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I am getting my wisdom teeth pulled in a couple of days and I am really scared! If you have had yours out...
-does it hurt
-is going under weird, what does it feel like
-should i be scared
Thanks
Hal (link)
it doesn't hurt....if they put you to sleep and they numb it to. the numbing feels weird but it doesnt hurt.




I have to do a huge project on basically what I want to be when I'm older and I have NO idea.

I mean I'm interested in owning my own fashion botique but that doesn't seem original at all and it doesn't spark my interest as much as it should.

So does anyone have any ideas? (link)
i'd need to know more about you first, so if any of these don't help then ask me a question w/ more specifics in my inbox.



you said you wanted to do a fashion boutique,you could be a....
-designer
-photographer(if you like to take pictures,like take pictures of ppl modeling clothes or something like that.(

-sry i can't really think right now ! :(

hope i helped anyways! :D


well im a 16/f and i im indian which means im not allowed to date. but i decided to get a boyfriend and i've been dating this guy for like a little over a month. and im not sure if i should tell my parents because my mom always says they'll find out eventually the things i do. so yah should i tell them? (link)
hey

no. don't tell them right away.

what if you tell your parents and then soon after something happens and you guys break up? total waste. and your parents will have issues trusting you.

if they get suspicious, only tell your mom. moms seem to understand this stuff better?

btw your parents say that but they pretty much never do find out.. kids get away with a lot of things :]

hope i helped, girl and good luck with your bf


My boyfriend just got a car. It's a manual. He knows how to drive it fine, but he can't shift into first gear fast enough and that causes him to roll backwards if he happens to be stopped on a hill. He's worried that since people always stop basically right on his ass, he's going to roll backwards into them. Any tips on how to not roll backwards in a situation like that? I mean I know if he did roll back and hit someone it would be the other person's fault for stopping so close, but it would be nice to avoid the problem altogether. Please and thanks! (link)
the second answer here is the only good one. just leave it in first and take your foot off the brake and put it onto the gas while letting the clutch out. done and done.


Okay so this is really ackward but i'm going to have sex with my bf of 1 year and we are both ready but like i've seen playboy magazines with girls with no hair below and that is totally not the case for me because i'm latin!...so like what do i do should I get a wax, or go natural? or i have no idea about waxes and how much hair is considered normal! Please help. (link)
hey

i dont think guys like hair down there, so i'd definitely either shave or get a wax.

i prefer shaving not only because it's more convinient, but it's wayyy cheaper and LESS PAINFUL than getting a wax!

some guys like it bald, but that could lead to infections. but it's really rare. so your bf might get more turned on if it's all gone.

this is what you do - throw out your old shaving blade because dull blades actually lead to more cuts and nicks than sharp blades. after you get a sharp blade, put a LITTLE shaving cream at the top of where your pubic hair starts (not like.. in your vagina...) and shave to the side. the SIDE. not in the same direction and not in the opposite direction.

after most of the hair is gone, put a little more shaving cream (again, at the top, not .. in your vagina) and shave in the opposite direction.

DO NOT OVERSHAVE. you can easily get a nick if you shave in places with no hair.

anyway- i dont know much about waxes either so i seriously suggest shaving it.

alsooooo- if you shave a few times in the opposite direction and you get several cuts, just continue shaving to the side. it cuts the hair (just not as close) and it's not painful.

if you get bumps after you shave for some reason, just put a little moisturizer on (DO NOT PUT IT IN BETWEEN YOUR LIPS!)


14/f
my boyfriend and i were fighting last weekend, i was feeling upset so i texted my friend who i know and he is a boy, but my boyfriend has never met him. when my boyfriedn came to apologize we were ok until he wanted to read the messages on my cell. i deleted them. he can't trust me anymore.today we had the same problem!! but i deleted the messages..he thinks i am playing him but i am not..!! so herres the situation i am in:: my bf now has a problem in trusting me because he thinks i am playing him and i luv him and i don't want to loose him.how can i let him know the truth or something???sorry if this is confusing (link)
hey

i totally agree with the girl under me- a real trusting boyfriend wouldn't want or have any reason to read your texts!

if you love him and he knows it, that's all that matters. if you tell him you love him and that you are not playing him / being a player, and he doesn't believe you, he's OBVIOUSLY insecure. i mean who does that? however if you tell him you love him .. etc etc and he does believe you, then he is a good boyfriend.

all that matters is that you find a way to tell him the truth. and if he doesn't believe it, it's his problem.

not yours.

hope i helped :]


