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My Dad treats me like I'm a maid
I'm a 15 year old girl from Ks. Ok, so my mom is gone on business for 2 months, and I am left at home with my 3 lazy bros. My dad always tells ME to do everything. I'm always the one to clean, cook, do the laundry etc. Any advice on what to say WITHOUT sounding disrespectful? I need advice ASAP!
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Dear "Maid for the family"
Maybe something along the lines of.. Dad can i have some help, it's alot more than i ususally do and i can't do it all by myself. please, can (brothers names) help I just feel bombarded.
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be as nice and respectful as you can, say something like "dad, im sorry but i feel that its unfair that i have to do all the work" and then suggest something like maybe all you can work together, or maybe like one week he does it and another week your brother does it or something like that. just remember not to give an attitude or anything.
good luck & be brave.
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Ok, well you could try telling your dad that you aren't going to do all of the work, but if that doesnt work, because I know if it were my dad, it probably wouldnt work, but you can also try to do a few things around the house, and leave a few things for your brothers. if they really need it done, I'm sure they'll get off their lazy behinds and fix it. Do the improtant things in your life first, and then try and do somethings for them, but remember that is okay to say that you have other things to do besides house work. Part of the reason he is putting all of the work on you is because you are a girl, and he can trust you to do it, but he is probably pretty stressed, and he can't deal with things not getting done on time, and by telling your brothers to do it, he probably gets lazy answers where as you probably actually try and do what he asks. I still think you should try an tell him how you feel, but in some cases it doesnt work, so my best suggestion would be to think, there are only a few weeks left till mom comes home. its probably really hectic for him too, so just keep that in mind. good luck, I hope this helped.
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Yes I agree with the person below.
You should also have a talk with your mom if you have her number or something. Explain the situation and tell her you're tired and you have homework to do, but all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc is keeping you busy for hours.
Just tell your dad to help out because you're not a maid.
My mom left for an operation. And I went through this similar situation, my 2 other siblings did nothing and I was so tired.. to the point where I was breaking down every night. So I hope you do something about it, instead of keeping it to yourself.
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My grandpa used to treat my mom the exact same way. All 4 of you should be helping out around the house not just you! I hate that whole "make the woman do everything because it's her job" idea. Tell your dad that you're tired and that it seems really unfair that you have to do everything...don't yell..just tell him calmly and ask him to make your brothers help out too.
Tell me how it goes ok? (if you want too)
You can e-mail if it's faster if you'd like!
Hope I was of help! :)
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