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See I'm hanging out with my friend (if she says yes) on Friday. One of my old friends found out and is angry at me. The thing is she never invites mi anywhere and tellls mi how much fun she has with people. It's super rude. Also when I ask we to hand out, she does nothing but text. I want to hang out with my friend and its really pissong me off

I think you should ignore your angry friend you
can hang out with whoever you choose to they can't
tell you who you can & can't hang out with that's your choice i think your friend is getting angry at for you no reason she has no reason to don't allow her to ruin or stop you from hanging out with your friend & having fun or hold you back you do what you want it's her fault she never invites you anywhere and brags about how much fun she has with other people and texts when the two of you hang out she brought that upon herself you did nothing wrong don't allow it to piss you off & make you angry it truely isn't worth it she's getting angry at you for a stupid reason & being childlish

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My boyfriend and I have been having several issues ever since we began dating. So we decided to take a break. We then realised that we both wanted to be with each other so we were in the process of getting back together when my UNCLE snooped into my hard disk and saw pictures of us together and he told my mom and they made a huge deal out of it since the boy is not from the same religion as us and is not very rich. I am from India and all these make a huge deal! They even ended up calling my boyfriend and explaining to him how it will not work and so to not keep any hopes. My boyfriend feels that it is better to break it off now itself instead of letting it drag on and then hurting a ton of ppl and ultimately ourselves in case my family objects. I really don't know what to do. My boyfriend doesn't want this relationship anymore owing to the big deal my family made n the fact that we had tons of problems. What do I do? I can't chose between my family n him.

I think it's wrong your uncle took it upon himself
and snooped looked at the pictures of you & your boyfriend even though he's your uncle & he isn't a stranger to you he invaded your privacy that isn't right same goes for him telling your mom &
getting her involved when she doesn't need to be
also them calling your boyfriend & telling him what they did that didn't need to be done & wasn't
necessary i think you need to try & save your relationship try & change your families mind about
the whole situation the same goes for your boyfriend the problems between you & him can be
fixed if the two of you are willing to put in the effort & fix them just because your boyfriend isn't the same religion as you doesn't make him a
bad person same goes for him not being rich a relationship shouldn't be based on how rich a person is or money i think you need to talk to your boyfriend & family try & straighten the situation out it's worth a shot you never know
until you try something good could come out of talking & i'm hoping for your sake & your boyfriend's that happens don't loose hope i still think your relationship can be saved even though your in the situation you are

Hope i brought some positively your way seems like
your in need of it(:

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i have had a really bad love past. my first boy friend i dated 15 times, he cheated in me 3 of those times with more then one girl. My 2 boyfriend is just a sex feind he was exactly interested- i was the one that escaped his trap (didnt have sex with him) my 3rd broke up with me over some fake crap. and anyone else i've been interested in simply didn't want me or used my attraction for their own benefit.
i just started dating my newest boyfriend and he is thgee purest bf i've ever had....
he says he loves me but ive heard that so many times that i cant believe anything any guy says anymore.
is this normal???

Yes it's normal to not believe that he doesn't love you seeing as your past experiences with boyfriends wasn't the best i'm sure he does love you he wouldn't say it for the sake of saying it or for nothing so he must mean it he seems sincere with his words all boys are different your current boyfriend won't be like the previous boys you've dated i do think your allowing your past to hold you back your previous boyfriends are in your past & that's where they'll stay even though you've been hurt in the past you've got a new boyfriend now it's almost like a new beginning you starting over fresh focus on the
future & don't dwell on the past it won't do you
any good(:

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17/f

I am a Christian. I have been all of my life.
Some people tell me that Christian's do not get depressed because they have found God's love. I know where they are coming from, but I feel myself fighting depression. I always feel alone.I keep having bad thoughts. I feel like my family will never understand what I am going through, I try telling them but then they feel bad because I am just acting negative and am not being thankful for the life that them and God has provided for me. We don't really have the money right now for conseling. I am not 100% sure what my question is,i guess i have a few. 1.) does anyone know free conseolors online?or free chat where you can instant messageanyone? 2.) are there any websites where I can havea chrsitian penpal? 3.) does it get any better

