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best freind and wx problem
omg im so pissed right now, i found out today that my best freind erin asked my ex boyfreind out to the homecoming dance this month, and he said yes. the way she told me this shocking news was, "hey katie, um the other day i accidently asked brandon to the dance, i kinda blurted it out, and well brandon kinda accidently said yes now obviously neither of them didnt think much of how much it would hurt me, consifering that i still inda had feelings 4 him. he could have gone with any other person to the dance, but no, he decides that he would rather go with my best freind. well i called him and told him how i feel and he thought thatthere was nothing wrong with him going with my best freind. what should i do??
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you guys r broken up. you need to get over it theres noo rule that you can`t date your best friends ex! your jealousy is ruining ur friendship let it go and just get over it you guys broke up its not liike she asked out you boyfriend. really to tell the truth it makes you look stupid saying that.
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I know you're not over him and everything, and true, best friends shouldn't go after eachother's ex's and everything - but remember, you two did break up for a reason, and whenever people break up, that's what they're supposed to do - go find other people to meet and everything.
I would just talk to your friend about it and let her know that she really hurt your feelings whenever she did that, and she could've at least let you know she was going to ask him so you had a heads up and everything. Best friends should be able to talk to eachother about all sorts of stuff, and be understanding.
But if I were you, I would just try my best and let it slide. "Chicks before dicks," I always say. Do you really want to lose your best friend over this one guy who you'll probably not see next year or for the rest of your life, for that matter? But just think about the friendship between the two of you and just how much you can trust her, and just watch out whenever you tell her stuff.
And as for him, just let him go too. This is all a part of the break up process, and you should try your best to move on. There's a better guy out there for you anyways, and like I said, you two broke up for a reason, so try and find a guy who won't do whatever happened between the two of you. And maybe even go ask another guy to the dance to just show them you're fine with it, you don't care if they go together, and just see what happens.
I hope I helped.
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You need to remember that he is not your property, even though your friend should have talked to you first, and not been so immature about the "accidently" crap. Handle yourself with dignity and class. You don't get to decide who dates whom in any situation. I know it feels like a slap in the face, but they are not doing it to you. Feelings are subjective, and personal. I suggest that you find a date and go enjoy yourself, and not take it any more personally then you already have, because it will not serve you. Others will make decisions that serve them, so from now on think about what will bring joy to your life...anger never does.
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What you should do is find a nice guy to ask to the homecoming dance and show them you don't care if they date.
Honestly now, You are no longer dating him. You may not be over him but you are no longer a couple for whatever reason. He is free to date whoever he wants
to date same as you are.
I don't think your friend "accidentally" asked him. That is bull. She asked him because she wanted to go with him. I think it would have been nice if she had talked with you about it first, but she knows your feelings about him so she didn't.
So tell her you think it was a rotten thing to do and then try your best to just forget about it. Once you stop dating someone they can do what they like.
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Hey,
If I was you I would ask your best friend to not go out with your ex, if she really is your best friend...and as far as your ex...I would just go a head and write him off...your best friend used very poor taste in asking out your ex..however, I would not write her off, with out giving her a chance...people, do make mistakes, she may not have really known how you would feel about the situation...
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Your best friend and your ex have been inconsiderate of you, and furthermore, they've been pretty weasely about it. How does one "accidentally" say yes to a date? That's just stupid.
In a sense, there is nothing wrong with them going to the dance - he's your ex-boyfriend, not your current boyfriend, so no one is betraying your trust. It's possible, even likely, that they developed feelings for each other even before he broke up with you (I'm assuming he did the breaking up, because you say you still have feelings for him). What they are guilty of here is dishonesty. They should have respected you enough to tell you how they felt about each other, and not tried to water it down by saying things like "I accidentally asked him to the dance, and he accidentally said yes."
Forgive me a momentary lapse, but that's BULLSH*T. They didn't do it on accident; they knew what they were doing, and furthermore by telling you it was an "accident" your friend Erin is showing that she knows exactly how much it would hurt you, and she didn't have the guts to tell you about it directly. THAT'S the thing to be upset about.
They can't help it if they have feelings for each other, and if they do then it would be wrong to deny it simply to spare yours. Where they did wrong is in not giving you enough respect to be truthful and straightforward with you.
Whether this friendship survives on any level depends entirely on whether they can acknowledge that wrong, and whether you can forgive it. As for your relationship with Brandon, it will never be the way it was, so let it go. Whether you can be friends with him again is up to you, but he abd Erin are probably going to come as a package deal from now on, so consider carefully whether you can get over this.
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