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Hey all I love to give advice so ask away! I'm in high school and don't take crap from anyone; I don't care if people say things about the way I am. I don't do the whole trend thing...I'll wear something or do something because I like it and that's it. I love music and I play several instruments. My goal this year is to go to The Who concert or a Jet Concert!!! YEAH!!
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ok I'm at a stage of my life where my personality is changing. I wear dark clothes and a studded belt and no I'm not turning into a goth I just have a dark personality. I'm giving rap a break and I'm into rock,favorite band is The Offspring. So to top it all off I want a new hairstyle. I'm thinking of growing my hair a bit long so I can go to some barber shop and ask to make it stand up staight and spikey and I want red stipes on it too. So is there any like website that has hairstyles like that?
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Since I'm into rock any one know any good rock bands or rock songs. I like songs played by people like Panic at the Disco,The Offspring,Greenday,All-American Rejects,Nickleback, and Sum 41.
dude first of all you don't give the music you love a "break". I mean where the hell does it say you have to like one type of music and completely ignore the rest? You sound extremely fake to me and it sounds like you're just trying to fit in and be one of the "cool" kids. Seriously who goes around saying "do you know any kool rock songs because i'm such a hardcore punk rocker now..." lol come on....what a crock
im 13 and i wont to have sex how should i do it and were sholud i do it
I think 13 is an extremely young age to have sex...1'm 16 now and i've never had sex...but if it's what u truly want to do and you think you're ready for it, just make sure it is with someone special and you use protection. Sex is a huge step to take in a relationship and I hope you're not just doing a one night stand...because then it's not worth it.
okay i think i need to see a counselor but i have no way to tell my mom..she has suggested it a couple of times but i never said yeah and so i think i seriously need to see one and i think i have depresssion. anyways i have thought a lot about suicide and i cant take any more problems in my life it's just all going down hill and school just sucks and my friends are kind of annoying me and i think they just bring more problems from me...well some...not a couple though. also i have this temptation just to start up drugs thinking it'll make me feel better...but something has always stopped me from the rugs and killing myself. also i really like being alone a lot and not hanging out with people. i only like hanging out with one of my friends other than that i cant even share my problems with my friends. another thing thats wrong with me is that i always tend to blame everything on myself and i cant help that...then if i blame one thing on me i just bust out crying cause i think about every other thing that i have done wrong in my life. so i guess i think i have no use in life bcause i cant do anything right in life and everybody seems to yell at me....and i hate it when people tell me i dont talk much in school...i dont feel like talking and then i get all upset...and i guess im just asking you all if it sounds like i suffering from anything and ways to tell my mom about a counselor. btw i have cut myself a couple of times but i dont like that so i just use a rubberband on my arm to take away the pain. and if it helps i am 15/female. thank you a bunch for any help on this
(I'm 15/f also)Yeah you are going through depression and I'm still dealing with mine after like a year. A year ago nothing seemed to be going my way and I was the kid everybody least expected to try and commit suicide, but I did (I overdosed). I thought my thoughts about suicide were completley normal and that you know everybody thought of it at one time or another...I was wrong of course. For some parents (like my mom) it's hard for them to accept that there is anything wrong with their kids and that they are some perfect child. Yes but you should talk to a counselor. When I overdosed I ended up in a psych ward(I was terrified!) with all these other teens who had tried to commit suicide. You have a chance now to avoid hitting rock bottom. We're a lot alike. Another thing that just made me worse was my perfectionism. I wrote a lot during my depression and now that I'm doing better and go back and look at what I wrote..it scares me. If you need someone to talk to my email's on my advice column and my yahoo i.d. is superfizzysodapop@sbcglobal.net. The whole thing with depression is that you never want to do anything anymore and you think your life has no point..if you continue to feel this way make sure you talk to someone, or me!
Hope I helped
Hi my name is Katie. I think my friend Brandi has a problem. She told me today that she got drunk yesterday and she cut herself with a razor all over her wrist and hand. I am really worried about her because she talks about all the time and I don't want her to do anything stupid. I think she might be doing it for attention but you can never be sure with because it is not something to toy with. I told her if she keeps cutting I will not talk to her anymore because I don't want to see her hurt like this. I love her alot but I don't want her to think I am okay with this. What should I do? I want to tell a school counsler but I don't want them to try to get help for her because she will know I was the one that told and I don't want her to me. Please help me with this problem. I want to be a good friend and help her but I don't know what to do.
thank you alot!
