about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

i really dont know who i am...

sometimes i feel happy and i want to wear designers and bright colors.

sometimes i feel stupid and i feel like wearing baggy pants and black.

sometimes i feel like a laid back skater punk and i want to wear DC and converse....

tough one, right. can i keep switching like this??? WHAT DO I DO!

My advice: Wear whatever the hell you want. If people call you a poser, so be it. You're just trying to find yourself, and besides, it's your body. You decide what gets put on it. If one day you're happy & wanna wear happy colors, go ahead, and if you wanna wear black, go ahead. Fuck what people think. I wear what I want & if people don't like it...too damn bad.

&TiNA;

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if i realli like this guy is it wrong to ask him out??

Nope, go for it.

&TiNA;

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I'm a junior at a high school with an 11th grade population of 900. I have alot of friends, I'm on the drill team, I know just about everyone. Ever since I started high school I've always had people making things up about me. People I didn't even know.


Things like how big of a slut I am (even though I've only been to 2nd base guys because I'm waiting till marriage), that I'm anorexic (even though I'm 5'4 and weight 115 lbs. -- doesn't sound anorexic to me), that I've done sexual things with other girls (even though almost everyone knows I'm just about a homophobe), and alot of other stupid stuff like that.


All that stuff almost ruined freshman year for me. Then I decided not to care. If whoever is saying those things about me just has nothing better to do with their life then so be it; all I started to do was deny them. I know what's true, my friends know what's true, and so does everyone that actually meets me first.


So I never really gave a shit about any of that. But there's this guy now that I really like and he's the first guy I've really liked in a long time that isn't just because he's hott or other things like that (why I usually go out with guys). Everything was going fine between us, we've been on 4 dates, including Valentines Day. Until today that is.


He called me before 1st period this morning and asked me if I knew a girl named Leann. I said yeah and asked him why. He told me that they were talking about "stuff" and that he had to go. I called him back and told him not to BS me but he still wouldn't tell me what she said.


So later that day I went up to this girl (whom I'm barely an acquaintance to by the way) and asked her what she said to the guy. She looked absolutely shocked when I asked her and said that it was nothing, he wasn't supposed to say anything and that I needed to mind my own business (I'm sorry--I didn't know people talking about me was none of my business). I felt like punching her face in and telling her to grown up but I just walked away.


He hasn't talked to me since our phone conversation and avoided me all at school today. I texted him and told him that if whatever he heard about me changed the way he felt towards me and didn't even bother to ask me about it before he believed it then maybe he isn't the guy I thought he was.


So now I'm not sure what to do. I never thought that these stupid rumors would mess up my guy life. I should make this girls life a living hell (because I totally can) but I won't. What am I supposed to do here??

Knock the hell out of her. Any bitch who talks shit about you, and then says "HOMGZITSNONEOFYOBUSINESSLOLZ" deserves to be punched. I absolutely believe it's your business. Just let it go. Besides, any guy who would believe that stuff & then not even tell you what was said, must be really pathetic & SHALLOW. The only thing I don't agree on is your little homophobe thing because I'm bisexual, but that's your own decision & opinion. But anyways, I think maybe that guy's a little childish for believing a stupid rumor or some lies he heard from some dumb bitch. Just tell him he's pathetic for believing it. And you can probably do so much better anyway.

&TiNA;

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hey just recently a guy i REALLY like asked me to be his girlfriend ( feb 5). I said yes and its hard for me to believe him when he says he loves me. i mean the whole reason why is because last year, i had my first boyfriend and he cheated on me, lied to me, and harrassed me. so now its hard to even trust my current boyfriend. i mean he shows that he does too by:
-calling me every night
-saying he loves me everyday
-writes me a poem(that he cant find...haha)
-always gives me a kiss when he sees me (going to class, after, before, ect)
-says he can see us still together after high school is over (which is a while because we are freshmans)

and a lot more..but i dont know why i cant bring myself to believe him. how can i fix this problem? have you had it before?

Well, it sounds like you've got a good guy. I had relationships like that, but I completely trust my boyfriend because he's definitely VERY amazing. It sounds like your boyfriend loves you, and you should believe & trust him. Not all guys are the same.

&TiNA;

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15/m..i am soo in love with my beautiful amazing wonderful spectacular...and i could go on..but she feels the same about me..we have been dating for three months now... and the thing is my mom does not want me deating until i am 16...so my mom lets me have her over and everything but is always saying that we are not dating we are just really close friends who kiss and hug and cuddle and hold hands...and it is really hard for me to see my girl cus my mom doesnt want me to see her a lot....what can i do to get her to except the fact that i love her and i am going out with her. and to loosen up and let me see her more?

Just tell your mom how you feel and explain that you won't do anything your not supposed to with your girlfriend.

&TiNA;

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Hey, me and a girl are going to the movies this weekend and i have a few questions.

1. How can i show how much i like her? (Yes i do like her alot, and i don't want to make out or anything yet...)

2. After the movies she is spending the night at my house, how can i get her to hang out with me instead of my sisters? (She and my sisters are good friends)

3.What are some things we can do while she is at my house?

