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Why do people like Like other people?
Ok, i know why someone would like someone [as in you find then attractive, they have a good personality, and they are kind and caring people] that part makes sense. But ive always wondered what it is exactly that creates the feeling of liking a person?
For example there could be two guys: both are sweet, friendly, and good looking [obviously everyone has a different idea of what good looks are but physical attraction is also part of liking a person] So both these guys would be cool and fun to hang out with, but maybe a person would only be attracted to one. I wonder why, what creates this attraction to only one, when the other is just as good? There has to be something about a person that you find special, maybe like something about them inspires you. I'm not sure if there is an exact science to it but if anyone might have any ideas please let me know
thanx =D
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My math teacher told me its because of somethign called the "Golden Rectangle." The golden rectangle is typically a ratio, and it's what humans find most appealing to the eyes. Like the Parthanon (sp?) was made using this ratio -- dates waaaaayy back (meaning its been appealing to human kind, subconsciously). Anyways, the attractive person typically has the features according to the ratio. Like what most people consider attractive, you could measure it by using this. Like the space from your eye to nose and things like that, top of eyebrows to bottom, lips all that.
Isnt that cool?
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whats your favorite color? now whats your best friends favorite color? how about some random persons? whats your favorite food? your friends? same thing goes for people, whats your favorite hair color on a guy? etc... different people have different tastes, this applies to colors, food, and people.
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I am drawn to someone who uses the kind of words or adjectives I like to hear. I also like them if they have a philosophy or perspective that improves my outlook. Also, if they seem to accept me and like me for who I am along with certain good looks that date back to my first crush. I like someone who allows me to be me but the worst of me. I like new fresh people that are better than me and still like me.
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one word.
dopamine.
its a chemical hormone released from your brain. it makes you feel good. (hence..dope) but yeah you can also be attracted to a person by the pheromones ( a scent given off by humans)
there is a lot of science behind so you may want to search it, or just ask me and ill send you some links.
good luck.
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Every emotion you feel is chemical and electrical signals in your brain that happen as a result of varying stimuli.
When certain stimuli are present in your environment (like a really hot member of a sex you are attracted to) the result is a reaction in your brain known as "attraction"
There are a number of ways your brain determines fitness of a mate. Some of these are concious, some subconcious or unconcious. For instance, I am attracted to musical people. I have many times in my life dated a girl who I found out later was involved in music in some significant way in her life. Seeming coincidence, but at the same time a coincidence that has repeated itself several times throughout my life.
There is no real science to it. Things create reactions, it varies from person to person. There really ISNT anything special about a particular person that makes you attracted to them. Its more like they just set off the right set of reactions for you in ways others don't.
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There has to be that cehmical attraction. It's impossible to describe, really, but I'll try. From our first childhood crushes (who I still remember, actually) there hae always been a select few people I found myself attracted to. Obviously, the reasons for this got more specific as I got older. In preschool, it was as simple as "Wow, that boy over there asked to borrow my crayons. Maybe we'll play in the sandbox together later!" and since we're young we don't think of it as attraction in the sense I'm thinking about now, but it has to start somewhere right?
As I got older (as in, now) I surrounded myself with the kind of people I WANT to be influenced by. So right there, I'm already interacting with people somwhat similar to me. Compatibility in a relationship goes hand-in-hand with friendship; if you can't even be friends with the person, how could you date them? With a couple amusing exceptions, the guys I've liked have been overall nice guys (as in, they don't do stupid things like breaking the law, but can act like jerks with their friends which is only natural) who I could totally be myself around. I'm not afraid to act like an idiot, be really loud, and basically let my true personality show.
As for physical attraction, it simply has to be there or a relationship doesn't work out. It doesn't make me shallow, it's a simple fact of life. There are certain traits I find attractive in the opposite sex, so guys I like always possess at least some of them ;)
This is one thing I *gasp* acgree with my mother on. A guy could be everything PHYSICALLY that I'd love in a guy, but if their personality is ugly, then I'm not going to be attracted to them much, if at all. Example: a guy I barely knew sat near my usual table at lunch one day. My friend said "Oh yeah, that's so-and-so. He tells us how he gets drunk over the weekend all the time". And, well, he wasn't nearly as attractive anymore.
Another example: my boyfriend. He's very attractive (despite what he thinks about himself) and is really fun to be around. If I'm at his house playing Guitar Hero I'm not afraid to yell, swear, and or complain loudly that I missed a note or hate the song. We can act like complete morons and freeze to death at playgrounds or just watch a movie, and no matter what we're doing I love to be with him. That, to me, is attraction.
So, that went a bit off topic, but helped me explain my point. I hope this helps you out :)
-LM
[16/f]
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I think there is a science to it.
Though, I think it's really complicated and different for everybody. Therefore, nobody could explain it exactly. I'll try my best to explain how I think of it, though.
I think that basic attraction comes from what you said [personality, great person, etc] and your first judgement of a person. You don't know much about them, but what you do know, you like.
I think though, that as you get to know the person/people, it goes much deeper. You start to see their flaws, and much deeper into the person that they are. Then, you find yourself accepting their imperfections, and finding that you're really loving the person that they are.
While you may meet 2 guys, both sweet and attractive, this doesn't mean they're the same person. I think THAT is why you become more attracted to one over the other.
You begin to see deeper into them, and you find yourself more attracted to the one that you like (for lack of better word) better. Maybe you have more similarities with one than another, or you just find that one isn't as sweet as you thought that he was. Therefore, your attraction for the other one grows.
My own attraction?
Ultimately, I find myself attracted to guys who make me feel good (though, don't most people?).
But it's deeper than that, I mean, if a guy calls me "hot", that doesn't mean I'm going to feel attraction towards him. (trust me, I'm speaking from experience here). But if a guy calls me "beautiful" and I feel like he means it (speaking about me both inside and out), then I'll find myself attracted to him. Then, I'll get to know him more, and if we have a lot in common and I feel a sense of trust and I have just a general good feeling about him, then I'll find that I really do like him.
I also find myself attracted to guys who make me laugh and isn't afraid to open up to me. Those, are definetely the most attractive things.
Along with a good taste in music, and an obsession with LOST wouldn't hurt.
wow I sound picky ;]
I don't know, maybe none of this made sense to anybody but me, but that's how I see it.
This was a really cool question, and I hope I helped =]
-Laura. (15-f)
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Well, two guys may be sweet, friendly, and good looking, but one may seem more attractive because he seems more compatible with you.
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People may like someone based on personality, beliefs, intelligence, looks, morals, similarities, anything really.
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