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My name is Kristen, and I'm seventeen years old.

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I am 14 and i just started going out with this guy 2 1/2 weeks ago.. he lives like 30 mins away and hes a total jock so we don't really get to hang out much... so when I have him over I want him to enjoy it with me do u think 14 is to young to be giving head? some of my friend think it is but I don't..

i'd give it some time. you probably don't know him very well at only 2 1/2 weeks. try doing something else rather than "doing stuff" so soon

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My life is full of sadness,hatred,and sorrow.
My life is full of lonleyness and pain.
It's full of people who care and love me.
It's full of people who hate and despise me.
They pick on me cause of my
skin,hair,personality,figure,and how i carry my-self.
They don't like me cause im diffrent.
I have no true friends.
I have no one who is there for me.
I don't know what true love feels like.
I don't know how it feels to really care for someone.
I don't know how some one can care for me.
When all i do is bring people hatred,and stress.
I don't know what my purpose of being here really is.
Is it to bring people pain.
Or am i just here to take up space.

i love it. keep on writing, you have a talent. i wish i did

xo, Kristen

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me n my boyfriend are going to different highschools and i really think hes going to find someone new... What should I do? should i dump him...or what? its going to be really hard

how strong is your relationship??? if you guys truly love each other, the relationship will be able to withstand going to different high schools.
take into consideration how you feel. will you want to find a new guy to hang out with?? will you be able to stand a more separated relationship??? best wishes!!! send me something if you need more help

xox Kristen

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ok my friend always eats lean pockets and she is like so tiny usally she is fat so lean pockets are all she eas so do you think that lean pockets are healty?
so is it healthy ?

just cuz they say lean pockets, doesn't mean they are that great for you. she should be eating a healthy three meals a day. i don't think she's gonna get a proper serving of the food pyramid from lean pockets

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OK. So I had a dentist appointment this morning and my mom, dad, and brother were all working. So, my dad called my neighbor 'Don' to ask if he could take me to the dentist. He said it was fine and he was happy to do the favor. I could have rode my brothers bike there if I absolutely HAD to...but I wasn't thrilled when my mom suggested the idea. My mom just called and said she was embaressed when she found out that 'Don' had driven me there and back. I don't like it when people are mad at me and now I feel guilty and my happy mood just went to bad. Am I being selfish or is my mom over reacting?

there's no reason to be upset. your mom might be overreacting a little, but if Don had no problem with it, i think it's OK. it's probably a matter between your parents

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Ok well in the past year things have gotten really really bad for me! Me and my parents are constantly fighting ans when ever were suppose to have "quality" time we ALWAYS get into an argument!So ive been starting to cut myself! everytime i start to cry i bring myself to cut my arms up! how can i stop doing this to my self?

try visiting a counselor. a guidance counselor at school can help suggest one. your visit will be confidential. talk to someone to get out your feelings. write in a journal and just let everything out instead of cutting. best wishes. please send me a message or IM meif you need anything else. i'm here to help!

xox Kristen

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muh dad manages the money around the house... my mom used to... my dad i think hez saving ^ 4 sumthin he wantz cuz he does stuff like that. ive told my mom already she thinks the same thing. shez not gunna do anything soon cuz i dont think she wants to handle the money n pay the bills cuz itz to tiring for her. im not getting the stuff i need like new clothes, shoes etc. n even food were like ruffing it on food. this week we went over like a dollar for our money cuz we only have a certain amount according to my dad. wut do i do to solve this? itz oviously a big problem. he acts like the money my mom n he makes is all his n he desides if he wants to give her money to go shopping or sumthing. hope u guys understand n u can help me.

thats a hard one. i'd suggest start babysitting because at 13, you're growing and you need clothes and shoes. try to buy some of your own stuff. tell your mom how you're feeling. this is probably a matter between your parents because it has to do with your parents money and financial situation. best wishes. please send me a message or IM me if you need anything else. i'm here to help!

