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Not to far, just a good 2 miles or so up the street.
But little did I know i would be put on a different bus route.
I used to ride the bus with the boy i really really like, and he lived right up the street from me too!
I still go to his school and all but i miss the bus rides and stuff.
we talk online sometimes but now i think that i dont ride the bus , its gonna interfer with our talking but we hangout with like the same group of people!
help!!
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Turn this into a positive thing. You can use this situation as an opening to create a closer relationship with him.
Tell him sometime how you miss that time you used to have together, every day. Suggest that you would like to make up for it somehow, by getting together with him after school or on weekends. You don't mention how old you are, so I don't know if you're prepared to actually start dating, but if so then this may be a way to make it happen.
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Hello. I lost my lighter, would it be okay if I lighted my ciggarettes with matches instead? Please let me know. I know this sounds dumb but I just need to be sure! Thanks! (link)
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There's nothing in a match that's anywhere near as toxic as what's in the cigarette. It'll make no difference.
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my mom is always asking me to clean my room, well, because its always a mess! i hate cleaning it though! i always get destracted and can never get it done. sometimes a 15 mintute thing can take me up to a week.
anything i can do?? (link)
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Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt.
As I am now 34, it's been a long time since my Mom told me to clean my room, but the awful memories have a way of sticking with you (especially when my wife asks me to clean up the mess in the den). However, I still remember what worked best. It's a step-by-step procedure:
(1) Put on music. If you always use the same music, you will eventually train yourself to concentrate on cleaning while it's playing. I find that the "Flood" album by They Might Be Giants works best for me. (If you have a TV in your room, leave it off - it does not help.)
(2) Move everything off the bed.
(3) Make the bed.
(4) Get everything from the floor, and anywhere else it's not supposed to be, and put it on the bed.
(5) From there, put it all away. It is easier when you have all the mess confined to one area. The rule is, once you pick up an item from the bed, it can only be put where it goes, NOT back down on the bed again.
Once the place is clean, you might want to go through and see if there's anything you can throw out or pack into boxes in the closet. One of the great causes of mess is simple clutter.
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Hey there,
I hate the fact that the only place I have for comfort is the net, lol! I am afraid to tell anyone else! I am a 21 year old gay guy and my bf is 18, we have been dating for 8 monthes now and have had a mass of high and lows.
He has the worst temper and shouts at me for the silliest things, and threatens me with breaking up, killing himself,not loving me, hating me when we argue.
Last nite we got into an argument, things got heated, and he pushed me, so I decided to walk away to let him calm down, then he came runing up behind me and stuck his fingers into my arms, it was the most hurtful thing! I tried tyo walk away and he wouldnt let me, so I end up beatinghim upo basically, in self defence, I wasnt gonna be shouted at and physically hurt for no reason! Again I tried to walk away and he grabbedme, wouldnt let me go, my arm wasin agony, and he was screaming at me in the middle of town, so I turned round punched him a few times, and kicked him when he was on the ground. He was scaring me, I am not a violent person, but he was hurting me and wouldnt let me go.
Then he screamed "I AM GONNA KILL MYSELF!!!!"
After I cooled down, regardless of what he did to me, I went back to him, he spat in myface and started beating me up, to which I didnt do anything back, then started screaming he was sorry for hurting me before!
What am I meant to do? Was I wrong in defending myself? How canlove be like this? Idont wanna leave him, but how can things get sorted? (link)
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You were NOT wrong in what you did, and you MUST leave him. Not necessarily forever, but until he sorts out his emotional issues.
He is abusing you not only physically, but mentally; threatening to kill himself (and implying that it would be your fault) is also abusive, and cowardly besides.
Who knows where his issues come from, but he needs to recognize they exist and try to resolve them. If he promises to do this and asks for your help, I would give him ONE more chance. If he won't promise that, or if he blows that chance, then LEAVE - no matter what he threatens. For you to stick around at that point would make you an Enabler, one who supports his bad habits.
You have every right to defend yourself when you must, but also the responsibility to walk away when you can. If you decide later to go back, then you will need to stay on your guard. Abusers go through a pattern of abuse, followed by kindness and remorse, followed by further abuse. Don't be fooled by this pattern; look for REAL change in his attitudes before you trust him again.
