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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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i have this friend and we are really good friends. I am a 15 year old guy and she is a 14 year old girl. She wants me but i feel if we go out and something happens between us that we might not be friends afterwards. I dont want that to happen. How can i tell her this without hurting her feelings?

It shouldnt hurt her feelings. Just tell her exactly how you feel. She should understand. You'd probably be better as friends like you said. Dont worry she'll get over you theres other guys in the sea. Just, dont say anything to her but if she says to you like do u wanna go out be like no thanks.she might be exspecting you to ask her out, but you dont have to.
Brina~

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My cousin's name is Nicole-she's on the left of the picture on my site. Don't get me wrong, I love her and I even wish I was like her at times. But everytime I'm around her, I feel like she's better than me and that I can't even compare to her. We always get annoyed of eachother after about one hour. I don't know what I'm doing wrong to annoy her. Everytime we get in an argument, I'm the one that always gets hurt. I think it's mainly because I'm younger and she always has better comebacks. What should I do when this happens? What can I do to prevent the arguments.

Its probably because you two hang out too much. Try taking a break from hanging out one day. If she says something to you like a rude coment then just dont say anything back. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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So for two years, ive always dyed my own hair from kits from the store. Well, my hair ended up developing this orange tint to it. So i said enough was enough, and decided to save my money up to get it professionally highlighted. I tried to get these platinum blonde highlights, but it turned out even worse becase.. 1) the lady didnt even do a good job and 2) because my hair still had this orange tint to it. So my question is - how do i get rid of the orange color? I cant just wait for my hair to grow out. Ive decided to get light brown and blonde highlights at a DIFFERENT salon this time in April. But is there a way they can get rid of all the gold/orange tones in my hair FIRST? (Instead of just dying over it.) If so, how much do you think it will cost?

Well, they would have to dye it back to your original color, then dye it the color you want. Sorry to tell you this but its deffinity not good to dye your hair a lot because it will ruin your hair majorly. Dont dye your hair from the kits, get it doen at a hair solon like your going to do. Ask your hair salon person what you can do to get rid of the tint other then dying it.
~Brina~

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I guess this goes under this category but oh my gosh! i need HELP! Ok i am 13/f and i go out with this guy named David...well im his first girlfriend which is UNBELIEVABLE because hes SO sweet and hes not really hott but ya know! and so since im his first girlfriend his mom wants me to have dinner with them on friday...which REALLY sucks! because of ME! well i dont know if i can even go yet because i might have to go to my dads but still....i am SO SHY! like only around older people such as adults! but not people my age! see im so shy that when i talk about something thats kinda embarassing to me about my family, i get all shy and turn red...i dont know why and it makes me MAD! and its stuff thats not even that emabarssing!! anyone know what i can do to prepare or anything!?!

Well, if your boyfriend is nice his parents must be nice people. Deffinitly dont be afraid, you'll probably have a great time. And if you do go afterwards you wont have that shyness of being around older people.Just relax everything will be fine. Good Luck Hun.
~Brina~

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I got my ears pierced at Claires 8 weeks ago. My left ear lobe started hurting and bleeding a teeny bit and shedding skin from the back when i changed into my second pair of sensitive earrings. What's wrong with my ear?? Is it infected?? It's a teeny bit red withthat white thingy and when you squeeze it it hurts a teeny bit. What should I do? I RATE 5'S

Deffinitly dont switch earings for about like 2 weeks. Try using rubbing alcohol on them. What are you cleaning them with? Also make sure you use gold earings because silver sometimes irritates peoples ears. I recomend use studs in your ears instead of hoops at this time. If they continue to stay red for more then 2 months then deffinitly go to the doctor. It could be infected. I would recomend go to the doctor now but you could also wait it out.
~Brina~

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I am a 28 year old male with 2girls 4,and9 been with their mom 10years very happy!!Asked her to marry me she said yes ,things were grate 4 amonth and now she cant stand me for the most part but still afectionate and also head strong on moving out pleas help loves ontheline!!!!!

