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i consider going to high school, as my PEACE PLACE where i can have no problems and just be a normal ME.

and my mom and sister (sister is my nUumbEer o0Nne problem at home!!! im so mad) went to the same high school im going to (oh yeah and shes older by one year) and wants to transfer from her old high school to my NEW school im BARELY gonna go to!!!!!!




how can i have that peaceful place if my NUMBEEERRR 1 problem is gonna g0 there!! i couldnt stop crying last night by thinking about it...


also its a magnet, so if you guys know whtt are the chances shell get accepted since the 3rd is when we go back to school.


my friend applied last week and got it. do you think since NEXT week is school, she'll get in this week?!?! i reeaally DONT WANT HER TO GO!! IT WOULD BE HELL! YALL DONT KNOW HOW SHE IS!!!!

i dont wanna be with her! plus we look like "twins" supposedly and i dont want that to be in high school iM SOOOOOOO DONE WITH IT! im crying right now!!!! :(

Calm down. It's not as bad as you think. Just relax.

She might not get accepted in to this school. And even if she does, you shouldn't let that ruin your high school experience. If it makes you feel any better, my mother teaches at my high school. Talk about embarrassing lol. But I don't let that bother me too much. And you shouldn't either.
Honestly, it doesn't matter if you two look like "twins". People will see that you two aren't the same person. Just go your separate ways when walking down the hall. There's so many class choices in high school that you probably won't see very much of her. It will be fine sweetie.

As far as you having no problems in high school, well, that's a tall order. Of course you're going to run into speed bumps, that's what growing up is all about. This is just one of them. The trick is to not let these problems stop you. Learn to work with them.

Good luck in high school, and remember that you can still be a "Normal You" even with your sister there.

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im making a sims music video for youtube to the song "home" by three days grace.

only problem is: the website where i usually download music from doesnt have that song on there.

can someone give me a good site that i can download this song off of? or better yet, just give me a link to one? thanks.

http://www.downloads.nl/results/mp3/1/home+three+days+grace

The second one down on the list works.
Just right-click and "Save Link As". Save it where you want it. Then, of course, add it to your movie.

Have fun! =]

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I am 15 and my best friend is 18 he just went off to collage today and last night he said he loved me and wanted to be with me. But he has a GF and he said he loves her more, but that he really wants to be with me and I really want to be with him more then anything right now and its been this way for around 8 months us both having these feelings. What do I do

Hmmm...
He says he loves you, but has a girlfriend? And it doesn't seem like he'd be willing to leave his girlfriend for you (based on the "But he has a GF and he said he loves her more..").
Sounds like this kid needs to sort through his feelings. There's nothing really you can do because this is all on him. He needs to figure out what he wants because right now he sounds very confused.
Maybe he knows he loves you, but he's not sure it's something more than friendship. So when he told you, he was just trying it out, searching for how he feels. You two are best friends, so you probably talk a lot. Maybe he's unsure of whether that connection should be taken a step further.

If he decides that he should stay with his girlfriend, that's ok. You two should still stay friends. Because at the end of the day, it's much better to have a strong, lasting friendship than a shaky boyfriend-girlfriend deal.

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you knw what ill just type this as fast as i can i dont care about spelling errors bcuz i am sooo mad.
i am sick of my life
frst of all because of my sister
one sister is the problem child in the family and my parents dont know that she [lots of times] blackmails me
and ive had it
im usually the nice girl
and im DONE
my sister [olderrrr] she puts on a fake pesonality with other ppl but with me shes suck a bi*ch.. im so mad i dont even know what im typing
i forgot everything i wanted to say
my life sucks
im ONLY 14
BUT WQHY does this happen to me
i need a punching bag
where can i get one
i just cant wait for school because thats the only place i can hopefully find happinessi
im so pissed off my life sucks
this is not how a teenge lifeshud be like
whatsss w

I don't think that you are "done with life". That is what someone suicidal says, and suicide should not be taken lightly. You are having some troubles right now but who isn't? In the long scheme of things, your sister being mean to you is not worth saying things such as "I am done with my life".