Katie
Hey your friend is obviously going through a rough time right now. The one thing you shouldn't do is stop talking to her because if you are one of her close friends and she loses you she'll get worse and be even more depressed. Now it all depends on how she tells you...did she brag about it like she is proud of it? Or was it more of "I'm ashamed I did that to myself". This whole thing can eventually lead to suicide (it did for me and a lot of other people)...try to continue talking to her..but if you see that she's getting worse and your talking isn't helping you definitely need to tell someone. She'll thank you for it in the long run..even if in the beginning she's upset with you. Trust me I've been there, and I wouldn't have been able to get through my difficult times without my friends help.
Hope I helped
Alright, well, I've never been kissed ( and I'm 15 ).
So I mean, I've been asked by guys ( which I find funny in some weird way and then just put it off ) because I guess I don't want my first kiss to be that way, and tonight I was asked again, and of course, me being me, I said no. And I'm just afraid that's giving guys vibes that I like, hate them or something which isn't true. I just want my first kiss to be special, but lately I'm just like,"God, do it, get it over with, whatever." But I don't know, I don't even really know what my real question is.
I guess I'm just asking for your opinion on things. Like; what would you do if you were me?
I know exactly how you feel, I'm 15 and never been kissed. All of my friends have been kissed and they kind of tease me about never having a boyfriend and of course I get embarassed and feel sad. But then I think you know it's not my time yet and it makes me feel a lot better that there are people out there that feel the same way. I want it to be special but then sometimes I think gosh just go kiss someone already! But no I'm not gonna let the whole peer pressure thing get to me..they can tease me all they want but I'm still waiting for that special moment.
since like 9 this morning (its about two now) i have had a sharp, vertical stomach pain about 3 inches long right under my belly button that worsens when i stand up straight. does anyone know what this could be?
Yeah I get that pain a lot and it's the worst feeling in the world. It's probably just that you're dehydrated...I always thought it couldn't be as simple as drinking water to make the pain go away..but lol it was. So drink lots of water!! P.S. (I know this is gross) but if you've had diahrrea you're more likely to have this pain..because your body gets dehydrated extremely fast after diarrhea.
Hope I helped! :)
I'm a 15 year old girl from Ks. Ok, so my mom is gone on business for 2 months, and I am left at home with my 3 lazy bros. My dad always tells ME to do everything. I'm always the one to clean, cook, do the laundry etc. Any advice on what to say WITHOUT sounding disrespectful? I need advice ASAP!
My grandpa used to treat my mom the exact same way. All 4 of you should be helping out around the house not just you! I hate that whole "make the woman do everything because it's her job" idea. Tell your dad that you're tired and that it seems really unfair that you have to do everything...don't yell..just tell him calmly and ask him to make your brothers help out too.
Tell me how it goes ok? (if you want too)
You can e-mail if it's faster if you'd like!
Hope I was of help! :)
i'm taking Spanish 1 right now, and it's going good actually, but i still need help with sentences. is there any sites that i can practice sentences in? like one that i can type the answer to a question and see if i got it right or not? if there is, please tell me.
yeah sure ( I use this site too :) it's called www.freetranslation.com it helped me out a lot with my spanish homework.
I heard a song but i dont know what its called!
please help me out?!
some of the lyrics are "and the sun was shining" and "shes the prettiest girl georgias ever seen" and "who wouldnt want to be me!"
anyone recognize it???? im pretty sure its a country song.
thanks for any help!
Keith Urban sings this song and he's Australian, but he sings country music.
I'm in a horrible mood right now. Anyone who at least tries to make me feel better gets a 5 from me.
I'm in a musical theater class at my school, and we're doing a concert of scenes from assorted musicals.
We had this audition for a big number “Don’t Tell Mama” from Cabaret
Now, I put loads of time into this audition, and I was DYING to be Sally Bowles because I'd never had a real role in a musical number before. So today, we had call-backs. And not to sound conceited, but I think I did the best job, and everyone told me so, too. I was in character, sang it with a full-vibrato Broadway belt, and had it memorized. The drama teacher said that she wanted to divide Sally Bowles' big solo among all the girls who auditioned. She said that “nothing is decided for sure yet,” but it's probably going to happen. I'm really disappointed. I've always wanted to have a big solo since I was very young, and Sally Bowles is one of my dream roles......
