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Turning a friendship to something more?
A good friend of mine recently just told me that he has feeling for me that go beyond our friendship. I had to turn him down and tell him that I couldn't be more than just friends with him. Not because he's not a good guy, don't get me wrong, he's pretty hott, funny, fun, sweet; he's a great guy. I just can't see myself in a relationship with him since we're such good friends. And not only him, but anyone of my male friends (I'm a girl by the way, if you haven't caught on--16).
It's like, once a guy reaches the "friend zone" with me, thats it, I can't date him. I mean, I tell my best frineds (guys and girls) everything from guys I've dated and done things sexual with to why my sister and I got into a fight. They've also seen me at my worst whether it be just woken up, havent shaved my legs in a while (haha), or in an argument with a parent. True, a boyfriend should know almost everything about you and will end up seeing you in those situations but as the relationship builds. Plus if I my best friend becomes my boyfriend then who am I going to complain to guys about?
Does anyone else feel this way or do you think I should give this guy a shot even though I do think this about friendships? Because honestly, if he had told me before we became such good friends I probably would have gone for it.
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I think you should give this guy a shot. You don't know maybe you will start to feel the same way about him as he feels about you. You stil have other friends to tell everything to and you can still be close to him. Go for it. Hope everything wirks out!
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I feel like the same way.Ya been through so much with them and just cant see you guys together.A lot of people dont date friends because if we breck up it ocward being around them .And what do you mean Give this guy a ashot i know what you mean but you already said no dont date this friend because a few people on the internet said you should you dont even know them dont let them run your life.I understand completely why you dont date friends and your not alone i dont either.Its weird cause there really no diffrence between but kissing hugging more more haha me i dont thik you should date him dont ruin a friendship hoping for luck
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If your not comfterable with going out with him then keep it that way dont just go out with him because you feel bad for turning him down. If you do kind of like him though then give it a chance see how it works out because since hes already such a good friend you can trust him right. Since your worried about not haveing a guy friend to have to tell everything about to thats fine you will find anouther friend to trust. Maybe a girl then you dont have to worry about them end up liking you. When or if you give this guy a chance tell him befor that you still want him to be the same and not change except of course he can be closer. Just be carefull because if things dont work out dont get in a huge fight at the end or ignore eachother because that could ruin the good friendship you to had at first. So befor you start to go out tell him that even if it doesnt work out you want to stay the great friends you two were in the begining. Dont just go out with him just because our you want to see if it would work but if you do have some feeling for him and think it could possibly go somewhere then so do it give it a chance. Hope it works out with you to .
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Some time a good friend makes the best boyfriend or girlfriend. I'd give him a chance i mean, he's been your friend this long why not? If it doesn;t work oout then you guys can always go back to friends but what if it does work out and you guys never went out? It could huant you your entire life.
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I think you should give him a shot. You had more reasons for why you WOULD date him then why you WOULDNT. Like you said, hes this GREAT guy... and the fact that he knows so much about you is a lot better. This way he already knows how you act in those situations so he can help better. And that will make the relationship feel closer. The fact that you both know so much about each other means there isnt that whole awkwardness like in other relationships. You dont have to try sooo hard to impress this guy because he already knows the best and worst about you. And the fact that he likes you for that means a lot.
The only thing about it is that if something bad DOES happen in the relationship it could jepordize your friendship. But would you wanna go through your whole life wondering what would have happened if you gave him a shot.
I think you should give it a try, and after like the first week, if it just doesnt feel right end it. Before you guys start dating let him know that you wanna try it out, but if it feels weird you wanna go back to being friends. That way he knows what your thinking about and you wont hurt him.
And to answer your question, you could always complain to guys to your other friends, DUH =]
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