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best friend..
My absolute best friend in the world.. will not stop talking about killing herself. She lives about half an hour away from me and when I ask her to hang out with me, all she does is say "oh it's about time you asked".. I respond with "I'm sorry.. exams and stuff were in January and you know it wasn't a good month..". And then I asked her to go to this concert that my friend's band is in and she said "No, I'll be the ugly duckling among all those beautiful swans. I'm sick of being the ugly duckling." I seriously don't know what to do. Everything I say she responds with "I'm gonna bash my head into a wall and die".. stuff like that. It's really starting to scare me. I've tried EVERYTHINg you can possibly imagine, and I'm in tears right now. I need help. PLEASE.
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This might sound harsh but rather than your friend being actually suicidal, it seems like she might be trying to emotionally blackmail you. If you have other commitments a true friend will understand - I have been at University for 3 years and don't see some of my best friends for 75% of the year! Yet they understand, and she should too. It's not like you're not making an effort - I imagine if you asked her to do something just the two of you then she would jump at it, as it seems like she doesn't want to have to 'share' you at this concert. However, there is obviously no way you could ever say this to her...and I'd like you to bear in mind that it SOUNDS like emotional blackmail but doesn't necessarily mean it is. I suggest you talk to her parents about everything she's said: if she really is suicidal then clearly something has to be done and she needs professional help - her parents would need to take her to the doctor who should be able to get her professional help. And if she isn't really suicidal then this should nip it in the bud, as her parents would obviously talk to her about it and no doubt she'd be embarassed and hopefully this kind of behaviour would cease. If you need any more advice then just drop me a line. Hope this helps!
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Talk to her about how she's making you feel. Also, talk to her parents & try and get her some help. She might be mad at you, but she'll be getting help, and she'll soon realize all you did was care.
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You need to tell your mom about this and then contact her parents. She may be mad at you for a while but she needs more help than you are able to give her.
Here is a website I think you can use. :)
How to deal with friends being suicidal:
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I hope it works too. I think it will.
Best of luck. :)
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