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Guy and His Buddies
Hey my question is about my boyfriend. weve been goin out for 4 months and ive met his parents but he hasnt introduced me to his friends. should i be worried about this? i dunno. I always thought friends were a big part of a guys life.
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Yes, friendds are a big part of a guys life, but there could be tons of reasons why he might not want you meeting them.
Sometimes, guys just like to keep some things seperate. He might be worried if his guy friends meet you, one of them might wind up liking you, and that'd obviously make things bad. He also just might be worried that if you become friends with them, you'll always be hanging out, and guys need their "guy time", you know? Just like girls need their girl time.
He also just might be plain embarassed. His friends might talk dirty, or be gross, or.. be guys, lol. And he just might be afraid you're not going to like them at all, and you'll not want him hanging out with them anymore.
Or he might be afraid they won't like you. Do you have anyone you're not currently fond of, that has similiar feelings? It may be one of his friends, and he might be worried the two of you will cause conflict, and want him to choose between the two of you or something.
Like I said, there's a million reasons why he might not. He also just might not find you meeting his guy friends such a big deal and not that important. Girls tend to find these things of great importance and really special when in a relationship, but most guys don't think that way.
I mean, he did have you meet his parents, so that's obviously showing really great signs of your relationship and that he's really digging you alot which is great!
If you really want to know, try asking him about it and talk to him about it, but I really don't think it's that big of a deal. Maybe just suggest to him,"Hey, I want to meet these guys you're always talking about and hanging out with, they sound like really cool guys. :)" Or something like that.
I hope I helped.
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yes u should be worried if i was happy wit ma gal id show er 2 ma friends but ure man mite be hejus shy you no.or you very sexi he dont want his friends making move on ya
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I don't think that you should worry about it--maybe he's just embarassed of his guy friends? Friends could be a bgi part in a guy's life, but it depends on how your boyfriend prioritizes things.
Hope this helped,
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I had a girlfriend in high school who I rarely saw with my friends, for a very simple reason: I didn't really have any. That is, I had some casual friends who I would see at school and occasionally join for group activities, but I didn't have a group of friends that I spent any serious time with. I wasn't a social moron or anything like that, just a private person who didn't open up easily to others. I didn't have any real friends until college.
Now, if you know that your boyfriend does have a group that he hangs out with, then it does seem strange that you've never been introduced. There could be any number of reasons for this:
- Maybe his best friend doesn't like you for some reason, and he's trying to avoid conflict.
- Maybe he's ashamed of them for some reason, and doesn't want you to think badly of him because of the people he hangs out with.
- Maybe he has another girlfriend (unlikely, since you've met his parents, but possible)
- Maybe he simply prefers to keep these two things in his life separate. If that's the case, it obviously doesn't say much for your long-term success as a couple, because eventually he's going to have to include you in that part of his life, or vice-versa.
- Maybe it honestly hasn't occurred to him, especially if he's rather new at dating.
Bottom line is, you should simply ask if you could meet his friends sometime. It's a legitimate request, and if he doesn't want to arrange the meeting, you deserve to know why.
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he's trying to keep world's seperate. as a guy i like to keep my friends and my girlfriends seperate. because what happens is she becomes friends with them, she starts hanging out with them, and soon you have no place to go to when you want to be left alone for a while. she has her friends, you have yours, keep em seperated so when you need to, you can be with your people.
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Guys like to keep a few things separate from their love life. The fact that you met his parents is great. Maybe he thinks one of his friends might make a move on you, or he just doesn't think you care to meet them. Guys don't attach meaning to things the may we do...we tend to want every single thing to have more importance then it often does. Don't sweat it, because it does not mean he does not like you enough. He probably wants to just hang with the guys sometimes and not mix his love life with the freedom he has with his guy friends to not be on his best behavior, ya know be gross and stuff like that he can't respectively do around you. Let him keep a little thing like that to himself, it will show him you respect his need to have friends more if you don't whine about needing to be involved in every aspect of his life.
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You're right about a guy's friends being a big influence in his life, but him not introducing you yet doesn't necessarily mean that he's ashamed of you or anything. I was with a girl for over a year and a half and i didn't meet her friends until almost 6 months or so and things were fine. Try bringing it up one day, try to arrange a casual 'date'/hangout with some of his friends (and maybe a couple of yours if you think it will be uncomfortable). Don't make it anything romantic--a theme park or a trip to the mall or something would be ideal.
Overall, don't worry about it. He may just be trying to give you his undivided attention when he's with you, instead of having a bunch of his friends hanging around and giving you guys a hard time. It's really nothing to worry about at this point.
Good Luck!
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