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I can't get rid of her! Blahh, I hate my best friend.
Okay here's the thing, I hate my "best friend". hate her. I blame her for almost all my misery (even though i know it's wrong, so you don't have to tell me that.. because it wont make a difference, i still need to get her out of my life!) the more I hang out with her, the more I become her..and I hate myself now. I stuck with her cause I felt sorry for her, she's kinda pathetic.. (wow i know how bad that sounds, i know im a terrible friend.. but i just.. i dont know) anyways, i stuck with her, even started in her class, and because of that (no one really likes her) ive become one of those poeple who arent really in the class, its like me and her are our own little group and the rest of the class is a group.. now im used to being popular, having friends etc because that's what makes me happy! im sick of being just me and her! and she kinda pisses me off, everything she says annoys me.. but since it's been going on for 2 years. I can't stop. I'm stuck.. like, it's been me and her for two years, so i cant just stop hanging out with her, and start being with the rest of my class, that will look so weird!! and we've beend oing all class projects and everything together, so it's ALWAYS me and her.. ugghhh i HAAATE IT! its easy for me to make friends, i could easily become a part of the class if she would just leave, burt with her, im stuck. it just won't work! like you dont understand, its gotten to the point were ive been skipping school for weeks now because i dont wanna be with her, she makes me miserablee.. but i have no choice, i cant even change schools, trust me ive looked in to it.. so what do i do?? PLEASE HELP. im becoming more and more like it, i can tell, and i hate it..
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Well you're right, just suddenly breaking off from her would seem strange and it'd hurt her feelings alot, I'm sure, so just slowly over time start to inch away from her more and more.
During class projects, tell her you're sorry, but you already promised someone else you'd be their partner for this project, maybe another time.
And just whenever the two of you are hanging out, start trying to get her to meet new people herself so maybe she will too start to drift off and meet other people.
I don't think it's necessairly that you hate her either ; I mean she's been your best friend for two years, like the others said, you're probably just getting annoyed by her. Being around someone all the time can get quiet annoying, believe me. That's why sometimes I take "me" time myself and tell my friends no cause I want a break from people myself.
Maybe even try takling to her about it. Best friends should be able to talk about anything with eachother and understand, right? Just mention to her that in your classes together, you've noticed that she sort of doesn't socialize with the other people, and why is that? They're lots of nice people in that class to hang out with and talk to, and it's always great to meet new people and make new friends! And just show her how fun it is, and maybe she'll follow your advice, and start doing so.
So like I said, just slowly start to hang out with your other friends more, and she'll start to catch on and hopefully do the same with her. That's the problem with best friends sometimes is they get too "clingy", I guess you'd call it and it gets majorly annoying. But also, think of it as a compliment in some sort of way. Obviously she likes you alot and thinks you're fun to hang out with and everything, so that says alot for you!
I hope I helped.
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i don't think you hate her, i just think you are getting tired of her & the way she is. it would be a little rude to just end a friendship after this long, so why not try & make new friends? what would it hurt? you could still be her friend, but slowly regress away from her. don't constantly ignore her, just acknowledge her every now & then, and in the meantime meet new people & hang out with them. and they will occupy most of your time & eventually she'll make new friends too. it'll all work out in the long run ;)
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since you two are best friends, and you've been together for a couple of years, if you just completley stop being friends with her, she will probably be very upset. and i know right now you're really annoyed with her, but you probably don't hate her. just think of all the good times you've had. you're probably just sick of hanging out with her and only her, and you probably feel like she is holding you back from being with your other friends and having other oppurtunities - which may be happening. i'm confused, though - while you're not at school for "weeks", what does your friend do? hang out by herself? if she has absolutely NO other friends, you dropping her could be devastating. so, even though you want to, i wouldn't just drop her. if you can, try and talk to her - if you've been best friends, you should be able to talk and understand eachother. say your point of view, and listen to hers too. don't yell or anything, jsut try and have a talk [in person]. tell her how you feel, but in a nicer version. like, "i know we've been really close, but i think we would both benefit from meeting other people, too." then, don't CoMPlETLEY stop hanging out with her, but try and make other friends to. in your class, maybe for a project you can ask someone else to be your partner. if you can work in groups, maybe you and your friend can try working with other people so you can both make new friends. try hanging out iwth other people, but don't completley ditch your friend - still hang out wiht her sometimes too. after awhile, when youve both made new friends, you may find yourself missing her, and your time together in which case you might stay best friends. or not.. maybe your just not right for each other. it all depends. anyway i hope i helped =] good luck with everything.
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