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im getting sick and tired of mom always trying to put me in a suit and tie or tuxedo whatever they call it i mean maybe on occasions i can where but i just dont want her taking pictures of me in it fitting in is not or will it ever be my thing sticking out is better after all im nobody but me so how could i get her to stop that i dont want to wear a tuxedo especially if its about fitting in . (link)
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If you don't want her taking pictures of you, just sit her and down and explain that to her. Maybe try to be reasonable with her and tell her one picture and that's all.
Wearing a tuxedo to events is not about fitting in. It's out of respect. It's fine to be you, there's nothing wrong with being you but you do need to know that if you're going to a black tie event, you need to dress sharp. If you don't, it's disrespectful.
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There is at gay guy at my college who is amazing. He is nice, cool, sassy, athletic and awesome. I am a girl and I live with him at the dorms. Unfortunately, I have fallen in love with him. I don't why I fell in love with him, but I did. But things got worst. I gave him a present for Christmas and in exchange he gave me my first kiss. I was happy, but sad at the same time. I am not sure how to approach him anymore. I am so confused. I want to get over him, but I'm sure how. I don't even know if he likes me that way. (link)
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If he's gay, then he's not interested in you that way. You need to respect that.
If he himself has told you that he is gay, then you just need to find a way to move on. If you're just assuming he is or if someone else told you, then you should talk to him and get everything out.
As for getting over him, keep your distance and don't keep in contact with him. If you continue being his close friend, you won't get over him. Give it time and you'll move on to someone else.
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Hey everyone :)
I'm sorry if I offend you in any way in this question.
I started to think it would be amazingly problem solving if the world did end on December 21.
Now there's something you all need to know before you answer this, angrily.
I'm a very happy person, I love my family, I love everyone. I just see my life, & everyone's life, as pointless. Everything I care about, everyone I love, is not permanent. Everything dies, nothing lasts forever. So I don't see the point in caring so much about a life that is so unimportant as the ones we lead. This is something that really worries me at times. I feel like my thoughts are very negative, me being the happy, very grateful & thankful person that I am. My own thoughts confuse me sometimes, though.
I think that with all of these people I see on Facebook with completely naked pictures & people saying they hate their parents, bath salts, babies with iPhones, people who don't say I love you to their parents because its "embarrassing", crimes committed every day that involve deaths, people with no confidence, peer pressure, jealousy, addiction, teen pregnancy, rape, shooting in a theatre, shooting of children that could be the next president one day, & just
negativity in general.
I'll tell you one thing. When people commit suicide, I don't feel bad at all. In fact, I don't respect the idea of it at all. It's kind of even funny to me. The only people I would cry over taking their own life is a schizophrenic. They all have a good reason to want to die. They're trapped in their own brain. The brain is such an important thing to have control over. It literally summons up everything that ever happens for you (if you're confused, watch the movie "The Secret") and to not have control over it, you're basically as good as dead, anyway
People take things for granted. I would never take my family or my friends, or anyone who wants to be around me in general, AT ALL for granted. My life is too important to me for me to be spending it with hate.
Keep in mind, I want to live my life. I want to be happy as much as possible. But I can't just sit back & not say anything about the very sad & careless things that happen every day, & the crimes committed toward innocent people every day. This is my first attempt at saying something. Feel free to call me names, speak your mind. I want to know what people think.
Is it bad that I feel this way? Am I the only one? Am I wrong?
Any comments/opinions are appreciated.
If in any way, this upsets you, please let me know why.
Thank you for reading :) & have a nice day :D (link)
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Well it's your opinion and you obviously have every right to feel the way you feel.
It's the truth that life isn't permanent and there's a lot of bad things in the world. But there's a lot of good things in the world too, and I guess it's overlooked. I mean it's not like we don't understand that there are bad things out there.
I also don't agree about wanting the world to end just to end problems. Life is beautiful, in my opinion.
I understand what you mean about suicide, but I don't agree that it's funny at all. Suicide isn't funny. I didn't really understand your feelings on that. I understood the schizophrenic part but not I got confused when you said that you didn't respect the idea of it at all but you still find it funny. You'll have to explain that one to me.
Anyways, most of the people who end their life are suffering from depression. It's still a brain thing going on that they can't control and need serious help. If they don't get that help, then they're stuck too.
It's good that you don't just want to sit back and not say anything. That's a very good thing. But also don't forget all the good things in life. There will always be selfish people, crimes, and just negativity around us. But likewise, there will be good, giving people (like yourself who don't want to sit back and ignore it) and positive things in life.
I get where you're coming from.
