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Am I a lesbian?
How do i know if I'm a lesbian? i have a really close friend who's a lesbian, and I know she likes me because she kissed me one. Then I kinda freaked out because I was so sure I couldn't be a lesbian. But now my boyfriend and I broke up and I'm really attracted to her. Like, I am a slut, I'll admit it, but lately i am not into the guys. They are so boring. Maybe I'm just looking for something new and different? All i know for sure is that lately I suddenly get the urges to do sexual things to my friend. grab her boobs, touch her pussy, whatever. So, I guess I'm a lesbian. I just don't seem to like guys anymore much, if at all.
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make out with her nude!! and if you like it then your a lesbian. if not then your not.
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If you start to think that other girls are hot and attractive, chances are you want change or you are a lesbian. You could try a three way, with both a man or a women, which would really help give you a taste at what you want. Or, you could just go for the gold and ask your lesbian friend out. Either way, it's your choice
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Mainly right now what you want to do is experiment. So experiment and if you like it then be with her.
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You'rw clearly at a crossroads about your sexuality. However, over-analysing the situation can make things worse. Firstly, it may be that you were hurt by the break up with your bf that now you feel you hate all boys, or that all guys will hurt you too. Also, you may be at an experimental stage where you feel you have this unique and exciting opportunity to explore your sexuality with your friend who is a lesbian. You may feel this has opened a chance to try something new. There's no harm in experimenting, so long as you don't lead your friend on who fancies you.
You may take things further with her and find out your not a lesbian. On the other hand, you may discover that you are. The only way to find out is to be open with your mate about the situation and see if she'd be willing to experiment with you.
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Have you always questioned your sexuality? Felt more attracted to girls than boys? Or is this latest fascination something that was aroused by the kiss and curiosity? Sexuality is only a part but a huge part of being human. It is impossible to separate our feelings about ourselves from our sexuality and as you examine yourself, it is natural to examine all areas of your humanity. These sites can offer support in your quest.
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Interesting. My whole family is full of dykes. But you could be Bi. Now tell me again about all these sexual things you do to your friend.
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Why label yourself?
If you feel attracted to your friend, then go ahead and explore those feelings. If you later find that a man turns you on, then let it be so.
I'm not saying "Be promiscuous and try every deviant idea that pops into your head", but perhaps attraction to you simply isn't primarily about gender.
There are two things to consider carefully here, however. One is that if you do choose to pursue a relationship with your friend, other people WILL label you. You'll need to decide if you're prepared to deal with that. There are a lot of unfair and negative stereotypes about those attracted to the same gender, and you will face them if you answer that call.
The other thing is more important. Make sure that you take your friend's feelings into full account - in other words, be certain that you are not using her as an experiment. If you pursue an intimate relationship with her, she will deserve the same respect and consideration as you would want to receive in return. If you feel uncertain, tell her that up front; if it's mostly about exploring the physical and not the emotional, be honest with her about that. She may be happy to show you how the other half lives, so to speak, but she may also have feelings for you that run deeper than "let's do it and see what happens".
Perhaps I'm getting the wrong impression, but from your question it strikes me that you're viewing this as a way to satisfy a curiosity or to shake up your sex life. If she sees it instead as a real relationship, then you'll be setting her up for a major hurt.
As far as how you know, it's been my experience that most people just KNOW, and for others, the answer comes in time. Usually by the time one is twenty years old or so, it's pretty clear whether one is gay, straight, or bi. You are what you are, and perhaps a single word isn't enough to describe your particularly complex feelings. Nothing wrong with that.
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I just think you've got bored and want some sexual
attention.I think you should basically get together and see how you feel, this may help you realise who you really are.Have a sexual moment with her will help you see who you are - if your enjoying it - your proberbly a lez.
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