Thanks in advance!

P.S. we are both 13

Well, instead of having her pay for the movie, pay her way. Save her the money, unless she goes for snacks. Have her buy those since you paid for the movie. Well, you can make her something to eat at your house, so she'd have to hang out with you. Also, play some games with her, or show her some of your stuff. Just pretty much hang out & talk to her I guess.

&TiNA;

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yeah confused about that, if i create a code, how do i have people whore me

Ask them to whore you, and send them your code.

&TiNA;

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Okay this may come off as a very stupid question, but since I was adopted, my birth my mom was really young when she had me.. well 20. And she wasnt married, gah I'm worried that if she had an STD or like ahh something, would I have it? Theres no way I can know, beacuse we dont even have any information about them.. and I'm kinda freaking out now.

Yes, if she had an STD it would've been passed to you, as would AIDS. As AIDS, STD's are passed through needles, sexual intercourse & sharing of needles. The only way to find out if you have an STD, is to get tested, and if it comes positive, it would indicate your mother had an STD, because I'm assuming you had no sexual intercourse.

&TiNA;

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My best friend recently cut his wrists and was waiting to die. He's at the hospital, he's okay, and he knows what he did is stupid. This is some serious matter to drop on someone, so I was wondering how to lighten my mood. I'd appreciate any advice that will calm and level myself before I talk to him.

Hmm, that's a very tough situation and I know I'd be really deeply depressed if my best friend ever cut their wrists. Especially the ones I'm closest to. Well, the only thing I could really tell you, is to do some things like:

- Read. Reading makes you calm & it's peaceful.
- Listen to music. Music always cheers me up when I'm mad. I forget about how mad or sad I am, and then I'm okay again.
- Do yoga. Yoga is peaceful, calm & it relieves tension.
- Sleep. Sleep always helps me. I feel so calm after I wake up.
- Write. Writing your feelings down really helps. When I'm depressed or sad, I write poetry or I draw to take my minds off things. It's nice.

I hope I helped you, and I'm sorry your friend did that. It's so tough when friends are suicidal. =( I hope everything turns out fine & that you both end up okay.

&TiNA;

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hi,i was just wondering what kind of books you would recamend if i liked books that involved teenage love,drama,and most of all best friends wanting to become lovers who are generally a teen.

any of those if fine but i get interested in teen romance stuff.thanks

These are some very amazing books which I have read. Some of them have what you want, but others are very good & deal with real issues, as do the ones you want:

- Breathing Underwater
- Cubanita
- Love, Sara
- Cut
- Define "Normal"
- A Child Called It
- The Lost Boy
- A Man Named Dave
- Sweet Blood
- The She
- The Cannibals
- Walk Two Moons
- Go Ask Alice

&TiNA;

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13/f i just got my period today. i tried about 1000 kinds of pads and nothing seems to feel right. ive decided that im not ready just to jump into tampons. i also dont want pads wiht wings. does anyone know good SHORT AND NARROW pad namebrands without wings that i could try. thanks in advance. court ♥

Kotex works really good, but as your period goes on, it gets heavier, so you need heavier & thicker pads. And pads with wings are better because they actually stay and the blood doesn't go everywhere. =( Periods are NOT fun. Btw, for cramps, use Midol.

&TiNA;

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What are some good JROCK and JPOP bands?
That have some free downloads on a site...? Cuz every time I want to hear a band ..I can't find any online downloads or anything. And I want to hear the music before I buy, you know?

Here are some good bands:

- Dir En Grey
- Gackt
- Miyavi
- L'arc ~en~ Ciel
- Malice Mizer
- Moi Dix Moi
- X Japan
- Asian Kung Fu Generation

=)

&TiNA;

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so my boyfriend and i just had sex for the first time together...he was a virgin i was not...and we both love eachother and so we both decided we didnt want to have "kinky", "horney" sex...we wanted loving, passionate sex..so when we were having sex i expected it to be amazing...but i was kinda dissapointed cus i thought he would look at me , or telll me he loved me while we were doing it...but he dditn..he did not look at my face the whole time...and he didnt say he loved me once....was he just using me for sex..?

I doubt he was using you. I mean, he gave you his virginity. He probably didn't say anything because he was nervous, scared, or too excited. Just talk ho him about it & tell him how you feel. Ask him what he was thinking.

&TiNA;

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My boyfriend and I live about a half hour apart, not a big deal, but we didn't get to see eachother on Valentine's Day..*tear*...anywho, we will (most likely) be seeing eachother on saturday, either at his house, or the mall. I never got him anything for Valentine's Day, and he said all he wanted was to spend the day with me..but I know he must want something (i said the same thing, and of course i want something, haha!) My question is, what should I get him? i already did build-a-bear, so any other ideas are great! He is 16. Thanks!

