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so about two weeks ago, i went to my friend sarah's house with another friend, rachel. sarah told me that her younger brother who is a freshman, adam, was going to be there and so was his friend, chris, who was also a freshman. im a sophmore, by the way. so it ended up that me, rachel, sarah, chris, and adam, all basically hung out the whole night and slept in the basement togethor and watched movies and stuff. me and chris basically flirted the entire time but at times i felt like he didnt like me, but i couldnt figure it out. so the next week i sort of liked him but i kind of let it go because i knew nothing would ever happen because he didnt like me. but then, exactly a week later, my friend sarah told me that chris really likes me and he said all of these things about me like, he thinks im really hot and that i have a good body and told my friend sarah that he really likes me. so when i found this out i was so happy because he finally really liked me and that made my day. like i was so so happy. and that day, he facebook imed me and asked for my number and it was fine. then that night he imed me again and we talked and he was flirting with me and it was good. by the way, i never got a text from him after he asked for my number that day. it was weird. but anyways, the next day, which was on monday, i was so excited to talk to him so i text him but he never answers. it said that he got the text. so i went on facebook and i waited for him to IM me, but he never did..he was on for at least 20 minutes while i was, and i never got an IM from him. so i IMed him and we talked, but, i dont really think i like what we talked about.. he asked me how far ive gone, and wanted me to give details and then he called me a bad girl..which im not. i tried to make conversation about casual things but once i did that he immediatly changed the subject and tried bringing up the subject of what i had told sarah about him. then he asked, you like me? and i said yeahh. and he said, its cool i dont know ill have to think about it though. so then i was like what do you mean? and hes like i dont know like going out or something and im like oh okay and hes like yeah i dont know tho its complicated and im like what..im confused, sarah told me you said things about me..and hes like, yeah that i like you and i do but its complicated right now i gotta go text me if you want so i text him and ask what he means and he says that hes too committed to basketball and acedemics right now. then i say ohh..well i dont get it like..and hes like basketball is everyday to 730 except sundays, but your really hot and i wanna have good times with you, but i dont know right now. and then im like is this because you like other girls from your school, because thats what sarah said.. and hes like no not at all ugh this is so bad by me its just complicated right now, but your really hot, not in a perverted way, your really hot. he kept calling me hot like at least 10 times, he mentioned me being hot. and then, i say, well i think you know what you want..and hes like, what? and im like ..like its your desicion, you know what you want. and then he says, i dont know i want u and ur body haha but its complicated right now. and then i said, what so you dont care about me, just my body? and then he said, woah woah woah no not at all, dont take it that way, but im telling you this right now im too committed to basketball right now and i dont think having a girlfriend is that good for me. and then i said, oh..are we still gonna talk. and he said, yeah sure i have no problem with that but i gotta go talk to you later peace. and then i said okay talk to you later. and the next day, i facebook IM him, but it said it didnt send it..so then i try again, but it says the same thing..then i see that it says ive written hey three times. and he writes hey after the third time, so i say oh im sorry for writing that three times. my computer said it didnt send, its doing that for some reason. and all he said was, k. then i say yeah . and he never answered.. so then i sign off because he definitly doesnt want to talk to me. im so confused, he told me he likes me and thinks im really hot then why is he ignoring me now and made it out like he broke up with me when really, we didnt even go out? no one else knows either i dont understand, what did i do..
Okay, I'm going to be honest.
This definitely doesn't sound good.
He wants you for your body - he said it himself. He is committed to other things, meaning he doesn't want to be committed to you - but he wants to have a bit of fun on the side.. hence asking how far you've gone.. which is hinting if you will go far with him.
You shouldn't even run around after him and try talking to him. Let him do the work. but don't fall into his trap, because it most probably will end up with you being hurt.
He's already messed you around and confused you.. they should be warning signs to you already to steer clear.
He doesn't seem worth your time.
If he genuinely liked you, he would make the effort, not constantly talk about your body like that.. and would find the time for you.
You can do better than him.
and lastly, it sounds like you didn't do anything wrong at all. You aren't the one with the problem. It's clearly him.
i have like bigger than normal vaginal lips.
personally, i think they are ugly.
opinions?
It's not abnormal, each vagina is different. They vary in shapes, sizes and colours.