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hi,I from India.I am a college going student.I am in a relationship for three years.
I had anal sex with my girlfriend without using protection.Now she's not having her periods,it is 2days late from her normal date.So,my question is when will i know that she is actually pregnant??what are the very early symptoms?what actions will i take to stop that pregnancy without abortion? (link)
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If you only had anal sex, she can't be pregnant. If you had actual sex where you went into her vagina, then there is a possibility of her being pregnant.
If there was any way that you had actual sex, then you'll know if she's pregnant once she takes a pregnancy test and goes to see a doctor.
Stopping a pregnancy is literally abortion. There's no other way to get rid of a child forming inside of her.
So, if you only had anal sex, she is not pregnant. But next time, no matter what kind of sex you are having, wear a condom and make sure she is on birth control. Even if you have anal sex again, you both can contract STI's so it's smart to always use protection.
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Well me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday it's not our first time it's our third we are protected every time but for the first time I had a little bit of blood come out today and I don't know from what? I'm just confused did my cherry pop? Can that happen after the 3rd time of having sex? Or what else could it be? (link)
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Most girls don't actually bleed during or after sex unless something wrong happened.
Maybe he was too rough or you guys didn't have enough lubrication. If this happens again and you made sure he was going slow and not too rough, and you also used enough lubrication, then go see a doctor. There could be a chance of something else wrong down there. But most of the time it's because he was too rough or there wasn't enough lubrication.
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Today i came home happy but then when i went to remove my makeup i felt the stress and i started to cry for no reason at all. (link)
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It's a little thing I'd like to call hormones.
Honestly, your normal. It happens to the best of us.
It doesn't mean you're bipolar. Although, if this starts happening a lot, go get checked out and the doctors can help you.
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I'm a 20 year-old guy and I just started college at a university filled with hot girls, and I always think about girls, all day.
I am single and have been for a while, and I just always think about girls and sex and when I am in my house that is all I ever think about. Do I have a problem? (link)
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No, you sound normal.
Masturbation is your friend...seriously.
Although if this is something that is taking over your life and you can't do normal everyday tasks, then you actually do have a problem and you should seek some help for it.
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I want to make out for the first time But... I don't know what to do whit my tong can u maybe help? I am male (link)
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You normally just follow what the other person is doing.
The only thing you don't do is shove your tongue in her mouth. Move slow, keep your eyes closed, it will come naturally when you're in the moment.
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is it okay to ask out guys? (link)
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Yes it's okay to ask out a guy.
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Ok, so tomorrow me and my boyfriend are going to kiss for the first time and I have no idea how to kiss! im totally screwed please help! (link)
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Who plans first kisses?
Well anyways, kissing isn't difficult. It literally comes to you when you're in the moment. That's why people don't normally plan out when they are going to have their first kiss. It's just supposed to happen. When one of my boyfriends told me they wanted to kiss and wanted to make a plan for it, it just ruins it. It makes you so nervous.
So you're not screwed, I have no idea what kind of kiss you guys are planning on doing...hopefully not making out lol but seriously, it's simple and don't over think it. If you think too much into it, it's going to end up weird. It will come naturally.
But don't forget to close your eyes!
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Okay, so I've known this boy for over a year now I'm quite close to him and his friends and we would all normally have a drink together on the weekends. He's so fun and I really like him, he gets along so well with my family and always jokes about how we'll end up together someday. He would stay over in my house occasionally after a night out but nothing ever goes further than a kiss, well that was the case until last week. We slept together and its been nearly two weeks and I haven't had so much as a text which isn't unusual because we only really speak at the weekends. Am I reading too much in to things? I really like this guy and I know he isn't the kind of person that would use me. If this is only a casual thing how can I turn it into something more serious? id appreciate some help please. (link)
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From what it seems, it just seems casual. If it was more, then most likely you guys would be dating at this point since he has already stayed over at your house a few times but never took it further.
It's really hard to go from sleeping with someone, to dating. It's usually the other way around. It's not impossible, it's just extremely difficult because you guys skipped the stages.
Since he's not the type of person who would use you, then you'll most likely end up getting an honest answer out of him if you asked him how he felt.
The reasons why he hasn't texted you or anything would either be that he doesn't think there would be a reason to text you since it was just a hook up or he's just doing the same thing as you and is confused.
So as for trying to turn it into something serious, you can either ask him how he feels or ask him to hang out and go from there.
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So this guy and I have been dating a year. We've never met, planning on meeting very soon. But we thought we would do an exchange of gifts! SO here's my idea, a necklace with one of my rings on it so he has somethign of mine with him. And a letter telling him how much he means to me. I am 19 he is 20, Is this too childish? Or too girly? (link)
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I think it's sweet, but since you guys haven't met yet, it might not be the best choice of a gift.
