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alright, so i got in an argument about bible verses with a friend of mine and i need help finding a few.
1. women aren't allowed to minister in the church
2. divorced women can't remarry
3. homosexuality is a sin
4. wearing gold jewelry is a sin
5. you must wait until marriage to have sex
only NEW TESTAMENT verses please, if you have any or all of these it would be greatly appreciated. thanks. (link)
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The bible says in 1 Timothy 2:12 that women are not to be pastors, that doesn't mean they can't minister. Women minister to other women and to children; just not to men. 1 Timothy 3 lays out what a pastor is and it clearly says a pastor must be a man.
Our society sees divorce as a matter of going to court and signing a legal document that says a person is divorced. But in God's eyes that marriage is still a binding agreement. Therefore, even if it's legal in the court system, it's adultery as far as God is concerned. Luke 16:18
God says that the only righteous sexual relationship is between one man and one woman bond by marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 Any other sexual relationship outside of that is sin including homosexuality. 1 Corinthians 6:9
Wearing gold jewelry in and of itself is not sin. It becomes sin when a woman who claims to know the Lord cares more about outer beauty than keeping her heart pure. To put 1 Timothy 2:9 in today's terms...If a woman/girl claims to know the Lord, she needs to not dress (whether clothes or accessories) as to catch the lustful eyes of a man, but rather be modest.
Waiting to have sex goes back to 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 and 1 Corinthians 6:9; it's sin. And there is ALWAYS consequence to sin. God tells us to wait for marriage to protect us, not to prevent us from having "fun". Sex is a gift from God to be enjoyed between a married man and woman. Let me put it this way...I personally know the heart ache of sex before marriage. It's a difficult road that you can never rewalk.
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ok. well my moms side of the family (which is HUGE!) is very religious (catholic/christian) so i go to a Catholic church, and i am in the sunday school and youth choir and groups there. It's fun but i dont always beleive what they do.
My dads side of the family (only 4 people living by us) are well my aunts (well ones my aunt and the other ones her partner if you get what i mean) are jewish and my grandma is idk what. and my dad became catholic when he married my mom.
well after talking to my mom and aunts about what they believe i kinda made a bit of a different religion... I believe in God and Jesus. I believe in heaven. not in hell. I believe that when we die we can be reincarnated into ANY LIVING being (animals, humans, plants). eventually there will be a judgement day and we will all go to heaven. I also believe that with the power of god and because we only used 10% of our brains, some people can tap into some more of their brains, and do (magical type things.) like kinesis, and other stuff like that.
i'm a bit confused of what i should do. i mean if i say anything like that (that is againts catholic belief) my mom and grandma gang up on me and start arguing with me. I know that people that believe different things can get along, but idk what i should do.
Should i tell my parents what i believe, or should i keep hiding it and only say anything about it around my aunt (who lets me say w/e and helps me continue my beliefs)
please help me and tell me what you think i should do! thank you! (link)
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Telling your parents or only talking about things with your aunts isn't really the question. You asked to be told what I think you should do, I think you should examine why you believe what you say you believe.
You say you don't believe in hell...Most people who don't believe in hell have a deep fear that, if in fact the bible is true, hell is where they'd end up. So it's better to just not believe it exists.
You said that you believe there will be a judgment day, and you are correct...there will be a judgment day. BUT then you say you believe we all go to heaven? This belief makes no sense. What's there to judge if we were all going to heaven anyway?
Reincarnation is a buddhist belief that seemingly satisfies the fear of death.
Magic and other things like that produce its power from satan and satan successfully convinces people that the magic and such comes from themselves. This tactic leads people to feel in control when in reality, satan is.
No hell, everyone goes to heaven, reincarnation...These beliefs tell me that you are afraid of the afterlife and believing these things brings comfort.
I'll tell you this much, these beliefs bring death to your spirit and soul. There's an emptiness inside of every person that can only be filled by a relationship with their creator. It's obvious that you are trying to fill the emptiness and to cover your fears with these false beliefs.
