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feel the need for companionship
Hi,
I am a 19 year old male who just moved out of my house to start college. I live alone and lately I've just been feeling kinda lonely and sad. For some reason I just feel the need for a companion, a girl, just somebody. Whenever I see people at school who are really happy I just feel like I need that and want a girl to love me. I don't know. Like when I'm at home, I just feel so bored and apathetic, like nothing to look forward to.
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you should definately find a companion. a lot of people get lonely in college especially living alone. i would suggest joining some clubs or groups or getting to know the people that live in your building. even taking classes that are smaller and easier to get to know people. even going to parties or clubs can sometimes lead to meeting people you stay in touch with. i would also suggest studying and doing work in public places even by yourself just to feeel more lively.
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You're suffering from depression and you're fixating on romance as a way to fix it. You need to address the problem and get more of a life. Part of depression is being stuck in some kind of rut. Break up your rut. Worry less about a girlfriend and more about friends. Find like minded people at some kind of social gathering and find some people you can go visit or have over to hang out. Work on a girlfriend after you're feeling better. If this persists for more than a month after this and you can't stop feeling apathetic go talk to a counselor. Depression is a real thing that gets worse if left alone to it's own devices.
And it sucks ass, so take active steps to fix the problem.
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To have somebody, you have to be somebody to them. A lot of people actually feel the exact same way as you, but the only way you are going to find someone is by putting yourself out there. And by that I mean ,for example, start a conversation with a girl in class. Maybe ask a question about the class or ask for help on some homework or project (cause that would be a slick way to get her #) Ask questions ...girls love that..if you seem interested. It might be awkward at first but the more you put yourself out there, the easier it will be and the closer youll be to finding someone. Go out with friends. But yaa just share yourself with others so one day soon someone will want to share themselves with only you :)
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