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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

right now i really dont like the way i look...

i was wondering if you guys could tell me what you think of me HONESTLY!! i dont want to hear like pity answers (ill rate well even if you say im hideous!!)

heres some random pics of me from facebook:
http://photos-048.ak.facebook.com/ip002/v60/162/44/1223791587/n1223791587_30189048_5121.jpg
http://photos-101.ak.facebook.com/ip002/v54/74/80/1223791338/n1223791338_30173101_3546.jpg

so can anybody tell me what they seriously think of me?
and make up hints?? or tips??
THANKS FOR THE ADVICE!!

You're so pretty! And I'm being 100,000,000,000 percent honest! You honestly don't need any makeup. Eyeliner & mascara is good though. =)

If anyone tells you that you're not pretty, don't listen to them. Chances are they're jealous, blind or stupid.

♥T!NA

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HEY. I heard of this really weird thing in school the other day. I'm embarassed to ask it. But here it goes, Can u REALLY get pregnant by eating somones feces?

I don't think so. Kids make up these stupid things & it's rediculous.

♥T!NA

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weird question lol again..
but for a girl, whats a cherry, like i know what it is but what does it do?

It's your hymen. It doesn't really do everything except break when pressure's put on it.

♥T!NA

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13/f.
Warning: Very long.

In school I play it cool, when I'm by my family I'm neutral, but when I'm by myself or talking with my boyfriend I completely loose it. My entire family has a long line of deep depression for the females on my mom's side. All of my family members take anti-depressents. My mom, my aunt, grandmother, cousins, my great-grandmother used to take them before she died. She was crazier than anyone could ever imagine - she'd spent five years in a mental institution. I my self have been in one for exactly 8 days before they released me because, just like I do in school and in front of my family, I play it like nothing's wrong.

I've begun to continually cut myself. I know I need to quit. Half of me wants to quit, because I know it's what's right, but the other half loves it too much to get rid of it. It's like I've become a dependant on it - or on my boyfriend, also. When I'm constantly talking to him, I'm perfect. Happy as happy can be, but the second he has to go to deal with his own life I fall apart. I need to depend on myself to make me happy, but I can't seem to find the strength too. I don't want to. I want to depend on someone or something. But I can't; I need to find a solution.

I've been diagnosed with clinical depression and have tried just about every anti-depressent out there or all different doses - none have ever worked for me. I currently take 30 miligrams of the generic brand of Prozac, along with Adderall for my ADD and Seraquil for my acclaimed "bipolar" disorder I've also been diagnosed with - even though I don't have mood swings. The only different moods I have are mask neutral and depressed.

I've tried overdosing in an attempt to kill myself three times. I've tried shooting myself twice, and I've tried countless of times to kill myself by means of slicing any main vains - I want help, I need help, but I can't get it from the "professionals" because all they'll do is stuff me in a white jacket and into a room with squishy walls. I don't want that. I want help. Actual help, but I don't know how to get it. I'm just so overwhelmed. I want to be able to get on with my life. I want to be able to be a kid while I still have the chance, to be able to laugh with my friends and have it not be fake. I want to be able to act stupid and mess up while it still doesn't matter.

I'm not sure exactly what my question is, except for a cry for help.

Wow. I truly have come at a loss for words here. Anyways...

You said you've been to professionals, so I'm guessing you mean doctors? Have you ever seen a psychiatrist or a therapist before? Talking to someone always helps with stuff like this. If you don't like the idea of talking to some strange adult about it, find a close friend you trust your life with, or your boyfriend. You obviously can't talk to anyone in your family about it, since they suffer from the same thing as you. But they will know what it's like. I do, as well.

If you ever feel like cutting yourself, I would suggest using the rubberband method. It didn't work for me, but it works for some people. Open up a livejournal. Venting your feelings that way always helps. Personally, whenever/when I felt/feel like killing myself, I listen to music. There's a band called The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus, and they have continuously; through music; saved my life. There's been so many things I've been dying to do to myself but haven't because their lyrics & their music made me stop.

Also, have you thought about what you're missing out on if you take your life? Look at it this way, you're leaving your boyfriend, your friends, your family...Do you know how upset they're going to be if you take your life, or just die in general? Their depression is gonna get worse. And they're not gonna be able to handle it. I think what causes your depression is the fact that you're around it so much, and the fact that it's hereditary on your mother's side of the family. If you were in a positive environment, maybe it'd help. Honestly though, I can't exactly help you since I'm not a trained professional, and I don't know how to deal with this, but I'm trying the best I can.

