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Adult Daughter Behaving Childishly..
Me and my ex husband have been divorced close to a year. I share my home with my adult (26 years old) daughter. My youngest son, 9, lives with us.
Anyway, I'm moving forward with my life and I've began dating. Nothing serious, but I enjoy spending time with this man. I have him over for dinner sometimes. Unfortunately my daughter, for some reason does not like him and is rude to him when he visits. ( I don't know why she dislikes him.) This puts my boyfriend off and I've been seeing less of him lately. One time she went ballistic when he took me out for dinner. She dates and I don't say a word! I wonder why she's acting this way. The divorce isn't entirely my fault and my ex initiated it.
Anyway, she seems to think I should be alone the rest of my life while she does her own thing. I've told her time and again I had my own life to live. Frankly, I'm getting tired of her childish behavior. What should I do or say?
Thanks for all who will post.
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If she doesn't like the way things are, she can go live with her dad or anyone else that can put up with her. I'm sure you like having her around for an occasional babysitter but you have to weigh out the options of what makes you happy. If you think she won't change, you may want to lay down the law and give her those options. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I will be brutally frank in my advice. Let me first say I am some one most likely your age or a little older maybe old enough to be your father.
My advice is you sit your daughter down and explain the facts of life to her; I'm not talking about the birds and the bees here. This is your home and while she is your daughter, there is nothing that says you must allow her to live with you. You are allowing her to live with you because she is your daughter and you love her; but that love only goes so far.
She doesn't have to like your friends, be they male or female; she does have to give them the respect they deserve as your friends and be polite and courteous to them. If she cannot do so then it is in the best interest of both of you she find someplace else to live.
I will take this a step further. As a divorced women and since this is your home, you are also entitled to a sex life should you desire to have one. Should you want to have a man spend the night that is your prerogative; as I said it is your home. There is no quid pro quoe here for her as far as whether you will allow her to have a man spend the night in your home. Yes she is an adult and entitled to a sex life as well. It is up to you though if you will allow her to conduct her sex life in your home.
The operative words here is YOUR HOME. Technically she is a guest and should behave as such. If she cannot conduct herself as an adult and an give your friends the respect they are do, regardless of her feelings; then she needs to find some other place to live.
It is not to much to ask for civility in exchange for free room and board. This may sound a little harsh but at 26 years of age she needs to act her age.
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I think you need to sit her down and tell her your
getting tired of how she's behaving just because you and your husband divorced doesn't mean that you should stop dating completely and be alone her being rude to him isn't right she needs to treat him with the respect he deserves and not rudely treat him like the human being that he is i think you should find out the reason why she's acting rude to him and take it from there tell her that she dates and you don't say a word but when you date she's acting rude which is uncalled for and there's no need for that if you accept whoever she dates then she should be able to do the same for you without her complaining you've got to move on with your life and not be stuck in the past you've got to focus on the present the future and can't be thinking of your ex the divorce was finalized it's in the past and that's where it will stay she can't change the fact that the divorce was finalized her being rude to him won't change that sit her down and talk with her try to resolve the situation if she can date whoever she likes then there's no reason why you can't do the same if you've got to be somewhat harsh with your words when you speak to her so be it make her realize that your serious and the way she's behaving needs to stop(:
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