about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Ok so I knoow about cinco de mayo and stuff but what the hell is 4 20???????? I am so confused.. I know it's the 20th of april but is there some reason it's celebrated or something...and what exactly is it?

National Pot Day, or Hitler's Birthday.

He's 117 by the way.

♥TiNA

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Hey.
Im 14 right, and the guy I like is 16 but is turning 17 like next month.
I really like him, and he is really nice to me.
I have to say I love him wih all my heart.
The problem is, I always hear my family talking behind my back about he might be to old for me, I underdstand 2 years apart isn't much at all, but at this age is it? I mean he is now at that age he can have sex, and I'm two years off.
I really love him, and think about him everyday.
Please tell me if he is to old for me or not?

Personally, it's a good age difference. Older guys are more mature, and they know more. Although, your parents could be scared he'd do things with you, and that's why they say he's too old. Like, they probably think "Oh, she's young & naive, and he'll fool her and things will happen." But, seriously, he's a perfect age for you. My parents are four years apart. So, it's no big deal. I could zee if he was like, 10-15 years older, then it would be bad, but it's only 2 years. So, it's fine.

♥TiNA

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does anyone kno any inspirational songs?? like songs about miracles or some sort like that. if so thanks

I only know 2. Haha.

- When You Believe - Mariah Carey & Whitney Houston.

- I Believe I Can Fly - R. Kelly.

=]

♥TiNA

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im really depressed and i take medication but still suicidal and i cut
i know cutting is bad and can kill you but i really want to stop
ive asked other people who have cutted but their advise wasnt so great
i just want to ask how can i stop??

Okay, the girl below me knows nothing about cutting obviously, because cutting is an addiction. It's just as bad as drinking/smoking. Once you cut, you wanna do it again & again & again, so it's very much an addiction.

Anyways, with that said, stopping is simple. If you really want to stop badly, then do things to take your mind off of it. When you feel like cutting, do something else. Watch a movie, play video games, take a nap. Write, draw, eat. Do anything you want that makes you happy BUT cutting. Or, you could always wear a rubber band on your wrist and snap it when you feel like cutting. I personally didn't like the rubberband because it didn't really work for me, but it depends on how much you cut & stuff.

Also, another step to stop cutting is to talk to people about it. By talking out your problems, you can find lots of solutions to solve them. Talking to someone almost always helps. Wether it be a friend, parent, teacher or counsellor, talking will always help you. =] Good luck!

♥TiNA

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what are some good ROCK songs? im into nickelback, the offspring, chevelle, panic at the disco, you know, that kind of stuff! if anybody knows of like a reallly great band that you like just tell me!! i am getting really tired of some songs on my ipod and cant think of anymore to download =)

thanks

If you're into Panic! At The Disco, then you'll definitely love these bands:

- Hellogoodbye.
- Fall Out Boy.
- Jack's Mannequin.
- Taking Back Sunday.
- Senses Fail.
- Aiden.
- 30 Seconds To Mars.
- Rise Against.
- Death Cab For Cutie.
- The Postal Service
- A Static Lullaby.
- Coheed & Cambria.
- Motion City Soundtrack.

=] Those are some of my favorites.

♥TiNA

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my mom always hits me. i have scratch and bite marks all over me. how do i stop my mom from punching me? she always hurts me for no reason. i really don't know what to do. i'm scared. she never hits my sister. only me. and my fat pig sister always does the wrong things and i don't and nothing ever happens to her. help.

Call the cops on her. I realize you're scared, but that's child abuse. She could get in lots of trouble for that. So, call the cops & things will start to happen. You might get taken away, but it's for your best health & well being.

♥TiNA

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well one of my friends was raped the other day and it was horrible. well i want her second time to be more enjoyable and be with someone who really loves her and i do. well i dont know wut hit me, but i said i would give my virginity to make sure her second time was enjoyable and with some1 she loves and who loves her back. well now im having second thoughts. well she is really excited about it and i sorta am too, but i dont know. by the way i am 14 and she is 16. i just want to make her happy, and i only want to lose my virginity to either her or my g/f. well she lives in oklahoma and i live in illinois and she might come up here durring the summer so i need help. please help me and thanx in advance. should i do it with my friends or wait?

I'm sorry about your friend being raped, and that's a really tragic thing to happen to a girl because then she'll never trust anyone again. If she dates someone, she's gonna think they're gonna do the same thing, or when they try to have sex with each other, she's going to cry or have horrible flash backs, and she won't be able to go through with it.