Just because your Christian doesn't mean you don't
get depressed we all do at some point your no different & are human like the rest of us it's apart of life depression of course things get better they can't stay the way they are forever things have to change and improve at some point
we all act negative sometimes have good days &
bad one's i'm sure your thankful your just going
through a tough time right now which is making you feel the way you are you aren't the only one
who feels alone or has bad thoughts others do too myself included you aren't alone when it comes to that(:


http://depression-chat-rooms.org/ This is a chatroom for depression you can PM others i use it
myself all you have to do is create a username &
click connect

http://www.christiancupid.com/christian_PenPals.cfm Here's a christian penpal website

http://www.asktheinternettherapist.com/ Here's a
online counseling website

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i have got these small red sort of thing on my hand
they don't itch
and are very small like a ant has bit me or something
they are a couple of them on both my hands

could it be an std?

No it's not a std you can only get std's from having sex it's probably some type of small bumps i would leave it alone if you stratch at it then that could make it worst and cause it to spread if your concerned then visit your doctor i'm sure you'll be fine it's not a std(:

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I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months however, I don't know where I stand right now. Since he got a job (about 3 weeks ago) his been distand because he starts at 7am until 7pm at times and he's always tired. First week I realised he wasn't making time so I said some thing whilst we were on the phone he said "I dont choose mates over a girl" When I saw him that day he said he didn't mean it like that all he meant was he tells everyone he'll see them on the weekend and he has to try and make time for everyone. Anyways recently last Wednesday he went out of state for work, wednesday we msgd and Thursday he called me and told me he missed and so forth. Friday he was meant to come back he didn't msg i msgd him saying "I miss you" no reply so I msgd at 10 saying "did you get home safely?" he replied 1 hour later saying "Yehh just tired chilling lol" Saturday he usually msgs me in the morning this time he msgd me at 1 saying just "hey how are?" i replied "Why are you being dry?" he responds "sorry babe just buggered I guess" i then said if ive done some thing wrong then tell me because you're never dry to me... he replied 8 hours later he said "hey hows your night going? what did you today woman?" I replied then i msgd again saying "I love you" then Sunday morning he msgd me at 11am saying "I'm sorry for all this?" I replied sorry for what? then I msgd again saying please don't break up with me please.... and he just didn't reply now ive been crying 4 days straight i love him so much i've liked him for about 2 years and I haven't done anything wrong for him to break up with me it's obvious he's breaking up with me what else could "I'm sorry for all this?" mean please some one help me I'm so lost and confused I don't know where I stand.

I wouldn't jump to conclusions so quickly & assume
he's breaking up with you all you'll do is make yourself crazy he didn't exactly say those exact words i'm breaking up with you he didn't hint that he was going to i'm sorry for all this could mean anything and i think you need to figure out what he meant by that right now your left to wonder what it means without actually knowing text him & ask what did you mean by i'm sorry for all this? Tell him to be specific so he gives you
the answer your looking for as his girlfriend you
have every right to know what he meant because like i said your clueless left wondering it isn't right(:

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13/f
I have 2 cousins that are 11. Their names are Anthony and Jacob. We don't really get along, so lately I've been trying to leave them alone at family events. They still end up bothering me. It's worse when my friends are over. At Christmas dinner last year, Anthony made an extremely rude and racist comment to my best friend (she's black). A few hours ago, I was over at Jacob's house for his little sister's birthday thing. I was wearing a shirt that said "I belong" on the front and Anthony said what? to the devil? when he saw it. If it were any other person, I would assume it's just a joke, but he really doesn't like me no matter how I try to be the better person and be nice. I don't want to get him in trouble because my uncle lectures him forever when he does, but it's been really hard for me to sit there and have him insult me to my face. Those were only examples of what he says to me. There's a lot more that I won't get into. I'm just wondering what ya'll think would be the best thing to do about him. I don't want to end losing my temper on him and end up hurting him.