The only way to be reconciled to God is a relationship with His Son Jesus. Relationship with Jesus comes by repenting and accepting Jesus as Lord and Savior of your life.
You say you believe in God and Jesus, but do you have a RELATIONSHIP with God THROUGH Jesus? I encourage you to truly seek truth and truth is not always comfortable. Actually, the truth hurts.
The place to start is to open the bible in the book of John and pray for God to speak to you through His Word. God wants us to DILIGENTLY seek Him. If your heart is diligently seeking Him, I promise the one true God will show up and you will know truth.
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So...I was lying in bed thinking. And I was thinking about questions I have had answered. Then it hit me...
How do the people in the bible know what God is saying all the time. Because you can't look at him. Like in the advice you gave me last time...How did those people know what he was saying and thinking???
thanks agian...
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If you are referring to the people who were building the tower of Babel...they didn't hear God. God saw what they were doing and stopped it.
There are numerous accounts in the Bible where angels appeared to people; the prophets spoke. Then when Jesus came to earth, people had God Himself. Jesus said, (John 14:9) "....If you have seen me, you have seen the Father." Then the Holy Spirit came once Jesus ascended and a person who Has a relationship with Jesus can hear God in their spirit. If a person is diligently seeking God, God shows up in one form or another and speaks.
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My bff parties sometimes. She is a very good student, so are the people she parties with. Sometimes she has these "parties" at her house with just maybe no more than 15 people, all good friends. She is eighteen.
I am sixteen, and although I've never been to any of her parties, I want to try it. I've never been drunk in my life. If I do go to a party, it will be a very safe environment. I am planning on getting a little drunk, but I am not going to drive (I will sleep over at her house), I will not try drugs (and no drugs will be present, none of her friends do them).
Should I do it? I am a very uptight person, so I think it will be nice for me to just let loose and have fun. I am not planning it to become a habit (partying), but I definitely want to try it.
What do you think? I will be one hundred percent safe there.
How do people act when they're drunk? How many beers does it take to get drunk? I am not planning to get drunk drunk, but just a little bit drunk. (link)
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It was very brave of you to seek advice on this matter. You are obviously being tempted to step into something you shouldn't. I want to "high five" LaUgh OuT LoUd xOx. (Laura) She is right on the money with her advice. However, I will add this...I hope you choose not to go to the party at all. You are not only putting yourself in a place of doing something illegal, going to the party will most likely make the temptation to drink even greater. Peer pressure is tough, but fight through it and do the right thing...you will be glad you did.
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If God made everyone...why don't we all just speak one language?
Like I don't just mean people, animals too, I mean they talk by barking right? So why can't we communicate with them like I can talk to my mom or something?
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Why don't dogs, cats and other animals have spirits...why cant they go to heaven along with humans. Because if God made them you'd think he would want to be with his creations.
thanks so much
Milly203
ps. you don't know how much you've helped me so far!!!!!!
;p (link)
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Well, Hello again Milly203!
You asked, "Why don't we just speak one language?"
There was a time when everyone did:
Gen 11:1-8 says, "At first everyone spoke the same language, but after some of them moved from the east and settled in Babylonia, they said: Let's build a city with a tower that reaches to the sky! We'll use hard bricks and tar instead of stone and mortar. We'll become famous, and we won't be scattered all over the world. But when the LORD came down to look at the city and the tower, he said: These people are working together because they all speak the same language. This is just the beginning. Soon they will be able to do anything they want. Come on! Let's go down and confuse them by making them speak different languages--then they won't be able to understand each other. So the people had to stop building the city, because the LORD confused their language and scattered them all over the earth. That's how the city of Babel got its name."(CEV)
The people wanted to build a tower, not to please God, but because they were full of pride. The fact they wanted to use materials that THEY made (hard bricks and tar) instead of natural stone and mortar, and that they wanted fame instead of bringing glory to God, added to their arrogance. There is great power in unity, and when people are in unity over something bad, that power produces evil and not good. So God stopped their prideful efforts by causing them to speak different languages. They no longer could build the tower because they couldn't understand each other. Each found others that spoke their language and those groups scattered across the earth. That's how we have all the different ethnic groups still today.
