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My bf???
Ok so this guy asked me out a couple days ago. We don't go to the same school but we know each other and stuff. We go to the same church. So we are going out now. But I saw him today but he didn't say anything to me. Like yesterday we sat next to each other and talked and stuff because we just started going out, I don't move fast. Well is that weird or something? I'm really nervous around him too. The thing is that he didn't talk to me at all. He looked at me alot but maybe he was nervous or something? Oh I'm 14/f. I know this is a weird question but if a guy first asks you out shouldn't he talk to you more? He was kind of busy and had to leave early with his parents but idk I'm really confused. Sorry if this was a dumb question or whatever but please help. Thanks!
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He is probably shy or can't think of anything to say. Your right. Guys are supposed to come talk to you first, especially when you just started going out. Another thing is, it may be he is to immature to have a girlfriend. I don't mean that in a mean way at all. It's just that he might get to shy and nervous to even consider having a girlfriend. Give it a few more days and see what happens. Hope this helps! If you have any more questions about this, just message me!
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Keep in mind that guys can be shy and nervous too. The fact that he looked at you a lot meant he acknowledged your presence, which is a good thing (bad is completely ignoring you). It could be your nervousness is coming off as aloofness, making things that much harder for him. This is a two way street though; you should be making as much effort as he is, no matter who asked whom out.
Another thing to consider is his being with his parents. Could he be a little embarrassed? Not of you, but of being in a relationship, if this is new to him? I remember being very shy about boys around my parents, and I think that's normal.
You might let him know that you are confused why he didn't talk to you. It sounds like you both need confidence in the relationship, but may I point out that you are only 14, and I'm assuming he is about the same age. Dating at this point is all about learning HOW to be in a relationship. Don't concentrate on being in love and making it last forever. If that happens, fine, but more important is figuring out what you expect from a relationship and learning how to relate to your boyfriend. So it is perfectly fine for you to be nervous and shy for a while. Just be yourself, girl, and your guy will come around.
Much love and good luck!
~TD
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It's okay to be shy and nervous with a new boyfriend or girlfriend.. but to be ignored so to speak is a little strange.
Why didn't you go over and say hi? You shouldn't always leave the guys to do the chasing. You're both in a relationship now so you should make equal effort.
Will you talk to him any time soon (call/txt/internet etc)? - Ask him if eveything's okay.
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