You need to make your cousin aware of what he is
doing to you i don't think he realizes his actions
and how it's affecting you tell him that him being mean to you isn't nice and you'd like it if he stopped in the nicest way possible if you allow him to continue without you saying anything
he will and won't be aware of what he is doing you
could try avoiding him like you've been doing
at family events keep your distance away from him
the further away you are from him you'll have a better chance of him not saying mean things to you(:

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So my bf has this friend and he ALWAYS gives me crap but he never does anything about it. Idk i just think since hes my bf he would do something about it , what about u?

You need to speak up and tell your boyfriend how
his friend telling you what he is affecting you he
won't know unless you tell him and make him aware
of his friends actions also tell him how you think
seeing as he's your boyfriend he should be sticking up & defending you not allowing his friend to speak the way he does to you it isn't
right you don't deserve to be told what you do let alone anyone elese even if his friend is
joking it still isn't right if you speak to your
boyfriend & he doesn't do anything then that's when you do something about it stand up for
yourself & defend yourself you should never allow
anyone to talk badly about you & that includes your boyfriend's friend(:

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Hi,
I'm a 26-year-old college graduate with my Bachelor of Arts in English. It took me awhile to graduate because I wasn't sure if a formal education was what I wanted or needed. My parents assured me it was but, so I finally finished my degree a couple months ago. My parents insisted that I have a full-time job until I found something better so I currently work at a daycare. Even though they don't understand, the job is very stressful--and I get paid minimum wage without any benefits. I really would like to try something new but my parents only want me in a professional job. I also live in MI and the job market is awful here. I feel like I should abide my parents wishes since I live under their roof, but like I previously stated, I am absolutely miserable at this job. I've been snapping at the children lately and I really feel like the stress has been getting to me. My parents say, "deal with it--you need to pay your dues, everyone has stress in their life" My question is: doesn't my happiness count to. Do they really want me to be happy or do they just want me to find a professional job so they can push me out the door as soon as possible. I'm considered a "loser" in my family because it took me so long to graduate and I don't have a good job. A lot of emphasis is put on careers in my family. I don't know what to do; I'd rather work another less stressful job, even if I'm still getting minimum wage. I feel like I put way too much work and effort into my job to be paid so little. What are your thoughts on the matter-do you think I just have to bite the bullet and do what my parents want or do you think a job is a job and as long as I find a replacement, it shouldn't be an issue. Please let me know; I would greatly appreciate your help and insight. Thanks, Whitney

Yes your happiness does count you deserve happiness like the rest of us your no different
i do think your parents want you to be happy &
want nothing less you shouldn't call yourself a
loser seeing as you aren't you graduated college
& have your degree that's a huge accomplishment not to mention you've got a job be thankful jobs aren't easy to come by these days yes it took you a while to graduate but you did that's the main thing that matters the amount of time it took you doesn't i think you should try to stick it out at your job for your sake you getting paid minimum wage is better then getting paid nothing & being unemployed even though their your parents i wouldn't listen to them their stressing you out & are controlling you it's your life not their's you can do what you want your able to make decisions & know right from wrong yes you should listen to your parents to a certain extend but this time you shouldn't when it comes to your life your in control of it not your parents(:

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Okay, so me and my boyfriend are having problems my friend Dezeray told him that I wanted him to move to Florida(Like his mom had planed) but he didn't so he could stay with me. But now he don't believe me when I said I don't want him to move. He also tells me he don't believe me when I say I love him. I need advice on what to say to him we're both hurting very bad and neither one of us want to end the relationship...help? Thanks!( :

You should tell him he should believe you
over your friend after all you are his girlfriend also say that you do love him & you wouldn't say it for the sake of saying it or for nothing the same goes for him not believing you about him moving you wouldn't lie it would be a different story if you told him yourself you wanted him to move tell him he shouldn't always believe what others say because the person could be lieing & saying things that aren't true he doesn't know if what your friend said is true he's just going by what he or she said without actually hearing your
side(:

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ok so if i told you everything, this would be really long so i just want to tell you about something my mom said that like really upset me. . .so she was screaming at me, my dad, and my sister and she told us that she didnt give a fudge (only she used the bad word for fudge) about any of us. i kind of need some encouragement right now but i cant seem to be able to get it anywhere else. am i being too sensitive? how can i cope? and what are some sort of mind or breathing exercises i can do? please any tips and encouragement would be greatly appreciated! thank you so much!