Now, about animals...When kids are taught the lie in the public school that they evolved from a pool of slim over millions of years instead of being taught the truth that a loving God created them, it's hard to figure out why animals and humans aren't the same.
Animals do not have the same importance as humans. We have a responsibility to take care of the animals, but there are humans that try to give animals the same importance or even make them more important, but God doesn't. Humans are made in God's image. Animals are not. People have the ability to think through, reason things out, and make decisions. Animals go on instinct. Humans are God's companions. Animals are God's pets. Jesus died to save humans from hell, not to save creation.
The Bible says in Genesis 1:21 "...according to its kind." Each animal species (and I mean animals only) verbalizes it's own language. (dogs bark, cows moo, lions roar)
As far as humans communicating with animals...there is more to communicating than just words. There is tone and actions too. You can say something to an animal, but they use instinct alone to know if they are safe or if they are in danger or whatever. Or tone and actions may have nothing to do with it. An animal may attack out of hunger. But it's all instinct.
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Every person is created to bring glory to God, but we each are created for a very specific purpose in bringing that glory to God.
you said this and i know there are many things like it in the bible....
so does he say this to sound cocky?? sounds like it to me a bit...i've always wondered
so do you believe he made us for company too?? (link)
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Well, hi there. You ask very good questions. God isn't cocky. You need to understand that God is holy and perfect and we are not. We are his creation. He is the creator. Often in the bible God is referred to as the potter and we are the clay. What can clay do without the potter dipping his has into the water of love and molding the clay into a beautiful vessel? Nothing. It's just a blob of clay. God is all powerful and loves each of us very much. He loves us with a love that is beyond our understanding. By giving God glory, a person is loving Him back. That forms a relationship. So giving God glory is the ultimate purpose.
Now, because God is holy and perfect and we are not, in order to be able to give God glory, one must accept His gift of grace first. God's gift of grace is Jesus. Jesus died as a sacrifice for every person's sins, but only those who accept Jesus get to have that relationship with God and get to spend eternity in heaven with Him. So yes, He made us for company too. Unfortunately not everyone accepts Jesus. Those who don't miss out on the greatest friendship ever. If you have repented for your sins, and follow Jesus, God promises to reveal His purpose in your life. Have you repented and accepted Jesus as your Savior?
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I feel terrible for needing to ask ths but does God really exist??
My family (and i??) are christians but lately i doupt that God really made us the earth and everything around us. If so WHY did he make us and the earth EVERYTHING!!!
please don't tell me he doesn't exsist b/c in the back of my mind i believe but then agian?!? (link)
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It sounds like God is taking you to a place of discovering a personal faith. The Bible says in Proverbs 22:6, "Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it." You have been taught truth and now you need to apply that truth to your life in a personal way. God is calling you to seek Him and He promises if you seek Him with all your heart, you will find Him. (Jeremiah 29:13)
Yes, God exists. Psalm 19:1 says, "The heavens keep telling the wonders of God, and the skies declare what he has done."
Go outside and look around. Trees, the sunrise, birds...look in the mirror at your eyeball...God made it all.
Don't allow the atheist or agnostic to lead you down the path of throwing away your faith. Psalm 14:1 says, "The fool has said in his heart there is no God..." They are fools and I pray they repent and follow Jesus before it's to late.
Every person is created to bring glory to God, but we each are created for a very specific purpose in bringing that glory to God.
God has given me the ability to write stories. I can choose to use the writing talent to bring glory to Him or to the devil. The choice is mine. I choose to fulfill my purpose and give God glory and now He is giving me open doors to put my ability to work in the film industry. Look out Hollywood!
