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should i tell him what i've been thinking about? should i just dump him?
we've been going out for about 2 1/2 years, give or take, (we've broken up and gotten back together quite a few times). we're both 18. started seeing eachother at 15. been friends since we were 14.
anyway. we've never had any huge issues, except the times we've broken up. those mistakes have been on my part, and i've learned from the past. but this time, he's the one causing problems. he barely calls me anymore. we can only hang out on weekends right now and he never makes an effort to see me. when we're together, everything is like its always been. we're fabulous when face to face, but after i leave his house i rarely talk to him, see him on occasion, but besides that i have no idea what is going on at his house or with his friends, let alone himself. he has a job but doesn't work on weekends. i'm unemployed. he lives about 5 minutes away by car so it wouldn't be difficult to come and see me.
i've tried to mention it to him a few times that i never hear from him, but it never changes anything. like i said, when we're face to face, everything is perfectly fine. its just when we're separated. i haven't told him yet that i'm having problems with him.
i've been thinking seriously about breaking up with him. i want to, but i don't want to. i'm sick of his bullshit but i still love him. i've been wanting to marry him since we were young and i still would love to but right now, things just aren't working out. what do you think i should do? should i tell him what i've been thinking about? should i just dump him? try to stay friends? anything helps! thanks.
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well honestly i think you should just try and talk to him about it. tell him that it really bothers you. you want to be able to see him more often and if not see him atleast hear from him atleast once or tweice a day if not more. couples are supposed to be in constant contact... atleast i think so...i mean not like where are you, when did you leave, when will be home...not like that just know where theyre going or what theyre doing. just talk to him abotu it and how you have been feeling about the whole situation.
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I think you should talk to him and say that you never hear from him if you still love him like you claim then give him a chance he deserves one don't jump to conclusions so quickly and want to break up with him right now there's room for improvement in the relationship explain to him how you feel it's worth a shot and if for some reason he's still the same or says something you don't like then that's when you break up with him but give him a chance to explain himself first before ending it i think he's being stubborn and inconsiderate if he doesn't work on weekend's and he lives 5 minutes away he should be able to see you but he's choosing not too you don't deserve that you can't make him change he has to want to and be willing too that's something he has to do on his own by himself you shouldn't have to continue to mention to him that you never hear from him that's something he should realize on his own and then make the change i think you should talk to him before you jump to conclusions or do anything hasty :)
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Talk to him first. You may be surprised with what he has to say once you've been totally honest with him. If he doesn't see a problem then yes, break up with him. But give him a chance first. You haven't even told him what you're thinking yet! That's not really fair. Good luck.
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