Tell her that you love her very much. I dont think she would move out if she has two daugthers. Go to a family counselor, they'd be more then happy to help you out. If she cant stand you then why would you want to be with her? Good Luck.
~Brina~

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yesterday i went to my dads n me and my sister are piercing our beely buttons and i used a sewing needle and peirced hers but she fell asleep and didnt do mine so she is next week and i need to know where to get a belly button ring and my mom cant know about it and what do i use so i dont get infected?
-Kaylor

Hey. Deffinitly absolutly dont pierce your own belly button unless you like went to a class to learn how because it could go serioussly wrong. Go to a mall or something and get it done. Well, to clean it use rubbign alcohol or peroxide and ointment. If you dont want your mom to know you have it dont wear belly shirts or anything and if you do have to show your stomach in front of your mom for some reason take it out when its healed. Dont switch belly rings until about a month after you get it so its totally healed. Good LUck.
~Brina~

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hi! im 13/f and im not loveing life to much.my mom is always yelling at me for nothing and slapping me alot and just hates me. then theres the thing that everytime i start to care for someone the dump me... and after the convince me that they like me or im pretty or something.. i really hate this. i got plenty more going on but yeah i dont need to dump all my shit on yall. but someone please tell me how to cope w/ this... ive been handleing this in a bad way for a little while now.. and i want to stop it..
thanks alot to anyone who helps me!

Talk to your mom how you feel. Your mom should never ever make you feel like crap and shouldnt hit you a lot, maybe a smack in the butt if u did something wrong lol. But, deffinitly talk to someone you can trust like a friend. If you need someone to talk to you can talk to me. My screen name is BreenzyWeenzy7. My comp isnt working right now but when i'm online IM me. Just take a deep breath in. If what you've been handling your stress by cutting or abuseing yourself then stop. You know that your a good person and no one should make you feel uncomfortable. Maybe stray away from guys right now. You have your whole life to find that speacial someone. Guys are immature at age 13 and call it off early because they probably are scared to get too serious. Good Luck Hun.
~Brina~

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Okay well last night I had my bf over and we got sexual.. Well to get to the point we wern't gonna have sex so we just fooled around.. Well he came(spelling error lol) and he was down there when he did it.. He made me go in the bathroom to check if ne got in but I dont know.. I dont know what to do. and I dont want to tell him I am scared. I am a 14/f

Deffinitly get a pregnancy test just in case. Listen, make sure you use protection because if you dont and you get pregnant 14 is wayyyy to young. { just letting you know}. Why are you scared? You hsouldnt be scared, if your scared cuz you htink your pregnant then you should tell him because he deserves to know and he should be a good boyfriend and help you out. Good Luck Hun!
~Brina~

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I want to make a pie for my friends on pi day, because it's funny and dorky and this monday (3/14!) but I've never made a pie before. What's the easiest pie to make?

Pudding pie is extremely easy. By a whole bunch of pudding cups and a pie crust thats pre made { the pie crust pre made the pudding is already in the cups} put the pudding in the crust and make it smooth on top then get whip cream and put it all on top of the pie put it in the fridge with a plastic cover for like an hour and thats it!
~Brina~

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so we are jsut friends but my mom says i cant date until im 17 or even just like go somewhere with him last night he was like how many days i was like what hes like until you turn 17 i was like 50 some hes like do you think you will still wanna go tot he movies with me by then. so does he like me or just being friendly? give me lots of advice and i rate high

Well, i'm going through the same thing cept i cant have a boyfriend till im 16 but i cant go hang out with them with a group of people. Thats totally nice that he'll wait for you to be aloud to date that means if hes making sure that you'll still like him by then that he likes you i'm guessing!!! Maybe ask ur mom if you two can go hang out with a group of people.
~Brina~

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Is it ok to date a second cousin, through marriage?

