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I'm Jack/Jamie.I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.
I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.
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Laura!
--Jack
advice
Well it goes like this.
I have been dating a wonderful guy for about 5 months now, and I couldn't be happier. We met at college but are now long distance for the summer. I see him every couple or weeks or so. I am his first serious girlfriend- he has never told a girl I love you. He says he isn't even sure what it means.
A little over a week ago, he was in a cranky mood. I asked if it had anything to do with me, and he said he thought so and we talked for several hours. Basically, he said he wasn't sure of his feelings about me and had thoughts of breaking up with me occasionally. He said he felt suffocated because I wanted to talk so much, etc.
Prior to this conversation, I had gotten upset a couple times that he wouldn't say he loves me. I now realize that was ridiculous of me to expect after a few months, but it is what I had known in relationships. I have told him this when we talked about that conversation, but I think it still bothers him.
I gave him space for the week and continue to do so by not initiating many conversations and letting him come to me. For the fourth he took me to his family cook out and introduced me to everybody as his girlfriend. I was still worried so we talked some more about it. He said he just felt weird because when he thinks about it, he feels like he should feel stronger about me after 5 months than he does- specifically, closer to the L word. I asked if it was the space issue, the me bugging him about I love yous, etcetc. He says he isn't sure, but thinks it might be a combination of things. He worries that his feelings might ever get there, but this sounds ridiculous to me because how does anybody really know that anyway?
So what can I do? Just give him space and see what happens? I feel really worried because I don't want to lose him. I've tried to convince him that I'm totally okay with it taking awhile for his feelings to get there, but I think he feels like he is letting me down ad thinking about it too much. Any thoughts?
Honestly, I think saying the L word after five months is a little ambitious, and I think you should give him time to think about it.
I just got out of a relationship because the feelings I thought I had weren't there, and she agreed. My point is, if you don't let him sort out his feelings and if you keep forcing him to be in the relationship by not letting him think them out, things are going to end badly.
So, let him sort himself out. Give him time. I think he deserves it.
--Jack
(17/m)
the new aim is being wierd.
i keep on hearing people IM
me but i don't see a notification
pop-up i am soo confused mann -___-
help me please. haha.
Maybe you have the sound for receiving an IM set as the same sound for when people sign in?
I know for some of my friends, it's like that, but it's weird. I don't know.
--Jack
(17/m)
Hi,
I'm taking summer school before university to make up for a mark.
However, I am kind of confused as to how I am supposed to send in an updated mark
Am I supposed to go to my high school once it is over to have someone update it or mail in another transcript?
Thank you.
All schools do something different.
I know a friend who had to do summer school, and she just had a sheet and gave it to our principal.
I would email your principal or counselor and ask them what you're supposed to do.
--Jack
(17/m)
how I can dress like the girls on seventeen and teen vogue and celebrities for cheap. just really cute stuff for not a lot of money.
:)
Plato's Closet is good, but what's even better and cheaper than that is Salvation Army and Value World.
Both of them offer brand-name and designer clothes for like.. less than $5 each item.
Check it out. =]
--Jack
(17/m)
can I do this summer. I want a long list of stuff i can cross off to do this summer. i cant do much because im pregnant but i already have like boating swimming camping and the basics down and i cant go to a concert cause i cant find any good ones out.
Thanks :)
I previously made a list of things to do when you were bored, so I thought that would apply.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507084
From there:
www.discoverfun.com/freeinfo/500fun/when_severly_bored.html
Those are a lot of fun.
Here are my favorites:
# Blow on a blade of grass
# Crank up some music
# Cut out photos and paste them on Popsicle sticks and have a puppet show
# Eat
# Eat 6 spoon full of sugar, a soda, and another think that makes you hyper and then you won't be bored anymore, you will end up finding something to do... trust us
# Experiment with makeup
# Get a bubble blower and then blow some
# Get a tootsie pop and see how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop
# Laugh out loud
# Learn how to fake an accent
# Make a humorous crank phone call
# Make an entertaining phone answering-machine message
# Make up poems or songs about your boredom
# Break into a friend's house and clean it
Call a wrong number and talk to whoever answers.