And on top of all that, the song is gonna be choreographed by STUDENTS. And out of all 30 girls in the class, it HAS to be the most annoying girls in the class who know SQUAT about staging.......they're going to have us doing these ridiculous hand motions. And there's nothing I can do about it, either. And my school did Cabaret a few years back, and we already had good choreography to the song. There was no need for new choreography at all.
I understand that she's trying to be fair and give everyone an opportunity to shine, but I'm still not happy about it.
Am I selfish for being mad about this? Do I have a right to be upset? I feel like a brat.
I think you do have a right to be upset and in the real world of theatre it won't be like this. They want you because you're good and that's it. But in school they don't want to put anyone down and want to give everyone a fair shot. Still do the play and hold your head up high! If you believe in yourself and this is your dream keep up with it..don't let one play get you down. Because like I said there are a lot of talented people out there and when you're auditioning for Broadway they will keep searching for that one person that fits that one role..they won't go and divide it up among 10 other people. Broadway doesn't tolerate talentless people...they want the talent!!! So I hope I was of help and you're not being a brat...but be strong and still do the play.
ok well my friends house burned down and i was wondering how i could raise money for him or something. anything helps. thanks
13/f
well I know carwashes do bring in a lot of money, and its very inexpensive, and if you post flyers about the cause it will probably be even more helpful.
who is chuck norris
lol chuck norris is famous for his show "walker texas ranger" where he is a cop that uses his awesome skills of karate, or tae kwon do, etc. to defeat the bad guys. He also advertises for some gym excercise equipment.
My boyfriend just invited me to a themed party. The theme is "Time Warp" and you have to dress up from a certain time period.
Here's the problem... I have a grand total of 4 hours tomorrow to get together a costume, and I have no clothes other than jeans and t-shirts.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I could dress up that will be easy and relatively inexpensive to find at a mall?
My boyfriend is dressing up 50s style, by the way.
You should be a hippie (70's era), there are stores now that have a lot of flared jeans and I'm pretty sure you could find a colorful top to go with, and maybe just some beaded necklaces, and (well it depend on your hair length)a headband coming across your forhead (you can use a scarf or something else). Then you can wear some boots or some kind of closed toe shoe with a little bit of heel. It'll be pretty cool!
Hope I was of help!
P.S. if they do like it lemme know!
dunno how to put this but I have a very obscurd view of life, it causes everyone to distance themselves from me and my own family questions my "logic"
I dont want to do anything really, My goals in life are to A: Live forever, B: Go to space by mid 20-30s C:Be able to die and then come back
other then that i practicly phase out everything. I doubt this advice column will truly work but if any one has any input im willing to listen. I would like to help myself ^_^
I cant justify going to college and gettni a job that i enjoy doing, like becoming a docter, or computer programmer, or anything. i just dont find those as fullfilling. to me anyone that takes a unfullfillin job like that is either
-extremly good at telling themselves they have a fulfiillin life
-an adept religous advocate or believer
-not capable of tryin to understand the world and themselves, or ignorant
-they feel fulfilled in doing a job like that, possibly it was a life dream
to me nothing like that wil make it happy, and im prety sure that because i have that attitude i kind of do it to myself, but not completly. i have spent years debating religous beliefs and what makes a person fulfilled and etc. i would feel no accomplishment in becoming anything but the few things i listed previously.
this is a fraction of what i really concieve and believe. i have 1.5 years left of high school, poor and slipping grades gettin more lonely day by day, i dont really want to go to college even though it might get me a job and interesting social excitement i would much rather do somthing fulfillin. another alternative i have thought about is the US Air Force, in the R&D field, this would allow me to be at labs and facilites here it may be possible at least to persue my dreams, live forever and go to space. nothing satisfies, i kind of feel like Holden Caulfied for those of you who ahve read Catcher In The Rye
i would never consider suicide so dont worry if you were, it's just how could i live with myself knowing that if i took a job i think was unfullfillin i would be living a life of lies and inner depression because i was truly unhappy. one problem i can see is that i cant cope with the reality that, what i cant do is actually life itself what i and everyone else is destined to become. just personally i have a problem couping with it, maybe i overthink it to much.