You were born in this place and time for a specific purpose and the fact that you are looking for God in it is a good thing. Read your bible and pray for God to reveal Himself to you. He will. [smile]
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Lately, ive just been really wanting to connect with God, and get to know him like everyone talks about. I want to improve as a christian, and i want to have God change my life so i can change others. No one in my circle of life is really in to that. And i feel that i have so many questions about God that i read in the bible but no one to talk to them about! I am in a youth group, but seriously, no one takes anything seriously, and they get real annoying after awhile, because they are so disrespectful and no one is really looking for that relationship with God. Last night i was reading, and it was saying all this stuff in mathews about not going to heaven if you break a ten commandment, but i thought it was if you just believe in him? did i read it wrong? or what? Also, everytime i read the bible, i start to cry for some reason, and i get really scared. and i dont no why. and i know god wouldnt want that for me at all. Where are some parts in the bible that talk about how much God loves us, and how he frogives us and doesnt expect us to be perfect. Because thats what im struggling with. and how should i start reading the bible because im new to this and i dont understand how to start, like where to start... thank you so much for helping. oh by the way im 14/f (link)
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Bless you for seeking a relationship with God. The words in the bible are powerful. When a person is serious about seeking God, God reveals Himself to that person and emotions can get stirred.
Salvation is by faith alone in Christ alone. I don't know what part of Matthew you are referring to, but it's important to understand the context of the passages.
If you are referring to Matthew 19 where Jesus tells the rich young ruler he must obey the commandments, then let me explain: Jesus pointed out that the commandments must be kept in order to have eternal life. To have eternal life, one must be perfect. The rich young ruler said he had kept all of them, but in reality he hadn't; no one has and Jesus knew that. If the ruler had indeed kept them, he would not, in the next breath, have asked Jesus what he lacked. The ruler knew there was something else and he knew he lacked it. When Jesus said go sell everything and follow, the ruler walked away. He was not willing to believe that Jesus was the Way to salvation. Instead the ruler chose the things of this world. God has nothing against us having stuff, but when stuff is more important than Him, it's idolatry which is breaking the first commandment. The ruler had indeed broken the commandments.
It sounds like you have lots of questions and perhaps reading the questions/answers at my column will help. But as far as where to start reading in the bible, I recommend the book of John. Also, if you would like, I would be happy to disciple you. That means I would be happy to answer your questions and encourage your seriousness about God. Just leave questions at my column or my email address.
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I want to go to Confession so badly. I just want to feel more clean and worthy of God, but I don't know how I can go. I'm Catholic and so is my family, I'm a very strict Catholic but not to a huge level. The only time I EVER go to Confession is when my school goes. My school is a Catholic School so we go like once every school year. I would feel embarassed to go up to my mom and just say "Can we go to Confession?". I don't know why. I'm not embarassed about my faith at all, in fact I'm proud. In fact I'd love to just wear a necklace with a cross to advertise my faith in school because my friends aren't very faithful. Or at least they don't act like they care about God which bothers me SO MUCH! And then one of them just says "Since when do you care about giving things up for Lent?" I'VE ALWAYS CARED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THAT JUST GETS ME SO MAD I'M SORRY. Anyways, how do I go to Confession without asking my parents? Is there something I could do? I want to go to one Priest in particular. How can I do that?
Thanks. (link)
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You don't have to go to a priest to confess. A priest can of course listen, and talking things out can temporarily make you feel better, but it sounds to me like you're looking for something deeper. It sounds like you want to be washed clean completely.
What you need to do to feel clean and worthy of God is to cry out directly to God. Confess your sins in a heartfelt prayer. The Bible says in Psalm 32:5 (David is praying to God) "So I confessed my sins and told them all to you. I said, 'I'll tell the LORD each one of my sins.' Then you forgave me and took away my guilt." (CEV)
Jesus died for you so you can have access to the Father directly. If you believe Jesus died for your sins, you have just as much access to God as a priest does. Do you believe Jesus died for your sins? If so, give them to Him.
