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I have an issue with alcohol, no im not an alcoholic but i truly HATE alcohol. My mom is a recovering alcoholic, and ive been through so much because of alcohol. So many bad things that have happend in my life, are because of alcohol to the point where i hate anything to do with alcohol. Ive had my fair share of alcohol, but i realize i cannot drink it because i get too carried away.
Well, my boyfriend is in college and when he goes out, i get really upset. And i know he is in college, and that is what he is going to do to spend time with his friends. I know it is ridiculous for me to care so much, but i do. I bring the issues i have with alcohol into my relationship, and its a problem.
Any advice on how to cope with this? Tips that i can use to get over it?
Thanks (link)
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I know you're worried...been there and done that. I didn't like alcohol much or how my past boyfriends use to drink so much and get carried away. At the end of the day he's going to do what he wants and if that means going out and drinking with his friends than so be it. If you really don't like what he's doing than you need to walk away if it really bothers you that much. I think you're scared he's going to turn into an alcoholic but you should trust him and his judgements. Afterall he is in college and I know it may sound stereotypical but college is somewhat about partying and socializing. You need to consider his feelings as well though you need to realize that when he hangs out with that group that he's going to drink. It doesn't necessarily mean he's going to become an alcoholic. If he drinks everyday just to function than he's an alcoholic but if he's doing socially than its fine. I suggest going to talk to someone though because its been rough for me. I have some alcoholics in my family and its hard to deal I know but talking to someone is helpful. I also have been reading books as well which has been a useful tool of coping.
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they say life is a gift.
they also say the world is cruel.
how is it a gift to be living in a cruel place?
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Not everything is cruel. Instead of reflecting on the negatives look at the positives in your life. Its hard at times I realize because in the media they show the negative things and it seems that these days theres no good news. Some of the world is cruel but why not do something that makes a little difference in the world. Ghandi once said: "Be the change you want to see in the world".
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hey so you just answered my question about my angry exbf.
so i reallly dont know what to do. this happened on saturday morning and its now monday. he hasnt talk to me. hasnt returned any of my calls or texts.
wednesday is our 6 month and idk if i should talk to him that day or wait like a week.
im just really scared he wont ever tlak to me again :/
i love him. but the things he puts me through are crazy.
hees trying to make me seem like im the bad person for doing all this but really its his fault. i was single. idc if we were broken up for a week or whatever that still doesnt change the fact that i was single. he never told me i cant do anything and i never told him he cant do anything so i dont understand him.
what should i do?! (link)
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Well you said it yourself "i love him...but the things he puts me through are crazy". Do you really want to keep up with this kind of behavior? Honestly he's being very immature right now and you don't deserve that no one does. I say let it go and move on and maybe when he realizes that you have he'll talk to you. Right now though I know it hurts because you love him but you need to take care of you. Don't cater to his needs, if he wants to be immature let him be. It doesn't make any sense as to why he got angry...you need to forget about him. He clearly as I have said before still cares for you otherwise he wouldn't be so mad. If anything you should be the one who is mad at him for how he is treating you and dealing with this situation! My advice is to let him go and let him be immature by himself you want a guy who is going to act like a boyfriend not a child!
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15/f
So I weigh around 110 and I'm 5'5.
I'm not fat and I know that, but just my stomach bugs me. So I just want to be healthy and find someway to lose most of my stomach.
I know I should eat healthy. I just don't want to have to do the whole counting calorie stuff. What kinds of food should I stay by and what foods should I stay away from? Also, what snacks are better to eat? And exercises? Thanks! (link)
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The foods you should stick to are fruits and vegetables have a least a couple of servings a day to start with. Drink plenty of water though! The foods you shouold stay away from are any kind of junk food and soda is very bad too. I noticed when I stopped drinking less soda I lost a bit of weight.
For exercises start out by walking or even running its always relaxing and you can do it at your own pace. Sit ups are also good if you want to flatten your stomach I would start off with 5-10 a day of sit ups.
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What traits, to you, does the PERFECT GUY possess?? State all the traits you think would make up the perfect, possibly unattainable guy...
