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ok i know that this is gonna sound really sick but im a virgin and well im forever reading sex books but im reading this book that isnt a sex book its called the "Painted Bird" and in this book there was a scence or a page rather of this gurl having sexual intercouse with a goat a goat how fucking gross but for some reason it kinda turned me on i mean i would never do it but it freaked me out i mean i got wet to it it really excited me something as tabo as that and then theres a whole lot of scenes when these guys are raping women witch i find totally disgusting and degrating it also turned me on am i some kind of sicko but when i read it in the paper i feel disgusted and horrified i dont know one of my fantasy's is to be taken advangate of you know dominated so what does this mean how can i get turned on from fucking a goat !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I agree with Razhie 100%. I'd like to add that since it feels so weird, why are you looking at this type of literature? If you don't look at weird stuff like this, it's not going to turn you on. Pictures, imagery, and fantasty are totally different from sex itself. Don't confuse the two. I'm sure you wouldn't actually have sex with a goat in real life. Looking at these types of pictures gets you thinking about sex and is bound to turn you on regardless of how weird or wrong it is. If you're not gay, you might get turned on by watching gay sex just because the people you are watching are turned on and your body is responding to the stimuli, not your mind. Your body will always respond to the stimuli no matter how ridiculous what you are looking at is. This is true for EVERYONE. I've had similar experiences. I've come to realize that just because I may have been turned on doesn't mean that I liked it. My solution: just stay away from it. It'll just make you feel weird if you don't and there's no reason to subject yourself to that.
sooo the other day i was hanging out with this guy and he wanted to feel me up but i pushed him away cuz i was wearing a sports bra because i dont have any normal ones... i'm hanging out with him again tommorow but what should i do?like won't it be weird to have a sports bra on?
It doesn't matter one bit. Don't go running out and buying a regular bra. If you want to get one, sure, go ahead, but don't think that the guy is going to like your boobs any less because they're in a sports bra. Boobs are boobs and that's what he'll be interested in, not what you're wearing. Good luck! :)
hey if its okay ima ask you a question.... so i like this boy so much i almost think i love him but its stupid cuz im only 13 and we have never been together or any thing but i dont know why i like him so much hes the type to make you laugh even wen i dont want 2 smile....thats how special he is 2 me ...sigh....i miss him just thinkin bout him and he aint even mine......it seems like he likes me and he leads me on 4 a while and den i just loose hope. see wat im saying am i a little 2 obsessed??
Not at all. :)
What you're feeling is very natural. People your age tend to have such strong feelings more than people who are older. What you're experiencing is just a plain old crush. Doesn't feel so plain and normal though does it? Anyways, be reassured that you are not too obsessed at all. Enjoy having such strong feelings for people while you can. As you get older and "wiser" these types of feelings may fade.
Well see my boyfriend and me kinda had sex it weird. like i'm not goin to go into details or anything but like he got in me and kinda poped my cherry but we stoped but he cumed before. could i be pregnet? becuase i've been worrying about this for like 2 weeks now and i'm only 14 and he's 16. and my mom told us before if we have sex she'll have him go to jail for like sum stupid law. and i'm scared.
help me please.
You could definitely get pregnant from that. Never ever have unprotected sex. Always use a condom. If you don't, the answer is always going to be yes, you can be pregnant. So, use a condom every single time from now on. Go get a home pregnancy test just to make sure you're not pregnant too. Be more careful next time. Lastly, no your boyfriend cannot be arrested for having sex with you. It's only statutory rape if he's legally an adult and at age 16, he's not.
I hate my life nothing is going smooth I mean whenever something good happen it doesn't last. My family is all messed up my dad gets away with anything but doesn't like when me or my brother does. He is the kind of guy who likes to make people feel bad about themselves by constantly putting us down in one way or another. Mom doesn't do anything about it she just says to ignore him but it isn't easy because it does whenever he can. My brother dooesn't pull his weight around the house but still gets away with anything because he does good in school and is always doing things with his friends and he says the only thing I'm good for is buying things for us. Then there is me I do my share of things I have a job and on my days off do things around the house like I'm suppose to but whenever I want to keep something that means alot to me they try to make me feel like I don't deserve it even though I do everything for everyone else even when it doesn't make any cents because I always care about everybody no matter what they do to me what should I do because this has been going on for years and my family refuses to get professional help. What should I do? One other thing I have friends but they all moved except for a few.
