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lust and Christianity. help :(
I'm Christian and I know lust is wrong. That's why i was super-relieved when I got more into studying the Bible and whatnot and I was distracted by my former thoughts...that was a while ago though. And now they're coming back, especially about the boy that I'm infatuated with...and i don't want to bring him into this, he's a Christian boy!! I don't wanna think of him like that...or think like that at all.
like I said, I know in the Bible it says several times lust and sexual immorality is sin...but i need help stopping the thoughts. I'm praying! if you have any advice, please offer it, if you don't please pray for me.
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I also a teenage boy, and I know the struggles you are going through. I myself is working hard to overcome. First every morning pray for a clean heart for the battle of lust is an inside job, also for a clean mind. Then never be alone, play a sport to get your mind off it. After a while if it gets if they come back. Repeat what Ive told you. Keep in mind nothing is worst then the guilt of sin because you ve left the covering of your Savior. If you have lustful resources like CPU run!, i know its tough ,empty mind, close eyes an flee lust like the bible says, the Lord will reward you for your strength.
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Lust is not wrong! And you cannot help feeling attracted towards a male, it is only natural! You can't deny your feelings for this "christian boy" just because of the bible, stuff religion, do what you feel like. Maybe I am being a little biast as I am not religious, but it really does seem a little silly that you are putting your life and feelings on hold just to follow by a Book!!!
You are your own person, so do as you feel. As I said before, it is just Human Nature!
Love Sugar xxx
P.s. How do you think you were born?!
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I'm not very religious like many of you guys are in the US, and I am not Catholic, but I am christian (orthodox). The way I perceive that is in a very general sense and I consider the details of what the Bible says unimportant (people wrote it). In other words, I think that the basic idea of Christianity is love and for us to be good people generally in our life and not as a reason for us to follow a set of rules that were arbitrarily made up by some group of people I don't even know. Lust, just like many other things is human nature, and God knows that. I guess what I am trying to say is that I see God and religion -any God- as an ideal for people, which we try to work towards, and it is what separates us from the rest of the animals.
Plus, I mean what is your plan, to not think of boys until when? Whenever that is it's going to be ok suddenly? And what about getting married? How are you going to get married and have kids (which are a gift from God) when you are afraid to think of a man sexually?
I hope I don't seem harsh and you understand what I am trying to say. It's hard for me to put it in words.
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Lust may be sinful. But hon, everyone commits sins. You are a teenager. Yes, God does not want you to lust. But it is biologically impossible at times to not be lustful, thanks to hormones. As long as you're not acting on that lust, in my mind, you are not sinning. Its not like you're having sex, you're not hooking up with no intention of dating the guy, you're not masturbating, you're not looking up porn. All you're doing is fantisizing. You could say, "but God knows!" Yes, God does know. But God also knows we are but human. And that you are a teenage girl, who biologically cannot put aside those thoughts at times. Give yourself a break and just keep praying. God will love you just the same.
xoxo
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i know waht you belieave in but trust me lust is not a sin but something wonderful as is love. It is in our human nature to feel such things to give compassion to oneanother. You are a growing young female who is getting neew feelings and trust me they only get stronger, i am 18 and i have gone throught those I had many guys who were my friends and felt those strong feeling and urges, but i held out untill i was 18 amd had my first Bf. You could try going out as friends and playing mini golf seeing movies and spending time together doing things you both enjoy and when the time is right tell him how you feel towards him and see how he feels for you. I may not be a christian but i know in the bible it may say those things but i belieave that is says that to protect you from doing any harm but if thier is one thing lust, love and caring for another human of the opposit or same gender is somthing that isnt completley rong it is simply our human nature.
I hope this helps you.
Chris (18,female)
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just do more fun things with the kid, like going on dates: minigolfin, movies, dinner, bike rides, walks on the beach.
other than that, you just got to read your bible more. or find more hobbies for yourself while youre thinkin of it, like sports or art.
im not christian, and i dont think there is anythin wrong with sexuality because its a natural human thing. but i know your convictions...
good luck hun
x sweeethoney
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I'm a Catholic/Christian, and I understand what you're going through with "lustful" thoughts.
We're naturally lustful and have these thoughts, it's just part of being human. That doesn't make it right, especially if you're bringing the thoughts on intentionally.
The way I try to avoid them is by writing poems or reading or going online and playing a game. You just have to do something to distract you.
I guess I didn't really offer advice as much as consolation. I'll pray for you, though =].
--Jack
(17/m)
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