We all say things we don't mean when were angry and the same goes for your mother she's no different i'm sure she didn't truely mean that she doesn't care about any of you she's your mother of course she cares try avoiding your mom for now give her space she needs time to calm down don't bring up what happened keep yourself busy either spend time with your sister or take a walk outside to clear your mind do things you enjoy doing to take your mind off it if you sit around you'll have time to reflect on what happened then that's when you'll start to get upset if you feel yourself getting upset take a deep breaths to calm down breathe relax if you feel the need to cry go ahead let it out don't be ashamed it's alright to do there's no shame in crying no you aren't being sensitive your reacting normal you have every right to feel upset but for right now give your mom space let her do what she likes and you do the same just until she calms down and she apologizes to you and your family and until the situation gets fully resolved :)

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hey kristina. this is kindof a personal question, that you might not know anything about, but if you do, id appreciate your help :) ok. i havent had my period in about a year, because i was taking that "depo" birth control shot. i only took it one time, and then decided i didnt like it. but the nurse told me that it's normal for girls to go long periods of time without havin their period, but mine should come back around may. well, it's march, and my period came back, but it's brown! the first day, it was normal, and red, and now its brown. is that normal? and how long b4 its red again?-thank you-crystal, and im 25

Hey :)

Every girl is different your body could be
changing or because you haven't gotten your period in a while that could be why you've got the brown instead of red blood last month i had the same thing happen i had brown instead of red but now iv'e got red blood back i think it should take a couple of days to return you'll probably get the red blood back when you least expect it be patient i'm sure it will return given time i wouldn't worry much yes it's normal it's happened to me if your concerned you could always make a appointment with your gynecologist just to be on the safe side they'll be able to give you a more knowledgeable answer :)

Hope i helped and reassured you!

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I have been offered a position, (high pay) high stress. I am not to sure if I want it or can manage it. (economic delvelopment) A shit load of work on numerious projects, That I have done before, but now i'm 55 with health conditions. the pay is over 200k but the stress is outa this world. What to do? oh canadian.....

You don't seem confident about the position so if
your unsure if you can manage it then don't accept it sure the money is good but the true question is the stress good that comes along with it? I don't
think so you don't want to risk your health conditions becoming worst or being affected if you
do happen to accept the job i could see if you were
confident then that'd be a different story but you seem unsure of what to do ultimately it's your decision but my advice to you is don't accept the offer the pay maybe good but the stress that comes along with it isn't you've got to think is a job worth risking your health over? :)

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ok so my mom is on facebook like all of the time and she never freaking gets off of it! every time i try to talk to her about anything, she tells me to shut up and go away. so i really dont know what to do anymore because its been like this for 2 or 3 years now and once when my dad confronted her about it she drove off and he was driven to tears (and ive never once seen him cry in my life) so that was the end of that and ive tried everything and it just never stops no matter what. please answer if u r in similar situation or if u have good advice. thanks in advance!

I think you need to unhook the computer and take it out of the house completely that way she won't be able to use the internet or go onto Facebook you want her to stray away from using the internet so she'll become less addicted and she'll become bored with it you need to sit her down where's there's no distractions just you and her and say her going onto Facebook has become a problem it's taken over her life and because of it she's becoming distracted and your suffering because of it it's tearing apart your family there has to be a time when she says enough is enough and signs out she can't constantly be on she's got to do what normal mother's do take care of their families she's putting Facebook first and family second family should always come first no matter what their more important nothing should come between that make her realize there's more to life then Facebook and because of her addiction her families suffering(:

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im very interested in perusing a career in being a marine life vet and i would like to know how much money they make per year. thanx!

