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cheating
alright... i kinda think my boyfriend might be cheating on me... i've done the whole look at the phone thing and stuff like that, but he would probably delete everything anyways. i saw something on the computer before like a program that would make it so you could see all the texts and calls he makes and gets from your computer or something. does anyone know of anything like this and where i can find it? thanks :)
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Like the other two advice columnists said, no one is going to encourage you to spy on your boyfriend. There is a reason for that! If you are suspicious enough to want to spy on him, you need to confront him. Your program sounds expensive and illegal, and will only break you guys up. If you confront him and are still concerned, or you would like to post more details, feel free to ask the question again, and we would all be happy to help you evaluate this guy. Good luck and much love!
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Even if there was such a thing, people aren't going to give you advice on how to spy on your boyfriend.
What things are making you suspicious? You should have included them in your question to get good advice, but all I can suggest to you is firstly, not to spy on him in the way you want to and to sit him down and talk to him - let him know your doubts and WHY you feel them.
If you ask a question with more info as to why you think he's cheating, I'd be more than willing to help you.
but for now, spying isn't the way to go and can create SO many problems when in reality.. there aren't any.
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I don't know of any programs like you have described, but I also highly recommend that you don't resort to spying on him. What you really should be doing is evaluating your relationship. Why do you think he is cheating on you? Do you feel comfortable telling him about your fears or have you done so already? If you are in a relationship where trust and/or loyalty is missing, you need to discuss this with your boyfriend to see if the relationship is worth saving.
Think about this. You spy on his texts and calls and realize he hasn't been cheating. How would he feel if he found out? Would you feel guilty and eventually feel the need to tell him? Would you later mistrust him for other reasons?
What if you spy on his texts and calls and realize he HAS been cheating on you? Will you confront him about it? Will he turn things around to make you feel like you are the bad guy when he was the one who was cheating?
Does the relationship sound like it would work either way?
You are in a situation in which the other way to solve it would be to talk to him about. Either he will assuage your fears, come clean, or leave you guessing. Depending on the outcome, you'll figure out what to do from there.
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