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What does repent mean? Does it mean to ask for forgiveness?
I was just wondering.
Thanks. (link)
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Repent means to turn away. God calls us to repent of our sins. It's not simply feeling bad, although that is and should be an emotional response, it's turning and then moving in another direction. If someone truly repents to God, He/she WANTS to turn away from his/her old sinful lifestyle. It's a heart change. And once the heart changes, the behavior soon follows.
The heart is what God is ALWAYS concerned about. He promises to forgive those who repent. True repentance requires a change in heart. Saying you're sorry and asking for forgiveness without meaning it is not true repentance.
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I'm friends with at least 6 Athiest people. I don't really want to change them. It's just why doesn't people believe in God? My one friend say me wearing a cross to school one day and told me to take it off. I asked her why. She said some very unkind things about God. Then she said, How can God be real if he doesn't save anybody from death? I couldn't answer that. SI asked around and found out she wasn't always Athiest. She used to believe in God until her grandparents were murdered. Since me and my friends live in a town with drug dealers, malesters, and murderers, it's common for people to get hurt, but i'm not scared of the people in my town, but my friend scares me saying too many rude things about God. What do I do?! (link)
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I read and reread your question. The thing that kept coming to my mind is you are evidently a light for God in a very dark place. These people are angry at God and because His light shines through you, they seem to be thrashing out at you. What I suggest you do is fan the flame that's in you, so when these friends throw these questions at you, you are ready with an answer.
As far as the question "How can God be real if he doesn't save anybody from death?" One needs to understand where death came from in the first place. Death entered the world through a simple act of disobedience.
God gives each person a free choice. When Adam and Eve (the first people) were created, they were perfect. They lived in the Garden of Eden and could eat from every tree accept one, the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, because if they did eat from it, they would surely die. Eve chose to eat from the forbidden tree and then gave some to Adam who also chose to eat. When they disobeyed God, their relationship with God died, separating them from Him and the process of physical death began. They acquired knowledge of evil. Before that they knew only good. Now every person since then is born with a sinful nature, lives in a sinful world and physically dies. However, God loved the world so much that He sent Jesus. (John 3:16) Jesus is the doorway back to a relationship with God. Our bodies still die, but those who have Jesus are saved from spiritual death because those who have Jesus have the hope of heaven.
Read your Bible. Pray for understanding. And you may want to read the questions and answers on my column. I think you will get a lot of reading them. If these friends throw a question at you again that you can't answer, don't hesitate to ask me for help. [smile]
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are there any branches of christianity that allow premarital sex or that are less strict about it? what about sex when you're engaged, is that ok? (link)
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God says sex outside of marriage between a man and a woman is wrong. Period. Any "branch" of so-called Christianity that says otherwise is not following the ways of God. God's Word is true. God never changes. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.
The devil LOVES too appeal to our fleshly desires; to take something beautiful, like sex between a husband and wife, and distort it. Whether you're asking this question for your own information or to have something to stand on in an argument with someone else, here's the truth...You are worth waiting for. Period.
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Well, I have truly come to hate this word. I am trying to become a good christian, heck - I would settle for just christian. As it is, I'm having enormous problems with BELIEVING. So I've been googling, and asking lots of questions on how to become a good christian, and everywhere theý say - use the people God have put in your life, turn to other christians, be with those closer to God, get to know your Church-family, GET YOURSELF AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER! But I have none! I know NO Christiand, I have none in my life, and my church is...well, different. So what do I do? I keep trying and trying and everytime I think I'm getting closer to Jesus, something happens. I just stop-- and in a few months have to start it all over. I've never been close to Jesus or had trong faith for over a month, it's always just a week or so that I really believe and pray and act like a real christian. Help me, please! (link)
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Let me ask you this, in your mind, what does a "good" Christian look like?
