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I feel like I need to do something...
14/f
me and my brother, who is 16, are REALLY close. Like we can talk about anything with each other. Well, he has a girlfriend, and despite his age, he says they are in love. And I believe it. They said they are going to get married when they get older. We were talking about it and my brother said something about how she might be pregnant. I was like "WOOAHH WHAT!?!?" and he explained that they do have unprotected sex a lot and stuff. So we were talking about that and then he said, "well if she is, her dad will probably think it's his". Then he went on to tell me something he hasn't told anyone. He said her dad sexually abuses her monthly and her step mom doesn't know because her step mom is literally crazy. Really, her step mom has some kind of disorder or something, so she's not normal. My brother is EXTREMELY upset about the fact that pretty much all the kids in their house are abused like this but he can't do anything about it. He said that if they told, she could go into foster care since she's only 17 and be taken away from him. I am really worried about him. He has numerous mental problems and she has committed suicide 4 times. I know if they are ever seperated, she'd probably kill herself and he'd probably go back to drugs. I know this shouldn't be any of my business, but I can't help but feel I need to do something. I just want to get her and her siblings out of the house but I just don't know what to do. Please help me! This girl's life is terrible and I would hate to think what's going to happen if she is pregnant! Help!
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Your brother's girlfriend should take a pregnancy test and see if she's REALLY pregnant.
Since your brother's girlfriend has brothers and/or sisters, you should volunteer to let them stay at your house for a while because her step mom can't take care of them, right?
If she's REALLY preggy, then she has to decide if she wants to keep this baby. If it's her dad's, it's probably a good idea to get an abortion even though it wrong. She should always go to a doctor and ask the doctor.
Hope it works out well.
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Ok yeah, I think you should tell someone. Thats the thing you need to do. Even if your brother and his girlfriend are in love, you need to do something. And that something is telling an adult. If her father is doing that to her then why should she be there? Just to be with your brother? I know they love each other but if your brother really does, he needs to understand that she needs help and needs to tell someone about this. This could ruin both of their lives if you don't tell anyone. His girlfriend isn't the only one who needs help. If he goes back on drugs he needs help. Love if hard. But you have to make sacrifices. I understand he would be upset but the environment she is in, is not good at all and she NEEDS to be away from there. Even if that does mean leaving your brother. I hope everything works out.
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Okay, as much as your brother and this girl do not want to be separated, you NEED to tell someone. Right away. This is serious. I know that she would definitely be put into foster care, but that is the best thing for this family. Their dad sexually abuses them. This isn't a safe environment at all.
Your brother is upset and that's understandable. You said he has numerous mental problems and does drugs? Sweetie, he needs help too. His girlfriend has attempted suicide four times? Please tell someone about this too. Your brother and his girlfriend could get some well-needed help. You can't just let this whole thing slide. There are so many things wrong with this situation and it simply isn't being handled correctly at all.
TELL someone. They want to stay together, so they aren't going to report it. Well let me ask you this: Which is better, being together and in danger or being apart and safe? As much as we would all like to believe that people can survive on love alone, well...
By telling someone, I mean an adult. Tell your parents if possible, or a teacher, or minister, or neighbor...someone who can go to social services or wherever else needed.
I wish you all the best of luck and please keep yourselves safe.
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