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This weekend I'm going to be meeting my boyfriend's parents. We've been dating for a month, and I'm going to be staying there for the entire weekend!
Does anyone have any tips? I really want to make a good impression. (link)
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Certainly, be yourself. But remember that there are a few ways that you can make "yourself" be as appealing as possible!
(1) Be unfailingly polite. Call them "Mr. and Mrs. ______," unless they specifically ask you to call them by their first names or something else. Offer handshakes instead of hugs until you get to know them.
(2) Be classy. If you have an exotic personal style, try to relax it for the weekend. Don't wear clothes that are very revealing or otherwise inappropriate.
(3) Try not to be too nervous or jumpy. If you're constantly on edge, they will wonder what you're hiding that you're so nervous about.
(4) Try not to discuss things like politics or religion or other sources of great controversy. A wrong word on something important to them will put you on their bad side for a long time.
(5) When his mom brings out the old photo albums, let her. Your boyfriend's embarassment over his childhood pictures is part of his necessary rite of passage.
(6) Be a gracious guest. Keep things clean and neat, re-fold the towels after you use them, re-make the bed at the end of the weekend, and offer to assist with meal preparation and cleanup. This sort of thing will go further than anything else in impressing the parents.
One thing to bear in mind is that this is a great opportunity for you to get some insight on your boyfriend. More often than not, people will base their behavior in relationships on the way their parents act toward each other. To a certain extent, a boy will grow up to be his father. If you have long-term plans with your boyfriend, this could be a valuable glimpse into the future.
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who has the key? (link)
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Forty-two.
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well thankyou for eventually writing back and not just totally forgeting about me.
I was really confused about my feelings towards him on camp. There were these envelopes and by the end of camp we were supposed to give evryone an encouraging letter and I wrote one to him saying " I know we are supposed to write an encouraging letter but theres something that I have to say that cannot be said in person. I like you and I know we arent together because god doesnt want us together or you don't feel the same way. Either way I just wanted to tell you how I felt about you. Anna
And now I am back at school and we have talked but he doesn't have enough balls to talk about it.
But one thing that I realised on camp is that I don't really have any feelings not true feelings towards him. I needed to tell him to realise I didnt like him anymore it was just a crush.
So I guess I worked my problem out on my own! well kinda. Im still confused about him though.
I also met a very nice guy on camp. His name is Dillon.He comes to my church group too. I would like to know since Im in a small town with nothing to doo with a guy do you have any suggestions if I asked him on a date what we could do? And also theres a formal for the church group and I want to go with him but how can I ask him? I dont want to get shut down and rejected and then not have fun at the formal. Im sorry this is long Im making up for the time between my last letter :) (link)
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I'm somewhat curious as to what you expected him to say in response to your letter. You mention that God doesn't seem to want to two of you to be together. He's not likely to argue with that. He probably feels that you went through the full cycle of noticing him, developing a crush, and getting over it all without his even knowing about it, and it would be rather awkward for him to suddenly involve himself in it now when there is nothing left. If I were you, I wouldn't expect him to have anything to say - it's not a matter of not having the "balls" to talk about it, there's just nothing for him to say about it. It sounds like you need some closure, but frankly, there's nothing in it for him.
I wish I could advise you on fun things to do in a small town, but I had enough trouble finding fun things to do in a large one, so I'm afraid that's not where I can help out.
Insofar as asking someone to the formal... there is risk involved in asking people out. Nothing will ever change that. You basically have two choices - one, take the chance and ask him out; two, wait for him to do it. I guarantee your chances of success are greater with option one.
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How do i know if I'm a lesbian? i have a really close friend who's a lesbian, and I know she likes me because she kissed me one. Then I kinda freaked out because I was so sure I couldn't be a lesbian. But now my boyfriend and I broke up and I'm really attracted to her. Like, I am a slut, I'll admit it, but lately i am not into the guys. They are so boring. Maybe I'm just looking for something new and different? All i know for sure is that lately I suddenly get the urges to do sexual things to my friend. grab her boobs, touch her pussy, whatever. So, I guess I'm a lesbian. I just don't seem to like guys anymore much, if at all. (link)
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Why label yourself?
If you feel attracted to your friend, then go ahead and explore those feelings. If you later find that a man turns you on, then let it be so.