Anyways, I would wait. I realize you wanna help your friend, but why lose your virginity at such a young age? I know you love her, but is it more than friend love, or just sister love. Because, if you don't love her in the way a man should, then you shouldn't lose your virginity to her. Wait til you're older, and lose it someone you know you'll spend the rest of your life with.

♥TiNA

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How can you still love another person if your goin out with another??
WHAT IS LOVE????

HELP ME:p


Love has no defintion, and it can't be described in words. And if you can describe love, you're not in it. Love is something you feel from your heart, and your soul. It's like a ghost that takes over you & never lets go. Love...is amazing.

To love someone else when you're going out with another is simple. Maybe you see that person more than the one you date, or maybe you just have more in common.

But when you're in love, you just know. It can sneak up on you when you least expect it.

Love's pretty tricky, but there's nothing else like it. And even though sometimes it hurts, it's also a very wonderful experience.

♥TiNA

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Hey. I have a couple of questions for myspace, i'm new to it.

1) How do you add a blog entry?
2) How do you add icons from photobucket or pictures to your myspace page, not the area where you upload em'.
3) Know any myspace layout websites? Thanx.
4) Anything else to make my myspace funky . =D

Thank you!! ♥

1 - For adding blogs, on the front page where it says "Hello, "yournamehere"!" It says View Profile & Blog. Click blog, then click "Post New Blog" & type away. =]

2 - For the icons, if you have a photobucket, save them to there. Then, in whatever column you want them in, type in this code { img src="properties url here" } [Use the sideways v's, and remove the spaces. Where it says "Properties URL here", right click the icon, get the properties link & paste it there.

3 - www.createblog.com is an amazing site for Myspace Layouts. They have layouts for Xanga, Myspace, Livejournal & all that other stuff. =]

4 - Go on google & type in Myspace Tweaks, and it'll come with lots of sites that have cool things to do to your myspace.

&TiNA;

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Okay so I used to cut myself, but I've gotten somewhat better now. I have gym tomorrow and the uniform is a t-shirt. I don't want anyone to see the scars/scabs on my arms and make a big deal. Can anyone tell me how to cover my arms in gym, without being really obvious? Please don't tell me to get help for cutting myself, I am in the process of doing so. Thanks so much, I'll rate high.

Well, you could always wear a long sleeve shirt under, or just let them show.

I'm also in the process of getting help for my cutting, and I know what it's like to wanna hide from everyone when you were short sleeves.

I mostly wear hoodies to hide them, but I can't hide who I am. Cutting is something cutters can't help. If you don't cover it, just let them stare. It might feel odd, and you might wanna hide it, but who cares what they think.

But, like others said, wear a long sleeve shirt under.

&TiNA;

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ok i am 13 female and i am very mature for my age. i mean mentally and physically. when it comes to actually having sex i dont want to do it but i love to masturbate. i was wondering how do i control my "needs" to masturbate? if i was to get caught i would be in sooooo much trouble. so please help me contain my urges.
thanks in advance. i rate high for good answers.

K, what I don't understand is why you would get in trouble. It's completely healthy & natural. Most girls do it. Anyways, when you feel the urge to; do something else. You can do it, just don't make it a habit.

&TiNA;

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what are good foods to eat when you're on your period?, cus im not too sure..and i wanted to know.thanks.. ill rate..

Eat anything but chocolate. And stay away from caffiene. Caffiene & chocolate make the cramps worse.

&TiNA;

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What's a blogring?

It's a group that people join because they like or believe the same thing. Kind of like a cult.

&TiNA;

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Okay so i'm dating this guy named Brett.. and all he ever does is talk about himself and i cant stand it. like i was upset one night about me missing my dad(( he passed away 2 months ago and we were close)) and hes like your life isent bad... and im like yeah okay.. and he was like what im like i miss my dad and hes like well i miss my dad too who knows where he is((he moved to a diff. state)) im sure my life is worse than yours. im like yeah thanks. w/e... and all i ever hear about is himself and it drives me insane i mean cant one thing be about me ..

Dump him. =[ He's selfcentered & selfish. If all he ever thinks about is himself & that's all he ever talks about, then he's a pretty big jerk who doesn't deserve to have a girlfriend. Just dump him, because that's not what you need.

Sorry for the loss of your father.

&TiNA;

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my Granny told me that my mom dosn't care about me what should I do?

Live with someone who does. Or get a boyfriend, they'll care lots about you.