If it bothers you THAT much, the only thing you can do is surgery to cut away the excess.
but at the end of the day, it's only a vagina and you should feel confident with yours.
Well...I'm having one of those moments where you don't know whether it's better to follow your heart or what makes sense.
Like you might've guessed already. It's about a guy. Now, he's no normal guy that I've liked; the most special guy I'd say; soul mate, if you will. Even he thought that I was his for some time.
Yeah, we did go out for 3 months, but then after some nasty arguments we broke up with him saying that it's better to just be friends. I still like him, a lot. I mean...I've been through a lot for him and I don't want to give up. It was all out of my own free will too. He's...not exactly the nicest guy from the start. Don't get the wrong idea though, he could also be extremely caring and I'm not being bias.
Now he's liking another girl, probably not as much as he did to me, but he says he doubts he'll like me again, or that we'll be back together.
Could it be possible that he wants to hurt me so much that I wouldn't bear to be with him anymore and we'll both finally be free? Or does he just think that I'm obsessed and annoying?
During this whole thing I've been insisting on my wish to be with him forever, but with him doubting things like that...I'm just not sure anymore. Will it be a fairy tale ending? Or am I just another crazy girl in love?
So what do you guys think? Give up on him completely and go find some other guys? Give in to all his wishes and just wait? Or give it all I've got and think up some plan to win him back?
Stop contacting him, give up and find someone who deserves you.
He said it himself.. he probably won't like you again or think you'll get back together.
He spelt it out for you. Don't be so gullible and think there's a different meaning behind it.
Ok so this guy asked me out a couple days ago. We don't go to the same school but we know each other and stuff. We go to the same church. So we are going out now. But I saw him today but he didn't say anything to me. Like yesterday we sat next to each other and talked and stuff because we just started going out, I don't move fast. Well is that weird or something? I'm really nervous around him too. The thing is that he didn't talk to me at all. He looked at me alot but maybe he was nervous or something? Oh I'm 14/f. I know this is a weird question but if a guy first asks you out shouldn't he talk to you more? He was kind of busy and had to leave early with his parents but idk I'm really confused. Sorry if this was a dumb question or whatever but please help. Thanks!
It's okay to be shy and nervous with a new boyfriend or girlfriend.. but to be ignored so to speak is a little strange.
Why didn't you go over and say hi? You shouldn't always leave the guys to do the chasing. You're both in a relationship now so you should make equal effort.
Will you talk to him any time soon (call/txt/internet etc)? - Ask him if eveything's okay.
Okk.
Well i like this dudee. (lets call him blahh..haha)
well i like bahh. But he has a girlfriendd...he knows i like himm but like he talks to me 24/7! Like he texts me out of nowhere..and on myspacee talks to me all the timee.
And idkk if he likes me backk and i dont wanna ask blahh..soo help?
Does the fact he has a girlfriend mean anything to you?
He knows you like him. If he liked you back, he wouldn't be with someone else.
THIS IS CONFUSING, PLEASE BEAR WITH ME...
Heres the situation: my best friend went out with a guy. he cheated on her. they broke up. he asked me out. i immediately called my best friend and we're perfectly fine. i said yes.
Heres the problem: one day he wants to get back with my friend, and he likes my other friend..and the next day he hates her guts. but, he's still fine with me, and kisses me goodbye..but we are not as cuddly as we could be, and haven't made out, which my other friend says is odd that he hasn't mentioned it. AND my best friend is pretty flirtatious with boys. So, I was wondering what I am doing to make myself so jelous and not as close to him as I know I can be. Please help me adress the situation. Thanks!
ps. i don't care that he likes other people, because everyone does. and i do not want to break up with him at all.
Hold on..
You're going out with a guy who wants to get back with your friend and he likes your other friend?
Are you insane?
No.. not everyone likes other people. That's the point in having a boyfriend or girlfriend - so you are with them and just them.
why do girls always think guys use them for their boobs or hotness
i really hate when they say that i dont know why it just gets to me
and ivve read heaps of questions on this website about guys always using girls such as do guys always use girls for sex and stuff like that
how do we convince them that lots of us are normal sensitive people
It's most probably because they've been hurt in the past and once that's happened, it takes a while for them to realize when they have a nice, genuine guy.
but I'm with you on this one. The majority of guys are fine. Sure, you might get the odd few who are assholes, but it doesn't mean they ALL are. Plus, girls can be assholes too. So it's unfair to blame it all on the guys.
hi
i'm a freshman in highschool(15) and my girlfriend is a sophmore. yesterday she came over and was pretty horny so we decided to have unprotected sex for the first time.