# Catch a fly, then put in a jar and stick in the fridge (this cools their metabolism down), then tie the fly to the end of a thread 15in. and hold the other end of the thread while you watch it fly around (We have tested this and it works - a lot of patience is involved)
# Chase your best friend round the sofa
# Dance around your living room naked
# Doodle or cartoon
# Dress in something silly and laugh at yourself
# Fiddle around with a Ouija board
# Figure out how to get yourself on TV
# Find an address to your favorite famous person and write them a letter. See if they write you back
# Flip a coin 500 times to see who wins
# Get on the radio
# Give names to your body parts
# Go shop for a really cool book
# Go through the English dictionary looking up really long words like discombobulated.
# Have a carpet picnic
# Have a staring contest with yourself in the mirror.
# Kiss your elbow, if you can.
# Lay a long straight line of masking tape on the floor. Now spin around really fast then try walking on the masking tape.
Enjoy not being bored anymore. That should occupy you for a few hours =D
--Jack
(17/m)
i don't remember my dreams.
i haven't been able to in years.
do i even have dreams?
is this not normal?
unhealthy?
i'm concerned and not sure why i don't remember them.
thanks.
I rarely remember my dreams. I think I have them, and we all do, it's just.. you forget them.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070711090840AAJvHW2
That gives some good reasons why you'd forget.
I don't think there's anything wrong with you.
--Jack
(17/m)
Being bored and curious one Saturday afternoon, I ventured into a random online forum, signed up, and started chatting. Weeks after that, I met a guy. Great. So we kept talking, liking each other more and more, and having a lot in common. Then we started "dating". But has become so much more than an internet relationship, for both of us. We share everything with each other. I'm in love with him.. in love with him for exactly who he is and by some miracle, he loves me the same way.
Now here's the problem. He thinks I'm 19 years old, like him, because that's what I claimed when we first met. I didn't think it would matter because no way could it turn into anything serious. I'm actually 15 years old. We've never done anything sexual, obviously, or even seen each other. I do plan to be with him for a very long time and meet him the day I turn 18. But how am I going to explain, when I do meet him, that I'm actually 4 years younger than I claimed to be? That I lied to him for years?
Or a more important question would be.. am I just caught up in false feelings? Can I really love him if I've never met or seen him, and could he really love me and accept my confession? I feel as though I do because I believe that you love someone for who they are and how well you get along, not because of a physical attraction.
As you can see.. this is a very messed up situation, but backing out is not an option for me right now, nor will it ever be. Help!
I agree with Laura below. In fact, I'm the friend she was talking about. XD
Anyway, you have to tell him about the age thing. It's important. And it shouldn't matter to him if you're friends and you might like each other a lot.
It is entirely possible to get a best friend online, but as for a relationship, that is something I've got no experience with. Maybe you do, but you probably won't know for sure until you see him in person and spend time with him.
Backing out would be stupid. Obviously this person has become someone important to you, and I completely empathize with that.
--Jack
(17/m)
ive been with my boyfrend on and off 10 months and im done he's done but i'm just not over him and me not being over him shows there's a chance we'll get back together which i do not want is there anyways to get my mind off him to move on please help!
Hang out with friends a lot. Watch lots of movies. Go new places you haven't been before.
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Get-Over-Him---Quickly&id=345015
Delete all traces of your ex.
Do NOT call them.
Stuff like that.
--Jack
(17/m)
Did Michael Jackson actually die? Because I heard that the entire thing was a big hoax and that Michael Jackson is still alive and well. So, yeah, has anybody else heard that Michael Jackson faked his own death?
No, Michael Jackson is ACTUALLY dead.
The end.
--Jack
(17/m)
I'm 17 and female, and I'm really thinking about going on the pill. However, I do NOT want to start taking it because I'm sexually active. I am NOT sexually active and I'm still a virgin.
The reason I want to start it is to regulate my period. I've had it for 4 years now and it has never been regular.
I just don't know how to talk to my mom about it and that is what I need help with. I'm afraid she'll assume that I'm sexually active and think terrible things about me or something...
Any suggestions? =)
Here's how you could tell her:
Go up to her. Say:
You: Mom, I want to talk to you about something.
