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Break-up B.f
my boyfriend and i had a fight last night- i was mad at him and this morning i got a text asking: is this it? is this over? wat should i say? i dunno if he wants to im so confuzed plz help!
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Since he texted messaged you asking if it was over and if this was it, he's probably just scared and worried that you're going to break up with him. If he did want to break up with you, he would have told you and he for sure wouldn't be writing you a text message like that if he didn't want to be with you anymore. It sounds like he is just worried. I think you should just talk to him about this and explain your thoughts on it. Explain to him that he means a lot to you and you don't want to break up with him over a silly fight and you DO still want to be with him, than take the converstation from there.
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Well, I don't think he wants it to be over, if he's asking. If he wanted to end it with you, he would've already done it. I think he just wants to know if YOU want it to be over or not.
If you really don't, just text him back and be like,"Of course not! I don't want it to be over at all, fights happen between couples, but they grow closer from them when they make up. :)" Or something like that, and just let him know you don't want it to at all.
Trust me ; all relationships have their feuds, they're never perfect, but little fights should never result in breaking up! If you two like eachother enough, just try and talk it out rather than fighting and give other second chances and whatnot. :)
I hope I helped.
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it depends on how you feel i mean if you feel like you want to have a relationship with him them i mean say no...
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you need to think to yourself, hang on, do i want to be with him or not? He obviously likes you because if he didnt care then he wouldn't have text you this morning. I dont know wat you argued about but say sorry and put it in the past xx
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if hes asking you hes probably scard its over. if you want it to be over then follow your heart and tell him its over. but dont let a silly fight get in between a relation ship with your boyfriend or your friend.
you will end up fighting with your boyfriends and when you get married even worse fighting. sure you might get in a fight but if you really dont know what to do maybe that isnt what you should do. especially it might be a silly fight to dump someone over.
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If he's asking it like that odds are he's just scared that it's going to be over. If you want it to be over then obviously you say yes. If not, then tell him no and you guys just need to talk things out.
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if u want it 2 be ova then say yes if not talk to him and wateva ya argued about talk about it with him ya get me
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Sit down with him and talk in person. There is nothing worse than having painful fight-related talks through IM or cell phones.
Tell him exactly what you like and don't like about the relationship. This may sound silly but it really does work to use "I" statments so he doesn't feel like you are attacking him. For example "I feel ____ when ___ happens."
Being honest in a relationship is the most important thing. If you really want to break up with him, which it sounds like you don't, tell him and tell him why. But when you're in a fight it's actually a perfect time to talk about all aspects of the relationship. Because this way you know what you both can improve on and work on to make it the best relationship it can be.
If you do wanna be with him, tell him why. Explain why you're mad at him but tell him that losing him is not the solution either.
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Well, it depends on the fight. If it was something little then try to work it out. If it was something that was really bad then you may want to consider breaking up with him. So, call him and talk about it. Find out what he wants too.
Good luck.
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Breaking up shouldn't be done over IM, E-mail, or even the telephone in my opinion. It should be done in person.
Send him back a message saying that you want to see him to talk about it. Something this important shouldn't be settled by sending little clips of text back and forth.
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I think he is asking a legitimate question. Doesn't sound as if he wants to break up, but must feel you were mad enough at him that YOU may want to break up.
If you don't then let him know all is well this morning and you are over it.
If you want to move, now id the time to let him know that too. :)
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