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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

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--Jack

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I really like to touch myself. I think its a problem. I'm really lazy too and I don't know how to motivate myself.

It's only a problem if it's preventing you from hanging out with friends or being with family or fulfilling responsibilities.

If you're lazy, here's how to motivate yourself:

http://www.wikihow.com/Motivate-Yourself

--Jack
(17/m)

im the type of girl that always has a boyfriend , and i have been seeing this boy for about 2 years now, were off and on and he breaks my heart continualy, i try and not fall for his ways but i always do , and i really love him alot , and i know he loves me but we are also young were both 17, but alot of other boys like me and iam scared to lose what i have with "alex" by seeing other boys , another boy has showed intrest in me and has asked me to go to his prom, he goes to a diffrent school. and i always said that this boy was cute, but i dont know what to do , i love alex alot , i would do anything for him but this prom sounds like fun and this boy seems intrested what do i do?

"Alex" is someone you don't seem to really "have a thing with" if he keeps breaking your heart and then manipulating you to come back to him.

Try things out with this other boy. Don't lead him on, but try to enjoy your time with him. Go to prom with him; who knows? You could find that he is the right guy for you?

--Jack
(17/m)

hey :]

all my life i've been born and raised in a christian household. My family have always been that way. I'm pretty open about it, but lately, alot of my "so called" friends have ditched me because of what i believe in. It got to the point where it would really bothered me but i figured that they aren't really my friends. But not to the point where i would harm myself. You sound like a bunch of smart people and i was wondering how you deal with problems like mine or hpw you think i should handle the issue.

I have had this same problem.

My only advice is to pray for them to find their way and to have a happy life. If you forgive people for hating you, life becomes so much easier and enjoyable.

The people who don't like your faith are probably not worth having as friends, since it's such an important part of your life.

--Jack
(17/m)

i really love this girl. not even like. straight up in love with her. ive loved her for a year, and i killed myself everyday working out to get her approval, but theres been none. id give the world to have her for an hour, and id give up every dream ive ever had. i asked her out recently and she said she couldnt do that to me, but i talked to her ex-boyfriend and he said i was the only one who he wanted to date her. what should i do about this?

This is certainly not what you want to hear, but maybe it's time to move on.

You can't force her to date you, and she doesn't sound interested in dating you, so it's time to just move on and find a girl who is as crazy about you as you are about her.

There are plenty of girls out there; you just gotta find the right one ;]

--Jack
(17/m)

"How many licks DOES it take to get to the center of the tootsie pop??"

Seems like all my friends are saying that lately, and I started wondering: Has anyone figured it out? Wish I was kidding, but I really want to know How many licks DOES it take to get to the center of the tootsie pop?!

I have tried doing it, but I never ever make it. Has anyone? Ever?

Driving me friggin insane!

"

A: No thanks to that animated owl and his woeful lack of willpower, this question has plagued the American public ever since the commercial first aired in 1970. Fortunately, there have been plenty of noble efforts to get to the bottom (or center, as the case may be) of it all.

Unfortunately, the answer depends on who you ask. A group of students at Swarthmore Junior High conducted an extensive study on the subject and concluded that getting to the center of a Tootsie Pop took a statistical average of 144 licks. However, the more ambitious and distrusting engineering students at Purdue University chose instead to rely on a “licking machine” modeled after the human tongue for their results. The Boilermakers found it took an average of 364 licks. And while other studies have been done, all the results vary. So in the end, only one thing is certain: The world may never know."

From: http://blogcritics.org/tastes/article/q-how-many-licks-does-it/

--Jack
(17/m)

my cat ran away and im extreamly upset about it have any advice, to sorta get over it ??

Have you tried actually LOOKING for your cat? Like, have you put up signs and stuff?

That's probably a start.

Other than that, try this:

--Jack
(17/m)

Hi I Would Appreciate It If You Could Help Me... Well I Was Seeing This Boy And Hes 19 And Im nearly 16 We Go On So Well But Had A Few Aguments Other Silly Stuff. Anyways He finished It With Me Because He Was Worried On What People Would Think But No One Even Cared About Us Too.. And I Told Him that aswell last friday we when we were talking and he told me he regrects ending it with me because he fills horrible about it and he kept asking me to be his mate but i could'nt do it.. and we got on so well and started like kissing and that but a few days later i told him i could'nt be his mate because mates dont do that...but i really do like him and dont wanna lose him in a friend or a relationship way but its really hard for me i was wondering weather you could tell me weather you think he likes me bt is to scared to say anything about it or if he dose not like me at all anymore what can i dooo? w.b

He's probably just in it for the kissing and whatnot.

It's like he only wants to be with you when you give him that.

I would just stay away from him and find a guy that treats you right.

--Jack
(17/m)

ok well i am from kentucky and i am bisexual and i love this girl and well she always says that she loves me and tells me that she loves me and no one else and well she kinda lied because she is now going out with someone else but tells me that she still loves me more than them?? that makes so sence really or does it? im confused help me please

Maybe she just loves you as a friend?

She's dating someone, so it's probably best if you stay out of the situation while that remains the case.

Maybe a few months after they are apart is when you should pursue a relationship?

--Jack
(17/m)

i am afraid to say to my mom and dad that i am bio-sexual

It's bisexual. Just ease into it and tell them gradually.