Wow, you're such a great person. It's a shame that you are in such a bad family situation. Try thinking towards the future. You know how people say all the time that you can't choose your family? Well, they're wrong. You can. In a few years you can choose someone to be with that loves you and will take care of you and will give you everything that you deserve. You can create a whole new family of your own to be happy with for the rest of your life. I can tell by the things that you've said that you're an amazing person with a great future ahead of you. It should be easy for you to find a really awesome significant other to be with. For now though, you need to find a way to get through all of this. I would recommend talking to a counselor at your school. They're free, confidential and right there waiting for you. If your suicidal thoughts get very serious, call one of these hotlines. They're free and the people there are professionals and would be able to help you out the most.
Suicide & Crisis Hotline
1-800-999-9999
Suicide Hotline - (National Adolescent)
800-621-4000
Suicide Prevention - The Trevor HelpLine - (Specializing in gay and lesbian youth suicide prevention).
1-800-850-8078
I got these numbers from this website if you'd like to look at some of the other hotlines that exist. http://www.coolnurse.com/hotline.htm
You have the strength to get through this and there are so many resources out there for you that can help. Good luck. :)
ok
14/m
i'm going to a party on saturday after i get back from vacation, and my ex girlfriend is going to be there. we were together for 4 months, and i absolutely loved her. we broke up about a week and a half ago. she's going with this guy that is apparantly the reason we broke up, and its REALLY pissing me off. i thought about bringing this really pretty friend i have to make my ex jealous, but she's already busy on saturday. so what should i do? i definitely want to go to the party, but i don't know what to do about the fact that she's going to be there with that guy...
thanks guys
Sam
Don't go with another girl out of jealousy. You know the saying "be good to your enemies"? Not that she's your enemy, but bringing another girl will make her glad that she broke up with you, not jealous. You'll probably have an awful time too. If you want to make her feel bad that she broke up with you, go alone. Be extra nice to her. Who knows, maybe she'll realize that she made a huge mistake and want to get back with you because you care about her so much and are so loyal to her. If you don't get back together with her, it'll be hard in the beginning, but don't let her ruin the good time that you could have at the party. You'll get over her someday. Seeing her with another guy might even help speed the process. Don't make it more painful than it has to be. Definitely go to the party. Good luck. :)
ok so heres the deal ive been going out with my boyfriend for like 5 days but i know hes the one i want to be with and he was telling me about his past and he always had sex and he said he had sex with like 5 girls so should i stay with him because its no big deal but then im wondering if he might want to have sex with me and i do but i kinda dont because i havent had sex before and i dont think im that big in boobs and guys dont like small girls so please help cause im scared if i should do it and this might sound like a stupid question but can you give me step by step on how to make-out cause i dont know how to and i want to really bad. could you give me like step by step like u start with a regular kiss and then what do u do i need DETAILS!!
First, take a look at this website. It'll help you determine if you are ready for sex.
http://www.coolnurse.com/sex.htm
Are you ready for sex? From your question alone I can tell that you clearly are not. I'm not ready for it either and I'm almost 21 so don't feel like you're prude or anything like that. You're being smart and true to yourself. That's always a good thing. Yes, your boyfriend may want to have sex with you since he has done it before. Truth is, he's not ready yet either. It is a huge mistake to have sex when you're not ready. Don't feel like you need to for anybody. If your boyfriend does want to have sex tell him no. Even if it leads to the end of your relationship, what kind of person is he to try to force you into doing something you don't want to do? No matter how much you like or love him, if he is not keeping your interests in mind and respecting you enough to stay with you if you don't have sex with him, he is not someone that you really want to be with because he doesn't really want to be with you in all the senses that he should. If he really cares about you he will wait for you to be ready and he won't pester you about it. Keep in mind too, that if you're having troubles with your relationship, having sex with him isn't going to save it. It's only going to make things worse because you will be upset about and regret what you did forever. Now, who's to say that he'll try to get you to have sex? You've only been dating him for 5 days. He hasn't brought it up yet. It's a good thing that you're thinking ahead and everything, but there's no reason to be worried or think that this is a problem yet. Even if he asks you to have sex with him, there's still no reason for you to worry. It would be natural for him to ask. What matters is his reaction when you say no. My guess is that this isn't going to happen in the near future. For now, just relax and enjoy being with him. Don't let sex tear you apart already when it hasn't even come up yet.