Being a Christian is not something a person does, it's something a person is. It's about the heart not about outward actions. The heart is right when it is focussed on Jesus. Being a Christian means having a personal relationship with Jesus.
You may ask, How do I get a personal relationship with Jesus? Think about your relationships with your friends. How did they become close friends? I'm guessing you talk with them and spend time with them. This developed trust and a closeness. And I would bet it took time for this development. It's the same way with knowing Jesus. Having Christian fellowship, accountability, guidance and the other stuff you mentioned is good, but ultimately it's time spent in prayer and in the Word that will draw you close to Jesus. Strong faith is not something that happens in a flash. It's developed; and many times it's developed through trials and hard times.
The fact that you are seeking is good. Don't give up and don't get discouraged. Rely on the Bible for the truth that it is and Jesus will meet you right where you are. He will bring people into your life to help explain things. Heck...I hadn't checked questions in almost two weeks and tonight I happen to read yours and respond. That's how God meets the needs of those who are truly seeking.
Get into the Word of God and if you need some guidance, my column is only a click away.
In Addition: There is a link to my website and email info at my column. If you'd like, you can contact me by email from there.
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I dont know which religion to go with. I dont like christianity because alot of the people around here are fake and they just pretend like they are really good. I know some of you arent going to like me for saying that, but whatever. I dont believe in god. I mean, I believe that there was a man named Jesus and he was a great guy and everything, he helped the poor, and all that. But I dont believe he was sent down from god and all that magical stuff. I just think that the best thing is to love one another and be nice and kind and tolerant. I dont believe in heaven or hell, they were both made up to scare people. And i dont understand why people say god is so forgiving, he will forgive you of your sins and whatever, but then everyone says that bad people are sent to hell. Why doesn't god forgive them?!?! So those I believe were just made up to scare people, "you wont get into heaven if you do this, youll go to hell if you do that." So basically does anyone know of a religion or faith? I just want one that is tolerant of all other religions and one that focuses more on the future than on the past. Supports the wellness of the world and its people and one thats not based all on money. Preferrably one thats liberal, democratic. Oh yeah I have already seen Buddhism and thought about that one... so anything other than that would be great!!! thank you so much, sorry its long
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You said, "I dont like christianity because alot of the people around here are fake and they just pretend like they are really good."
I don't know these people you are referring to and I won't pass judgment either way, but Christianity in and of itself is about a relationship with the one true God through His Son Jesus. There are MANY people who title themselves as a Christian but don't have a clue about what being a Christian really is. So before you just write off Christianity in general, I strongly suggest researching for yourself and don't go according to the actions of other people.
You said, "I just think that the best thing is to love one another and be nice and kind and tolerant."
That all sounds wonderful, but it's all relative. Let's take "love one another". What is loving one another? You want to hang out with a certain crowd that has a reputation of drinking, drugs and whatever. Are your parents loving you if they let you run around with a bad crowd? Or is your best friend loving you if she turns her back and says nothing if you wanted to try drugs? Maybe she is influencing you to do drugs. Is that love? You want to be "nice" and "tolerate" so do you give in to her? Walk away? I could probably come up with several examples, but the point is, it's not based on any standard.
Christianity is based on the standard of the bible; God's Word. It's true, whether you believe it or not, and God does exist.
You said,"I dont believe in heaven or hell, they were both made up to scare people."
What do you base that belief on? Not saying you do, but most people who believe that heaven and hell are made up, believe that because they are scared it may be true. And they know in their heart where they are headed.
You said, "And i dont understand why people say god is so forgiving, he will forgive you of your sins and whatever, but then everyone says that bad people are sent to hell. Why doesn't god forgive them?!?!"