I'm not saying "Be promiscuous and try every deviant idea that pops into your head", but perhaps attraction to you simply isn't primarily about gender.
There are two things to consider carefully here, however. One is that if you do choose to pursue a relationship with your friend, other people WILL label you. You'll need to decide if you're prepared to deal with that. There are a lot of unfair and negative stereotypes about those attracted to the same gender, and you will face them if you answer that call.
The other thing is more important. Make sure that you take your friend's feelings into full account - in other words, be certain that you are not using her as an experiment. If you pursue an intimate relationship with her, she will deserve the same respect and consideration as you would want to receive in return. If you feel uncertain, tell her that up front; if it's mostly about exploring the physical and not the emotional, be honest with her about that. She may be happy to show you how the other half lives, so to speak, but she may also have feelings for you that run deeper than "let's do it and see what happens".
Perhaps I'm getting the wrong impression, but from your question it strikes me that you're viewing this as a way to satisfy a curiosity or to shake up your sex life. If she sees it instead as a real relationship, then you'll be setting her up for a major hurt.
As far as how you know, it's been my experience that most people just KNOW, and for others, the answer comes in time. Usually by the time one is twenty years old or so, it's pretty clear whether one is gay, straight, or bi. You are what you are, and perhaps a single word isn't enough to describe your particularly complex feelings. Nothing wrong with that.
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What can I download, thats free [or has free trial] that i can like edit my pictures type thing.. like, whiten your teeth, make you tanner, only make certain things gray.. & so on. I don't care if it doesn't have all of it. But atleast the like only make certain parts gray & stuff.
Kthankyouuuu. (link)
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I happen to use Photoshop, but among the free utilities, the best one I've seen is called the GIMP. You can download it at http://www.gimp.org/windows/. However, it is somewhat complex to use, and many people don't like it for that reason. A simpler alternative is Getpaint (http://getpaint.net/) but since it is simpler, it is also less powerful.
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Hey my question is about my boyfriend. weve been goin out for 4 months and ive met his parents but he hasnt introduced me to his friends. should i be worried about this? i dunno. I always thought friends were a big part of a guys life. (link)
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I had a girlfriend in high school who I rarely saw with my friends, for a very simple reason: I didn't really have any. That is, I had some casual friends who I would see at school and occasionally join for group activities, but I didn't have a group of friends that I spent any serious time with. I wasn't a social moron or anything like that, just a private person who didn't open up easily to others. I didn't have any real friends until college.
Now, if you know that your boyfriend does have a group that he hangs out with, then it does seem strange that you've never been introduced. There could be any number of reasons for this:
- Maybe his best friend doesn't like you for some reason, and he's trying to avoid conflict.
- Maybe he's ashamed of them for some reason, and doesn't want you to think badly of him because of the people he hangs out with.
- Maybe he has another girlfriend (unlikely, since you've met his parents, but possible)
- Maybe he simply prefers to keep these two things in his life separate. If that's the case, it obviously doesn't say much for your long-term success as a couple, because eventually he's going to have to include you in that part of his life, or vice-versa.
- Maybe it honestly hasn't occurred to him, especially if he's rather new at dating.
Bottom line is, you should simply ask if you could meet his friends sometime. It's a legitimate request, and if he doesn't want to arrange the meeting, you deserve to know why.
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my boyfriend and i had a fight last night- i was mad at him and this morning i got a text asking: is this it? is this over? wat should i say? i dunno if he wants to im so confuzed plz help! (link)
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Breaking up shouldn't be done over IM, E-mail, or even the telephone in my opinion. It should be done in person.
Send him back a message saying that you want to see him to talk about it. Something this important shouldn't be settled by sending little clips of text back and forth.
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I dont really want to believe to that thing, but I cant help it due to things that have happened to me. Once I had this dream I just could not wake up from. The dream just kept on going on and on, and it was not a good one either. I knew it was a dream, I knew who I was and I was wondering to myself, what, am I doing here. This is not real then why the fuck cant I wake up.
Anyways, after a while I did wake up. drunk some water got back to bed. Only then, everytime I fell asleep, I got the worst feeling one could ever get.
There I was, trying to fall asleep, when everything around me started colliding, like not just the walls around me, but the hole universe was being destroyed into atoms, as if I was waking up from the Matrix or something. I had no control of my body at that time. Took me a couple of seconds till I obtain control again. It just kept on for the hole night and everytime I did, I just tried to move my fingers. After a while, I could.