Her: Yes?
You: Well, I want to go on the pill...
Her: WHAT?!
You: Before you freak out, it's not because I'm sexually active. I'm a virgin and I'm not going to be sexually active.
Her: Ok...
You: I want to regulate my period. That's why I want to be on it. Maybe we can talk to my doctor about it or something to figure out the best solution.
If you're mature, your mom will probably listen to you.
--Jack
(17/m)
is it possible for a guy to "cum" a litle bit and not know or feel it?
Yes, it's called pre-cum, and the guy can't feel it until he actually feels the "wetness".
--Jack
(17/m)
ok so my bf and i were messing around yesterday and he was hard but he told me that he wasn't about to nut, and i wasn't wet at all, so i got on him for literally like three seconds, and then got back off and his dick felt kind of wet, like he had nutted just a little bit, but he swore that he hadn't at all, because he said he wasn't even close to nutting. he said that it was probably wet because i had gotten wet but, and that it definitely wasn't cum. so my question is, is it possible for that to just have been me getting wet, even though it was only 3 seconds that i was on him? can i get wet in just three seconds?
It was most likely pre-cum. A guy can have that happen pretty much RIGHT as he gets hard.
And that can get you pregnant, which you might not have known.
So please be more careful next time.
--Jack
(17/m)
wat are some ways to make hickeys go awway, that actually work?
http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/health/how-to-get-rid-of-a-hickey/
That website gives good tips.
--Jack
(17/m)
Hey okay I've recently heard this, is it true that boys are okay with inexperienced girls? That they like the "innocent type"? We're talking never been kissed...
14/F
Yeah, guys are usually ok with it.
--Jack
(17/m)
how can i change my log-in name in this web site?
If you have a really good reason to, DangerNerd might, so contact him.
If you have a paid account, go to: http://www.advicenators.com/paidaccounts.php
And you can change your name on that page.
--Jack
(17/m)
what happens if you suck in helium i just want to know
You kill brain cells and if you talk, your voice gets really high pitched for a few seconds.
It's fun, and I've done it before, but I wouldn't do it very much.
Because once brain cells are gone, they're gone.
Thanks for inboxing?
--Jack
(17/m)
I'm a guy.. 19. How do I make sex more enjoyable for my girlfriend? What different movements should I do while I'm actually inside of her... any tips?
Ask her what she would find enjoyable.
I mean, other than that, we can't give explicit advice on here. I'm sorry.
--Jack
(17/m)
hey i have a cold sore on the corner of my mouth and it really hurts ive been putting campho phenique on it but its not really going away but i've only been putting it on for one day..i wanna get rid of it..i hate it!
I would keep applying it; it's not going to magically disappear in one day. =]
--Jack
(17/m)
I'm Christian and I know lust is wrong. That's why i was super-relieved when I got more into studying the Bible and whatnot and I was distracted by my former thoughts...that was a while ago though. And now they're coming back, especially about the boy that I'm infatuated with...and i don't want to bring him into this, he's a Christian boy!! I don't wanna think of him like that...or think like that at all.
like I said, I know in the Bible it says several times lust and sexual immorality is sin...but i need help stopping the thoughts. I'm praying! if you have any advice, please offer it, if you don't please pray for me.
I'm a Catholic/Christian, and I understand what you're going through with "lustful" thoughts.
We're naturally lustful and have these thoughts, it's just part of being human. That doesn't make it right, especially if you're bringing the thoughts on intentionally.
The way I try to avoid them is by writing poems or reading or going online and playing a game. You just have to do something to distract you.
I guess I didn't really offer advice as much as consolation. I'll pray for you, though =].
--Jack
(17/m)
OK so me and my Bf were having some fun yesterday and well the condom broke and he hade come, i am on the pill and have been for a few monthes now like 6-7 and am also on my period i also took a warm bath and attempeted to clean myself, so my question is how doyou properly clean yourself after this happens and should their be anyworry bou getting pregnant?
If you're on the pill, the chances are slim, but there's still a chance.
Just wait it out, because there's nothing you can really do about it anyway, if you are or aren't.
--Jack
(17/m)