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Doing so much for him and getting nothing back...
Okay guys i need your help..
me and my man are not together right now after being together for a year. he forgot our anniversary, he hasn't been treating me good, and we've been doing long distance for 6 months now. I wanted a break/break up because i was tired of him taking me for granted, hoping maybe he'd realize what he's missing. The next day he told me hes just not ready for commitment, then three days later he said he didnt mean that in a way that he didnt want us to be together, but when i explained to him how he has to change and how he's made me feel he changed his mind and said he doesnt know what he wants, so i told him im done. He said he just wants me to give him time to think, but the thing is, i have done so much for this relationship, so much, givin him everything i could possibly give and treated him the best way i possibly could, and now he wants me to wait cause he doesnt know if he wants to be commited?
He asked the next day if i want him to still come visit next week cause thats what we had planned awhile before. i told him thats not a good idea, he asked why? i said because you dont wanna be with me so why would you come visit, he said i never said that if i wanted to come visit you then that means i wanna be with you, i said you told me the other day you dont know what to do or what you want and you need time? he says oh yeah thats true.. and i havent talked to him since
I just dont know how to act, i need him to be able to get the feel so he realizes hard what he's missing,because if we do get back together, i know there's not much time left.
idk how to put this... i just feel like shit for diong so much for him and getting nothing back. to all the sudden he's just not ready for commitment.
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He seems unsure of what he wants not to mention
very confused you shouldn't have to wait because he doesn't know if he wants to be commited he made himself clear that he doesn't know what he wants and he doesn't want to be commited you shouldn't have to do so much for him and get nothing in return that's wrong there's two people in a relationship not just one in order for the relationship to work two people have to put effort in and attempt to try and make it work not just one person you have every right to feel upset the relationship seems complicated you don't deserve for him to forget your anniversary and especially him not treating you good that shouldn't be tolerated and isn't acceptable especially since you were dating him at the time if you do get back together with him you aren't guaranteed that he'll change he has to want to change and be willing to you can't make him that's something he has to do on his own if he isn't willing to try and put effort into the relationship why should you? You shouldn't have to do so much for him and in return get so little back you truely don't deserve to be treated poorly i don't think the relationship is worth saving continue to stay broken up with him move on you shouldn't have to go through having a complicated relationship especially with someone who doesn't want commitment or know what they want :)
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