When we were done fooling around, she told me to go in just once and i did for a few seconds and pulled out because i felt a liquid come out of my penis, i saw some clear stuff. I searched on another site and apparantly its "precum". well i noticed it, whiped away and we fooled around like handjobs and fingering..i went in again later and the same thing happened so we stopped. Is she pregnant?
Thanks a bunch.
1. We aren't mind readers.
2. There is a chance she is pregnant.
3. If she misses her period, have her take a pregnancy test.
4. If it turns out she is pregnant, you have many options from there.
5. If she isn't pregnant, congratulations. but don't be so stupid enough to do it again.
this might end up being kinda long... anyway, my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 4 months and about a week ago i saw a picture with him and this girl on facebook and someone left a comment saying something about her making her move or something anyway... the other day him and i were hanging out at this place he usually goes with with his friends and he was calling some of them to see if they could come hang out with us, and he called the girl from the picture, if something was going on between them would he have wanted her to come hang out with both of us? or would he want to hide her more or whatever so i wouldn't get suspicious about anything? anyway, if anyone has any advice let me know.. thanks :)
Hate to say it, but we don't know any more than you and the answer to your question is simply: maybe. Maybe (and most likely), they're just mates and he enjoys her company.
You shouldn't ever feel threatened by others, though. I know sometimes, jealousy may get the better of you, but at the end of the day, remember he is with YOU and only YOU. He's allowed to talk to other girls and hang etc. If it makes you feel a little uncomfortable, tell him, so he can put your mind at ease.
P.S.. if there was something going on, do you really think he would let it be posted around on the internet? ...I very much doubt it..
Talk to him!
alright... i kinda think my boyfriend might be cheating on me... i've done the whole look at the phone thing and stuff like that, but he would probably delete everything anyways. i saw something on the computer before like a program that would make it so you could see all the texts and calls he makes and gets from your computer or something. does anyone know of anything like this and where i can find it? thanks :)
Even if there was such a thing, people aren't going to give you advice on how to spy on your boyfriend.
What things are making you suspicious? You should have included them in your question to get good advice, but all I can suggest to you is firstly, not to spy on him in the way you want to and to sit him down and talk to him - let him know your doubts and WHY you feel them.
If you ask a question with more info as to why you think he's cheating, I'd be more than willing to help you.
but for now, spying isn't the way to go and can create SO many problems when in reality.. there aren't any.
what exactly is dry sex?
"at least some bottom articles of clothing remain on one or both sexual participants while they engage in the "motions" of sex (thrusting, etc) without actual penetration"
I have really cute flats, but the KILL my feet. They give me really bad blisters and wearing them is just horrible. Is there any way to break them in (other than wearing them a lot). LIke are there any little tricks??
Thanks so much!
I never have bare feet with those types of shoes. I always wear these socks that look like natural coloured tights - and you can't tell. You can get them pretty much anywhere.
For your blisters, there's special plasters you can apply to the areas where the shoes rub on your feet.
Give 'em a try.
Okay I just got a guinea pig less then a month ago. And I was putting her in her cage, and i was so stupid because she jumped maybey half a foot down out of my hands ( i guess she was scared) and now she hardly puts her front left foot( or leg) down I am so scared, I am pretty sure its broke or fractured, and the closest vet in 2 hrs. away.
Will it heal in time or what?
How can i help her be happy, am i paranoid or somthing. I just feel so horrible it's all my fault!
IF I was to take her to the vet what would they do? Will it cost a couple hundred dollars or what?
You shouldn't put your guinea pigs health at risk because you are ashamed. Accidents happen - and that's what it was. You weren't to know she was going to jump and injure herself.
Just call up the vet and ask for details about cost etc - because it varies.
You shouldn't leave it too long, because as you know, you don't know what's wrong with her and she could need medical attention asap.
I hope your guinea pig has a speedy recovery!
Hi, I'm eighteen years old, and recent became aware of my abnormal vaginal appearance. My inner labia is a good centimeter or two longer than my outer labia, and discolored (i am fair skinned, and the overgrowth is grayish). I am not currently sexually active, but I am still very embarrassed by this. I may be sexually active in the near future.