Anyways, if you'd like someone to talk to, I'm always here. My screenname is on my column, but I'd need your's first because I have a privacy where I need to add someone first before I can talk to them, so if you'd like, leave your sn in my inbox. But, talk to your parents about seeing a psychiatrist or somebody who knows how to deel with your situation. I hope things end up turning out for the good & that your life turns out better. It sucks to have depression, I know.

♥T!NA

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ok this guy likes one of my friends and he won't ask her out can someone please give me some tips to give to him?

I heard asking people out through text messages & AIM is the cool thing now.

No, seriously. Tell him to ask him out before another guy does.

♥T!NA

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Which is more dangerous belimic or anorexia?

They're equally dangerous, & they'll both kill you eventually. Don't do either.

♥T!NA

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Do you think high school students should have to do community service to graduate and why?

It looks good on a college application, so yes.

♥T!NA

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well i need help with this,
i'm 14 and a chick
my boyfriend just broke up with me about 2 days ago and i still love him sooooo much. like you guys have no idea.
but i dont know what to do, i want to get over him but it seems impossible.
and it was such a rash decision too.
about 3 days before he was telling me how much he loved me and that i was pretty and all these reasons why he loved me, but then he just broke up with me.
he says its because he cant handle the pressure of being in a relasionship, and i told him i wouldnt pressure him at all.

we had been dating for 4 months by the way.
help would realllyy be appreciated. and i'll love you forever =]

Well, he just broke up with you 2 days ago, so I don't exactly expect you to be over it just like that. You weren't dating for very long, but you're young, so 4 months is a while in your eyes.

Anyways, if you wanna get over it, just don't think about it. If it's gonna be hard being his friend, then don't be his friend. Honestly though, time heals everything. And it might take a while to get over him. Sometimes you'll think you're over him, and then you'll see him & realize that you're not.

Just be patient. You'll be better in no time. =)

♥T!NA

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okay.
i'm doing a paper on teenage stress.
more focused "how teenage stress relates to teen drug and alocohol abuse"
meaning, do we drink when stressed.

& id like to do a simple, anonymous survey @ school. just type a paper, with all yes/no or 'fill in the bubble' questions.

k, here's where you come in
one] do you think this is a good idea
& two] what sort of questons should i put

i was thinking something like
when feeling stressed, do you have have an urge to drink alcohol; yes/no
& then they can circle one, you know?

any help would be great ! thanks :]

- What stresses you out?
- Do you turn to alcohol/drugs when stressed?
- If so, how many drugs have you taken?
- How often do you drink?

Those are the only ones I could think of, but your idea is good & I would definitely do it. =)

♥T!NA

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Hi I'm 15 years old female and a sophomore in high school. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1 year and 3 months and I love him sooo much and he is like perfect. But I have absolutely no idea what to give him for valentines day... he is always so nice about getting me what I want. But he never tells me what he wants so I never know what to give him. And I want it to be really sweet, but my mind is just drawing blanks whenever I think about it. Thanks :-)

Talk to him about it. Honestly, I'd make him a CD of all the songs that make you think about him when you hear him. Make him a nice dinner or whatever & go for a walk.

♥T!NA

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is there ANY CHANCE of getting pregnant if you give head? like anyy chance at all? because i know its stupid, but im just worried.

Unless his sperm has superman abilities & can go down to your vag, no.

♥T!NA

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I really need a hobby.What hobbies could I take up?

- Collect things.
- Play an instrument.
- Draw.
- Write.
- Cook.
- Take Pictures.
- Landscape Photography.

Those are the best I could think of, since I do most of those when I'm bored.

♥T!NA

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22/f

Ok a while back I heard some of my guy friends discussing something they didn’t want me hearing. My friend *Bob was asking my other guy friend if he had ever gotten his "red wings". If you don’t know what that is don’t worry i didn’t know at first either. I found out it is when I guy has sex with a girl ON her period. That is just sick! Why are guys determined to receive their "red wings"? It seems so immoral. Thanks every. You really give me great advice when i need it

Guys are all about scoring, and they figure they should always be hitting it. It's just...a guy thing. Not to mention disgusting.