I need this for my online project :) xxx Thanks in advance
Please help! And don't leave anything out!! (link)
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Oh the Perfect guy :)
1.) Sense of humor
2.) Good manners
3.) Sensitive
4.) Thoughtful
Those qualities I believe are VERY important in a man! :)
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me and my ex have been broken up for about a week and a half.
i was realllly sad about it so i decided to go out to a party wtih my friend and one thing led to another and i made out with a guy becuase i was drunk. but im not using that as an excuse because thats no reason to.
so we started talking a couple days ago and i felt really bad so i told him and he blew up on me. he has no right to be mad right? we werent together. so he told me we are done ( even though we already were ) i think he meant done tlaking. and im like begging him and he told me hes gonna go talk to this girl that likes him and im reallly upset and i dont know what to do. im begging him and hes telling me to leave him alone that were done for good. and im like then why the hell did you eversay you love me. you obviously dont if you could say were done just like that and hes like yyup so leave me alone.
i seriously dont know what to do. i thought i was doing hte right thing by telling him. we wernet even together so i dont know why hes so angry.
what should i say to him. i want him back ! :[ (link)
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He sounds really immature and clearly he still cares for you. The fact that he got jealous and is going after a girl that likes him is a way of him trying to get under your skin. I know you want him but its best to leave him alone he's not worth the trouble nor the time. If he's going to act this way, he isn't and I'm sure you still care for him and all but I'm sure you don't want drama and that you don't want to get yourself more upset. Let him calm down and if he's being reasonable have a conversation with him...if he hasn't changed forget about him!
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I went out last week with a friend and her boyfriend, and we met up with her boyfriend's friends... one of them liked me, but I was in no way attracted to him. I was having a good time, and we talked a lot. By the end of the night, I gave him my number (i'm new to the neighborhood), and told him that we can all hang out- to sort of hint that i was not interested in going out with him alone.
He called a few days later and left a message- he asked if I wanted to meet with him at a cafe. I really do not want to send him the wrong message. I called him back tonight and left a message telling him that I am busy tomorrow, but can meet up the next day for a little bit, and to either call/text me the address. I would not mind having lunch with him, but do not know how to hint that a) I am not interested in that way, and b) I do not want to go out with him alone, but maybe meet up as a group of friends, in a casual setting. Any ways to hint at it without making him think I am interested? Again, I am not attracted to him at all- there is no chance. (link)
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Well one thing you can do is say that you have an eye on another guy...guys that like you should get the hint when theres another "guy" you're thinking about. So make up one or maybe even if there is a guy you're interested in then say something. Don't flirt! Umm...what else? Just don't do anythign that would suggest that you would want to date him or go on a date with him. Good luck! :)
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My husband and I haven't been married a year yet. I dont know if its because I am 34 weeks pregnant but I feel depressed alone confused. I am 18 years old and he is 23. He has a 6 year old son who lives with his mother and I have a 3 year old son. Then one on the way he doesnt work. I finally got him to put in several applications today. He spends money like its grown on trees. We lives with my father which I can stand. I was working a job were I was making good money but I had to leave for medical reasons during my pregnancy. He and my son fight all the time he is always yelling at him. My son cant play in the living room be infront of the tv. watch cartoons in the living room cant be to loud. etc. My husband gets fustrated with him and seems like he takes it out of me. Im 34 weeks pregnant and started dialiting my doctor wants me to rest and take it easy but my husband doesnt clean anything he doesnt help he cant handle my son who is a pretty good kid. just has a attitude like most 3 year olds. I just dont know what to do i feel depressed and unattracted. I dont know what to say to my husband. I love him I just feel like he doesnt want to work and support his family but then complains all week he is bored. (link)
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Well from what I can see your husband isn't being very supportive nor being very helpful through this time. You are pregnant so its best you take it easy and not stress yourself out so much. You should tell you husband that he needs to take care of things now and that its his responsibility. He's 23 years old he's a man and he should like it! This si what having a family is all about...its about taking care of the ones you love and right now he isn't doing that. You need to talk to him about this or maybe talk to his mom and tell her your concerns you shouldn't feel alone especially right now. Congrats on the baby and good luck!