Marine life vetrinarian's make 200,000 a year(:

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_much_money_does_a_marine_life_veterinarian_earn

There's a link if you'd like to see for yourself

Hope i helped!

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Me and my ex husband have been divorced close to a year. I share my home with my adult (26 years old) daughter. My youngest son, 9, lives with us.

Anyway, I'm moving forward with my life and I've began dating. Nothing serious, but I enjoy spending time with this man. I have him over for dinner sometimes. Unfortunately my daughter, for some reason does not like him and is rude to him when he visits. ( I don't know why she dislikes him.) This puts my boyfriend off and I've been seeing less of him lately. One time she went ballistic when he took me out for dinner. She dates and I don't say a word! I wonder why she's acting this way. The divorce isn't entirely my fault and my ex initiated it.
Anyway, she seems to think I should be alone the rest of my life while she does her own thing. I've told her time and again I had my own life to live. Frankly, I'm getting tired of her childish behavior. What should I do or say?
Thanks for all who will post.

I think you need to sit her down and tell her your
getting tired of how she's behaving just because you and your husband divorced doesn't mean that you should stop dating completely and be alone her being rude to him isn't right she needs to treat him with the respect he deserves and not rudely treat him like the human being that he is i think you should find out the reason why she's acting rude to him and take it from there tell her that she dates and you don't say a word but when you date she's acting rude which is uncalled for and there's no need for that if you accept whoever she dates then she should be able to do the same for you without her complaining you've got to move on with your life and not be stuck in the past you've got to focus on the present the future and can't be thinking of your ex the divorce was finalized it's in the past and that's where it will stay she can't change the fact that the divorce was finalized her being rude to him won't change that sit her down and talk with her try to resolve the situation if she can date whoever she likes then there's no reason why you can't do the same if you've got to be somewhat harsh with your words when you speak to her so be it make her realize that your serious and the way she's behaving needs to stop(:

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we've been going out for about 2 1/2 years, give or take, (we've broken up and gotten back together quite a few times). we're both 18. started seeing eachother at 15. been friends since we were 14.

anyway. we've never had any huge issues, except the times we've broken up. those mistakes have been on my part, and i've learned from the past. but this time, he's the one causing problems. he barely calls me anymore. we can only hang out on weekends right now and he never makes an effort to see me. when we're together, everything is like its always been. we're fabulous when face to face, but after i leave his house i rarely talk to him, see him on occasion, but besides that i have no idea what is going on at his house or with his friends, let alone himself. he has a job but doesn't work on weekends. i'm unemployed. he lives about 5 minutes away by car so it wouldn't be difficult to come and see me.

i've tried to mention it to him a few times that i never hear from him, but it never changes anything. like i said, when we're face to face, everything is perfectly fine. its just when we're separated. i haven't told him yet that i'm having problems with him.

i've been thinking seriously about breaking up with him. i want to, but i don't want to. i'm sick of his bullshit but i still love him. i've been wanting to marry him since we were young and i still would love to but right now, things just aren't working out. what do you think i should do? should i tell him what i've been thinking about? should i just dump him? try to stay friends? anything helps! thanks.

I think you should talk to him and say that you never hear from him if you still love him like you claim then give him a chance he deserves one don't jump to conclusions so quickly and want to break up with him right now there's room for improvement in the relationship explain to him how you feel it's worth a shot and if for some reason he's still the same or says something you don't like then that's when you break up with him but give him a chance to explain himself first before ending it i think he's being stubborn and inconsiderate if he doesn't work on weekend's and he lives 5 minutes away he should be able to see you but he's choosing not too you don't deserve that you can't make him change he has to want to and be willing too that's something he has to do on his own by himself you shouldn't have to continue to mention to him that you never hear from him that's something he should realize on his own and then make the change i think you should talk to him before you jump to conclusions or do anything hasty :)

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With my cousins and my siblings, it's always revenge. Whenever we do something bad to someone, whether accident or not, we always do something worse to that person. All except me. I think what they're doing is wrong. What can I do?