Maybe, just kind of throw hints at them.

They should be understanding, but some parents are not.

And, you really don't HAVE to tell your parents if you aren't ready. Don't feel pressured to if you aren't sure about it.

--Jack
(17/m)

i have been in the art of mesterbation and want to stop how can i stop it and what are it,s efect on me

--Jack
(17/m)

My boyfriend started touching my breast and also my vagina and licking and biting my hands. We didn't have sex (no penetration)!!

P.S. We were clothed(he was wearing thin denim and I was wearing a skirt)

When he was touching and licking me, I think I had sexual arousal and I could feel wet underwear. When I went to the bathroom I saw discharge. Could it be that I was excited and had sexual arousal or was it semen?

He didn't lay on top of me or something, but I'm worrying a bit. My period is due in 10 days.

Could sperm enter my vagina through clothes?

Any suggestions please??

Here's a general rule about "Am I preggers?"

If the penis never came anywhere near the vagina and no pre-cum or semen came anywhere near it, you cannot get pregnant.

If the penis came near the vagina, was in it for two seconds, two minutes, two hours, or whatever, or if semen or pre-cum came anywhere near it, you can get pregnant.

Since you seem to fit the first situation, I'm going to say you are not pregnant.

--Jack
(17/m)

Is there anything I can do to lighten my skin? I have a "farmer's tan".

If you don't know what a farmer's tan is, click here to see:
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/8/86/Male_torso.jpg/200px-Male_torso.jpg

I hate being tan, so I'd rather lighten the tanned part than try to tan the rest of me.

There's really nothing you can do to lighten your skin.

--Jack
(17/m)

i don't mean to laugh or smile when someone dies at all. it's sad, and i mean no happiness towards it. i just can't help but to laugh or smile, even if it's sad.
today, when i heard michael jackson died, it was really sad, and i felt bad, but ... i laughed ... and i have *no* idea why i react like this. i'm not heartless, but i'm just hoping it's a normal emotion / reaction, while others cry or get upset ... i just smile unintentionally. i don't think i'd last at a funeral.. i have no idea why i react like this.

Hmm, maybe you just think pain and death are funny?

I wouldn't think anything of it, because I know of some people that would laugh, too.

Just, if you go to a funeral, try to get yourself together and control yourself.

--Jack
(17/m)

How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck would chuck wood?

People keep saying this all around me, and I don't get it.

Some people say it like this:

How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck would chuck wood?

Some people say it like this:

How much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood?

is there more to thsi or something? Is it from some movie about woodchucks or something? Why do people say "How much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood?"

Help! I feel STUPID because I don't understand!

It's a tongue-twister. It's just gibberish designed to make you confused and some people can't say it.

--Jack
(17/m)

how do i connect my ipod to my car so it can play

My brother has this iCassette thing that looks like a tape that goes in the cassette player, but has a cord, and it plugs into the bottom of your iPod, like when you charge it.

You can probably find it at Best Buy or any electronics store.

--Jack
(17/m)

in their 'about me'
i just wanted to get to my best friend's and boyfriends myspace so i can write nice stuff about them.
i know its easier just to ask for their passwords, but i find it would be useful in the future.

Razhie is right; this is illegal.

Unfortunately, the only way you're going to get their passwords is if you ask them.

Maybe you can send them an inbox message and tell them to put it in their information?

That's a good alternative. =]

--Jack
(17/m)

im 13 and i want a job and it seems like babysittin is the best job i got so thats wat i wana do babysit or mayb some other stuff maybe typeing or something...

The only real job you can get is selling lemonade at the end of your driveway, babysitting, dogsitting, or mowing lawns.

Most employers won't hire you until at least 16.

--Jack
(17/m)

I have an env2 and i keep getting prank calls from a number.. how do i block them from calling and texting me.. oh and my service is verizon if that helps

See Verizon about blocking the number. Because, you can't do it from your phone.

Go to a Verizon store and ask- they should be able to do it for you.

--Jack
(17/m)

Michael Jackson died today at age 50. It's really sad, actually, because he was pretty young to be dying of heart problems. I'm not saying I liked or disliked Michael Jackson so please no bashing of the man here.

Anyway, reports have indicated that Michael Jackson died of cardiac arrest but nobody can be 100% certain until there is an autopsy done, right?

When will Michael Jackson's autopsy be performed so we know if Michael Jackson really died of cardiac arrest, a drug overdose, was murdered, or actually committed suicide?

The autopsy will probably start within the next few days, probably tomorrow.

But you probably won't hear anything about it for a week or so, because the family has asked for some privacy.

--Jack
(17/m)

I'm getting a laptop for my fifteenth birthday in August
I want one that has a built-in web cam
And one thats windows vista or HP. Or both

But can anyone give me links to a windows vista or HP laptop with built-in laptop?

If you have no links. Then stat the name is price please.

It's funny; the qualifications you have are EXACTLY my laptop.

http://www.bestbuy.com/site/olspage.jsp?skuId=9171497&type=product&id=1218044489891

Wait, I just looked at Matt's answer below.

Mine is:

HP Pavilion dv401114nr Entertainment Notebook PC

It's amazing. Seriously, get it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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