Next day I asked not only one but two doctors and none of them new anything about it.I was very concerned about it and I thought I was having some kind of epilepsy seizure during night. Everything turned out normal according to the doctors. Told me that I was nervous or something so they both send me home.
I cant remembered how many times it happend after but then I found this guy who told me about astral projection. I almost cried as he was mentioning all of the effects and symptoms and he informed me that people who have mastered this skillas he called it, can do many things such as see pictures from far far away. Especially when he told me the soul leaves the body part, I totally freaked out. I really did not want it to happen again, only months later, it did. I kind of wanted it to happen, but everytime it started, it scared me and of course I tried to move my finger.
After, a couple of weird stuff started to happen. I had this dream where I was rotaing above my couch for a long long time, above the ground. Dont know, might be a dream, might not, I might be crazy I might be lying I dont want to argue for that. Anyways, if it was a dream, what stupid dream that was. I was there for hours goind in circles I could not control, untill I finally open my eyes and faced my pillow. Anyways, the point is that the hole vibrating, electricity effect did not happen.
This other time, I tried to fall asleep and it started happening. For once I did not care. I was not scared, and while it was happening I though that, now it is time for me to do it, if it can be done. So, how do I travel through real space as a soul, how do I remember them when I wake up, I mean the soul has a different perception from the brain, it uses no eyes, no ears no touch. Suddenly I started thinking of al this stuff while it was there happening. I really did feel like I made a thoudand thoughs in a second, I felt lucid and smart and then decided to go see that friend of mine and then it happened. There I was looking at him from above, he was all dressed up in green, studying, he was bold and I hadn t seen him for a long time. Not really long time, but when I met him he had hair. I woke up.
Later that night I called him and we hanged out. I told him I saw him at the morning. He asked me if I passed by his university where he studies and I told him, well...short of. He WAS bold by the way. And he did admit he was all dressed up in green.
After that I had a couple of really crazy experiences but know it does not happen anymore. I dont really care, I tried to for a while, not really that hard but anyways. I need to ask
Do you people believe in Astral Projection? Can you share any experiences? It does not come against Christianity since Christian religion believes in the existance of soul. I really feel that there is something that I have to do but I just cant remember, do you believe you can communicate with the dead? From what I understand in the movie Butterfly effect with Ashton Cutcher, he could travel through times. Others believe that you can do pretty much anything you want, even be at multiple places at the same time or even be everywhere at the same time, something like god.
I believe that everyone experiences that Astral projection, but few remember since when you wake up in your brain it is hard to translate you soul senses in your brain senses. I believe in spirit-brain way of though, soul-cant define it and body-mostly used. You got 2 types of dreams, brain dreams and soul dreams. Brain dreams are illusion that occur while the brain is shutting off. Soul dreams are what the brain remembers from its lets say adventures in the ...universe or....whatever.
Is this dangerous? Lets say, you might meet other creatures there besides human beings and iguanas travelling through the...universe, whatever...Lets say that maybe, something else might take your place in your body, like a dead person or something even worst.
I never slept over than 7 hours during at night except sometimes, I always remembered my dreams, dreams so long you will not believe them, I have a great memory, I really remember stuff you would not believe me if I told you how far my memory goes and I am not crazy, I know how to distinguish when my mind is fooling me or plays tricks on me. I never was the type of guy who chases the paranormal and I dont believe in many stuff. This just happened and it really is a life changing experience. I do feel as a differnet person after that.
My mother was about to have an operation once. HER mother was passed away long time ago before my mother needed to go in the hospital for some surgery. A couple of night ago while she was sleeping she had this dreamwhere she was in the surgery with all this people around and there was her mother smileying at her. When she did go there in real life, the room was exactly the same, and the doctors to. She knew the doctor who would operate on her but she did not know all of the people that were going to be in the room, and she had seen them before in her dream. It was as if her mother was telling her, that she still exists somewhere. (link)
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Just so you know, I don't believe in Astral Projection, out-of-body experiences, or much in the way of spirituality.