I started playing volleyball and im on the team now. My friend (P) made it too and she's with 1 of her best friends. All the other girls on there I really dont even know them...and the problem is they are not friendly. They are nice and friendly to my friend (P) but not me. Im nice to them but alls they do is completely "ignore" me. Its very ah-nnoying. And everytime I go to practice I feel like a loser because not only are they not even talking to me my friend (P), she is getting all the attention because shes so sweet and shes totally leaving me out of it. So I feel like a pathetic loser now everyime I go to practice. Its Like everyone hates me. I love volley ball but I hate everyone on the team. What Should I do about this? Should I quit? (link)
hey

volleyball is a great way to stay in shape. if you really like volleyball, then play for the game; not for the people.

if they start being MEAN to you or HARASSING you, that's when you should quit. or at least let the coach or something know that they're doing that and it's not fair because volleyball is a team sport.

for now, i'd just live with it for a little while. and if it gets bad, quit. i'd also let my friend (P) know that i'm feeling that way so that she can help include me and talk to the other people and say "hey, this is my friend, ______! she's really sweet" you know? if she's a good friend, she'll try to introduce you guys.

i really hope i helped, and let me know how it goes?



Okay so this is really ackward but i'm going to have sex with my bf of 1 year and we are both ready but like i've seen playboy magazines with girls with no hair below and that is totally not the case for me because i'm latin!...so like what do i do should I get a wax, or go natural? or i have no idea about waxes and how much hair is considered normal! Please help. (link)
yea i wax... i like it better than shavnig because you dont get razor burn and it lasts longer. just get a brazilian bikini wax... it hurts, but after a few times it doesnt hurt as much! hair less is prefered by guys, but some like it hairrry haha


hey..well this is gunna sound nasty but sometimes i get rly horny and i wana hump somethin. but i dont know what to hump. ive tried pillows but they dont rly work for me got any other ideas? spraying water from my shower head feels great but i cant just stand in the shower forever!
plus*for a first time masturbater...how do i do it?
signed, am i crazy?? (link)
hey

okayyy well... i'm assuming youre a girl since you said you spray water from the shower head.

well whatever feels good for you! if fingering feels good then finger yourself... if putting your cell phone on vibrate feels good then do that...

i don't know what would feel good for you so just read this website for more info:

http://www.tiscali.co.uk/lifestyle/healthfitness/health_advice/netdoctor/000558.html

hope i helped :]


my cuzin said like this guy said BJ or something to someone and i was like umm what and apparently it means something that i do not know. could someone help me out


Thanks
(it might have been two other letters but i think it was BJ) (link)
bj= blowjob (which is oral)
hj= hand job (also known as handi)


Hey guys ..
Recently I was watching ITV and there was this guy Kevin Trudeau talking about his new book called, "Weight Loss Cure What 'They' Don't Want You To Know." I was wondering if you guys know someone who has, or have tried what his book tells you to do? Supposedly theres this British doctor who has found the 'cure' to weight loss. You can lose a lb. a day and it has been tested for 40 years, no bad side effects. The guy who wrote the book (not the founder of the cure) tried it and it works. He lost 45 pounds in 6 weeks and lots of celebrities and members of royal families have used it. I just wanted to know if this is for real? (link)
probabaly not. i think the best book you can buy about weight lost, is Paul Mcenna's (sp?) the guy who did that "i can make you thin" show on channel 4 i think. well yeah, he tells the truth, and its really amazing.


Guys - Do you like girls to shave 'down there', trim, or leave it? (link)
i wood want a girl that shaves down there if we were going to have oral sex, for obvious reasons. if the guy "really likes you, he wont mind" as people say....


so i like this guy...and we're kinda friends...like we talk online and stuff...but his computer broke...and i we were messaging yesterday..but idk..in person we barely ever talk...and i want to get closer to him and i know that i have to talk to him in person..but i just don't know what to say...i mean like even online and messaging..he ususally doesnt start conversations and he doesnt usually sound too interested...like one word answers..so how can i get closer to him? and if i talk to him in person..what should i say? (link)
Maybe he isn't good with words on the computer? Not many boys/men are.
So anyways Msg him and say hey are you busy this weekend? or whatever and say you'd like to go get something to eat orrrrr you could totally bowl him over and ask for him to come with you to pick out something for your boy "cousin" cause it's his birthday and you think he's a LOT like you and you need his advice!

If he says no well then he isn't worth it.
If he says yes then build it from that ;-) Whilst out, you could be getting ideas for presents to get HIM for his birthday

oh haha I kill me!!


ok so i find you to be the best on here when it comes to sex and so you'll probably get all of my sex questions just don't worry i'll still rate you.

i talked to my bf last night and we felt each other up like you said to and stuff and I felt some really really good ways to get him worked up,so thank you for that. And my real question is...what are the best kinds of roleplay to do?
which one's get your partner getting off more? how should i control the situation with watever im roleplaying...for example-nurse-be agressive with him...? (link)
I find Dominatrix to be the best one... that includes lots of tying up, you are in TOTAL CONTROL, basically all you do is talk dirty, whilst he is tied up, you can wear some sort of leather suit if you want to invest in one!
The Dominatrix is where you get to be aggressive!!! Thats why I find it best.