i have started to write a book and it fits my charecter that i cant even do it, i always get sidetracked and i can only do things when i really want to. when i do, i do amazing jobs, if i was to go to space or live forever i would be so for it that i would maybe for the first time put 100% effort into somthing, this book i dunno if i will ever finish due to the fact that i rethink and change my world views almost everynight and it jepordizes the actual ideas i wanted to portray in the book.
comments, suggestions? maybe some direction ? I would like to go to a good college that i know can point me in the direction to my goal, for example MIT, CalTech or any other top level school wher ei can dedicate my life to my dreams. the harsh reality is taht my grades will not even permit me into the state schools without serious work.
one option is community college and then eventually transfer into a better college, but it will be extremly difficult staying at home for another two years, and i really dont want to go to community college for any amount of years, it will be detramental to the social aspects of colege (if i do end up going)
so my only way to get what i really want are ways i barely have a chance of succes
in the air force .01% get into the R&D field
and there is a 31% chance of acceptance into a four year college for a first term after taking 2 years at my local (which is top 10 ) community college
alrite i have to go, any comments would be great. not sure what i wanna do, i have that book maybe hehe. any1 who shares this ideaology lemme know thx!
yeah after reading this i realized you're a lot like me...I think you think too high of your self (arrogant) and i'm not saying your ideas are stupid but i think that the only reason you're doing so poorly on things is because you're a perfectionist and don't want to admit it. You make up a huge story or excuse on why you can't do something or why you're not going to simply because deep down you don't think you can do it; or if you can do it it won't be "perfect". I think the reason you're questioning the world so much is because you're depressed and you feel stuck....you may have thought of suicide but are afraid...but guess what..I was like that for a long time until i actually attempted suicide and then ended up in a psych ward. I'm out now and realized I was afraid to make mistakes and would call things stupid or would judge people simply because I was jealous or never thought I would capable of doing what a lot of people my age had accomplished...you and I are not so different...and I know you will think everything I just said is a waste of your precious time and will ignore it completely.
is there a such thing as Post Menstrual Syndrome haha instead of Pre Menstrual cuz im always like tired and kinda cranky the week after.
yeah there is as a matter of fact. You can feel horrible either before or after your period or during of course. It's pretty weird but I get like that sometimes too. I get real irritable and queasy even though my period's over :)
okay well this guy that i like and i know he likes me is all of a sudden hugging a bunch of girls in front of me and does he not like me anymore or what. i dont know whats going on
this has happened to me before, he could just be trying to make you jealous...
Sooo this is kind of a long story, and I’d really appreciate some kind of outside help from someone I don’t know who doesn’t really have a part in the situation. Because I really need to know what to do. So there’s this guy. Who I’ve known for about a year, he’s a senior in college, I’m a sophomore. We became really close last year and both liked each other but at the time I was dating a guy and he had just broken up with someone. Soon after I met him I broke up with my guy and we started hanging out pretty reguluarly. And basically I fell really hard for him. And we became best friends as well. Towards the end of last year, before summer, things got a little complicated I guess, we became a little more distanced. We had hooked up like twice but I never knew what that really meant then I heard through people that he was also hooking up with this other girl “sarah” that I knew. I was pretty upset and I confronted him and he said nothing was really going on. So summer comes and I didn’t talk to him much except for the one time he called me and told me he was dating sarah. After finding that out I was pretty upset not only because I felt he lied to me but because I was crazy about him. School comes back again and I accepted the fact that we were only going to be friends. The first night I’m back I got pretty drunk and ran into him while he was with sarah, I said hi and whatever. Then I went to sleep and was awaken at five in the morning by “mike” so I went to see him. And we hooked up. So after that I figured maybe they broke up. So the next week I ask him about it and no they are still dating and he apologizes profusely for what happened. Too bad later that night the same thing happened again. And the same things been happening since then, for the past two months. We hangout ALL the time. At least four nights a week. I don’t understand. He tells me he likes me. He tells me I’m his best friend here. I’m head over heels for this guy. We get along so well. I’ve never gotten along with anyone like I do with him. He just gets me. And I’m crazy about him. And it seems like he’s crazy about me. Except oh wait he has a girlfriend. All my friends say I’m practically dating him. And I am. Except he has a girlfriend. Last night we watched a movie together and then just fell asleep together. And woke up and went to breakfast and as we’re leaving sarah gets there and he goes and sits with her. And that hurt me so much. And makes me so angry. And I don’t know what to do. I know everyone’s advice is going to be, he’s playing you, he doesn’t really like you, he’s not worth your time. But the thing is, I KNOW he’s worth my time. And I know he likes me. I just don’t get why he’s with her. And I don’t know how to talk to him about this. We haven’t talked about this girl he’s with in over a month. I don’t want to ruin things between us by asking whats the deal. Please help. I’m so fucked up right now
does he know how you feel about him? If he doesn't you need to tell him! Maybe he's afraid to make a move because he thinks you only want him as a friend. If you all spend so much time together he's not playing you...he's probably as just as confused as you are. He thinks since nothing serious has happened between you two that he should move on and get a girlfriend. He probably doesn't want to break sarah's heart for you to just find out that you only like him as a friend. He'll feel like an idiot. So tell him your feelings! That's the only way anything's going to happen. Don't just drop it on him all at once..pull him aside and tell him you need to talk and then tell him calmly...because he still might need time to think things over.