xox Kristen

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I know it was wrong but i had sex wit my bf...the problem is i did it wit out a condom...he did not cum inside me but im really scared that im preg...its only been like 2-3 weeks since i did that..im so scared and idk what to do..i cant tell ne one well i can just not my family..im waiting for my period to start..it will start the end of this month..someone please help or tell me about preg like the signs and symtoms i really need help on it cuz its scaring me..

i guess you should probably go to planned parenthood. they can test you for STDs and you can see if you're pregant. best wishes. send me a message if you need anything else. i'm here to help!

xox Kristen

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HeY ! well im 14 and i weigh 86pOunDz or sumfin liek that .. buh i know its around 80 is that good enuff? im scared that if its not .. then something mite happen . buh u know i eat ALOT !! i just dont gain weight .. and im reeely skinny ;) hehe .. soo yehhh heLp?

xOxox maya xOXx

if your healthy and you eat properly and don't starve youself, you're OK. people just have different body types

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I MAJORLY NEED HELP! Ok heres the story: Some of my friends (4) are going to Crazy Donkey (a dance club) 2nite and they invited me to go!! The one problem is I don't know how to ask my mom if i could go b/c it would be my first time going to a club. When I asked her previous times she was unsure and said she would think about it but those times I never made a plan to go but now I did. So what should I say to her? I never did anything to make my parents not trust me or anything like that i mean jeez im a high honor student lol I just don't know how to approach her with this info... She gets home from work later 2nite but I also wanna know is it okay to call her at work?

it depends on her job if you can call her at work. tell her that you are responsible enough to handle a club. say that u will call her if you are having any trouble. tell her you'll be with your friends the whole time. make sure someone has a cell phone. good luck. send me a message if you need anything else. i'm here to help!

xox Kristen

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Ok my boy friend iz at camp in maine he has been there since um.. the 10th of july n i love him so........... freak'n much ,but im scared he iz gunna meet sum girl there that's prettier funnier and all that stuff!!! i kno i should trust him cuz we have been togetha for almost 9 months n i trully ove him to death but im not to sure i can trust him cuz he iz a HUGE flirt!!! Do u think i can trust him not to do n e thing wid anotha girl????????

-X- Caitlin -X-

if he likes you, he won't go after another girl. and if he does, then he isn't worth your time. no guy who cheats is worth your time. you deserve better. best wishes!!! send me something if you need more help

x3 Kristen

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I was just in Atlanta, Georgia and my mom and I met up with her friend who she just made when she went to school. (she took a college course) And just my luck she had a son. He was soo nice and we had the best time. I dont think he knew that I really liked him but I didnt want to ruin the relationship by telling him. Now I'm back home. He has my number and my sn and its a killer waiting for him. I think he's away on a Youth Trip this week so I wont expect anything but last week he could've gone online or called. And calling him might look way too desperate, so without being the one to call him first what on earth do I do. B/c it's not one of those things where I need to get over him.... bc there is no reason too, he was never mean I just havent talked to him....

you should make the first move! call him or IM him and talk to him. when you feel the time is right, tell him u like him. if you both ended up having a good time, he might like you too!!!
it will not make you seem too desperate. nothing will happen until someone makes the first move. maybe HE'S nervous. best of luck!!! tell me what happens. and feel free to IM me or tell me if you need something else.

xox Kristen

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i want to get a cellphone, but my parents wont let me! they say because i dont keep my room clean for more than a week, so im not a neat freak, why does that stop me from getting a cellphone?! & i know i dont do as much work around the house as i should, but sometimes im just to occupied. & since im only thirteen, i cant get a job in order to pay for my cellphone, HOW CAN I CONVINCE THEM?!

you have to keep your room clean. this shows them that you are responsible! start doing more chores around the house and clean your room. this will show them that you are a responsible person and you can handle having a cell phone. good luck!!!! tell me what happens

xox Kristen

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ok well i am 5' 5" amd weigh bout 130. i dont think i am fat but i wanna keep in shape for sports ect. itd also be easier to get in shape now then later. i RELE try to work out and eat healthy but i can never stick with sumthin long enough to see results. we have so much tempting food and i never get around to my work outs is there ne tips ppl have to stick with sumthin? thx

