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My husband and I haven't been married a year yet. I dont know if its because I am 34 weeks pregnant but I feel depressed alone confused. I am 18 years old and he is 23. He has a 6 year old son who lives with his mother and I have a 3 year old son. Then one on the way he doesnt work. I finally got him to put in several applications today. He spends money like its grown on trees. We lives with my father which I can stand. I was working a job were I was making good money but I had to leave for medical reasons during my pregnancy. He and my son fight all the time he is always yelling at him. My son cant play in the living room be infront of the tv. watch cartoons in the living room cant be to loud. etc. My husband gets fustrated with him and seems like he takes it out of me. Im 34 weeks pregnant and started dialiting my doctor wants me to rest and take it easy but my husband doesnt clean anything he doesnt help he cant handle my son who is a pretty good kid. just has a attitude like most 3 year olds. I just dont know what to do i feel depressed and unattracted. I dont know what to say to my husband. I love him I just feel like he doesnt want to work and support his family but then complains all week he is bored.
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Well from what I can see your husband isn't being very supportive nor being very helpful through this time. You are pregnant so its best you take it easy and not stress yourself out so much. You should tell you husband that he needs to take care of things now and that its his responsibility. He's 23 years old he's a man and he should like it! This si what having a family is all about...its about taking care of the ones you love and right now he isn't doing that. You need to talk to him about this or maybe talk to his mom and tell her your concerns you shouldn't feel alone especially right now. Congrats on the baby and good luck!
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First off, let me say I am so sorry that you are in this situation. You are young, pregnant, living with your father and trying to cope with many, many things....not the least of which is a husband who doesn't work and isn't trying to get work.
But with all these things...I think FOR NOW, you have to concentrate on your baby. You are at 34 weeks. You have been told to REST. You started dilating. I know it is easy for someone like me....who isn't there with all these things happening to you to say this....but you have got to think about the baby now. Try to close out all the other stuff. Do things with your boy while you are resting....like reading to him or playing games with him. Leave the house be....if it is messy or dirty, just forget about that now. You have to rest so that you can have a healthy baby when the time comes....which is just around the corner.
Now that I have said that...I do want to add that AFTER the baby is born, you probably need to think about your situation with this man who isn't getting a job. You will have to assess if he is right for you and your children. But all that comes AFTER you give birth. Until then....try to not let all of the things in your life get to you. Try to rest and have a successful birth. After the birth, you will have plenty of time to think about your life and decide on what will be best for you and your kids.
I hope this helped. I wish you the best.
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