My name is Rae. I live in Colonie. I go to CCHS asa freshman. I'm 14, my birthday is October 7th (( tomorrow from wen im writing this lol )). I help my friends out with advice ALL the time and i'm pretty good at it. I keep an open mind and make sure i give people as many options and opions that i have for them. I'll try to come on here everday, but if i dont i may have computer problems, charging my laptop, working on a website, or currently dealing with my own problems. I want to open up to you guys and relate your problems to mine. I may be young but i have gone through a lot in my life, as well as seen people i'm very close to go through the same problems you are. I'm actually really bad at solving my own problems... which is probably why i'm good at solving other peoples.
There are a lot of useless random info about me and i dont want to bore you anymore haha. but if ya wanna no more e-mail me, IM me, or jus ask a question lol. thanx
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A good friend of mine recently just told me that he has feeling for me that go beyond our friendship. I had to turn him down and tell him that I couldn't be more than just friends with him. Not because he's not a good guy, don't get me wrong, he's pretty hott, funny, fun, sweet; he's a great guy. I just can't see myself in a relationship with him since we're such good friends. And not only him, but anyone of my male friends (I'm a girl by the way, if you haven't caught on--16).
It's like, once a guy reaches the "friend zone" with me, thats it, I can't date him. I mean, I tell my best frineds (guys and girls) everything from guys I've dated and done things sexual with to why my sister and I got into a fight. They've also seen me at my worst whether it be just woken up, havent shaved my legs in a while (haha), or in an argument with a parent. True, a boyfriend should know almost everything about you and will end up seeing you in those situations but as the relationship builds. Plus if I my best friend becomes my boyfriend then who am I going to complain to guys about?
Does anyone else feel this way or do you think I should give this guy a shot even though I do think this about friendships? Because honestly, if he had told me before we became such good friends I probably would have gone for it.
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I think you should give him a shot. You had more reasons for why you WOULD date him then why you WOULDNT. Like you said, hes this GREAT guy... and the fact that he knows so much about you is a lot better. This way he already knows how you act in those situations so he can help better. And that will make the relationship feel closer. The fact that you both know so much about each other means there isnt that whole awkwardness like in other relationships. You dont have to try sooo hard to impress this guy because he already knows the best and worst about you. And the fact that he likes you for that means a lot.
The only thing about it is that if something bad DOES happen in the relationship it could jepordize your friendship. But would you wanna go through your whole life wondering what would have happened if you gave him a shot.
I think you should give it a try, and after like the first week, if it just doesnt feel right end it. Before you guys start dating let him know that you wanna try it out, but if it feels weird you wanna go back to being friends. That way he knows what your thinking about and you wont hurt him.
And to answer your question, you could always complain to guys to your other friends, DUH =]
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ok..so..i like this guy..we'll call him kv. well he turns out to be my brothers best friend..i eventually told him, and it didn't bother him at all. i told my friend jordan, who was kv's age (they r 2 years older then me)and kv's friend, and asked her if i should ask him out. she told me no, because he had a girlfriend, and his grifriend was her best friend. i had absolutly NO clue kv had a girlfriend. i immeadiatly felt emmbaresed. i remembered his old girlfriend (lets call her dee)dee, and wondered if they were still together. she moved to florida. i found out they were still together... a couple days after i told kv, he IM'd me and told me he needed to tell me something that was private, and not to be said to anyone else. he told me that he really liked me, and his girfriend, and he was confused. he told me that she would be coming back to where we live on june 21st to visit. he said they would probobly break up...but i'm not sure if i believe him...what do i do???
-conufsed.. (link)
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Just wait it out. If he doesnt break up with her then back off for a little while, and make sure you like him too. If he does then you guys should go out especially since this guy said he liked you. Just remember that dating your friends brother has its pros and cons... like if you break up it could ruin your brothers friendship with this guy.
