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my boyfriend
ok so heres the deal ive been going out with my boyfriend for like 5 days but i know hes the one i want to be with and he was telling me about his past and he always had sex and he said he had sex with like 5 girls so should i stay with him because its no big deal but then im wondering if he might want to have sex with me and i do but i kinda dont because i havent had sex before and i dont think im that big in boobs and guys dont like small girls so please help cause im scared if i should do it and this might sound like a stupid question but can you give me step by step on how to make-out cause i dont know how to and i want to really bad. could you give me like step by step like u start with a regular kiss and then what do u do i need DETAILS!!
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First, take a look at this website. It'll help you determine if you are ready for sex.
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Are you ready for sex? From your question alone I can tell that you clearly are not. I'm not ready for it either and I'm almost 21 so don't feel like you're prude or anything like that. You're being smart and true to yourself. That's always a good thing. Yes, your boyfriend may want to have sex with you since he has done it before. Truth is, he's not ready yet either. It is a huge mistake to have sex when you're not ready. Don't feel like you need to for anybody. If your boyfriend does want to have sex tell him no. Even if it leads to the end of your relationship, what kind of person is he to try to force you into doing something you don't want to do? No matter how much you like or love him, if he is not keeping your interests in mind and respecting you enough to stay with you if you don't have sex with him, he is not someone that you really want to be with because he doesn't really want to be with you in all the senses that he should. If he really cares about you he will wait for you to be ready and he won't pester you about it. Keep in mind too, that if you're having troubles with your relationship, having sex with him isn't going to save it. It's only going to make things worse because you will be upset about and regret what you did forever. Now, who's to say that he'll try to get you to have sex? You've only been dating him for 5 days. He hasn't brought it up yet. It's a good thing that you're thinking ahead and everything, but there's no reason to be worried or think that this is a problem yet. Even if he asks you to have sex with him, there's still no reason for you to worry. It would be natural for him to ask. What matters is his reaction when you say no. My guess is that this isn't going to happen in the near future. For now, just relax and enjoy being with him. Don't let sex tear you apart already when it hasn't even come up yet.
Secondly, don't assume that guys don't like your boobs. Take it from someone that is a 34 A, you have nothing to worry about. Boobs are boobs. Guys like them. It really doesn't matter how big they are. There's more to you than your boobs. I know a lot of guys that actually don't like bigger boobs. This is because they think that saggy boobs are nasty. If they date girls with smaller boobs, they won't have to worry about that in the future if the relationship happens to last a long time. I think saggy boobs are pretty nasty too and I'm totally psyched that I'll never get them, aren't you? Another perk to having smaller boobs is that you won't have as many guys trying to get with you that just want you for your body. Not that your body isn't as beautiful as girls with bigger boobs, but superficial guys that want girls only for sex tend to date girls with bigger boobs. You'll get more guys to date you that actually want to be with you and have a great, fulfilling relationship with you. They'll like your entire body as a whole, not just your chest. They will like being sexual with you not only because they think that you're totally hot, but because they have a emotional connection with you too. An emotional connection makes sexual relations much better. Keep that in mind for the future when you are ready.
Now, to making out. Making out can vary so much from person to person. Everybody likes something different and there isn't a "right" way to do it. I was nervous, really nervous, just like you before I had experience with it. I had no idea what to expect. The thing is, the more you think about it and the more you plan out exactly what and how you're going to do it, the worse you will be at it. Making out isn't about technique. It's about expressing your feelings for the other person. Do whatever the moment tells you to do and you'll be a great kisser. The best way to make out is to be spontaneous. If you want to start with a regular kiss and then work your way to making out, that sounds like a great idea. It'll help with your nerves. Don't be afriad to do things that feel right. If, in the moment you want to use some tongue or bite softly, go for it and don't worry about how you're doing. It doesn't matter how you think you're doing, what matters is how the guy thinks you're doing. It's pointless to judge yourself. If he's there and he's kissing you, he likes it. Don't overthink it. It's not complicated at all.
Your relationship with this guy sounds really promising. Don't waste your time with worry...just enjoy it! Good luck. :)
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