I think you should sit them down and say you think what they're doing is wrong make them realize their mistakes seeing as they probably don't realize them on their own tell them if they do happen to do something bad to someone they should apologize and say sorry afterwards that's the right and polite thing to do there's no need to seek revenge on the person or do something worst by them seeking revenge their hurting the person and there's no need for that it's not right by you not making them aware of what their doing and their mistakes they'll continue to do it and it will make think it's alright to do when it isn't but if you speak up and make them aware of their mistakes and what their doing wrong they'll stop and realize that seeking revenge on others is truely wrong and it doesn't solve anything or get you anywhere expect hurting others :)

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Okay guys i need your help..

me and my man are not together right now after being together for a year. he forgot our anniversary, he hasn't been treating me good, and we've been doing long distance for 6 months now. I wanted a break/break up because i was tired of him taking me for granted, hoping maybe he'd realize what he's missing. The next day he told me hes just not ready for commitment, then three days later he said he didnt mean that in a way that he didnt want us to be together, but when i explained to him how he has to change and how he's made me feel he changed his mind and said he doesnt know what he wants, so i told him im done. He said he just wants me to give him time to think, but the thing is, i have done so much for this relationship, so much, givin him everything i could possibly give and treated him the best way i possibly could, and now he wants me to wait cause he doesnt know if he wants to be commited?

He asked the next day if i want him to still come visit next week cause thats what we had planned awhile before. i told him thats not a good idea, he asked why? i said because you dont wanna be with me so why would you come visit, he said i never said that if i wanted to come visit you then that means i wanna be with you, i said you told me the other day you dont know what to do or what you want and you need time? he says oh yeah thats true.. and i havent talked to him since


I just dont know how to act, i need him to be able to get the feel so he realizes hard what he's missing,because if we do get back together, i know there's not much time left.

idk how to put this... i just feel like shit for diong so much for him and getting nothing back. to all the sudden he's just not ready for commitment.

He seems unsure of what he wants not to mention
very confused you shouldn't have to wait because he doesn't know if he wants to be commited he made himself clear that he doesn't know what he wants and he doesn't want to be commited you shouldn't have to do so much for him and get nothing in return that's wrong there's two people in a relationship not just one in order for the relationship to work two people have to put effort in and attempt to try and make it work not just one person you have every right to feel upset the relationship seems complicated you don't deserve for him to forget your anniversary and especially him not treating you good that shouldn't be tolerated and isn't acceptable especially since you were dating him at the time if you do get back together with him you aren't guaranteed that he'll change he has to want to change and be willing to you can't make him that's something he has to do on his own if he isn't willing to try and put effort into the relationship why should you? You shouldn't have to do so much for him and in return get so little back you truely don't deserve to be treated poorly i don't think the relationship is worth saving continue to stay broken up with him move on you shouldn't have to go through having a complicated relationship especially with someone who doesn't want commitment or know what they want :)

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People at my school kicks me or shouts at me for no reason at all. They even talk about me, thinking that I don't hear them, but I really do. I don't know what I do to them, I'm really kind to everyone. They say that I'm a liar, mean, stupid (even if I get the best grades), and ugly (even though I think that my face is okay. What the heck is with them?

People like to make others feel bad about
themselves their bullies and are bullying you you've got to speak to a teacher or the principal and tell them what's happening seeing as their becoming violent with you stick up for yourself defend yourself don't allow them to do what their doing don't allow them to get away with it you don't deserve to be treated like that if you don't feel comfortable confronting them yourself then let the teacher's or principal handle the situation correctly you should never allow anyone to say mean things about you or push you around those who are bullying you deserve to get in trouble and be disciplined what their doing to you isn't right and shouldn't be tolerated if you don't tell someone and speak up they'll continue to bully you and think it's alright to do when it isn't :)

This needs to be taken care of
sooner then later please DON'T ignore it...

-exotica- Don't tell them to ignore it that won't do them any good they'll just continue to be bullied and the problem won't get solved

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