Obviously, you're having some fairly heavy experiences, but it could very well all be in your mind. The brain is an enormously complex thing, and we can't expect it to always work a certain way. Recently, it has been shown that doctors can actually induce out-of-body experiences in perfectly healthy people by stimulating certain areas of the brain; it causes a disconnect sensation with one's own body, and the cause is simply a confusion in that part of the brain that determines that sense of self (known as "proprioception").
Your brain is apparently an unusual one. You have vivid dreams, extraordinary capacity for memory, and who knows what else. What you must learn to do is to take control of these abilities so that you master them, and not the other way around.
I notice that you say that you can tell when your mind is playing tricks on you. Forgive me for being blunt, but: No, you can't. By definition, the only way you would be able to tell is by using your mind, and if it is your mind that is thrown off, you won't always be able to distinguish fantasy from reality. It's kind of like saying that you can tell how long a line is by measuring with the same ruler you used to draw it with - if the ruler is marked wrong, you won't be able to tell.
There are many things we cannot explain. The brain still has a lot of secrets. Yours seems to be an extraordinary mind, but to assume the existence of inexplicable supernatural forces probably won't get you any closer to understanding it.
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omg im so pissed right now, i found out today that my best freind erin asked my ex boyfreind out to the homecoming dance this month, and he said yes. the way she told me this shocking news was, "hey katie, um the other day i accidently asked brandon to the dance, i kinda blurted it out, and well brandon kinda accidently said yes now obviously neither of them didnt think much of how much it would hurt me, consifering that i still inda had feelings 4 him. he could have gone with any other person to the dance, but no, he decides that he would rather go with my best freind. well i called him and told him how i feel and he thought thatthere was nothing wrong with him going with my best freind. what should i do?? (link)
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Your best friend and your ex have been inconsiderate of you, and furthermore, they've been pretty weasely about it. How does one "accidentally" say yes to a date? That's just stupid.
In a sense, there is nothing wrong with them going to the dance - he's your ex-boyfriend, not your current boyfriend, so no one is betraying your trust. It's possible, even likely, that they developed feelings for each other even before he broke up with you (I'm assuming he did the breaking up, because you say you still have feelings for him). What they are guilty of here is dishonesty. They should have respected you enough to tell you how they felt about each other, and not tried to water it down by saying things like "I accidentally asked him to the dance, and he accidentally said yes."
Forgive me a momentary lapse, but that's BULLSH*T. They didn't do it on accident; they knew what they were doing, and furthermore by telling you it was an "accident" your friend Erin is showing that she knows exactly how much it would hurt you, and she didn't have the guts to tell you about it directly. THAT'S the thing to be upset about.
They can't help it if they have feelings for each other, and if they do then it would be wrong to deny it simply to spare yours. Where they did wrong is in not giving you enough respect to be truthful and straightforward with you.
Whether this friendship survives on any level depends entirely on whether they can acknowledge that wrong, and whether you can forgive it. As for your relationship with Brandon, it will never be the way it was, so let it go. Whether you can be friends with him again is up to you, but he abd Erin are probably going to come as a package deal from now on, so consider carefully whether you can get over this.
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i like this guy Matt, and ive liked him for this whole year basically. about 2-3 months ago he asked me out and then dumped me the next day and said "Im sorry for screwing around with you, i just cant get that girl Emma out of my head." Hes liked Emma for a long time too. Then like 15 minutes later hes like I love you Ana & i always will but i just cant get Emma out of my head and im like Okay...
Now hes over Emma and he likes another girl Katherine. Im going out wiht his best frined, but i dont want to dump him because i dont want him to get hurt. And im scared if i dump him, Matt wont be my friend either. Ever since i started dating Matts best friend, Matt is being really slack to me like calling me a bitch and stuff. I have told him things about Katherine that i heard from her friends, like shes a bitch and stuff, but Matt said that im no one to tell him who to like then i said that I just dont want him to get hurt then he didnt say anything. I just dont get his behaviour. Hes changed soo much. How can i make him be the way he was before - caring and sweet? Ive tried talking but he just gets pissed off.
Also, how can i make him like me again? This all is making me really upset. I even want to cry in the middle of class sometimes.
Thanks
Ana. (link)
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Matt needs to grow the hell up. He's a selfish little brat, and you don't deserve to be treated this way just because he can't make up his mind about who he likes and whose heart he stomps on.
