even want) them. I certainly would pay if I were still a part of the organization, but now I'm not sure what to do. The t-shirt isn't personalized- should I pay and get the shirt, or tell them to sell it to someone else?

Well, realistically, you agreed to pay for the shirt. You should pay for it. That is the only right thing to do in order to be straight with the newspaper.
Then YOU try to find someone to sell it to.

I understand where you are coming from. I wouldn't want to buy the shirt either. However, it comes down to the fact that you already made that commitment to purchase it when you were still working there.

That's why I say it's the right thing to do.

I know. Responsibility sucks.

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kayy so, i know meny people dont wanna hear this but i believe it so i'm going to stand up for what i beileve even if you guys dont like & wanna hear it :)

i believe tupac is still alive not in the states of calie or anywhere around there; or anything.
i believe he faked hit death because of biggie;
i mean honestly he did/does have ALOT of money he could do anything with money! i mean if someone handed you 1.million dollars and told you to say he died on that bed right there you would TAKE it and say he died am i right?

he is prob living in jamaica with LONG hair.
changed his name & everything!
you never really know & he isnt that old hes only 36 or 37; i dont know i believe in him & i believe hes alive. & if he isnt then what can ya do? if you feel me on this say whats up.

I don't know.
Personally, the way I see it is when you fake your death, you leave your entire life behind.
Your friends.
Your family.
If you have children, you leave them behind, too.

Why would any sane person want to do that? Money?
Money doesn't replace leaving loved ones behind forever.
Money may buy a lot of things.
It may buy off a fake death.
But it certainly doesn't buy happiness.

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am real down about my marriage..my husband seems to always exclude me and seems to have better times with his friends..what do you say about something like that

Tell him how you feel. I would.
He doesn't know there is a problem if you don't say something.
Communication is important in a marriage.

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okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him.

I agree with YG that you just aren't ready to deal with a relationship.
You need to take some time and figure out what it is you want for your life. If you continue to follow such paths in relationships, you will be sad and miserable.

You owe this guy an apology. You need to realize that yes, he does mean what he said, and that he has very valid reason to feel that way. Tell him that you are sorry that you hurt him like that, but don't lie and say you feel bad for doing it.
You are just giving him the apology he deserves.

Come to grips with the fact that yes, you have surely lost him. He would be nuts to want to try to start anew with someone who deliberately hurt him. Put yourself in his shoes- would you go back to you?

Seems to me what you do care about is that you think you need him. You got to learn to stand on your own two feet in this life. You don't need anybody but yourself. Yah, a guy adds a nice touch to life, but you don't need him to go on with life.

You are resorting to self-harm. You DO need to seek help with that. Talk to your parents about what's going on inside your head. They can't help you if they don't know what the problem is. They won't know the problem if you shut them out of your life.

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if i have cervical cancer, and get remove and curable, it that mean i can't get pregant?

It depends on your unique situation. Only your doctor can tell you that.

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i have these pills and i had them in a little bag to carry in my purse.. the bag got a little damp and got the pills wet.. on one side they are puffy.. but not broken.. its still attached.. are they still ok??? haha i feel like a loser.. just double checking.. thanks!

Yah, I wouldn't take them.
Especially if they are time release pills, throw them away, they are ruined.

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