Most of the time giving someone something that personal is even better when you've already spent time together. If you feel like he'd like it anyways, then go ahead and do that. The letter is really good though.
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Right, so there is this boy who I like and I think he likes me too (it's hard to tell because we're both really shy) and basically I want his number so I can talk to him more outside of school (we're in year 11 by the way) but I'm way to nervous to just ask him as it would be awkward and I don't know how he'd react...
Anyway, today one of my friends said that he gave my number to this guy that I like about 2 months ago. The thing is - he hasn't called or texted me and (when I'm with him) has told people he doesn't have my number. I'm confused as to why he would just not use my number and I'm not sure if I should ask him if he has actually got my number? (link)
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If he says he doesn't have your number, he probably doesn't. Or he lost it or threw it away or something.
If I were you, I'd just go talk to him then near the end of the conversation give him your number or just ask him for his.
It's normal to be nervous but if he gives it to you, you know he's at least somewhat interested, if he reacts badly then he's probably not that interested.
So the easiest way to get his number is to talk to him face to face rather than other people giving it to you or having them give it to him.
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Okay i am a 13/f in middle school.Okay my friend T and me have been friends every since 3 grade to now.Last year in 6th grade.I started to have a crush on him.He said he had a crush on me every since 3 grade.We went together that 6th grade year then broke up that summer to 7th.He broke up with me for i don't know reason.Later in July he asked me back and i said no.Because i was afraid to get hurt again.This year we became close friends.One day in a connection class he was closer to me than normal and my friends was just looking like why he so close.The boy that had a crush on me was getting mad. Every time i see him he smile at me. when we switch classes he find some way to see me in my class. He always whisper stuff in my ear.I really do miss him we seem to have that chemistry.
My question is do you think he want me back.
And should i give him a second chance?
Thanx for your time. (link)
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So I second what Zane said. You have a lot more to experience since you're only 13. You and this guy are going to keep changing.
Once you and someone break up, it's hard to get it back to where you can trust each other and get all the problems resolved.
He broke up with you for a reason that you don't even know. Before you even think about dating him again, you need to know what happened and if it is something that can actually be fixed.
If it's something that can't be fixed, then the chemistry you guys have isn't worth anything.
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I'm a thirteen year old (nerdy) girl, and it's been pointed out to me that thinking nerdy boys are cute is atypical. I simply don't find what people would consider "normal" boys my age attractive. I think nerdy boys are very cute, especially boys with glasses (I've also been told this is odd), and I've never had a crush on anyone who isn't as smart or smarter than I am (I realize this may seem somewhat rude, as that's saying I think myself to be very intelligent, which I do not- just somewhat competent). What do you think? Is this weird? I never thought of as being so, just not the dominant opinion. (link)
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No, it's actually normal and you and all your friends will realize that once you get older.
Everyone isn't meant to like the same things. You'll see jock type of guys liking nerdy girls, you'll see nerdy girls liking emo style boys. Seriously, everyone has their own taste and no one needs to tell you that it's weird.
So no, it's not unusual, it's normal. Your friends are like 13 or 14 so what do they know? They can't tell you what's weird and what's not. They're stuck in labels right now.
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I am a 15 year old girl who recently got dumped. For 3 days straight I didn't eat and all I did was cry at random times of the day. I'm better now and I'm not in hysteria like I was before but Im lonely especially at lunch. None of my friends have the same lunchtime as me except for my ex who I used to eat lunch with and a few others who I can never find. I've gotten used to it and now in trying to get over him. You see we have the same class after lunch and he only talks to me when he needs something like my phone or paper. Today we were completing a study guide and I was about to finish when he asked to copy. I gave it to him and was so happy when he thanked me. Thinking about it now makes me feel pathetic. I'm not over him obviously. I can't help but want to help him out when he needs it even if he treats me like a stranger the rest if the time. Do you think this is beacause I need human interaction since I have no one to talk to during a time I should be or that deep inside I'm just desperate to be taken back? This whole thing makes me feel like an idiot. (link)
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You're just lonely, it's completely normal. You just need to give it time.
As for getting over him, that takes time and patience. But you do need to put in the effort. He shouldn't be coming to you in class for help, and it's obviously doing no good to you so just tell him no next time.
Distance helps, but since you have him in a class it's even harder. Don't talk to him and try your best not to look at him.
