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my "best friend" has a girlfriend but supposedly likes me to
Sooo this is kind of a long story, and I’d really appreciate some kind of outside help from someone I don’t know who doesn’t really have a part in the situation. Because I really need to know what to do. So there’s this guy. Who I’ve known for about a year, he’s a senior in college, I’m a sophomore. We became really close last year and both liked each other but at the time I was dating a guy and he had just broken up with someone. Soon after I met him I broke up with my guy and we started hanging out pretty reguluarly. And basically I fell really hard for him. And we became best friends as well. Towards the end of last year, before summer, things got a little complicated I guess, we became a little more distanced. We had hooked up like twice but I never knew what that really meant then I heard through people that he was also hooking up with this other girl “sarah” that I knew. I was pretty upset and I confronted him and he said nothing was really going on. So summer comes and I didn’t talk to him much except for the one time he called me and told me he was dating sarah. After finding that out I was pretty upset not only because I felt he lied to me but because I was crazy about him. School comes back again and I accepted the fact that we were only going to be friends. The first night I’m back I got pretty drunk and ran into him while he was with sarah, I said hi and whatever. Then I went to sleep and was awaken at five in the morning by “mike” so I went to see him. And we hooked up. So after that I figured maybe they broke up. So the next week I ask him about it and no they are still dating and he apologizes profusely for what happened. Too bad later that night the same thing happened again. And the same things been happening since then, for the past two months. We hangout ALL the time. At least four nights a week. I don’t understand. He tells me he likes me. He tells me I’m his best friend here. I’m head over heels for this guy. We get along so well. I’ve never gotten along with anyone like I do with him. He just gets me. And I’m crazy about him. And it seems like he’s crazy about me. Except oh wait he has a girlfriend. All my friends say I’m practically dating him. And I am. Except he has a girlfriend. Last night we watched a movie together and then just fell asleep together. And woke up and went to breakfast and as we’re leaving sarah gets there and he goes and sits with her. And that hurt me so much. And makes me so angry. And I don’t know what to do. I know everyone’s advice is going to be, he’s playing you, he doesn’t really like you, he’s not worth your time. But the thing is, I KNOW he’s worth my time. And I know he likes me. I just don’t get why he’s with her. And I don’t know how to talk to him about this. We haven’t talked about this girl he’s with in over a month. I don’t want to ruin things between us by asking whats the deal. Please help. I’m so fucked up right now
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does he know how you feel about him? If he doesn't you need to tell him! Maybe he's afraid to make a move because he thinks you only want him as a friend. If you all spend so much time together he's not playing you...he's probably as just as confused as you are. He thinks since nothing serious has happened between you two that he should move on and get a girlfriend. He probably doesn't want to break sarah's heart for you to just find out that you only like him as a friend. He'll feel like an idiot. So tell him your feelings! That's the only way anything's going to happen. Don't just drop it on him all at once..pull him aside and tell him you need to talk and then tell him calmly...because he still might need time to think things over.
Hope I helped!
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Since you don't want to believe he is playing you, there is only one way to get the answer you need.
He is "dating" Sarah because you allow it. He can have 2 women instead of one...what guy is going to turn that down? He is using your feelings for him to take advantage and that is indeed "playing" you.
To find out for sure just straight up tell him. If you don't beak up with Sarah then you will get nothing from me. Hopefully he will break up with Sarah. Be prepared though for what you hope won't happen. He is very likely to stick with her.
BUT, you will have your answer once and for all. :)
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