God created a perfect world and gave people a free will to make choices. He wants people to CHOOSE Him. When the first people, Adam and Eve, chose to listen to the devil and disobey God, they separated themselves from God. Their sin divided them from that relationship with God Almighty; a perfect and Holy God. When sin entered the world so did death. Now everything dies. But God loves people so much that He sent Jesus to pay for our sins and there is now a way to be reconciled to God. Every person's soul will live forever. It's up to each individual to choose to live reconciled to the Creator or not. Not everyone accepts God's gift of forgiveness and those who don't will be in hell when they die. So to answer you question, God's forgiveness is AVAILABLE to everyone, but rejected by many. Those who reject God, will be be in hell.
You seem to be in a place of seeking and that it good, but seek to discover truth. Don't settle for what "feels good". Feelings come and go, but truth is forever. My prayer for you is that your heart will only find peace when the truth of God's Word pierces it.
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okay.. im so pasinate about god and im 14. I love talking about him and i want to live a god centered life. I go to church but everyone in my youth group goes to have fun with everyone and flirt with eachother which is annoying because none of them like having serious convos about god and make christians look bad. I want to find a good group of chrstians to talk to about jsut everything and kinda like have them as a support group to encourage me to continue living for god. but i feel so lonely all the time like no one really wants to live for god at this kind of age. my mom tells me i have a old soul so it will be hard to find friends that are intrested in that kind of stuff. but it really sucks.. how do you think i could find some people to just fellowship with... and actrually live the christian life and spread my faith with people who actrually care to answer those questions! (link)
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Praise the Lord! This is AWESOME that you are passionate about God. He is passionate about you too. Bless you for not following the crowd. That is to be commended.
You may just be in a season where God wants to minister to you, to teach you, and just have you get close to Him, so don't get discouraged. God knows your heart and will provide all your needs; including friends, in His timing. I know it's hard, but stay strong. Practically speaking, there is a place called http://shoutlife.com It's the Christian version of My Space.
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ok, so i am 16 and a christian and i am born again. i try to follow jesus in all i do. the thing is, i have met this guy and we have become very close. we know that we both want more than friendship but that with my belief that i should only see christian guys in a romantic way ("do not be unequally yoked") we also know that things really shouldn't go further.
we have been spending a lot of time together lately and even holding hands, he puts his arm around me etc. he tried to kiss me the other day but i said no and i know he won't again, however much we both want it.
so he knows i won't go any further with this and he knows how important my faith is to me. he is an agnostic at the moment, and he says that he is going to learn about my faith more and see whether he finds truth in it if you see what i mean. i have made him understand how important it is that he makes his decision separate from me, that he becomes a christian for his own beliefs, not his wishes as far as i am concerned.
my best friend has told me that she thinks i am being stupid because she knows how much we like each other (more than i could ever imagine was possible) and thinks that i will keep going with this, even though i know nothing more will happen, especially if he doesn't become a christian. she really upset me the way she talked to me, and i don't want to upset her.
my pastor has told me he thinks that i need to slow things down because the guy's sister told him we are 'seeing other' which neither of us has said and we aren't really sure what the situation is. after talking to some other christian friends this morning i realised that whatever decision i make someone loses. so hadn't it better be me too.
i guess i'm just looking for your thoughts on this, and how strongly you believe what you do, because i need to get some objective ideas into the mix, to help me know what to do. thanks already, xxx (link)
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Oh, little sister, bless you for your desire to do what is right in the eyes of God. First of all, yes, you are correct. You should not be unequally yolked. I think it is cool he wants to learn about your faith. But again you are right, he needs to make the decision separate from you. I would bet your actions of clinging to your faith is speaking volumes to him. Stand your ground and pray for him.
However, I would like to address the "being together" part. It sounds like you spend a fair amount of time together and, evidently your feelings for each other are showing on the outside even if actions other than holding hands is all that is happening.
Believe it or not, I can relate to your situation. When I was 16, I met a boy too. I also knew better. I also believed I could withstand the pull. To make a long story short, I ended up "enjoying the fleeting pleasures of sin" (Hebrews 11:25). I got pregnant my senior year of high school and the boy left when I was five months a long.