Secondly, don't assume that guys don't like your boobs. Take it from someone that is a 34 A, you have nothing to worry about. Boobs are boobs. Guys like them. It really doesn't matter how big they are. There's more to you than your boobs. I know a lot of guys that actually don't like bigger boobs. This is because they think that saggy boobs are nasty. If they date girls with smaller boobs, they won't have to worry about that in the future if the relationship happens to last a long time. I think saggy boobs are pretty nasty too and I'm totally psyched that I'll never get them, aren't you? Another perk to having smaller boobs is that you won't have as many guys trying to get with you that just want you for your body. Not that your body isn't as beautiful as girls with bigger boobs, but superficial guys that want girls only for sex tend to date girls with bigger boobs. You'll get more guys to date you that actually want to be with you and have a great, fulfilling relationship with you. They'll like your entire body as a whole, not just your chest. They will like being sexual with you not only because they think that you're totally hot, but because they have a emotional connection with you too. An emotional connection makes sexual relations much better. Keep that in mind for the future when you are ready.
Now, to making out. Making out can vary so much from person to person. Everybody likes something different and there isn't a "right" way to do it. I was nervous, really nervous, just like you before I had experience with it. I had no idea what to expect. The thing is, the more you think about it and the more you plan out exactly what and how you're going to do it, the worse you will be at it. Making out isn't about technique. It's about expressing your feelings for the other person. Do whatever the moment tells you to do and you'll be a great kisser. The best way to make out is to be spontaneous. If you want to start with a regular kiss and then work your way to making out, that sounds like a great idea. It'll help with your nerves. Don't be afriad to do things that feel right. If, in the moment you want to use some tongue or bite softly, go for it and don't worry about how you're doing. It doesn't matter how you think you're doing, what matters is how the guy thinks you're doing. It's pointless to judge yourself. If he's there and he's kissing you, he likes it. Don't overthink it. It's not complicated at all.
Your relationship with this guy sounds really promising. Don't waste your time with worry...just enjoy it! Good luck. :)
Not sure where this goes... well I don't neccessarily have night mares per say, I just think about stuff that could happen to me during the night. I think about getting murdered and I actually imagine it to happen as I try to sleep. As creepy as this sounds, it freaks me out when I am lying in my bed. Nothing bad has happened in my town so I shouldn't have anything to worry about but theres always that possibility that something would happen. If you could give me some good tips or pointers on what to do when I think about dying and how I am going to die and what not, they would be greatly appreciated. Sometimes I don't get much sleep because I'm lying awake thinking about this stuff. Help me please... I don't know what else to do.
Well, whenever you try to stop thinking about something it's almost impossible. You have to have it on your mind to some extent in order to avoid thinking about it. In your situation, you don't necessarily have to stop what you're doing, just change it. When you start imagining someone coming in your room and killing you for example, imagine then, your crush coming in and saving you. That would turn something completely negative into something more positive. Hopefully thinking about your crush coming to save you would trigger more enjoyable fantasies that you can fall asleep thinking about and your mind won't be quite so filled with being killed. Good luck!
this is the conversation i just had with my boyfriend.. i dont know if he was just really stressed or like if i should take it seriously? help!
me(10:55:21 PM): what
him (10:55:28 PM): I dont know whats wrong... I cant stand this
me (10:55:34 PM): stand what
him(10:56:14 PM): School, life
me (10:56:21 PM): yeaa i know how you feel
me(10:56:34 PM): i have like soo much work to make up still from wen i was sick like a week ago
him (10:56:55 PM): There has to be an easier way
me (10:57:06 PM): what is that supposed to mean
him(10:57:23 PM): And no you dont know how i feel
me (10:57:33 PM): okay then whats wrong?
him (9:58:07 PM): i i cant stand it
him (9:58:15 PM): i think im going crazy
me(10): i know what you mean though
him (9:58:34 PM): this has to get easier
him(9:58:53 PM): for the past half hour ive been thinking of ways to kill myself
him(9:59:00 PM): maybe itd be easier
me (10:58:57 PM): **** shut up
him (9:59:15 PM): i cant stand this
me (10:59:11 PM): stoppp
me (10:59:14 PM): thats not funny
him (9:59:26 PM): its not
him(9:59:32 PM): im crying right now
me (10:59:42 PM): it it just because you have a lot of work to make up?