I do not want to talk to my parents about it, so labiaplasty is kind of out of the question. Is there anything I can do to help this? Will guys be freaked out by this? Is there any way to self-perform a sort of labiaplasty or reconstruction?
Thanks
It's not abnormal and definitely nothing to be embarrassed about.
Vaginas come in different shapes, sizes and colours.
If a guy will be "freaked out" at something as ridiculous as this, he doesn't deserve you - you should know that.
and no, without surgery, you can't physically change it.
hi everyone. i know its not right to spy on one's girlfriend but somehow i was prompted to spy on mine. a guy wrote on her facebook wall, what was obviously a response to something she had written to him. I dont see what she wrote to him, when i check her facebook wall. then i created a false female facebook account with a random photo of a pretty girl, with which i invited the guy. the guy accepted the invitation and so i could access his profile. through his profile, i accessed my girl's account, and then i saw the message she had written to the guy on her wall. hope this is not too complicated. My question is, did she do some stealth setting to prevent me from seeing what she wrote on the guy's wall? if so, how could she have done that?
am just curious to know if she has a tendency to cheat on me; she told me she had told the guy she's got a man and that i dont like the idea of her meeting another man, like he had requested to meet her in person even if its only to be friends.
No. You couldn't see what she wrote before you made a fake email account because I'm guessing you weren't "connected" with this guy (you aren't his friend on Facebook).
Facebook isn't as public as MySpace for example. You have to be friends with people to see their stuff.
This is the problem with couples and the internet, too. Curiosity get's the better of you, leading you to be suspicious.
Try not to "spy".. if she knows you're browsing the internet, I highly doubt she's going to do something to hurt you right in front of your face.
hay is there a code that can stop people from copying your blogs on myspace??? cos people keep copying mine and i dont want them to be able to!
like is there a code or something?
and what is the "blog safe mode" thats in the control pannel on your blog?? do i do it through that? how? i dont get how the blog safe thing works either...
can someone help me i really want to change it so no one can take my blogs ASAP!! thanks in advance=]
Even if you put in a code to prevent right clicking.. let's face it.. it's not gonna do much help. People can still copy with either the print screen button or just simply copy typing your text.
I don't know if you know, but when you write a blog on MySpace, you can choose who gets to view it and who can't. So if you don't want to make your profile private, just don't let whoever is copying your blog read it.
If you don't know how to do it.. next time you write a blog, make sure the box that says "public" is not ticked and "preferred list" is. Or if it's people not in your friends list who are copying your blogs, set it to "friends".
Hope this was of some help to you!
So, I have average nail length. The "white part of the nail" just reaches the end of my finger. But most of them are still more "in". I want the skin coloured part of the nail to be passed my finger. Whenever my nail grows, only the white part goes longer and the skin coloured part doesnt. (Sorry I don't know what their called :P ) Any advice? Thanks :)
Oh, and I have Sally Hansen Maximum Growth nail polish and that doesnt work. Only the white part goes longer once again .
That's how finger nails are, though. Think about it - your nails aren't 2 different colours. Just one.
You see some part as skin coloured because ..well.. your skin is under it!
Using nail polish to help grow your nails won't help your situation - but using a french manicure (with the 3 colours: Natural, white and clear) will help you acheive the look you're wanting. Sally Hansen also does good ones.
I have stretch marks around my arm and I was wondering how to get rid of them.
Ive heard of coco butter but it hasn't help. please anyone...i really dont want stretch marks..
How long have you been using cocoa butter? It takes weeks/months, as do other products.
If you have been using it for a while and it hasn't worked though, use bio oil. I got some for a few scars and it helped alot - yes, it's for stretch marks too.
Don't just rub it in, actually dedicate some time to properly massage it deep into your skin and problem areas.
i just editted a picture.
tell me what u think.
http://i38.tinypic.com/2hhqi4w.jpg
(yes that is me in it.)
Awww, I like it. Very sweet, well done.
15/f
Well me and this guy ive been going out with for 3 months already had sex for the first time after the 3rd week . Is that too soon?
Who cares what we think, you do it when you're ready.
but you seem to be doubting it.. so yeah. Too soon in my eyes.