Hope I helped!
I'm sorry this is so long, but it's a pretty complicated situation.
Okay, so when my boyfriend and I first starting dating...there was this girl that really liked him and wanted to be with him. My boyfriend told her that he wasn't interested because he was with me and that they just needed to be friends. Well I called him one night and he was somewhere with her 'talking about it in person.' I didn't really think anything of it, and I just forgot about it. Well then he said that they didn't really talk anymore, but she was still texting him and stuff. Well one night my boyfriend and I were together and she kept calling him...still. So I started worrying about it again and I checked his text messages and apparently they had been hanging out still. He had texts from her saying 'Will you drive tonight?' blah blah. I didn't say anything about it because I was ashamed that I had looked through his text messages. Well last night I called him and she was at his house at 11 PM. I didn't overreact at first until I found out that they were in his room. I was mad because he knew I wouldn't be comfortable with that and he still let her come over.
He said that she came over at 11 PM to wish him a happy late birthday and that they were in his room because she was checking her myspace, but it turns out she doesn't even have one.
I'm especially upset because his story doesn't make sense and I know if the tables were turned, he'd be pissed off at me. I don't know what to do. I know we need to talk about it, but I need to know a calm way to do it because I'm very tempermental. What do I say?
18/f. We've only been together for 4 months.
You have a right to be upset about this and I'm sorry this is happening to you. It seems suspicious and I probably would've checked his phone too. You need to just pull him aside and tell him you need to talk. Tell him your feelings about the situation but in a calm manner and tell him that if it were you doing it you know he'd be mad. This happens a lot with relationships in which a guy or girl has another guy or girl friend. My friend was really close to a guy friend and she had a boyfriend. When her boyfriend found out that they were at the movies together he freaked out and thought it was something more. My friend was torn between the two guys and didn't know what to do. I really wish they could have all stayed friends but in the end she ended up choosing her boyfriend over her best guy friend. So before asking him try to think of the possible outcomes and if it's worth it...cuz anything could happen.
ok im 13 i had sex with my bf but i dont know if he popped my cherry it went all the way in.. u told me i wasnt a virgin but how do you know when he has actually popped your cherry?
Thanks
you might have already popped your cherry but not by having sex...i knew a girl that popped her cherry when she was riding a bike. Have you gotten your 1st period already? You might have even done it while you were on your period and then of course you wouldn't be able to tell at all. If you continue to have sex and you don't bleed more than likely you've already popped it. So don't worry about it, but if you've finished your menstrual cycle and then suddenly start to bleed during exercising or something else strenuous you might have popped your cherry. Having sex isn't the only way to pop your cherry.
Hope I was of help!
i have sorta bad acne on my forhead and what not i use proactive, some morning burst stuff, and another face wash but its not really working is there anything thats gunna work really really well ??
The morning burst is good to use everyday because it brings out the pimples (that's the only part that sucks) but then kills the bacteria. Don't use facial scrubs everyday because it tears up your skin and can make your skin even more acne prone. Also make sure when you touch your face that your hands are clean, and also don't pick at the acne because if you pick in one spot then another, the bacteria spreads. There are medications out there and if you're looking for one make sure it contains benzoyl peroxide. Rubbing lemon on your face throughout the day can also help. Make sure to apply a good mosturizer to your face after washing and be sure to rinse with cold water (this closes the pores).
Hope I helped! :)