I'm going to give you advice about your sister. You guys are probably just going through the rough years of sibling rivalry. Nobody's relationship with their sibling is completely perfect. It's nothing new and nothing worth killing yourself about hun.
My parents have generally better relationships with their siblings now because they're adults and have matured. And you don't even have to be an adult though, it's maturity. Nobody's perfect, yes. But just stay calm and ride out these tough years. No big deal.

Your life does not suck. You want to go back to school that's good. I can't wait for school to start either because I want to see everyone. That's normal, again nothing worth getting upset about.

You said: "This is not how a teenge lifeshud be like". Well, what exactly is a teenage life supposed to be like? Everybody's different and you can't base your life on somebody else's. Are you going by a teenage stereotype? Because I have news for you: It's not like how they show it on TV. And the girls and/or guys that you might see around school who you think lead the "teenage life" don't go exactly by the book either. So, be yourself and don't compare to stereotypes.

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ok me and my bf got into a little fight but were all better now. but now he wants to give me oral to make up for pissing me off...i want to but idk how ike wat do i do while hes...ya..eating me lol i need serious help and he wants to do it tommorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If he's only giving you sex to make up for a fight you two had, then you need to seriously take a step back and look at the kind of relationship you have. A relationship should not be based on sex alone. Especially if he's using it as a bribe to get back in your good graces. He shouldn't and you shouldn't feel like you HAVE to have oral sex just to make up.
I'd try something else to get back to normal such as a date or something. Hold off on the sex until after you two are completely done with your fight and there are no hard feelings. And especially wait until you are completely READY for sex.

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i've recently started doing crunches every day [by recently i mean today being the 3rd day]. I do 50 crunches every morning and night, 20 without weights, 20 with two 3 lb weights, and then 10 without weights. I was wondering, if i continue to do this consistently, and occasionally add some push-ups or planks, how soon can I expect to see results, and what kind of results?

16/f.

You may see results as soon as three or four weeks, but it all depends on your body type.

Note though, that if you don't exercise on a regular basis and you are just starting out now, don't overwork yourself. That could do more harm than help. Maybe try easing into the crunches instead of 100 a day. Just a suggestion.

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Heyy ,
I am 15 years old and my boyfriend is 17. We haven't been offically going out for that long but we have been "together" for a while. He doesn't go and get with every girl. But he is older and more experienced than I am. I am comfortable with him but i dont want to rush into anything that im not ready to do yet. But i just am hoping that he understands and doesn't get mad. So i was just wondering if anyone can help me on what to say , if the conversation comes up of doing something more serious , as in sex.

Well, if you are comfortable around each other, then I'd say to just tell him that you aren't quite ready for sex yet. Maybe try talking about this topic more anyway so that you two are more aware of each other's boundaries.
If he's a good guy, then he should be understanding and considerate of your feelings. It's really good that you don't want to rush into anything at the moment. You should never feel pressured into doing something you don't feel comfortable about.
Don't worry about him being more "experienced". If you think he's expecting certain things that you aren't ready for, well that's something you need to talk to him about.
Good luck, I hope everything goes well for you.

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if a guy likes you and never ever looks you in the eye but talks to you, is there any meaning behind this other than the fact that he is shy?

Well, if you know for sure that he likes you, I'd say it's most likely due to shyness. He might not know how to show his true feelings. If you like him too, just strike up a conversation. See where it goes from there.

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I think i may have fell for one of my very good friends but im not sure if its just cause i like hanging out with her and she is one of the coolest girls i know. We were close once but it was complicated and ever sense then we've just been friends like it never happened.I've been thinking about this for awhile and i just dont know what to do act on it or dont risk the friendship or dont. Im lost

You're definitely right to not want to risk the friendship. Friends are way more important than any dating set-up. So I would really think this over first.

You said you were close to her once. Could this possibly just be regret that that relationship had to end? Maybe you just want her back like that because you miss it, not because you miss her. Just a thought.
She is a very good friend of yours. I can definitely understand where you would have mixed feelings for her. I have a few guy friends that are amazing and sometimes I wonder if there's something more there. It's normal ;]. Just like I said before, sort through those emotions before you make a move.