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Hey this has been bugging me for a long time now
What song is this from?
"Oh I
Had a lot to say
Was thinking on my time away
I miss u
And things weren't the same
Cause everything inside
It never comes out right
And when I see you cry
It makes me wanna die
I'm sorry I'm bad
I'm sorry I'm blue
I'm sorry about all the things I said to you
and I know
I can't take it back
I love how you kiss
I love all your sounds
And baby the way you make my world go round
And I just wanted to say
I'm sorry."
Please help, whatever song this is from is important and I'll be very thankful (link)
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Sorry by Buckcherry :)
I love that song!
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Hi I'm 19 year old female and I'm in my second semester of college. I have a great boyfriend and I was talking to him today. And well he has a lot of friends and is very out going and I'm the complete opposite. And we were talking and I was trying to explain to him why I don't have hardly any friends. When I walk into a room I automatically think that people are judging me. I don't start talking to strangers unless I have known them for a while. I feel uncomfortable when I am around a bunch of people I don't know. I know it sounds like I'm just shy. But i don't understand why I get so scared and nervous and feel like people are practically out to get me. I was just wondering if maybe it was possible that I am just over reacting or if something is maybe wrong. Thank you for your time! (link)
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I am the same way...its just the way I am! I can't help that I'm nervous or I get jittery when I start talking to people. I'm a shy person and its hard for me to open up to others because of past events. Youre not crazy and this might take time...you just have to work at it. Maybe talk toa counselor it could be possibly anxiety ro something. I'm not a doctor but you should talk to someone about it. You're not crazy whatsoever, some people are just more social then others!
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Do u ever wake up have nothing planned and feel sad. SOmetimes I wake up and I feel like I dont want to call anybody I just want to have something to do...like school or a career i enjoyed or a place to go...somewhere I can go when im feeling down...something I can do???...do you ever feel this way...what do you do when you wake up feeling BLAH! I felt this way today and all I wanted to do was call my bf becasue he is who i turn to but I understand that he has his own things to do and doesnt want to here me complain. So i spoke to some friends on the phone and heard them complain...this didnt help me and so i watched a movie by myself...still felling BLAH! what should I do to put me in a more positive mood??? (link)
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Well I have days like that...and what I do is I work...I organize or clean! I listen to music, workout, clean, and do whatever else. being productive is a good feeling and it really takes you a little bit out of the "BLAH" mood. Or call your friends and see if they want to hang out for a bit!
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To put it bluntly, im scared of having sex, i feel its wrong and i hav this new bf who has done it a few times. He keeps saying stuff 2 me but i just hate the thought of it. i know thats really immature but i do need help (link)
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You're not immature at all! I know this may sound cliche but you don't have to have sex just because your boyfriend did. You'll have sex when you feel comfortable and if he doesn't understand that or is pressuring you he's not worth your time. You need to listen to you and you need to think about you so if you don't want to then don't!
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so my and my boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up like 2 months ago. we hung out once like about a month after we broke up and everything went well, or so it seemed. he texted me and we were still good friends. i liked it. now he doesn't text me anymore and he rarely texts me back so i texted him saying "i need to ask you something" i want to ask him if were done being friends so i can just give up and move on with my life...problem is he didn't answer me. i know he loses his phone alot but i don't want to make myself seem desperate. i'm fine without a relationship with him but he still means something to me and i want to be friends and i want to know if i'm wasting my time...i don't just want to randomly stop talking to him cause that just brings awkwardness and i really don't want to do that. what should i do? (link)
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I would just move on already don't wait for him. Think about you...BE SELFISH! If he isn't going to answer you back then just forget him. Its going to hurt I know but instead of hurting yourself by waiting near that phone to get an answer you could be doing something fun or hanging out with your friends. He's clearly just being a jerk...and as for "losing his phone" well theres a ton of excuses he could say to you. Its time you move on...and leave him behind.
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a boy in my freshmen class took his life thursday night
since 7th grade i had known about him, and wished so badly to befriend him...over the summer transition from 8th-9th grade, me and my best friend watched videos of him and the music he made. i even liked him a little. he was just so attractive and talented and sweet.