him (9:59:52 PM): no
me): then what
him (10:00:00 PM): i dont know
me(10:59:55 PM): just like school in general
me (10:59:58 PM): or like something else
him (10:00:15 PM): i hate how so much is always expected of me
him (10:00:20 PM): and i can never do it
him (10:00:36 PM): i hate how everytime i finish something
him (10:00:39 PM): huge
him (10:00:52 PM): that i obsess over forever
him(10:00:56 PM): theres another
me (11:00:52 PM): yea
him (10:01:06 PM): thing just like it
him (10:01:08 PM): and
him (10:01:17 PM): i cant deal with it anymore
him (10:01:34 PM): i feel like i cant make it through life like everyone else
him (10:01:55 PM): and i dont know what to do
me (11:01:56 PM): thats really weird
me (11:01:59 PM): because like
him (10:02:08 PM): i just
him (10:02:19 PM): i jus want it to be easier
him (10:02:24 PM): i wana be an actor
him(10:02:27 PM): they dont do shit
me (11:02:22 PM): i was saying something 2 my mom about that today
me (11:02:23 PM): hahah
him (10:02:34 PM): but i cant do that
him (10:02:39 PM): im not good enough
him(10:02:41 PM): i hate it
him (10:02:55 PM): i dont want to have to worry about everything all the time
him (10:03:10 PM): i just want to relax
him (10:03:20 PM): i hate life
him(10:03:51 PM): i mean
him (10:03:54 PM): all of this
him (10:03:56 PM): work
him (10:04:02 PM): i ts for nothing
him (10:04:12 PM): i want it to stop
him (10:04:20 PM): but then i think
him (10:04:21 PM): wait
him (10:04:29 PM): i have another 8 years to go
him (10:04:38 PM): and the i cry some more
him (10:04:52 PM): and wonder if itd hurt to hang yourself
him (10:05:11 PM): please
him (10:05:18 PM): dont tell anyone about this
him (10:05:39 PM): hang yourself
him (10:05:45 PM): i meant myself
me (11:05:55 PM): **** stop
me(11:05:58 PM): seriously
me (11:06:43 PM): sry it took me so long to answer
him (10:06:56 PM): its fine
me (11:06:52 PM): i was doing something
him (10:07:03 PM): please dont tell anyone
me(11:07:02 PM): about what
me (11:07:05 PM): ?
him (10:07:18 PM): what ive been saying
me (11:07:26 PM): youre not seriously thinking about that right...
me (11:07:27 PM): ?
him (10:07:40 PM): i dont know
me (11:07:38 PM): **** come on stop
him (10:07:54 PM): it would be so easy
him (10:08:01 PM): and id be in a better place
me (11:08:00 PM): thats so weird.. because today i felt like the exact same way.. but i didnt think about killing myself....
me (11:08:04 PM): its just stress
me (11:08:15 PM): okay just think about how in a week its gonna be spring break okay
me (11:08:20 PM): and you wont have anything to worry about
him (10:08:43 PM): ok
him (10:08:44 PM): ok
him (10:08:50 PM): im gunna see you right?
me (11:08:48 PM): yeah
him (10:08:57 PM): ok
him (10:09:02 PM):alright
me(11:08:55 PM): of course
him (10:09:06 PM): i feel better
me(11:09:03 PM): okay good
him (10:09:15 PM): ok
him(10:09:28 PM): now i have to stay up all fucking nighht
me (11:09:26 PM): why
him (10:09:38 PM): because ive been putting this shit off all night
him (10:09:40 PM): all week
him (10:09:44 PM): and
me (11:09:37 PM): yea i know how you feel
him (10:09:47 PM): omfg
me (11:09:43 PM): what
me (11:09:52 PM): ?