♥T!NA

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Me and my bf dated for 21 months and then we broke up because we needed to work things out (hes in his first yr of college 45 min. away) and im a jr. we fought alot so we thats what were working on. Anyways i have a formal dance coming up on friday and he told me he'd come but now he's not. I know this for a fact cuz someone told me and he hasnt called me yet to tell me that he isnt coming. How do i react? Im very hurt by this and its in 4 days and he hasnt called yet to tell me this....

i really want him to go

and please dont say well maybe he is going and that person is wrong. cuz i know that person is telling the truth

what do i say? how do i react?

I know it's upsetting because you heard it from someone else & not him, so I'd be upset. Don't sit around waiting for him to call you, because if he hasn't done it now, chances are; he's not going to at all. Call him and talk to him about it calmly. If you have all your things for the formal [dress/shoes], ask someone else you had in mind. You always need backup.

♥T!NA

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17/M and wandering "What is the average length of the penis?" I've read many different things on the internet but I'm still not sure. So if I could get a few opinions then that would be awesome. Thank you very much for your time.

Anywhere from 5-7 inches is average. =)

♥T!NA

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what age should you have sex at. :)

There is no specific age you should have sex at. The only time to have sex is when you know that you're completely ready for it. If you know the consequences & how to use protection, I'd go for it. But also, make sure it's with someone you love & make sure you're completely ready. If you're scared, or uncomfortable, you shouldn't be having sex.

But personally, anyone under 18 shouldn't be having sex. And if they're going to, tons of protection should be used.

♥T!NA

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my uncle's girlfriend really bothers me. I just don't get why she would control my mom then she makes my uncle different to me. It bothers me and I can't seem to stop it. She just wants everyone to hate me. She is going around each family member like a game then she tries to make the ones closest to me strongly put me away.

Ignore her, or do the same thing back to her. Talk to her if you think she'll listen. If not, put her in her place.

♥T!NA

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Last year, I was best friends with this kid, Michael. Since August, he's only said maybe five words to me. PLUS he lied to me during that time and it's not just one of those little lies. He posted a bulletin on myspace that was something like, "UGH! I HATE MY MOM. JUST CAUSE I HAVE FRIENDS THAT ARE OLDER THAN ME DOESN'T MEAN I CAN'T HANG OUT WITH THEM! IT DOESN'T F***ING MATTER IF I SMOKE!" A week after that he called me and said, "God, I can't believe she broke up with me. I hate her!!!! I DON'T EFFING SMOKE," and I said, "I know, I know." Now I'm pretty sure he lied to me cause I read his comment on his friend's myspace and it said, "So you got some "candy" for friday," which might mean it's more than just smoking. Anyways, I have an elective with him (PA) and he's been staring at me. (Last year, he liked me but he'd always deny it when my friends would ask him. But one of my friend, his best friend, told me that he did. Plus -- he basically asked me out once or was implying that he wanted to go to the movies with me.) He has a girlfriend though, so I'm not screwing up their relationship. Today he looked like he was waiting for someone and as soon as I walked out, he followed me and was making some weird sound trying to get me to look at him. Last year when he liked me, he did things like this. I'm still mad at him and he knows it, so why won't he just talk to me or at least apologize? And what's with him staring at me and stuff?

He probably still does like you, so that's he stares at you. Well, he knows you're mad at him, so he's probably hesitant to talk to you because he might think you're gonna bite his head off. Or maybe he's too shy to do it.

Confront him.

♥T!NA

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is it normal for your stomache to still be hurting the day after you drank alcohol?

Yeah. It usually means you've got a hangover. Headaches are normal too.

If those last for longer than a day after drinking, I'd see someone about it.

♥T!NA

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I have a lot of time on my hands and am looking for some good books to read. I am not sure what to read though. I like books about teenagers going through tough times, kind of books that a teenage girl can relate to. I liked Crank and Speak. So anything kind of like either of those two books would be great. Thank you.

I liked NIGHT. It's about a boy & his experiences with living through the Holocaust. Speak was really good. Go Ask Alice is a really good book. I'm sure you'd like that one. To Kill A Mockingbird was alright. But my favorite book had to have been Keeping You A Secret. =)

♥T!NA

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