However, if you are sure of your feelings, maybe you should talk to her about it. Don't come right out with "Oh my God I love you!". Just say something to the effect of "I think that I might want us to try our relationship out again" or "I think I might like you as more than a friend".
Keep it light, and put no pressure on her.

Good luck. =]

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when you have mono, how long does it last? how long do you have to wait until you can go to school? can you go out to places when you have it?

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/000591.htm

^There's some information about mono.

For the length of time that you have the disease, the article above says: "Most patients recover within 2-4 weeks without medication"
And under the prevention section:
"The infection is probably spread by saliva and close contact. People may be contagious while they have symptoms and for up to a few months afterwards. The virus can live for several hours outside the body. Avoid kissing or sharing utensils if you or someone close to you has mono. The exact period that people are contagious varies."

So basically, I wouldn't go anywhere when you have mono to avoid spreading it. I hear also that it makes you very tired (fatigue is one of the symptoms), so you might not even want to go places.

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I always wear black eyeliner and mascara wherever I go. The problem is, it always bleeds! I don't think it's my mascara-- i think it's the eyeliner.

So what can i do? Does anybody else have this problem?

What's a good eyeliner that's not too expensive?
Thanks in advance. :)

Here's a beauty tip my friend taught me:

*This is for if you are putting the eye liner on the bottom. I doubt it would bleed from the top anyway*
1. Buy some powder foundation (that matches your skin tone of course)
2. Before you put your eye liner on, put a little powder below your lash line blend in the powder with your fingers
4. Apply the liner
5. Apply a little more powder and gently blend it in with a blush brush

That works amazing for me. You can find powder foundation at any local drugstore.
Also, if you want to try some new eyeliner, I recommend anything from Almay. Pencil eyeliners are the easiest to apply in my opinion. =]

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okay so my cousin's, who is 26, parents got divorced when she was really young and her mom (who was married to my current uncle but i don't think is related to me) married another man (who is not related to me) and had my cousins half-brother. now the half-brother has casually been flirting with me + hinting at going out and such, but idk if we are related or not!? it's such a confusing family tree. any help?

Okay I have this "cousin" who is my actual cousin's half brother. It's my mom's brother (my biological uncle)'s stepson, in other words my aunt (by marriage)'s child from her previous marriage. Is that sort of like this for you? This "cousin" is not related to me biologically at all. I'm pretty sure in your case too you are not related biologically.
However, I am not COMPLETELY sure. Besides, though not biologically related, he is your aunt's child. Generally, I tend to consider everyone at family gatherings family ;]
If you aren't sure about how you two are related, maybe you should just stay friends. You wouldn't want to find out the hard way.

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Okay I was just wondering what different theories everyone has about the universe, life, the possibility of other universes, and other such truths that people are constantly in the search of. In other words, why are we here? What is out there? What happens after death, and before life?

Ahh...

Well, I personally believe in God. But, I don't believe in everything having to do with Christianity. For instance, I'm not so sure of heaven. I know that there is a place that we must go after death, but I'm just not sure where.
It's a scary thing to think about, what happens after death? Do we just stop existing? That can't be true...
I think it's so scary to think about no longer existing, because we have NO IDEA how that feels. It's such a foreign idea. I've been struggling with this question for quite some time now. I was thinking about reincarnation...do we ever come back as another person? Such a weird thing.
I'm more keen to think however that we go to a heaven-like place. Paradise, if you will.

I pray to God when I'm thankful or happy, scared or sad. I feel Him with me when I'm in rough situations and firmly believe in the phrase "God never gives you more than you can handle". This helps me through the days when things are particularly rough.

I think it's harder nowadays considering we humans keep figuring out more and more. For every belief it seems there is a scientific explanation. Which in my opinion, just stirs up more questions as opposed to answering them all. Sometimes, I wish we didn't know so much. Wouldn't it make it so much easier just to give yourself over to Faith one-hundred percent? I try to have faith, but there's always that tiny sliver of doubt...