In just one case, though, Matt is right - it's not up to you to tell him who to like. You can't decide his feelings for him. You can tell him you think he's being disrespectful and childish, and that he needs to treat people better, but you can't make him feel a certain way about someone. It's also rather petty of you to talk trash about Katherine. Don't sink to that level!
Forget about dating Matt. He apparently can't handle a mature relationship, and you will be better off without him. Responding to his childishness with your own childishness will not solve anything.
Incidentally, people are usually friends with people who are like them. Since you are now dating Matt's best friend, make sure he doesn't treat you the same way Matt did. If he does, then wash your hands of both of them.
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help me please! i want to kill myself, i have a severe depression, and im messing up my moms life because of it.
my mom is the type of persn who's never really been happy, i mean she thanks God for everything everyday, she claims she's totally happy, and I'm sure she's satisfied..but come on! this woman has struggled her whole life to get where she is, studying, helping out her parents and sibling..and never done anything bad. Then we she finally gets her dream, good work and a husband. her husband uses her as a verbal punchbag and makes her cry, and her workmates ae rasists. Not only that, her biggest wish is for me to be happy.. but im so selfish that all i want is sympathy.. that im making her feel like's she'sa failed and she's a bad mother, i hate my life, so i skip school (havn't been for about 3 weeks) cry all the time, and never smile.. and it's killing her i know it is!! but i dont know what to do, i cant be happy, i cant go bac. and dont suggest talking to someone or a pshyciatrist cause in our culture that's considered not trusting in God, and it is a sin.. and it would never ever in a million years work.
so what do i do? im afraid if i start faking my happiness to make her hapyy, i'll become even more depressed, cause i'll enver er able to let my feelings out.
PLEASE HELP ME.
i can't stop crying. (link)
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You're not likely to be able to improve your mother's life. She seems to have chosen her path, and in some way she seems to think that she can be happy in an abusive relationship and with a bad career. Maybe someday you can help her realize that no human being deserves to be treated without respect, but first you need to get your own life together.
It is not selfish of you to want sympathy. Everyone needs that. Your mother may not have it to give because she's in such a train wreck herself, but that doesn't mean you don't deserve it.
I don't know what exactly your religious beliefs are, but it seems strange to me that consulting the advice and opinions of your fellow human beings would be a sign of distrust in God. If you break your leg, would it be a sign of distrust for you to go to a doctor and have it set? Why should emotional difficulties be treated differently than physical ones? For that matter, what's the difference between going to a psychologist and posting questions on an adivce board, except that the psychologist has actually studied human emotion and might have better advice? But in one sense you're right - as long as you're convinced that it would never help in a million years, it probably won't.
(Incidentally, it used to be considered a sign of distrust in God to put lightning rods on buildings. The result was that a lot of churches burned down following lightning strikes - the steeple, after all, was generally the tallest thing around, and got hit by lightning a lot. It is possible to trust in God and use common sense at the same time, and right now your common sense should be telling you that you don't have to solve all your problems alone.)
Presumably, it would not be a violation of God's trust for you to talk to your minister or priest, so you might consider trying that. The confidence of the confessional is absolute, so you need not worry about your words being heard by others.
A bit of harsh truth: your mother has compromised her ideas of happiness. She wanted a career and a husband, but apparently she settled for a hostile work environment and a husband who doesn't love her. That is why she is unhappy; IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. Don't carry her burden as well as your own. She made her choices, and it's not up to you to make her happy; it's up to her to do that.
The best you can do is to not repeat her mistakes. When you decide what will make you happy, don't stop trying for it until you really achieve it. If you settle for something less, you will be miserable forever.
And get some help from someone. You don't need to do this alone.
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i had sex
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the guy cummed in like 5 minutes
explanations?? (link)
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Younger, inexperienced guys don't realize that it takes a woman longer than that to be satisfied; they figure that if it's working for them, it must be working for you.
The solution is to offer some gentle guidance. A decent guy will not have a problem with you showing him how he can make it good for you - he will welcome the opportunity to become a better lover, and for most men there's nothing that's as great a turn-on as a woman who's really into it, so in the end it will be better for him too.
Of course, if he can have his quick shot and be ready for a second round, that's another possible solution. Heck, if women can have multiple orgasms, why can't we men have them too? Equality of the sexes, and all that.