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well i really like this guy and he is real nice including really HOTT. Well i want to do some thing with him because ive not got to hang out with him out of shcool. but im not alowd to have him over. eny ideas were we could hang (link)
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Tell him to meet you at the mall or something. And its summer so why not tell him to meet you at the local pool. You could go to the movies or something to. The ideas are likee limitless
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hello, this is Jackie here. I have a problem. I am confused... there is this boy, I like him and from what I can tell, he likes me. I am 14 and he is a little older. This weekend this boy, my sister and another boy went to a community swimming pool. We sat next to eachother, he put his arm around me, and we held hands. after that I went home and soon I got a call from some girl saying that she was the boys new girl friend and that I need to stay away from him now. and I'm not sure if she's for real, or just being mean? I think that it could be this girl who's friends with him, that I made a comment about me not liking. So maybe she found out and knows that I like him, and wanted to get me back. I'm not sure. what do you think? Please help i rate well
*jackie* (link)
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Shes just messing with your head. If he had a girlfriend he wouldnt be macking on you. And she obviously saw you guys hanging out or she wouldnt have known to call. ew a total stalker right? I think you should tell this guy that she called and what she said so he can handle it. If they really are dating then back off from the guy, cuz that means hes a player anyway. And if not then hell probably wanna deal with the girl whos claiming to be his.
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well the ppl who i thought were my friends always go put and never bother to call me to ever go but then when they need a ride home they always seem to call me cause i can drive i cant stand it what should i do ? should i get new friends and let them know how i ffeel ....Ill rate!!! (link)
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Let them know how you feel. Tell them that you dont like not being invited out. It`s not right that they call you to get them. So next time tell them no, you cant get them this time. Then they`ll realize they cant use you like that. Tell them that it feels like your being used. If they keep it up, new friends might be a good idea.
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In choir, we're singing the song "For Good" from the musical Wicked, if you know it. We had an audition for the solo at the beginning ("I've heard it said that people come into our lives.....but I know I'm who I am today because I knew you"). I had practiced singing it in a head voice. But I forgot that if I sing longer than 45 minutes, I can't sing any lower than the E above Middle C in a head voice. The director, suprisingly, called on me first, and I remembered that it had been 2 hours, and I definitely couldn't sing the low B in a head voice. So I had to sing it in a chest voice. In front of the whole chorus. Being a soprano, I have barely any experience singing in a chest voice. Nobody has ever heard my voice alone except for the director, so I was scared shitless. I was shaking all over the place, and I sang horribly. It was just awful. The director was totally suprised, since she knows about my stage fright woes. And the other girls did much better than me. The director knows I'm a good singer, but my audition was ghastly.
I'm sooo embarassed. What do you guys think of this situation? (link)
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Every good singer has their bad days. The fact that you even TRIED singing in a chest voice as a soprano earns u major props from me. I`m a soprano... and a DAMN good singer... and even I cant tell you the names of notes i sing. But I`m still good... whoever taught you was good.
Try singing without worrying what notes your hitting. It`s ok if your a little off every once in a while, sometimes when your singing its good to let the director know that you can mix it up a little bit. You never know, your ad lib on the notes might make you stand out a whole lot more.
I get reeeally embarrassed singing in front of others, but you KNOW you sing good... when you get up there to sing make sure you show them how good you are. They`re your peers... and a lot of them are just as nervous as yoo are whether they wanna admit it or not
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Our Spanish Club is holding a bake sale and car wash together. I am organizing the bake sale and have to contact other club members and get each of them to provide a dish to help out with the sale. I need some ideas of what types of desserts I can ask different members to make. I want to keep it fairly simple -- cakes, cookies, pies, etc. I just need to compile a list of desserts. Any ideas are appreciated!
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Betty Crocker brownies happen to be the best thing ever invented. And it takes 45 minutes to make... 30 of it is in the oven. 5 making it, and its gotta cool. Banana bread isnt that hard either... and muffins are easy too.
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Okay, so I have the boyfriend, he's not the best. & I want to break up with him. Another reason why it because it's almost summer, I want to be free for summer, and maybe date some other people.
The only problem is, HOW? I mean, I'm not the type that does it herself, right in front of everyone in the hallway. But I also don't want to be the one that has to ask her friend to tell him for me. I don't think I can do it in 3 days before school ends, So it's going to have to be over the phone.
I just do want to break him down emotionally. I want to let him down easy, but either way he might be in tears. I don't want to make him sad, but I know that I have to break up with him. It's going to be so awkward. Please help.
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Well you seem pretty cocky. He might be in tears. Dont think so highly of yourself... it kinda leaves people with a bad taste in their mouth.
Let him know that it's not working and you want to date other people during the summer. That you dont want to cheat on him because you found someone else.
And doing it on the phone is the worst thing you could do. Stay after and do it, or do it outside when there arent a lot of people around. But on the phone shows thats your inconsiderate... would you like being dumped on the phone?
