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Making Friends
Hi I'm 19 year old female and I'm in my second semester of college. I have a great boyfriend and I was talking to him today. And well he has a lot of friends and is very out going and I'm the complete opposite. And we were talking and I was trying to explain to him why I don't have hardly any friends. When I walk into a room I automatically think that people are judging me. I don't start talking to strangers unless I have known them for a while. I feel uncomfortable when I am around a bunch of people I don't know. I know it sounds like I'm just shy. But i don't understand why I get so scared and nervous and feel like people are practically out to get me. I was just wondering if maybe it was possible that I am just over reacting or if something is maybe wrong. Thank you for your time!
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I am the same way...its just the way I am! I can't help that I'm nervous or I get jittery when I start talking to people. I'm a shy person and its hard for me to open up to others because of past events. Youre not crazy and this might take time...you just have to work at it. Maybe talk toa counselor it could be possibly anxiety ro something. I'm not a doctor but you should talk to someone about it. You're not crazy whatsoever, some people are just more social then others!
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well nothings wrong with you there's a ton of people like this. when i was in elementary school i used to have this problem really bad, like i barely ever talked because i thought people would judge me. after awhile i just stopped caring and i figured out that the good people wouldn't judge and that's all i wanted in my life anyway. you shouldn't have to feel shy or nervous, when you don't know a person and they don't know you either, they could be feeling the same thing. try to start up a conversation on like a class you might have together or anything, give them a compliment maybe. i've figured out that more people actually judge you if you're quiet because they don't know what's up or if somethings wrong. soo be confident and try to start a conversation and you'll know if they're nice people or not :)
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I don't think anything is wrong with you it's normal
to be shy and nervous around strangers and people you don't know but you can't allow your nerves to get the best of you you've got to be confident and believe in yourself not all people are bad there's some good out there take deep breaths to calm yourself down you've got to be willing to give others a chance being judged is apart of life but you can't allow what others think of you to affect you then you'll become stressed as long as your confident and you believe in yourself i think you'll be fine without confidence you won't get very far(:
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hey there :)
okay let me just say theres absolutely nothing wrong with you!
many people feel this way from time to time others have always been naturally shy its just in your nature thats all and its all about learning and gaining the confidence to come out of your shell abit.
First you should think about all your great qualities,you know what makes me, me. sort of thing.
remind yourself your a fun loving nice to be around kinda person.
when meeting new people relax and try to put it to the back of your mind,pretend they are like friends youve known for years,bring up a general topic of interest you know music tv shows just ask the person stuff about themselves and get to know them.I know it seems scary but it gets easier the more you relax and the more you do it.
Just be yourself and let people see the wonderful person that you are and that your boyfriend sees.
maybe next time your out get talking to people together it might make it easier on you :)
Just remember and try to do all theese things and hopefully things will get better
I hope I helped :)
Much <3
Jess 16/f
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