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i am 15/m and i am completely in love with this girl we'll call her Ally she is 15 as well...and we have been dating for three months but it seems like years...we are both so close to eachother and we love eachother so much...now we want to have a baby....i know we are 15 but we want one....we have been talking about it for a while now..and we feel like we are ready like we have been doing a lot of research....but how do we tell our parent that we wanted one and it wasnt a mistake?
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Listen, first of all i know i'm going to sound parental but you are way too young to start a family. neither one of you is out of school with enough education to start a family. try asking a health teacher or counselor at school if there is a planned parenthood class or baby and me class where you take home and care for a computer baby for a week or so. and if that process doesn't convince you to wait try getting a puppy and raising it together.
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ok personally you are way to young to have kids!!!!! idk bout where you live and how you high school works but this pasr weekend i had to take home one of those dump ass fake babies and they sux ass!! But if you guys think you are really ready then wat u should do is just tell them how you feel!!
~Well i hope i helped a little~
SHELBEE
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hey your way to young. you may think your in love now but there are just soem many things that could go wrong. like what if you guys break up. whos going to hae the kid? whos going to pay the child support? you know. well please re consdier this for your own good. cait ♥
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When you say "wanted one" and "it wasn't a mistake" past tense, does that mean that she is already pregnant? If she is, Congrats to you both. I pray that you both can handle the challenges ahead to the best of your ability.
However, If she isn't pregnant, is she prepared to drop out of school now? A baby can't be left at home alone during the day, and day care is very expensive. Since I'm on the topic, have you two researched costs of a baby? The food, clothes, toys, diapers... everything? And have you really considered what it means to be raising a child? You are bringing a human being into the world, and will be caring for the child for the next 18+ years of his/her life? Are you ready to raise a child when you're both children yourselves? Where will you two live? Together? thats another expense. How will you get the necessary money for all of this? I would encourage you to reconsider what a huge responsibility this is.
However, wether she is already pregnant, or you both are set in your ways, you will have to tell your parents. They will likely be angry, as much of the financial burden will most certainly fall upon them, and they were not consulted in the matter. And they will be worried about you. Parenthood is difficult, and at a younger age especially. I would recommend telling them flat out. Then I would explain how you are going to make everything work out. and i mean everything. explain to them how you plan to raise this child yourself. Show them all of this research that you have done, and explain how this is affecting your life and should not directly impact theirs.
Whatever the outcome of this, Good luck, and God bless.
~Courtney
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listen, everyone is gonna tell you, your too young bla bla bla so ill just lay down the facts. money wise....dipars, look i have a little brother so trust me when i say babies go through ALOT of them. clothes, your gonna need winter, sping, summer and fall clothes which cost quite a bit when you add it all up. and plus your child will be made fun of in school bc he or she doesnt have cool clothes like the other kids bc he or she doesnt have the money. ya see where im going here? so i REALLY think you should reconsider.but as for telling your parents, no dout its going to be hard and stressful but you have to do it. you dont want to be living a lie do you? just tell them when your all together. if you two love eachother you'll get through it. i hope you two work things out with them!!
♥ Leah
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Having a baby that young is a mistake no matter how ready you think you are its nothing like you and her imagine. trust me my cousin had one at 19, she already was poor and the guy left her, she is now 24 and is out of college and happy but she wasnt ready and the only reason she survived is because she was already so strong from growing up in messed up family. i know you think your ready and i know that feeling but the child isnt the way to go, start with something small buy a puppy together and see if you can raise it, it will show how cabable you and your girlfriend are to have a baby. you could also try to wait til your out of college, have you thought about how your going to raise it, feed it, clothe it, or even how you and your girlfriend are going to go through college, high school, LIFE? you need to realize that 1) your not ready 2) you need to have a future, besides with your girlfriend, for yourself and 3) your parents arent going to just be like "oh yea honey go have sex and start a family with another 15 year old ... WTF your having sex?" its not something parents dream there kids doing at 15! I'm sorry im lecturing you, but i've seen this mistake happen, if you love eachother, wait, make sure it lasts, and that its love not just high school puppy love. good luck and please dont make the biggest mistake of your life and drag the love of your life down with you!
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You don't. I'm not going to lecture. Since you have researched it you should know all of the downsides to having a baby at such a young age.
Think about it. Think about you future. Think about your life if you were to have a baby.
THINK!!!
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I don't think anyone at the age of 15 is physically, emotionally, & mentally ready for a baby. Although, you've discussed it, and researched it, you've only been together for 3 months. You should be together for at least some time [a year or more] before you decide to conceive a child. And, teenagers think that they can take care of a child, because as a teenager, the mind still isn't finished developing, so we have a mindset. If you tell your parents, I think they'd give you the wrong response. I think what you should do, is come up with a plan, such as:
- Living Space [Where do you plan on living?]
- Budget [How much do you plan to spend?]
- Work [Where will you be working?]
Also, at such a young age, there are such birth defects that could happen, and it's dangerous for mother & child. I'd continue thinking this through, and wait some time. But when you finally do believe you're ready, and KNOW the consequences, and KNOW you are the one's for each other, then go for it. Until then, wait.
&TiNA;
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well you should talk to a doctor or someone in that feild first before you do anything because you could get yourself into a big commitment you may think your ready but i know that one of my friends had a baby and she couldnt even go to school anymore b.c of it she needed to be with the baby all the time..so be careful what u do think and ask questions
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