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ok, I've been goin out with this guy for a little over 3 months, he's 16 and he can drive and I'm 15. It's summer so he's always tellin me how he's really buisy, I never see him anymore b/c he says he's always gone... in someways he sounds a little "overly" buisy. He lives like 8 minutes away from me, and he's only come to see me one time ALL summer. When we first started goin out I liked him sooo much that I made the mistake of telling him i would never break up with him... Things aren't working out and I don't feel the same about him, but I don't want to hurt him and I don't know how to break up with him in the right way. I don't want him to think I'm a liar and I regret tellin him that cuz I should have known it wouldn't last forever... What should I do? (link)
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The best advice in life: Dont EVER regret something that once made you smile. And dont EVER regret something because at one point you wanted it. Telling him you would never break up with him was what you wanted and believed, and im sure it made you smile. You cant go back in time.. so dont worry about lying to him. When you tell certain guys you love them, then you break up and hate him... is that lying to him?
It might not make a lot of sense.. but the point is: dont worry about him calling you a liar. But if things arent working out you shouldnt be held down by something you said 3 months ago.
I think you should talk to him. Let him know its not working and that you NEED to see him more often. If he says he cant and gives you a lame ass excuse like OH IM BUSY.. well then the jackass needs to be busy with his GIRLFRIEND.
If nothing works and he STILL isnt around, then tell him you think you should take a break, or tell him you're better off as friends. Let him know that you cant be in a relationship where you barely see the other person.
hope i helped
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OKay if you to to my myspace
www.myspace.com/moshele6
and look how my pic thingy is centered and like all my stuff is centered and connected.... how do i get it back to regular?!?!? (link)
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That's just the way the layout is. If you dont like it I suggest getting another onee. Although I think its cute =].
whateverlife.com is a GREAT layoutt sitee
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I'm so confused about my boyfriend, I mean he's the nicest guy, but he's so shy. He's forgetful too so he doesn't call all that often. The only things I seem to focus on about him anymore are his faults. I really do love him but sometimes I just get the feeling that he doesn't know what he's doing. Yet sometimes he does cute things (like grabs my hand which guys don't seem to enjoy) but usually only when were around my friends that are couples (I'm guessing he just copies what they do?) When were alone it's completely different, we talk about everything and nothing yet it still seems awkward; We don't go to the same school so that can account for being a bit awkward around each other since we don't see hangout as often. I want a bond with him like all my friends have where they play fight with each other, talk about their relationship and call each other just to say "Hi"
I don't know how to show him that I'm really into him and want to step it up a bit. Any advice? (link)
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My friend is having a problem like this. And I told her what im gonna tell you. Communication is the MOST IMPORTANT in a relationship. Let him know that you need to hang out more, and that you want what other people have. But a relationship isnt a one way street. Why not start calling him yourself just to say hi. Why dont you FLIRT with him like hes your crush and not your boyfriend. Hit him kiddingly but make sure he knows its ok to hit you back. Look him in the eyes as much as you can, use humility around him, brush your hand against his, and make sure you say his name at least 3 times in a conversation with him. It makes people feel loved and important.
Good Luck Babe
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I cant take it anymore
I really cant.
My parents are so overprotective.
Whenever I go out, they always want me to be home by 10 PM. latest
I need revenge
dont you dare say its cuz they care about me. i know that and im sick of all this shit
i need help now
I cant take it anymore (link)
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How old are you? For some people a 10 pm curfew is good. You apparantly have no respect, and at frist I was relating to you cause my parents are mad overprotective. But damn your just a sucky little brat. Dont even bother rating me... I cant belive you.
They are overprotective because of a CURFEW?! wow... maybe they are afraid something bad will happen to you... dont worry, karma comes back around.
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Is running a half a mile in 4 mins and 43 seconds fast regular or slow? (link)
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It depends on the person. It could be fast for you, but slow for someone else. But it's basically regular. I know people who sprint half a mile in 2 minutes, and others who do it in 8 minutes. It really depends on you, ya know?
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ok, here's the thing: my friend and I are giving our other friend, who's a bisexual guy, a makeover. He's willing to spend $300 and we can do basically anything. any suggestions(stores, styles, etc.)? (link)
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Hair a little shaggy is good, and Hollister, American Eagle, or Abercrombie basically rocks. But it depends on his style ya know? Watch what he wears and stick with the similar style so he doesnt look like hes totally confused ya know?