I don't really agree with the Big Bang theory one-hundred percent. I guess that's because I can't even really imagine nothingness. I mean, what could it have been like when there was ABSOLUTELY nothing? I don't get how all of a sudden out of nowhere something sparked and created the universe. But, that's what they teach in schools...
I'm more apt to believe that God created everything...with a little help from science. ;]

That's what I do now, I sort of combine things I've learned in school with things I've learned in church about the creation of the universe. It makes sense sometimes to me...until I think of yet another possibility.
Basically though, I'm not sure if we'll ever know. People could search forever but I'm not sure if we even SHOULD ever know. Some things were meant to be left alone. Maybe if we left them alone and just trusted in the fact that there is something bigger out there than ourselves, we could all be a little more satisfied.
Yeah, I believe in God and his presence. We can't be alone here. There's got to be something bigger, larger than life. I can feel it everywhere. But it's something that you can't feel with your senses, it's more like you feel it in your being.

Just some of my opinions. But life is a big question mark and I like it that way. =]

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me and my brother, who is 16, are REALLY close. Like we can talk about anything with each other. Well, he has a girlfriend, and despite his age, he says they are in love. And I believe it. They said they are going to get married when they get older. We were talking about it and my brother said something about how she might be pregnant. I was like "WOOAHH WHAT!?!?" and he explained that they do have unprotected sex a lot and stuff. So we were talking about that and then he said, "well if she is, her dad will probably think it's his". Then he went on to tell me something he hasn't told anyone. He said her dad sexually abuses her monthly and her step mom doesn't know because her step mom is literally crazy. Really, her step mom has some kind of disorder or something, so she's not normal. My brother is EXTREMELY upset about the fact that pretty much all the kids in their house are abused like this but he can't do anything about it. He said that if they told, she could go into foster care since she's only 17 and be taken away from him. I am really worried about him. He has numerous mental problems and she has committed suicide 4 times. I know if they are ever seperated, she'd probably kill herself and he'd probably go back to drugs. I know this shouldn't be any of my business, but I can't help but feel I need to do something. I just want to get her and her siblings out of the house but I just don't know what to do. Please help me! This girl's life is terrible and I would hate to think what's going to happen if she is pregnant! Help!

Okay, as much as your brother and this girl do not want to be separated, you NEED to tell someone. Right away. This is serious. I know that she would definitely be put into foster care, but that is the best thing for this family. Their dad sexually abuses them. This isn't a safe environment at all.

Your brother is upset and that's understandable. You said he has numerous mental problems and does drugs? Sweetie, he needs help too. His girlfriend has attempted suicide four times? Please tell someone about this too. Your brother and his girlfriend could get some well-needed help. You can't just let this whole thing slide. There are so many things wrong with this situation and it simply isn't being handled correctly at all.

TELL someone. They want to stay together, so they aren't going to report it. Well let me ask you this: Which is better, being together and in danger or being apart and safe? As much as we would all like to believe that people can survive on love alone, well...

By telling someone, I mean an adult. Tell your parents if possible, or a teacher, or minister, or neighbor...someone who can go to social services or wherever else needed.

I wish you all the best of luck and please keep yourselves safe.

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We havent gone out for very long but all of a sudden hes all lovey dovey on me. it feels like yesterday he was my friend but now hes kissing me all of a sudden. He likes to be affectionate but I don't quite feel comfortable just yet. What do I do??

I was in a similar situation as you. My ex-boyfriend would get super-affectionate with me when I totally wasn't comfortable with it just then. What worked was talking to him about it.
I suggest the next time you go on a date together, beforehand tell him that you aren't ready just yet to jump into "lovey dovey" mode. Do it nicely, and be sure not to act annoyed. Just bring it up casually and keep the conversation light. The idea is to just express concerns, not make him feel cornered and scared. ;]

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So the guy I'm talking to is a little mad at me, for reasons that I fully take blame for. I've apologized but he doesn't think I'm really sorry. I'll be seeing him at his graduation party where there will be family, mine and his, how would I be able to catch his attention and make him sure I was truly sorry?

It all depends. I don't know your friend, but I'm going to give you three possibilities and you can see whichever one applies more...

1) He just needs space. He's not ready to accept your apology, and only time will heal.

2) He just needed space for that one day. He wasn't ready to accept your apology then, but he might be now.

3) He's totally forgotten and is no longer mad at you.

