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Meeting the parents...
19/F
This weekend I'm going to be meeting my boyfriend's parents. We've been dating for a month, and I'm going to be staying there for the entire weekend!
Does anyone have any tips? I really want to make a good impression.
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just use your manners and they will go a long way be really respectful call them mr. or Ms. unless they tell you other whys and be yourself
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Certainly, be yourself. But remember that there are a few ways that you can make "yourself" be as appealing as possible!
(1) Be unfailingly polite. Call them "Mr. and Mrs. ______," unless they specifically ask you to call them by their first names or something else. Offer handshakes instead of hugs until you get to know them.
(2) Be classy. If you have an exotic personal style, try to relax it for the weekend. Don't wear clothes that are very revealing or otherwise inappropriate.
(3) Try not to be too nervous or jumpy. If you're constantly on edge, they will wonder what you're hiding that you're so nervous about.
(4) Try not to discuss things like politics or religion or other sources of great controversy. A wrong word on something important to them will put you on their bad side for a long time.
(5) When his mom brings out the old photo albums, let her. Your boyfriend's embarassment over his childhood pictures is part of his necessary rite of passage.
(6) Be a gracious guest. Keep things clean and neat, re-fold the towels after you use them, re-make the bed at the end of the weekend, and offer to assist with meal preparation and cleanup. This sort of thing will go further than anything else in impressing the parents.
One thing to bear in mind is that this is a great opportunity for you to get some insight on your boyfriend. More often than not, people will base their behavior in relationships on the way their parents act toward each other. To a certain extent, a boy will grow up to be his father. If you have long-term plans with your boyfriend, this could be a valuable glimpse into the future.
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do you know what mom or dad has a certain soft spot for?
like, say mom loves to cook, ask if you can help her cook. and talk with her. seem interested in them.
parents dont want their children to be with someone whose more into themselves, or who can't take the time to comit to them enough to try and impress their parents.
be you. thats key. but its not all of it. you have to comprimise with what they like to.
get to know them,
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Just don't worry. They're only parents, and they wont think your a bad person for even a few bad qualities. But some things you can do while still being yourself.. smile, help out, be kind. Those are major.
Just don't worry, and I hope everything goes great!!
Kat<3
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It sounds cliche and corny, and it probably isn't what you want to hear. But BE YOURSELF. First off, no one likes a person that is fake and tries to please everyone. Second, if his parents did like you for something that isn't really who you are, you have to pretend to be that thing for the extent of your relationship. Thirdly, it makes it so much easier to not worry about putting on a show for anyone. So be yourself, be respectful, and be interested in them. Do what they ask and don't get distracted when they are talking to you. I hope your weekend and your relationships turn out great!
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Whenever you first meet the parents, just smile and ( shake their hands is optional ) and just be like,"Hi, it's great to finally meet you guys! Haha, I was so nervous before I got here." And just laugh it off. It shows you have a good sense of humor, and you ARE being honest ; two good qualities in a son's girlfriend.
And just during the weekend you're spending with them, just be polite. Say thank you and everything, and just be careful when hanging around their son. Don't be like, making out on the couch and then have them come home or something! And you know, just be respectful of the house and everything ; like any guest would be.
And during the course of the visit, just let them get to know the real you, and you're interests and what you're interested in and everything. And even ask questions about themselves. I'm sure they'd be suprised you're taking such an interest in them ; and people love to talk about themselves, of course.
And then whenever you're leaving, just tell them you had a great time and thank you so much for inviting you to hang out with you guys over the weekend.
I hope I helped.
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Be yourself. Sweet talking them and being what you are not will not work. If you try to hard it will not work. Just be yourself and the rest will fall into place on it's own. ♥ Good Luck.
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