him(10:10:03 PM): I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO
him (10:10:04 PM): dsfsgalhk
him(10:10:04 PM): ad gsj l
him (10:10:05 PM): s;nroaV UAK
him (10:10:06 PM): LDF'DFL' K
him (10:10:08 PM): FOJA
him (10:10:12 PM): i hate life
me (11:10:19 PM): **** relaxx everythings gonna be fine
the **** is his name that i starred out. =]
he said a lot of other stuff too but thats just an example and i was trying to calm him down and tell him all the good things about life but i dont know if he was serious or not.. because i doubt he would ever do that to himself. i think hes just frustrated.. what should i do?
if it helps im a frosh in highschool
thanks. =]
oh p.s. later he said...
me (12:52:42 AM): are you sure ur okay?
me(12:52:46 AM): you really wouldnt do that right?
him (12:53:30 AM): Lol right im sorry for scaring you
me(12:54:10 AM): are you sure you wouldnt?
him (12:54:34 AM): Yess go to sleep
It looks like he's just really stressed out and is looking for attention and support. In this situation do NOT just tell him that you understand how he feels or that you are feeling the same thing. He thinks that what he is feeling is totally new and original from any sort of pain anybody has felt ever. In reality, he's totally off base. Everybody feels what he is feeling at some point or another in their lives. Just because the situation may be unique, the feelings he has are not any different from what you or I have felt before. He's having egotistical, self-centered thoughts because of the stress that he is feeling. If you tell him that his pain isn't really pain and that everybody is the same as him it'll make him feel like you don't understand him. He needs to feel understood right now to get through this, which he will. He needs to get some self-esteem, inspiration, and motivation and telling him that his problems are just like other people's, even though that's the case is going to hurt more than help. What you should do is tell him that you can't understand what he is feeling. You aren't him and you'll never be able to feel exactly what he feels. This is true in a sense, so it's not like you'd be making crap up just to make him happy. Another thing he needs is something that you did. EVIDENCE that it's not as bad as it may seem. Spring break is coming up. Pretty soon he'll be able to relax and everything will get done as it always does. You can say that it'll be over soon all you want, but if you don't back it up with evidence, you won't get too far with that, so good job. Keep doing that. Make it even less time. Have him look forward to hanging out with you or taking showers or something because during those times he can relax. There's no use worrying because it won't get you anywhere. That's pretty much straight from the Bible. If he's religious try to work that in someplace too. God gave him his life and it is the greatest gift anybody could ever receive. Even though he would be in a better place if he died, God would be disappointed that he threw away His greatest gift. He'd have his place in heaven, but he would always regret giving up his life because his place in heaven will always be there for him, while his life will be gone before he knows it and he'll wish he had been able to do so much more.
So, the next time you talk with him ask him if he's feeling better. If he says yes and he seems to be being honest, let it all go. Don't try to help him through something unless he gets upset again. Talking to him about this might make him upset again if he's already gotten over it. So, basically, save all my advice for when and if he gets really frustrated again. Until spring break though, be there for him. Don't just pretend like nothing happened. He is still in some pain even if he's gotten over the bulk of it. If you're feeling bad about something don't talk to him about it, talk to someone else. Don't make any more stress for him than he already has. If something goes wrong with your relationship don't deal with it until spring break. More stress could make his empty ideas actual ones. Right now he's not suicidal, but he's definitely thinking about it. Everybody thinks about it at times, but it's a whole different thing to actually be considering it. With more stress he may start considering it and that's when you'll have a lot of trouble. Be as nice, supportive, and helpful as you can be. If you believe that everything will turn out fine, your attitude will help him and you make this belief a reality. Good luck. :)
I am getting my wisdom teeth pulled in a couple of days and I am really scared! If you have had yours out...
-does it hurt
-is going under weird, what does it feel like
-should i be scared
Thanks
Hal
I'm basically copying my answer from a similar question I answered awhile back. Hope you don't mind...
I had one taken out about a year ago and the actual procedure was fine. I did it with just novocane so I didn't fall asleep and I remember everything, but I didn't feel a thing. It was actually kind of cool. It's ok to be nervous, but there's no reason to be scared. People go through this procedure all the time. Try not to worry, you'll do great. Sorry for not having any experience with laughing gas, but from what I've heard about it, there's a hole in your memory and that's about it. It's just like falling asleep and taking a nap. Nothing to worry about at all since you won't remember anything afterwards anyway.