If he shrugs it off or doesn't want to hear how it can be made better for you, then he's being selfish and he doesn't deserve to be intimate with you. Basically, you need to lay down the law - if he's only interested in his own pleasure, then he can provide it himself. You're a woman, not an inflatable doll, and that means that your needs matter too.
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You answered my question yesterday but I dont know if I can take you advice and go for it. I live in a little town with not much things to do and he lives 27km away from me but we go to the same school. I send him messages over the phone but he still doesn't want to open up really. we talk about favourite bands and movies and just stuff like that but I really want to get to know him but not seem desperate or too eager. Also he's very busy with stuff after school so I might not be able to ask him out at a certain time. Plus what would we do? Im a 14 yr old girl and he is a 16 yr old boy. He has almost got his P plates but I wouldn't be aloud to drive with him anyway and he doesnt have a car. I see him every friday night at a church group. we are having a camp in 3 or 4 weeks and maybe I can say or do something then. But reminding you he may ot be ready for a realtionship. What do I do if he doesn't want a relationship because I feel lonely alot and would like some extra love. Trying not to be selfish! Anyway please help me if you can! (link)
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I'm sorry it took me so long to get back to your question - I have a bad habit of not checking my inbox.
I guess that by now the camp thing has happened, as it's been over four weeks. Therefore, I assume the situation may have changed. Feel free to write again - I'll respond more quickly this time.
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I have a boyfriend, we've been dating about 8 and a half months.
For the first 7, he was absolutely amazing.
He's been changing a lot lately, and it's making me wonder how much I want to be with him anymore.
I think he's going through an angsty phase, or I'm just discovering his diva side?
He decided he wants to drop out of school, and pick up old habits that he swore that he'd stop for me months ago. My theory: His two best friends are bad influences on him. Anyways
I pretty much see myself as a doormat to him lately, because he used to make me feel so special. So within the past 3 weeks, he has ignored me because he's 'been so stressed out about how shitty life is' Broken up with me, and he's starting to ignore me again.
I don't understand, I saw him more when he lived with his dad in another city about 2 months in to our relationship. I just don't know how to draw the line with him.
If he ever decides to grow up and call me so we can actually see eachother, I might end it. But I don't really know. I feel stuck.
So for the past 2 or 3 weeks, I've felt like a chore to him. I hate it. I usually don't take this crap from guys, and I don't know why I'm treating him this way and giving him so many chances when he obviously doesn't deserve them.
What should I do? (link)
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Whatever has happened, he's made it pretty clear that he no longer intends to put any effort into maintaining your relationship. It's unfortunate that he's decided to backslide into a life he should have left behind, but it seems that he's determined to do so and won't be talked out of it.
I don't think your relationship is salvageable. Be grateful, in a way, that he's cutting you loose and not dragging you down with him.
You say that in the past few weeks he's broken up with you. If I were you, I would take him up on it. Call or contact him one more time, and tell him that you consider your relationship over because he's obviously not interested in it anymore. Make a clean break.
There is a chance that he will eventually come crawling back, saying that he was wrong and that he's really changed this time and wants you back. Whether you take him up on it is something you will need to decide when the time comes, but I suggest you live your life as if it won't happen - in other words, don't wait for him.
In a nutshell: Let him go. He's already let you go.
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Is there any natural way to increase breast size permanently?
I do not want to gain weight and I do not want to get pregnant. (link)
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No. If there were, then thousands of women would be doing it, and the silicone-implant industry wouldn't exist.
The only thing that might remotely help is to exercise the pectoral muscles, usually by bench-pressing or pushups. This will enlarge the chest muscles under the breasts and will have the effect of pushing them outwards. Fewer repetitions with heavier weights will work best - but in the end, it might not even be notceable. A little exercise never hurt, though, so you might as well try!
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One of my best friend's came to me and another friend (also both bi) and told us he was bi and he was serosuis. Now fast forward a couple weeks, he says to me he's complety straight and would never do another guy, now i think he's lying whatta do ya think?
btw were all 14 (link)
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I don't think he's lying, he's probably just a bit confused. He may have these feelings, but he wants to deny them. It may also have been a brief urge that passed. Sexuality is not always something that people can figure out about themselves right away.
Let him figure it out on his own, and offer support if he asks for it, but I wouldn't bring it up again unless he wants to talk about it.
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