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First kiss was with a gay guy, and now I have fallen in love with him...
There is at gay guy at my college who is amazing. He is nice, cool, sassy, athletic and awesome. I am a girl and I live with him at the dorms. Unfortunately, I have fallen in love with him. I don't why I fell in love with him, but I did. But things got worst. I gave him a present for Christmas and in exchange he gave me my first kiss. I was happy, but sad at the same time. I am not sure how to approach him anymore. I am so confused. I want to get over him, but I'm sure how. I don't even know if he likes me that way.
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It always suck when the person you fall for does not return mutual feelings. And unfortunately there is no way you can make him like you. You have to accept that. It happens to everyone (liking someone that doesnt like us) and trying to hang on or hope for more will only drain you. I dont know how often you guys hangout or talk but the best thing for you to do is limit contact with him to none or as little as possible. You are only putting yourself thru heartache by wishing for him to like you back. Picture him getting screwed in the butt by another guy or him giving a guy head. You dont want that. Distract yourself...go out with other friends, meet new ppl, etc . You will get over him if you come to terms with whats real and what is never gonna happen. It sucks but if you allow yourself, you can find someone else. It may not seem like it but I promise you can.
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If he's gay, then he's not interested in you that way. You need to respect that.
If he himself has told you that he is gay, then you just need to find a way to move on. If you're just assuming he is or if someone else told you, then you should talk to him and get everything out.
As for getting over him, keep your distance and don't keep in contact with him. If you continue being his close friend, you won't get over him. Give it time and you'll move on to someone else.
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If he has told you he is gay, then you need you respect that.
Part of respecting him is assuming he is NOT interested in you as anything but a friend. If he has been clear with that he is gay, it's quite rude to assume he would be interested in a girl.
If this is something you want to talk to him about, I think you really should, but you need to do that with respect for him and what he has told you about himself.
It's okay to feel awkward and not know how to behave. This IS awkward. Getting over him will happen, probably quicker than you think, because as intense as what you may feel for him is, it will never be as real and intense as it will be with someone who actually has a romantic attraction to you as well.
It you want to talk to him about this, then do. But if you just want to get over him, then take some time and space and focus on other friendships.
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