For all of these possibilities, the solution is simple. At the graduation party, just smile and say hi if you cross paths with him. Then, gauge his reaction:

1) If he stares you down with a "if-looks-could-kill" glare, back off.

2) If he smiles and brings it up again himself, then maybe you two could talk it out. That's the key, let him bring it up, not you.

3)And lastly, if he smiles hugely and gives you hug saying "I'm so happy you're here!" and doesn't bring it up at all, case closed and move on. ;]

Good luck and have fun at that party. =]

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i asked this question already but i couldn't see the answers for some reason so here it is:


i really like this guy and i think he might like me back, hes been dropping a few hints and stuff but like he didnt flat out say that he liked me... (yet?) we've only hung out like 3 or so times. im seeing him again this weekend at a party and theres gonna be alcohol there. hes not really a big drinker but he does a little bit, and hes friends with everyone who does. this is gonna sound really stupid but my question is, should i act a little tipsy around him? because i kind of want to see if he'll take care of me and stuff. please don't tell me to act myself and stuff its not like im gonna get flat out drunk, im not like that. i just wanna see if he really does have feelings for me and stays with me...which he has before at a non-alcoholic beverage party. oh and like everyones gonna be drunk, so i dont want him to get the wrong impression of me thinking im like a big party pooper, i wanna be fun, cause i am fun =)


thank youu!

Like the person below me said, he basically wouldn't be worth it if he didn't want you anymore because you were above the influence at a party. Why drink just because everybody else is, and you think it would get more people to like you? Those people who wouldn't like you as much sober...well, forget them. =P
Besides, you are your own person. I understand that you would want to know if he'd take care of you when you're 'tipsy'. But think about this: if he takes care of you when you're a little drunk, it could just mean that he's a nice person, not that he necessarily likes you. So, why not do it the old-fashioned way...ask him or flirt a little.
If he's already stayed with Sober You to talk at a non-alcoholic party, what makes you think he wouldn't stay with Sober You at an alcoholic party? He likes you already sober, so what's the point in testing him by drinking?

Just my opinion on the matter. Above all though, just have fun and remember that you don't need to show off to him by drinking. I think you're already in his good graces hun.
Good luck! =]

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Who is this?

http://i35.tinypic.com/ax1w80.jpg

I'm pretty sure it's Sean Faris.
Here:
http://gallery.seanfarisonline.com/displayimage.php?album=97&pos=5

On the top title it says Sean Faris =]

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14/f

i finished breaking dawn by stepehnie meyer,

i want to know how you guys liked it.
i loved it!

I don't normally answer these kinds of questions, but I love the Twilight series personally lol. So here goes...

((*SPOILER WARNING* in case anybody reading this hasn't read/finished Breaking Dawn))
I thought Breaking Dawn was okay. Not great, not horrible, just okay. I think that's because from Bella's point of view, her way of thinking has changed due to the baby and her transformation. It just seemed too different since she now has another person to love possibly more than Edward, you know? And Edward no longer needs to protect her now that she's, well you know. ;]
I loved though that part of the book was told from Jacob's perspective. That was a nice change and I think Stephenie Meyer did a fantastic job stepping into another character's shoes. It really sounded like Jacob talking, not Bella. =]

The first book will always be the best in my opinion. Nothing can compare

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i recently got a contacts refit and a prescription for glasses (my first time wearing glasse) now i have my glasses but theres something off about them. they have astigmatism accounted for but i had a headache when i put them on and took them off. is the prescription for glasses diff than contacts since contacts like wrap around the eye and glasses dont?

When I first got my glasses, I'd get headaches too after putting them on and taking them off. I think it was because I was getting used to them. It's a weird feeling how if you look down or up, you're not looking through your glasses, and if you take them off, suddenly you can't see as clearly. This causes dizziness, which then leads to headaches. So that could be your problem, just getting used to them. With contacts, when you look up, you're still seeing through them. And you don't have to take them off or put them back on throughout the day real fast you know?

I'd suggest maybe asking your eye doctor anyway if you have any further questions. I'm only guessing based on my experience, but a doctor would probably be better able to assess your situation.

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