I was in such shock friday when the teachers broke it to us. the entire day i was just shaking and i could not stop it. i just felt so cold. everything felt dreamlike and out of focus that day. im sure for a lot of other people it was the same.
i barely even knew him, but i always felt that there could have been a connection between us..we had a lot in common and we could have been really good friends, so i took his death pretty personally.
there has been SO MUCH recognition for him among my grade-on facebook, events downtown, grief meetings...i think its really great to see how much of an impact he made on people. he was such an inspiration to everyone.
just to say, i'm not really friends with most of his really close friends, including his girlfriend.
he is having an open wake tomorrow and i really wanted to go. the thing is, i wouldnt know how to act, how to dress, or how to talk to his friends/girlfriend and family.
any tips on what to do?
thank you so much. (link)
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I'm sorry for your loss.
It's hard to deal with especially because of the way it happened. There was a girl in my neighborhood who took her own life and even though I didn't know her that well it still affected me. I'm sure everyone in your grade is affected because this is a very difficult way to lose someone...and I can't even imagine how his girlfriend is dealing with this.
You should go to the wake tomorrow to pay your respects to the family, his friends, and even the girlfriend. Just go there and introduce yourself as one of his classmates and how sorry you are for their loss. Most people wear black at a wake and just again say your sorry for their loss. Believe me when people came to my grandfather's wake I was so thankful a lot of people who weren't my friends showed up and it was nice to know they cared. I would stay for about a half an hour to an hour...bring a friend or a family member with you if you don't feel comfortable going alone. Again I'm sorry for your loss!
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so my long distance boyfriend broke up with me today.
i kinda saw it coming becuase he wanted a "break" three days ago and didn't talk to me for those three days
but I guess I was expecting him to come back to me like every other time.
im in love with him and I'm completing heart broken.
he wasn't a bad breakup at all actually.
he told me he just couldn't deal with the distance and its just too hard for him right now and he can't do it.
i asked him if we could still be friends and he said that he was hoping we can be, so I'm happy about that. but I just wish we were still together
our distance isn't far at all though if you really think about it. its about 6 hours away at the most. and every weekend if we both drove 3 hours we could make it work.
but he always chose everyone else before me. it felt like everything was more important then me. but he always insists he loves me more and all that.
i understand his decision and I respect him for that but I don't understad why he decided after 6 months this isn't going to work out?
also I asked him if we would ever be together again and he said maybe idk. but I believe that he just said that to be nice.
also I told him to just talk to me whenever he wants to then ( as friends) and he said ok bye.
i really want to say something that would maybe make him change his mind. but a part of me doesn't want to contact him at all. I want to wait and see if we trys talking to me first.
what should I do. or say to him if I decide to talk to him? (link)
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I think you answered your own question in a way. You say that you believed he always put stuff in front of you...maybe it was time to end it. I was in a relationship for a year and a half it was "long distance"...which was ONLY an hour (I don't believe that to be distance). My point is, is that both people in the relationship need to want it to work not just one. Nothing you say or do is going to make him change his mind he is going to change his mind if he wants to. I know you don't want to hear it but this is true! I don't talk to my ex now who was my best friend before we started dating but that is because of my own reasons. In the end its his loss!
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I need some songs for an inspirational/artsy video I'm doing about suicide for a school project.
I really like running up that hill by placebo but I can't use it. Are there any other songs that are VERY close to it? and have the same kind of feel when you listen to them?
If so, please give me some ideas. And maybe some things I should put in the video and really imphasize. I need all the ideas I can get!
Thanks so much! All help is appreciated(: (link)
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Why by Rascal Flats
Slipped Away by Avril Lavingne
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I like stuff like Eminem & Fort Minor. Are there any artists similar to that? (link)
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I would reccomend you listen to "The Flobots" their like a mix of Eminem & Fort Minor in a way. Check them out!