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I'm 14/F. ok, I'm going to a graduation party this weekend and we will most likly end up playing spin the bottle or truth or dare, or some other type of kissing game. A guy I like might be at the party and if me and him are supposed to make-out, is it a turn-on to him if I'm like "ok, let's go for it!". (or basically not turning the kiss down.)
PS... not sure if this is in the right topic, but I just figured it fit this one best. (link)
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It depends. If he doesn't look excited while playing the game then don't go in for the kiss right away. But if he looks like he'a having fun then go for it. It'll show him that you are a fun person to be with and stuff.
oo and dont worry about the topic nobody ever really cares =] lol
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my fever is 100.9 , is that bad?
I have been having horrible aches and pains, stuffed up sinuses (ears, nose, throat)
and i feel woozy half of the time. (link)
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You might be having heat exhaustion or dehydration. Make sure you drink lots of fluids and don't overwork yourself. You should also try to saty away from the sun as much as you can until you feel better.
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this is my first post and ohh yeaah English is not my first language...
I began my college year in 04 until now i took a total of 14 classes. and i failed 3 courses got d's in 2, withdrew from 2 and got okay grades meaning c's and b's and cr in the rest. I'm not getting anywhere in school, I don't have a major and everyone i know has either transferred to a university and are close to getting their degrees. My parents think am doing great in school and they keep asking me when I will be graduating...and take into consideration i am not satisfied with the life that am living. so what am asking is ..Summer classes are beginning any time now,& should I retake the classes that I fail or just give up on school... any advice u have for me is welcomed (link)
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Don't give up on school. It's almost impossible to get a job without a degree now. Even working at McDonalds, if your an adult they want to see a degree. You paid a lot of money to go to school, so why quit now?
I think you should retake the classes you failed, study a lot more and do MORE than what's required for projects and reports. You might want to get a tutor too, or if you think the class is to hard for you try to get a easier class. I would hate for you to get screwed over completely by a few failing grades.
And for the major, you dont NEED a major yet. But come up with stuff you love to do and take it from there. I love music, so when I go to college I'm going to be a music major. Your major doesn't mean you have to get a job in that field
Good Luck
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Is there a proper way to deal with online harrassment? Can something be done? This needs to stop. (link)
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It depends on the type of harrassment. If you feel threatened then save all conversations with the person, or save however form of how your being harrassed. Then report that person. Take it to the local police, or if it's on a website report it to that website. Many things can be done, and if it is bad enough that person could even get time in jail. Just report it to the police if its bad, dont even wait for the website to do something about it.
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just to warn you, this COULD be long... im really sorry but i DO need help so please keep reading and help me if you can.
i just got back from a cruise where i met a FANTASTIC boy. ...well thats what i thot. his name was matt. we had a mutual friend on the cruise named tyler that was closer friends with him but me and him were friends also.. well me and matt were like always together and we hooked up a few times on the cruise too.
when i got home, me and matt still talked on the phone and stuff but we live like 2 hours from eachother so we dont see eachother. well matt actually asked me to his prom and i told him i would ask my parents. so a couple days later i was talking to tyler online and i told tyler that matt asked me to his prom. tyler acted REALLY surprised so i asked him wutsup. and tyler said that matt didnt really like me.. he actually had a GIRLFRIEND while he was on the cruise.. and that matt just kinda considered me a bootycall. well, this is what tyler said. so i was obviously PISSED so i talked to matt about it, and he denied the whole thing telling me how great i am and how much he likes me.
so i told matt that i believe him, but its still in the back of my mind that tyler was telling the truth, just because i dunno why he would lie about something like that. and now im just really confused.. i dunno what to believe. any opinions? please help. (link)
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hmm this is a tough one. I dont think tyler is telling the truth, only because he randomly decided to tell you the "truth" about matt in stead of telling you on the cruise. Besides, why would Matt INVITE YOU to prom if he doesnt like you and he has a girlfriend?
If I were you id forget what tyler said... most guys our age lie and stuff to trick people just for fun./
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A boy is going to ask me to a school dance. I dont want to go with him. what should i tell him to let him down gently?
I'll rate 5's. (link)
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Tell him that you wanted to go by yourself or with a group of your friends, or if you were hoping someone else might add you tell him that someone might ask you if his parents let him go. Or you could just tell him you dont like him like that, but make sure you let him know you like him as a friend, or a brother =]
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