Well, you could make him something. If he went to your house, you could make him dinner. But something really cute, is to burn him a cd of all the songs that make you think of him. =)

&TiNA;

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My absolute best friend in the world.. will not stop talking about killing herself. She lives about half an hour away from me and when I ask her to hang out with me, all she does is say "oh it's about time you asked".. I respond with "I'm sorry.. exams and stuff were in January and you know it wasn't a good month..". And then I asked her to go to this concert that my friend's band is in and she said "No, I'll be the ugly duckling among all those beautiful swans. I'm sick of being the ugly duckling." I seriously don't know what to do. Everything I say she responds with "I'm gonna bash my head into a wall and die".. stuff like that. It's really starting to scare me. I've tried EVERYTHINg you can possibly imagine, and I'm in tears right now. I need help. PLEASE.

Talk to her about how she's making you feel. Also, talk to her parents & try and get her some help. She might be mad at you, but she'll be getting help, and she'll soon realize all you did was care.

&TiNA;

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Well my gf broke up with me then the next day made out with her ex. then me and her loved eachother again and we kissed and stuff and had a good time. then she told me she doesnt want love or a serious relationship but the next day has a bf that she had just told me the week before how she hated him so much. so i guess the question is really just what should i do next try to persue her or forget about her cuz ive tried that and its workin i guess but i still cant just forget her shes saved me from too much and has been there when i needed her but now we seem detached but i still luv her so idk just want some opinions please.

Forget about her. Why love a girl who obviously doesn't love you? I bet she doesn't even know what love is.

&TiNA;

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i am 15/m and i am completely in love with this girl we'll call her Ally she is 15 as well...and we have been dating for three months but it seems like years...we are both so close to eachother and we love eachother so much...now we want to have a baby....i know we are 15 but we want one....we have been talking about it for a while now..and we feel like we are ready like we have been doing a lot of research....but how do we tell our parent that we wanted one and it wasnt a mistake?

I don't think anyone at the age of 15 is physically, emotionally, & mentally ready for a baby. Although, you've discussed it, and researched it, you've only been together for 3 months. You should be together for at least some time [a year or more] before you decide to conceive a child. And, teenagers think that they can take care of a child, because as a teenager, the mind still isn't finished developing, so we have a mindset. If you tell your parents, I think they'd give you the wrong response. I think what you should do, is come up with a plan, such as:

- Living Space [Where do you plan on living?]
- Budget [How much do you plan to spend?]
- Work [Where will you be working?]

Also, at such a young age, there are such birth defects that could happen, and it's dangerous for mother & child. I'd continue thinking this through, and wait some time. But when you finally do believe you're ready, and KNOW the consequences, and KNOW you are the one's for each other, then go for it. Until then, wait.

&TiNA;

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ok so i have a myspace and i am 15 but currently it says i am 18 cus you couldnt be 15 and have one when i made mine...but if i change my age to 15 on it will it be set to private?

Yeah, it'll show as private. Anything over 16 will not be private though.

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hi.

does anyone know where i can listen to the song heaven, but the one with the little girl, that is a tribute to september 11..

ive tried searching on myspace..

As always, google found it.

- http://www.guzer.com/animations/miss_daddy.php

&TiNA;

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How do you get over it besides popping the pills?

Well, besides pills here are somethings you could do to help you.

- Counselling.
- Friends.

Those two, I can't stress enough. Talking to people always helps. No matter what.

- Meditation.
- Writing.
- Music.

Music always helps me when I'm depressed. Meditation relieves stress & tension within the body. And writing helps you to get the feelings down. Once you get the feelings out, you feel more relieved.

- Church.

This one, I can't really say worked for me, because I'm athiest, but I've seen & talked to people who've been depressed, went to church and said that being closer to god has helped them realize.

- Think positive.
- Realize that like, 95% of the world has it WAY worse than you.

Millions - NO - BILLIONS of people are suffering everyday, so once you realize how much you have it better, you'll really feel better too. Imagine if you couldn't eat because there was no food, and had to live on the streets, because you had no house. I bet most of those people don't have a very long lifespan, because they're dying of diseases, hunger, & poverty. Thinking positively also relieves the mind of negativity. Negative things just make you more depressed. If you think positive, you're more than likely able to smile about things.

And whatever you do - I can't stress this one enough, EVER - DO NOT CUT.

Cutting does not solve anything. It does not solve your problems. It doesn't relieve pain - although that's how it may feel at the time - and it does not make you happy. It only makes things worse, and you always have people questioning you where those horrid cuts are coming from. It's also really hard to hide, and EXTREMELY hard to stop. And people who cut, more than likely can't stop, and I bet most of them will tell you the same thing - It's like a friend. No matter what you cut with, or burn with, it never goes away. It's always there, and it's that friend who just never walks out on you, or turns their back away. I could tell you, I'm a cutter. I know about this. Cutting is not the answer.

I hope I helped you as best I could, and I hope you get out of depression soon. It's very unhealthy, and makes you very mentally unstable. I hope you soon find your way to happiness, & have the strength to carry on with your life. =) Good luck.

&TiNA;

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