Make sure that you follow all of the oral surgeon's instructions for after the procedure though. That's what's important. Rinse with salt water every day to prevent an infection and follow all the instructions on what kinds of food you can eat and when. I ate a lot of bananas, pudding, peanut butter and jelly, soft cookies, and macaroni and cheese.
After the novocane wore off it hurt. For a while. You should be perscribed some pain killers and if not, regular ones should work fine. Make sure you take them after the surgery even if it doesn't hurt yet. Ask your surgeon how long after you have to wait before taking them and take them as soon as you are allowed. Be prepared for it to really hurt after a few hours. Get some music, a blanket, or anything that can comfort you ready in case you need it. There's not much you can do for it except wait it out. After a few days pass, keep your mouth moving. Though it hurts a little and may make you look kind of silly, it helps a lot. It kept my mouth from getting tight and hurting a lot when I had to eat or talk.
I followed all of the instructions I was given and everything turned out just fine. If the instructions aren't clear or don't answer any of your questions just ask your surgeon. Call at anytime and you'll get the help you need. Good luck!!! :)
How much does the morning after pill normally cost?
and i can buy it at like a meijer or something like that right?
how long after does it work for?
It should cost about $20. Some states won't give it to you over the counter so you may have to go to a health clinic or emergency room to get it. If you live in a state that does offer morning after pills over the counter though, yes, you should be able to get it in from the drugstore at Meijer or any other drugstore. The sooner you get it the more chance there is of it working. The chances of it working goes down with time and after 72 hours it probably won't work at all. If you have any heart problems or history of heart problems in your family be very careful. Don't be alone after you take it just in case. Good luck and make sure you use effective protection next time.
im a senior in high school i think i hav to go to a community college, i've had prenty of "d"s in 10th and 9th grade. This year i stopped slacking of and took ap courses. i havn't take sat or act. im wondering if i can still go to a uc, during the fall 07 instead of a community college. my big prob is that my mom wont allow me to go to college she wants me to go stair to a university?
im in a biggy, what now?
Wow, since when is the ACT required? Hmm, it's not! None of these tests are required. I never took the ACT. Anyways, you can't just go to whatever college you want. You have to get accepted first. Your mom can't tell you that you're not allowed to go to a community college. What if you apply to 10 4 year colleges/universities and you don't get in? My point is, there's no harm in applying to appease your mom and if you get in, great! College is a lot easier than high school and you wouldn't be in any trouble academically. If you don't get in, then I'm sure your mom will be fine with you going to a community college for a semester or even a year. It's much easier to get into a 4 year college/university after having attened and doing well at a community college. I've been through the transfer process and it was completely hassle free. Comminity colleges are even easier than 4 year colleges. You won't have any trouble there. There's nothing wrong with wanting to just stay at the community college either. Lots of very successful people attended community colleges. Now, here's what's up with your grades. You and I both know they're not that good. If you really want to get into a 4 year college/university instead of a community college, you can by doing well on the SAT's. It's not required, but if you do well on them, it could help your case tremendously. They won't just be looking at your high school GPA. They'll realize that you just slacked off a little, but now you're serious about your education. Some colleges will require a certain score on the SAT, the ACT, or both, so go the the website of the colleges you are interested in. Look at the Undergraduate Admissions pages and see what is required by each specific college. Nothing is required by the state. Each college is a different entity. Entrance requirements are all up to the specific college that you want to go to. If you're unsure about what you need to do, call. The people working in admissions are usually very nice. I would also suggest going in for an interview. If you're a great person and willing to work hard, that'll show through in your interview and the admissions department might let you in just because they like you, despite your grades. Try not to worry about all of this too much. It'll all work out just fine in the end. Good luck! :)
ok my boyfriend brushes his teeth everytime before he sees me, and i know because ill be on the phone with him and i can hear it. but, his breath stinks everytime! its weird it smells like old macaroni and cheese or something l0l. and thats y i dont kiss him a lot. and we fight a lot because i dont and he thinks its because like i dont love him as much. hes very sensitive so it would hurt him a lot if i told him, annd he'd get mad because i didnt tell him sooner, which is my problem with everything. what do i do?? and i dont no y but french kissing just isnt my favorite thing to do and he says he understands that but he'll still get mad because i wont kiss him. sometimes he'll hold my face n try to force me to kiss him. and last weekend i wouldnt kiss him so he pushed my face n my neck cracked like 10 times, but i think most of it was because i was just about to crack it because it needed it. but what can i do about his bad breath? i always have gum because im so paranoid about bad breath and so i give it to him sometimes. but then he'll be like, what are you trying to tell me something? and he'll laugh. helpp