&TiNA;

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should your boyfriend/girlfriend come before your best friend?

please explain too ♥ thanks.

Not at all. Friends are always there, and boyfriends/girlfriends come & go.

&TiNA;

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OK, so I have this friend Jassy. And she is making a huge mistake. She met a guy over the internet and started dating him. He, of course, lives on the other side of the country. And, being the idiot she has always been, is meeting with him over the summer. Now, if you are willing to travel 3,000 miles across country like he is, you are not 14 like he says he is.

Therefore, my friend, Jessica, and I are trying to convince her not to meet him. Jassy thinks she's safe and can trust him but she can't. Jessica felt the same about her neighbor and he molested her. Her neighbor is someone she's always known. Imagine what someone my friend doesn;t even know could do to her. Jassy keeps saying it can't happen to her. She's just being so ignorant!! What should I do? She can get extremely hurt. Sorry this is long, but my friend is putting herself in danger!

Tell her parents. She's putting herself in so much danger.

She might be mad at you for a while, but you're saving her from being possibly raped and/or killed from an online predator.

Good luck!

&TiNA;

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I'm 17 years old and i dropped out of school and i dont have a job and i reallly want one i aplied every where and no one has CALLED ME!! All i do is sit here al day getting yelled at by my mom because i dont have a job!! But im trying!! im so depressed im just here all day and we need money so bad were almost evicted ive gained so much weight since ive been home ive been in the hospital before for trying to kill myself and i have cut marks all over my body im about to jump over the EDGE!! and i have a physicall comming up and if my doctor see's those marks im right back at the psych ward:( how do i cover those marks??

I really need some advice thanx

Well, don't take this in a mean way, but you shouldn't have dropped out. That's like saying "I quit..& I'm a quitter." Or that you just flat out give up. And I'm guessing you live in the US. If so, you should know how hard it is to get a job without a high school diploma. No one will hire if you don't have it. There are barely any jobs who do, and if you find one, you're insanely lucky. As for gaining weight. Eat healthier, and exercise. Go out running, or go to a indoor pool & swim. Hell, if you can, join the YMCA! Also, for your marks, use cocoa butter. It fades them & makes them less noticable. But please, get back in school, or you'll never get a real job.

&TiNA;

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Me and my friend (lets call her ellie) are both 13, we both wanted to get the same job but her mum already knew people who worked there so she got ellie a job and now they dont want any more workers. The thing is, ellie will now get about £25 a week from her job plus 8 quid pocket money and the fact that her parents buy her things all the time. I only get a fiver a week, and although you probably think i'm just jealous, what i get annoyed about is the fact that i'll say i really want something (mostly clothes and accessories) and that i'm gonna save up for it, but after ive said that, she goes and buys it for herself straight away cos shes got the money to do it. Then, once ive saved up, if i buy the top or whatever it always looks like ive copied HER so i dont usually get the things i want or i do and then get accused of copying, please help, how can i get more money, and stop her buying things straight after ive said i like them?

Get a job by yourself. Babysit if you have to. And when you like something, don't tell her about it, because then she'll buy it. But then again, if you buy it and she likes it, she might buy it too. But still, when you get a job, buy your stuff & be happy. And don't tell her what you like anymore. She's gonna constantly copy.

&TiNA;

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Hey there. Well ill get straight to it. Im 14 years old, and im a devoted christian. Thing is i was born into christianity but my family are backsliders so now im back into church. Before church i dressed..sorta punk (i really dislike labels) anyways when i became christian, i somehow became involved with rap? because of some of the boys at my church. *bad influences* but now im back to my normal self liking everything i like..but i dont know how i want to be anymore! I have to wear skirts all the time..i like this guy that goes to a dif church..and he doesnt seem to like either..ugh im so confused. anyone who took the time to read this and reply, i def. will rate high.

Well, I don't believe in God or stereotypes. I dress how I want. If I feel like dressing in Aero, I'll do it. If I wanna dress like a gangster, then I'll do that too. If I wanna dress punk, I will. You should be able to wear whatever you want. And who wants to wear skirts all the time? I mean, when you have your period, you'd wanna be in sweats & a hoodie. I know I would. I can't stand wearing skirts when I'm gonna be on my period. Anyways, dress how you want, and whoever calls you a poser or doesn't like it can go fuck themselves because they don't have to deal with it. I'm that way. I do what I want when I want, and if people don't like it too bad. I'm not gonna change for anyone but myself.

&TiNA;

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