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My Mom Give My Sister Stuff But Not Me
Hi I am 12/F
My mom always gives my sister stuff. She got a present. And I didn't. I tried telling her but then she just yell at me. Pleas help. I can't go on any longer. From crying me
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Dear Crying Me,
I looked at this question and it took me back to my years when my sister and I were so competitive. When I was younger I had a learning disability and I needed a lot of attention. I would have to go see doctors and I needed extra help in school. I got a bit more attention than my sister and I don't think she liked it very much. Sometimes when we have siblings they might need a bit mroe attention. It doesn't mean that your parents careless about you and it doesn't mean they don't love you.
So what if your sister got a present? It doesn't make her better and it doesn't mean she is loved more. Don't think about what you don't have think about what you have and be greatful!
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How old is this sister? I'm going to bank on her being younger. Even if she's older my advice to you won't change much.
Have you ever thought to yourself that your sister may be a tad needier than you of mom's constant affection and showing of that? Maybe these presents could be guilt for not being there or more likely given to show her affection when in fact she shows the same amount to you but in different ways. That's likely it.
The yelling may stem from frustration with you not understanding that you are more mature and don't need to be given presents in the same manner and or she sees it as just complaining.
I would think of all the good things your mom gives you instead of material possessions and see that although you don't have a new toy in your hand that she's giving the same love. She expects you to act more mature.
What would I do? I would approach her when she's in a good mood. Tell her that you know she loves you and your sister equally and may not have a lot of cash but that your feelings get hurt when your sister is rewarded for nothing and you aren't.
As long as you keep it civil and mature and not a whining and angry, accusatory conversation she'll be able to deal with your concerns without any yelling. I guarantee you that everything will be okay.
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