Well, that would be called incest. Usually when relatives get married and have children there children have defects or are mentally challenged because of the mixture of genes that are similar. Hopefully your not planning on dating your cousin. That would be awkward making out with your cousin. But, if you want to then go ahead.
~Brina~

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i'm about to have a bath and wash my hair, can you help? every time i wash my hair, i use pantene pro-vo, then i blow dry it, and it's really frizzy, even when i use all the frizz ease products on it. how can i stop the frizz? is there any particular way to wash my hair, or how to rinse it easily after putting in shampoo/conditioner? when i've got out of the bath, what should i do to my hair? i have stuff like gel spray, mousse, frizz ease, heat protection spray, hair straighteners, hair spray and stuff like that, but i'm not sure what to use and in what order, because i really need to stop the frizz tomorrow, i get really fluffy/flyaway hair and i'm getting teased because of it =(

Hey, ok dont use any of the hair products yet. After you wash your hair dry it with a towel first. Go to a store and get hair wax. OK, SO after you blow dry your hair just rub the wax in your hands and put it through your hair. It will give it a sleek look. I suggest Matrix hair wax.
~Brina~

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okay. my bestest friend EVER is having a birthday soon. i want to write a poem and have it framed. the poem has to say how good a friend she is. can anyone help me out??? PLEASE!!!

No one should tell you what to write because then it wouldnt be from you it would be from the person that wrote it. Just write down all the things that makes your friendship strong and everything else.
~Brina~

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Anyone know of any good jobs for a 13 year old to earn money other than helping neighbors or a lemonade stand?

Yeppers, a babysitter is a great job for a 13 year old. Or do a community service job that pays.
~Brina~

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well i'm 13 and i'm a female and i totally broke out on my forehead and i have a dance coming up!! i need help on how to get rid of it fast!! any advice or suggestions? also, is it because i ate chocolate or like junk foods? (i've heard that the reason people break out...)ThAnkS fOr uR HeLp!!! *i RaTe*

Yes, because you ate junk food that could be why you broke out. Put deep clear clensing face wash on your face. Dont use foundation because that creates more pimples. Scrub you face with soap and water. Good luck.
~Brina~

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I have this aquaintence that I see on campus from time to time. We went to the same high school. 21/f. We had this class together and some girls were talking about her and being really catty because she has lots of money and she is sorta fake but not offensive. She has never been anything but nice to me. I didn't appreciate that those chicks that didn't even know her were judging her. I still see her every week and I think about that often. Should I say anything or is it just water under the bridge?

Hey. Well if you hear those girls talking about her again tell them to shutup and stop being immature by making fun of people. If you think that the girl should know then go for it and tell her. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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ok heres the thing...i went out w/ this guy (we are both 13) and he broke up w/ me a week later because he said it felt akward because we were really good friends before that. ok so ever since then ive gone 3 places w/ him...the mall twice and the movies. ok at the mall the first time...he held my hand but we arent going out...ok at the movie he held my hand once then let go then put his arm round me and the held my hand again after that. ok and then tonight i went to the mall w/ him and some other guys and he held my hand again and started huggin me a lot but he tells everyone we are jus friends...does that make any sense? i mean he broke up w/ me and i didnt like him anymore but now i like him again because of all this but its gonna make me sad if he doesnt like me and i dont think he does but all mine and his friends say he does. how can i know why he keeps doing this?!?! sry its so long! ill rate good! thanx

Hey. Ok so i think that hes sort of leading you on or hes just using you. Maybe he just holds your hand and stuff so that people think that your going out. Tell him how you feel and if he says he doesnt like you then dont let him hold your hand or ne thing cuz it would create more feelings for him. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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well i have this friend and she is all nice and stuff around me...but when another person is around us shes different...for example today we went to abercrombie and i grabbed this shirt and she said she didnt like it...but then when my other friend came and said she liked it, she changed her mind...what should i do about it?

Thats the same with me. I have a friend who does stuff like that. Talk to your friend about how you feel deffinitly. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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my lower back really really hurts. my mom gave me some of her pain meds but they arent working. some of my friends are saying that i might have a slipped disk and the doctors have to put it back in place. first of all what do they do and does it hurt?

Well, your friends could be wrong about your back. So, i would say ice your back for about a half an hour while laying on your stomach. Also have your mom schedule a appointment for the kyropractor. The kyropractor will probably help you out a lot. Hope you feel better.
~Brina~

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