It sucks being alone at lunch especially after a break up. I'm assuming your lunches are divided because of your 3rd or 4th class? Well if it is, try making friends in those classes and then you can sit with them at lunch.
Just meet new people, make new friends, meet new boys, you'll get over him and you won't feel so alone.
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I'm so confused whether my crush likes me or not! I've searched dozens of websites and I'm still not so sure! So I'm going to explain how our relationship is right now.
1. He's really sweet and funny! Always making jokes and making me laugh all the time
2. We talk about the most randomness stuff ever and we're so comfortable with each other to talk about the most difficult subjects
3.We share food and drinks! Every time at lunch we trade drinks, share a cookie, etc.
4. IDK but I guess he's with me all the time and always wants to be with me
For example when the teacher made new seating arrangements he personally asked the teacher to sit right next to me!
5.He smiles and laughs a lot with me more than with his usual friends! And he always makes the dumbest excuses to be near me
For example "Oh I'm going to sit here because the sun is blinding me" ( He's saying this when it was cloudy)
So I know it definitely looks like he likes me but I'm not really sure and should I ask him out? (link)
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He has some of the signs. It's either he likes you or sees you as a really close friend and likes to hang out with you.
Who knows, instead of trying to guess if he likes you, try hanging out with him outside of school. Invite him to go to the movies, bowling or some other activity with some of your friends. If he goes, there's a better chance he's interested. If he does end up going, then try hanging out with him some more and then maybe just hang out as the two of you. If he agrees to that, the he definitely likes you.
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I just now had a dream that I died. I don't know how I had it, but yesterday I was talking about death and stuff with my friend. Do you think that's how I had the dream?
The dream felt so real. I was so scared when I woke up and I really don't want to experience that again. Any advice on how to not have it again? (link)
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Usually it's because you were talking about it. What I've noticed with my dreams is that I was either talking about it, thinking about it, or something like that happened during the week and then of course some are completely random.
Dreams are normally tied to some degree of our every day lives.
So to not experience that again, I'd suggest not talking about it as much or not thinking about it too much or right before you go to bed.
I've heard that going to bed earlier helps you have good dreams. I've read that people who stay up later tend to have unpleasant dreams.
Late night snacking has caused weird dreams for me. So staying away from that in the middle of the night should help as well.
Hopefully this helps.
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Okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 days but we have known each other since I was 14 years old and I have no idea what to get the boy for Christmas . He is 25 if that helps any. I talked to his brother to see what he is into and he told me that he liked music and loved to read and liked sports but I don't have much money to spend either please consider i am on a $40.00 a week budget . (link)
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There are so many things that you can get that aren't expensive.
Get something that you think he'd like. Like if you saw something while you were walking around and was like, "That's something he'd like."
Although it is harder when you haven't been dating very long. In that case, you can never go wrong with gift cards. Guys like food, so maybe a place where you both can go on a date together. Or even Gamestop , Barnes and Noble, some music or sports store, ect.
One year I made my boyfriend a little gift basket. I bought a basket, put a bunch of little travel size guy things in it, a gift card, brownies and cake pops, a home made card and some other things I thought he'd like.
My parents also bought him two movie tickets from Costco so we both can go see a movie together.
Just be creative. It's hard to shop for guys even though it seems simple. You always want to get him the perfect gift. Whatever you decide to get him, he'll love it.
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i understand criticism now and i really cant stand it its very offensive i remember in 2003 when my stupid younger brother used to criticize my reading and call me stupid and boss me around like the little smartmouth he was but he has already passed away but saying things like puncutation is sort of calling someones grammer stupid which is really igroant to do some people do that becuase they wont expect that their grammer is great or becuase theyre stupid and wont admit it that makes me angry seriously you shouldnt do those things anyway how can you punish those who criticize you to make you feel bad so it might teach them a lesson . (link)
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Sorry to break it to you but you can't ban what people say to you. The only thing you can do is simply ignore them.
There is good criticism and there is bad criticism. Obviously you're talking about the bad criticism where someone will analyze whatever it is only to find faults and nothing else.
Criticism is not actually bad. It never really has been. It's just been this way because people are very pessimistic.
Constructive criticism would be the good criticism. It's offering valid and well reasoned opinions about the work of others, usually involving both positive and negative comments.
So I don't know exactly what people are saying to you to make you this upset over it besides years ago when your bother was teasing you.
If someone brings up punctuation, it's not calling someones grammar stupid unless they were doing it in a mean, malicious, teasing way.
Believe it or not, some people do want to help people will their grammar problems.
So you're just going to have to ignore it when people are mean to you. You can't ban it and you can't punish anyone.
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