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is my past holding me back??
i have had a really bad love past. my first boy friend i dated 15 times, he cheated in me 3 of those times with more then one girl. My 2 boyfriend is just a sex feind he was exactly interested- i was the one that escaped his trap (didnt have sex with him) my 3rd broke up with me over some fake crap. and anyone else i've been interested in simply didn't want me or used my attraction for their own benefit.
i just started dating my newest boyfriend and he is thgee purest bf i've ever had....
he says he loves me but ive heard that so many times that i cant believe anything any guy says anymore.
is this normal???
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I can understand how you would be gun shy after what you went through. However, you also can't punish someone for the acts of another. That is just flat unfair. Therefore, the only thing you can do is talk to the prospect at length and try to feel them out as to what their real agenda is and what their mindset is.
Also, remember, if your gut tells you something is wrong it is. Always trust your gut.
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I hear the "L" word said so frequently by people that I'm starting to think its losing its meaning. I think nowadays people just say it to say it. I can understand why you wouldn't believe him due to the fact of your other past relationships. However, he isn't any of your other boyfriends. COmparing your past relationships to your current one isn't going to help the situation it's going to hurt your relationship. You cna still have your guard up but remember that he isn't a bad guy and even you said he's the "purest" out of all the boyfriends that you've had. Think positive and don't keep going back to the negative things such as your ex boyfriends.
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Yes, It's very normal that you have a hard time trusting boyfriends because you've been cheated on and mistreated in the past. But you need to try and forget those times and take this new relationship as slow as you can, don't rush into anything. Let your new boyfriend know of problems you have dealt with in the past so he knows what you're looking for out of this relationship; trust and compassion. If you don't really believe that him saying "I love you" is for real, don't say it back. Wait and see where your relationship goes and give it time so you both can really mean it. Good luck with everything.
♥ Alli
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Yes it's normal to not believe that he doesn't love you seeing as your past experiences with boyfriends wasn't the best i'm sure he does love you he wouldn't say it for the sake of saying it or for nothing so he must mean it he seems sincere with his words all boys are different your current boyfriend won't be like the previous boys you've dated i do think your allowing your past to hold you back your previous boyfriends are in your past & that's where they'll stay even though you've been hurt in the past you've got a new boyfriend now it's almost like a new beginning you starting over fresh focus on the
future & don't dwell on the past it won't do you
any good(:
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