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sorry you're so jealous
I'm a junior at a high school with an 11th grade population of 900. I have alot of friends, I'm on the drill team, I know just about everyone. Ever since I started high school I've always had people making things up about me. People I didn't even know.
Things like how big of a slut I am (even though I've only been to 2nd base guys because I'm waiting till marriage), that I'm anorexic (even though I'm 5'4 and weight 115 lbs. -- doesn't sound anorexic to me), that I've done sexual things with other girls (even though almost everyone knows I'm just about a homophobe), and alot of other stupid stuff like that.
All that stuff almost ruined freshman year for me. Then I decided not to care. If whoever is saying those things about me just has nothing better to do with their life then so be it; all I started to do was deny them. I know what's true, my friends know what's true, and so does everyone that actually meets me first.
So I never really gave a shit about any of that. But there's this guy now that I really like and he's the first guy I've really liked in a long time that isn't just because he's hott or other things like that (why I usually go out with guys). Everything was going fine between us, we've been on 4 dates, including Valentines Day. Until today that is.
He called me before 1st period this morning and asked me if I knew a girl named Leann. I said yeah and asked him why. He told me that they were talking about "stuff" and that he had to go. I called him back and told him not to BS me but he still wouldn't tell me what she said.
So later that day I went up to this girl (whom I'm barely an acquaintance to by the way) and asked her what she said to the guy. She looked absolutely shocked when I asked her and said that it was nothing, he wasn't supposed to say anything and that I needed to mind my own business (I'm sorry--I didn't know people talking about me was none of my business). I felt like punching her face in and telling her to grown up but I just walked away.
He hasn't talked to me since our phone conversation and avoided me all at school today. I texted him and told him that if whatever he heard about me changed the way he felt towards me and didn't even bother to ask me about it before he believed it then maybe he isn't the guy I thought he was.
So now I'm not sure what to do. I never thought that these stupid rumors would mess up my guy life. I should make this girls life a living hell (because I totally can) but I won't. What am I supposed to do here??
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Knock the hell out of her. Any bitch who talks shit about you, and then says "HOMGZITSNONEOFYOBUSINESSLOLZ" deserves to be punched. I absolutely believe it's your business. Just let it go. Besides, any guy who would believe that stuff & then not even tell you what was said, must be really pathetic & SHALLOW. The only thing I don't agree on is your little homophobe thing because I'm bisexual, but that's your own decision & opinion. But anyways, I think maybe that guy's a little childish for believing a stupid rumor or some lies he heard from some dumb bitch. Just tell him he's pathetic for believing it. And you can probably do so much better anyway.
&TiNA;
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A guy that listens to what others say to make judgements about you is really NOT worth your time. Forget him. He might seem like anice guy, but if he really was then he wouldn't be taking some rumors about you seriously without talking to you about it. He is hiding something and is acting shady and you do not need to deal with that shit. And that girl. I can tell you this. She is probably saying stuff about you because she likes him. So forget them both. Who wants to date a guy that won't even talk out problems and listens to what others say. Basically he has no balls what so ever, and has no mind of his own. It's hard to forget about someone and let go of someone you have cared about but sometimes it is for the best. Trust me, I've been there. At my school, where my Junior class is only 80 people, everyone know EVERYONE. And rumors are horrible. I have been called a slut and whore ever since 7th grade, and before that I was called a "goody-2-shoe" because my parents were really strict and I never cussed. (Ironic don't you think?) I used to let the rumors control my life and upset me. But that's the worst thing to do. I've had people say I've had sex with guys at the school that I've never even talked to! I've had girls say I'm bulimic and that I stuff my bra! (I'm 5'1 and only a size B cup!) Its total bullshit but the worst thing to do is let it get to you. Just shrug your shoulders and forget what people say. It's just gay high school drama, nothing more, and people that really care about getting to know you will not just listen to rumors about you adn call them fact. You know who you are and that is all that counts. Surround yourself with the people you know care about you and don't get caught up in the highschool drama. And don't worry about that guy. He will realize what he missed sooner or later. You have already told him you don't think he was who you thought he was, and you have already approached the girl, so the next move is theirs, not yours. Now is the time to lay low and act like you don't give a fuck. lol. You can do better and you know it. So be strong and remember you are only a Junior! You have so much life left ahead of you. So don't stress. You will know when the right guy comes. Until then, live life to the fullest and enjoy it. Drama is over-rated. I hope I helped and if you need any advice what-so-ever then note my inbox. I will be happy to help you :)
~Sherah
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i would try to go to a counseler... thats all you can really do.. atleast until he talks to you again. you should to try to find out who is starting the rumors... because really if you wanted to they can be percicuted from harrassment
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