Wow. No matter what is going on, no guy ever has the right to try to force you to kiss him. Never ever. This is a very bad sign. If he's getting angry enough over something as silly as you not kissing him that he's trying to force you to do it and push you away, hard, when you don't, it is going to get much worse for you if you stay with him. Do not stay with him. No matter what. Don't think he will change and most of all don't think that it's your fault. You're not making him the way he is. If you don't wanna kiss him, you don't wanna kiss him and whatever the reason is he needs to accept that. Do not give him another chance because next, you're not gonna want to go somewhere with him and he's going to try dragging you out of your house. Not all that bad right, maybe he was just having a bad day? Wrong. Because then, someday you're not going to want to have sex with him and he's going to rape you. It can and will come to that if you're not careful. Bad breath or no. Now the advice that you're actually asking for. In future relationships, don't be afraid to bring up sensitive topics. Even if your boyfriend reacts badly, complete honesty is always the best way to go about things. Don't be fake for your boyfriends. Show them the real you and your real thoughts right away. If you keep things in and they come out later on in the relationship, a relationship that could have ended in a week and not have caused all that much heartache or lost time might not end for a few years and it'll be much, much worse in the end. You are who you are and he is who he is. He is showing you who he really is. An abuser. Show him who you really are, somebody who's not going to take that. Make sure you tell him his breath is yack too. He does deserve to know. Because of his violent tendencies, don't break up with him when you're alone. Do it in a public place where you know you'll be safe. Don't do it in front of all his friends or anything though of course. You don't wanna be cruel, just safe. I wish you the best of luck and I really, really hope that you end it with him as soon as possible.
my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my boyfriend roosevelt is 16 years old and my cousin atraci says that he wrote her a letter saying that he said that she was more prettier,sexier than i was and that he said that he would have sex with her over me even though she's only 15 but my problem is i don't know who to belive becouse traci has lied to me in that past and roosevelt says that he didn't do it but i want belive traci becouse she's my cousin and i mean why would she lie to me about something like this?
Yeah, if he really did write a letter and your cousin cared so much about you to tell you all about it, she wouldn't just tell you. She'd show it to you! She would want you to see it. Ask her to show it to you. If she says "I threw it away" or "I lost it" she is definitely lying. If this had really happened and she wanted you to know the truth, she would know that your boyfriend would deny it and that letter is the only piece of evidence of anything. If she threw it out she would be covering for him, not telling on him. That is too contradictory to be the truth. If she does produce a letter, compare it to your boyfriend's handwriting and if it doesn't match, make sure it's not in her handwriting either. Who knows. Maybe somebody else entirely wrote it as a joke and nobody's lying. Be assured though that your boyfriend didn't do anything. If it wasn't just some stupid joke by someone else, this sounds like a typical case of jealousy. Your cousin is either jealous that you have a good relationship and she doesn't, or jealous of you because she likes your boyfriend and wants him for herself. Boys tend not to write letters. Has he ever written a letter to you? If not, he's probably not the letter writing type. Plus, why would he write a letter if he was cheating? Cheaters do everything in their power not to leave any proof. They can get caught by things they overlook or accidentally leave out, but to actually write a letter is ridiculous. It really, seriously sounds like something your cousin made up. Just because she is your cousin is no reason to trust her word. Why would she lie to you about this you ask. Well, why would she ever lie to you at all? Because she is a liar. She's done it in the past. Some people are just liars. It's as simple as that. That doesn't mean you can't trust her, you just have to realize that you have to take everything she says with a grain of salt. Don't get too mad at her, I'm sure she must be in a lot of pain about something or she wouldn't have done this to you. Try to figure out what's going on with her. She may just be feeling really down on herself and making you suffer a little was the only way she could think of to feel better. I hope all this gets straightened out soon. Good luck. :)
I was just wondering if any of you really like, celebrate a year and a half anniversary with your boyfriend/girlfriend? If so, what are some cute, little gifts you get your significant other? You don't have to know anything about my boyfriend, just general answers for anyone would be fine. Or, do you think just spending the day together is enough? Thank you. =)
Definintely go on a date with him someplace. It doesn't have to be extravagent. As for a gift, you wanna do something that he will like, not something that just you will like a lot. It is for him after all. Most guys don't like "cute". They don't like being in pictures or being overly romantic and they'd rather that you bought them something they could use instead of made them something weird that they'd just throw on a shelf someplace and never really look at. If he's into video games, get him that game that he really wants. If he doesn't have a t-shirt for his favorite band get him one. Does he have their newest album? If he has a favorite team and doesn't have a hat or a t-shirt or anything supporting them get him something like that. So, basically, get him something boyish that he will really like. He'll appreciate that a whole lot more than just something cute. Definitely include something cute, like a card, with it, but don't just go for cute. Go for wow. You've been together for a year and a half. Cute isn't gonna cut it forever. It's time to get practical. Have a great time!