**i could also use some good ab work outs too**

as for the staying in shape: eat healthy foods. exercise everyday. do this by setting a goal for yourself

as for the tempting food- ask your parents to put the junk somewhere you can't find it without really looking for it. explain that you want to keep in shape

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everyone is talkin about being a moderator and i do not no what it is !! cuz i might wanna be one or sumthin ! IM me AIM my s.n is d 0 r k y me x3

please i wanna kno really bad

- RaChEl

i just IMed you.. :-D.. hope i'm right

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well theres this boy that i really really like and i have for a long time....alomst a year now and we dated for about a week and i dont exactly remember why we broke up...but anyways i think im in love with him he is like my best friend we hang out alot and hes kinda like a friend with benifits cuz we kiss and everything...well now he has a girlfriend and shes one of my good friends and i know they will go out for a long tim but i rally love him and i cant tell him and i dont know what to do :( help plez

i'm afraid you just have to get over him. i would normally suggest talking to him, but he's going out with your best friends and you don't want to jeopardize your relationship over a guy.
it will be hard to get over him. write all your thoughts in a journal. have a sleepover with your friends and just vent.
if he ever does break up with her, don't jump right on him. they both probably need time to get over it. when the time is right, ask your friend if she still has feelings for him and if it's Ok to go out with him. don't hesitate to send me a message or IM me if you need more help

xox Kristen

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ok i was talking to my best friend online today and like a week ago she went to her friends cabin and she did some bad stuff there n got in trouble and she rilly changed dramatically and it wasnt good like lately shes been rilly mean to people including me and she was always telling me people hate her now.. and they kind of do becuz shes been sorta mean to them and i was so sick of it and i told her that shes totally changed and it wasnt so good and i told her not to take it the wrong way.. and she did and she like is super mad at me now and i feel sooooooo bad and i rilly dont want her to be mad at me i like rilly hate myself now and i totally regret ever saying all that stuff to her and i wish i could take it all back and now she like wont talk to me and stuff all cuz i told her the truth and i told her i missed the old her and stuff and i rilly dont want her to be mad at me i mean ya i know im such a mean person and i hate myself for wut i said to her and i dont want her to be mad at me how to i get to talk to her again and tell her im super sorry i mean i told her im sorry but shes still mad n stuff wut should i do? HELP ME PLEEZ ILL RATE U FOR THIS!!!

i think it was a good idea that you talked to her. she needed to know how she was treating you. try and talk to her. tell her that you miss her, and you wish things could be like they were. if she's still mad at you, it might be time to find a new friend. you don't deserve a friend that treats you this way. best wishes, and don't hesitate to send me a message or IM me if you need help.

xox Kristen

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Someone told me i was..well to put it nicely..really fat and..i havent eaten for 6 hours and my stomach is killing me and ive been pressuring myself to get tons of exercise and it hurts...but i donno what to do! and i really need help!

please don't do that. that has serious health effects and you are going to hurt yourself. if you want to lose weight, you have to eat healthy foods. starving yourself won't help.
to lose weight, you need to start eating heathy foods. don't eat junk, and cut carbs. eat the proper three meals a day with healthy snacks in moderation. start exercising but you don't want to do so much that you're hurting. do crunches, go running, go on walks, dance, run on the treadmill. these are ways to healthily lose weight and trust me: it will work. please, if you need more help, feel free to send me a message. i'm here to help. don't hesitate to talk to me.

xox Kristen

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Hi my name is Brandon I like this girl she is fine ok and so I asked her out she said yes and her mom said I was to old for her what should I do??

well its understandable but tell your mom that your not planning to do anything wrong and that age is just a number. good luck

K

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I have a guy friend who acts in movies. (no names) and he asked me out. I don't know if I should, I like him but I am just don't want to be known as HIS girlfriend instead of my name. I don't know if too many celebs date normal people like me and how people take and what the press and whatnot would say. What should I tell him?

talk to him. tell him your concerns. other than that, i'd say go for it. if you really like this guy, then don't listen to what people say. best wishes. send me a message if you need any help, i'm here to listen.

xox Kristen

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