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ok so i have a boyfriend. we have been dating for 1 yr. and 3 months.....well heres the thing...i might be falling in love with someone else....its confusing but really he treats me better...i feel like i wanna break up with my boyfriend....but i dont know. Im really interested in my in him but i lov my boyfriend....please help! (link)
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If you feel as though you lost your feelings for your boyfriend you need to think about it yourself and figure out whats best for you. Maybe its best if you move on...but you NEED to talk to him about it! Honesty is the best policy in this situation and you need to be true to him and you need to be true to yourself. Maybe take a break and explore or to just think about what you want. Good luck!
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18 year old male
i've been with my girlfriend for about more than 4 months.. our relationship have been on and off for a while and recently we broke up. But today she stopped by my house and it surprised me and she wanted to be close to me.. she didnt tell me she was going to stop by or anything, she walked home from work which isnt too far from our neighborhood and she said that she wants me, but the problem is out of the 2 weeks that we've been away i've been working my way to get out of her grasp, because we keep breaking each other's heart.. i hate going back and forth like this because i want to have a stable life. one side of me is screaming to have her but another side of me is wanting to pull away.. it affects my school work and my mood. (link)
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If you're that unsure than its a NO! If its affecting your school work or mood than its not worth it. Right now you are either getting ready to go to college or you're in college right now. Either way you need to worry about your schoolwork and your futre those are the important things right now! Its time to move on!
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Okay, so I know this does sound really mean, but I cannot stand my boyfriends sister. I've been with him for a year now. I'm 16, he's 17 and his sister is 10. I can't even explain what it is about her that winds me up so much. We actually had a good relationship to start with, and we did get on really well. She was brought up to be polite and nice and that but, up until a few months ago she's just been so needy and clingy and sucking upto my boyf soo much than she used to. Like, the other day was a snow day at school so we weren't in, so I went round his house during the day, but I wasn't feeling well, and he knew this. But, I only had about an hour and a half with him that day and we played xbox for about half an hour, then his sister insisted on him going out in the garden with her. He did ask me but, obviously I wasn't feeling well so I really didn't want too. But he still went outside with her knowing I only had a little longer left there! Now, I did think this through and to begin with I thought I was being selfish, but after a while I realised that he could of done that any other time! He can't exactly see me alot, yet he lives with his sister?? :/. The thing is, it isn't my boyf, she's always the one asking to do something with him when I'm there. I don't exactly see him that much during the week, 2 days at the maxium and thats from about 4 til 6 or 7pm maybe.
Sorry, abit off track there. So anyway, recently she's been like slyly insulting me. Like, when just me and my boyf were playing xbox (like split screen, top and bottom) and she knew damn well that he was top screen and she said "oh whoever's top screen is so good" then looked at me and said "no offence". And whenever me and my boyf just want to spend time together she always interferes. For example, we were watching a film in his room and about 5 mins after it finished we were quite tired and she came into his room and said can we watch this film in here. I know it was wrong but I was being annoying throughout the film, but it actually gave her no right to tell me to "shut up".
I feel so bad for disliking her this much, I mean she is only 10 and my boyf loves her, obviously, and I know it'd be different if it was my little sister. I do try to get along with her but she just throws it back in my face (quite literally the other day, me her and my boyf were having a snowball fight, me and her against my boyf although she kept on throwing snowballs at me....??). Tbh, I'm just fed up of it. Not just her, but me not liking her.
I can't tell my boyf about all this though, it would cause extreme awkwardness whenever I'm at his house and I just really don't know how to explain this to him without sounding selfish and like I only want him to spend time with me. Because it's really not like that, I just want to see more of him without his sister there.
I guess this is more of a rant than a question, but I really don't know what to do :/
Help!?!? (link)
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She's 10 years old...of course she's going to be annoying! I bet someone thought I was annoying at 10 years old...its the age where you want to hang out with the big kids and be "cool". I'm sure she's not purposely insulting, I'm sure she is just trying to fit in...maybe find an excuse to hang out with you guys. And second thats her brother...and her blood...whether or not they live together 'blood is thicker than water'. You need to accept the fact that, that is his sister its not going to change family is always number one in this case. Now I can see you want alone time with him but you need to talk to him. Thats the only way you're going to get it, is if you talk to him and let him know whats going on. Or if you can't talk to him suggest hanging out at your house so you don't have to be near his sister and then therefore you will have your alone time!
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