right i am 15 5,6 and i do alot of running and longjump i need to know if this is any good i can get 6.50 m in the longjump i need to know if this is any good and if it is how good is it answers wil be evry appreciated
From my experience, if you're a girl, it's amazing. If you're a guy it's pretty good. A good jump for a girl is about 15 feet (~5 m) and for a guy, about 20 (~6.7 m).
since 7th grade, i've always worn a shirt over my bathing suit when i swim. i never wear low cut shirts, tank tops, or spaghetti straps. because my chest and back is COVERED in.. zits? i guess. like red bumps.. TONS of them.. no matter how much i wash it or no matter what kind of product i use. don't tell me any products, i just wanna know if there are any home remedies. is this rare? has anyone else ever had this problem?
You should see a Dermatologist. You may be able to get perscription medication that'll clear it up for you or at least make it better. I went to a Dermatologist once for acne and I got an AMAZING product that got rid of all of it in 2 days. Hopefully there's something for you too! Good luck! :)
So I'm going on the pill.
For the sole-reason taht it's supposed to help with acne. (I don't have acne,but I get the odd pimple)
So I was wondering, should i tell my boyfriend when I start it?
I mean we haven't had sex,but he'd be interested in knowing though,right?
Or is it ny of his buisness?
Don't tell him. There's no reason for him to know unless you plan on having sex. People are saying you should be honest with him and stuff, but there's more than that involved here. You certainly wouldn't be being dishonest by not bringing it up. If you were to tell him you were on birth control and even the reason why, he may feel like you were implying that you wanted to have sex. It may even make him want to have sex with you. It can really change your relationship if you tell him. When and if you do decide to have sex, that's when you tell him. If he asks why you didn't tell him before say that it was because it didn't come up in the conversation and because you didn't want to complicate your relationship with him. If it does come up in the conversation, that's different from you just randomly offering the information. So, if it comes up go ahead and tell him, if you're planning on having sex tell him, and otherwise, don't tell him.
theres this girl..he has a girl bout we are toghter all the time...maybe more than his girl...we have engaged in a sexual relationships...and theres alot of fellings going on.....but at the end of the day he's got a girl? he always complains of things she's not doing....and im the opposite...i do everything...but at the end of the day i love him..and he told me he loves me but the emotions arent there like mines....i think im being too much of a bestfriend to him? what should i do?
He is using you for sex. If he really liked you as more than a friend he wouldn't have a girlfriend that wasn't you. Stop being sexual with him. It's okay to be friends with him, but the more sexual things you do with him, the more you will think that your relationship with him is more than it really is. It may hurt because you love him, but he doesn't love you back and in the long run that's gonna hurt a whole lot more. Good luck.
I need some REALLY good chicken recipes [I have chicken breast],
I don't know what to do with it. I've tried a lot.
I just want something that tastes good, is easy to make, and one that you need basic ingredients for.
PLEASE help. :)
Thanks
These are amazing.
http://www.campbellsoup.com/Supper_Bakes.asp
I usually get the lemon chicken with rice one or the chicken with cheesy pasta one. They're so good.
If you don't wanna go out and get one of those, Chicken Parmesan is always a great choice. It's so easy! Bake the chicken. Take it out and cover it with spaghetti sauce and mozzerella cheese (or another type of cheese if you want). Put it back in until the cheese melts. Enjoy! A side of spaghetti, ziti, or the like really tops it off too.