If nurse role play is what turns your guy on then this is how you drive him WILD:-

The Talk:- Stern but comforting
Clothing:- Well you know what a nurse wears?? Just wear lacy underwear or none if you so choose.
Action:- Push him and tongue bathing, ace bandages, rubbing alcohol, "making it stop hurting"... you could also use "sauces" as ointment etc... and LICK it off.. or if he wants to play doctor the same could go for him
You could also say ohhh does that hurt? and if he says yes you could kiss/lick/touch you know???

If you want to do the Dom role play :-
Sex Dice
Handcuffs
Blind Fold
Chair
And nakedness... basically you order him to do stuff and NEVER LET HIM TOUCH YOU till you have him REALLY hard!





when you ask a (public) question like this is appearing right now, can everyone see your username and like who asked the question?? or is it always anonymous and all you know is that they are a user? thanks! (link)
only level 2,3 and 4 can see the username, and theres only like 10 of them, but no one else can see.

http://www.advicenators.com/mod.php?mode=list


Does anyone know any movies or books about the holocaust that have a nazi officer who helps out holocaust victims? I already have the pianist. Also, i don't want a link unless it has my answer right there... i've been looking on other websites already. (link)
oscar schindler, read about him, watch the movie, done and done.


I have to write a paper on this movie and I am slightly confused.
Who is telling the story?
What parts are they narrating?
What do these characters represent?
How does the story of Kane symbolize the idea of paradise lost?
How does the story of Kane foreshadow post World War 2 America?

Any of these you can answer will be GREATLY appreciated. Thank you! (link)
watch the movie. if you have to ask who is doing what in the film you obviously didn't watch it. it's touted as one of the best films ever made. while i find it boring and trite and overrated i still watched it for film class and did my work on it. watch it, and pay attention to the film, you'll get all you need to know.


okay i reallllly likke this guy. When ever i think about him i smile and i get this weird feeling in my stomach, its not like butterflies though. He just makse me so happy =D. when ever i talk to him i feel like i can tell him everything and we are the only two people in the room or something, Its just such a great feeling :d. we hung out the other night with a couple of other people and it was SOOO fun. while two friends [ girl ] went off with there boyfriends, me my crush my best friend [girl] and my other fiend [boy] just stayed together, it was really great. Then my two friends left cus my friend thats a boy had to go get somethintg and they left me adn my crush alone, it was soo perfect, we talked and laughed, and flirtedd :-*! We even held hands for like a couple seconds! i almost dieddd. i could keep typing foreverrr (link)
hey

take this quiz.
http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=7096033965747642328

seriously. it will help youu.

it could be puberty, but girl don't get your hopes too high. that's the last thing you want cause he could easily hurt you and it WILL suck.

but surely enough you could be and get married and have lots of babies and live happily ever after :]

hope i helped


when you wear a tampon
and its about that time to pull it out


how is it supposed to look
im new at wearing them
so yeah

is it supposed to be like stretched out or kinda the same way you had it before you stuck it in except a little bigger and with blood !!


helpppp (link)
hey

it's supposed to look a little bigger, dark reddish due to the blood.

if it's the same size as when you put it in, and mostly white, then your period is probably over.

if it's a LOT bigger than before and REALLY red, you should keep changing it because you don't want to get an infection.


Female/13

I have this friend, and we have alot in common and have so much fun together. but latley we have been getting in alot of fights and we havent been talkng. Now we are talking again but it feels really owkward for some reason. And she is trying to get "in" with this other clique and it is really annoying. everytime i got to talk to her she says o have have to go talk to _____ from the other clique and stuff like that. It is really annoying and i dont know what to do. Should i talk to her (or try to at least) or should i just let her become frinds with them or what. I think i am a little jellous but i cant help it. WHAT SHOULD I DO!?

(link)
hey

wow. exact same thing is happening with me.

well, i can tell you what i did - i just stopped talking to her until she got her act together. i still say hi to her in the hallways and stuff but i keep my space.

yes, def. try talking to her but if she's still mean and doesn't change (like my friend) then just make some space. seriously. don't be friends with people who don't treat you with respect.

it's totally fine to be jealous. i was too until i realized that it just wasn't worth it anymore. let her do what she wants. if she was really your friend, she would listen to you when you tell her how you feel.

i hope i helped, and just please don't try to be friends with her if the "clique" is mean to you.. esp if you haven't done anything wrong. youre probably a wonderful smart beautiful girl who doesn't need drama and unnecessary people who keep bringing you down.

:]




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