Your best friend saying that "you're being stupid" is a bit harsh. Perhaps I would say it this way... as soon as you think it could never happen to you, the evil one has got ya.
I urge you to use wisdom. Are you following the fleshly desires or the plan God has for you? Proverbs 24:14 "Wisdom is like honey for your life-- if you find it, your future is bright."(CEV)
And I urge you to trust the Lord. Are you following a road the Lord has cleared or is this road leading to destruction? Proverbs 3:5-6 "With all your heart you must trust the LORD and not your own judgment. Always let him lead you, and he will clear the road for you to follow." (CEV)
As a born again believer, you have the Holy Spirit living in you and He will guide you into all truth. (John 16:13)
And remember this, whatever decision you make about the relationship with this boy, someone will most likely be unhappy about it. That unhappy person might even be you. But all that aside, what pleases the Lord is most important.
I'm around if you need me.
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okay My aunt birthday is tommorw but thing is very sad day for her becouse her son had to rush to the hositpail becouse he sick. he pass away last june. he had lukima and was 35. so my aunt had her days bad and good days. thing is i going to call her tommrow and i want to say something make her feel better. she love to lough and have a good lough and good thoughts. other thing is last time i call her on her bday she was saying it wasn't good time.. me and my aunt are very close and i was close to my cousin...
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I am so sorry to hear of your aunt's sad heart. How hard it must be to have lost her son. You are very loving to want to cheer her up. Doing something for her that is fun and cheerful is a wonderful way to make her happy, but happiness is temporary. What she needs is joy. Unlike happiness, joy does not depend on happenings. Joy comes from knowing Jesus in a personal way.
If your aunt already knows Jesus, she needs to be reminded how much Jesus loves her and knows her grief. If she does not know Jesus, the best thing you can do for her is read passages from the bible that points her to the Savior who loves her. Here are some examples:
Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
John 14:6 "I am the way, the truth, and the life!" Jesus answered.
Hebrews 13:5 ....for he has said, "I will never leave you nor forsake you."
Your aunt is very blessed to have you.
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Yep, so two of my friends and I were discussing the book of revelations in the bible, and from other sources aswell, we found that the world is supposed to end in 2012, with reffernces of fire of a meteor or something?
Could someone please fill me in on this, and how factually based it is, I mean.. it was found in a biblical based book..
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The Bible says in Matthew 24:36 "No one knows the day or hour. The angels in heaven don't know, and the Son himself doesn't know. Only the Father knows." (CEV) Since no one knows, any prediction is false. You need only make sure you are prepared by having a relationship with God through His Son Jesus. If you know Jesus as Lord and Savior of your life, that day will be a joy for you because you will go home to be with Jesus forever.
No one can predict it nor has that day happened yet either. I repeat, NOT happened yet. The Bible says in Luke 17:24 "The day of the Son of Man (Jesus) will be like lightning flashing across the sky." (CEV) and in Matthew 24:30 "Then a sign will appear in the sky. And there will be the Son of Man (Jesus). All nations on earth will weep when they see the Son of Man coming on the clouds of heaven with power and great glory." (CEV)
All the nations will see Jesus at once and that has not happened. If you know Jesus, you have nothing to fear no matter when that day occurs.
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I have a question:
You know how if you are living in sin you need to go before God and ask for forgiveness? What if you do something wrong, for example, I kick friend's dog. If no one witnesses or knows and I go before God and repent, say I am truly sorry and receive forgiveness. What if a year later my sister asks me, "have you ever kicked your friend's dog?" Am I obligated to tell the world my truths? I know this is a silly example but what about sins that are more serious... you know? Say I was married and I had an affair? Or if someone had an abortion. I know those are more extremes but are we obligated to be honest about sins of the past? If we are no longer in sin what is are obligation? Shouldn't it be between God and each of us? OR are we obligated to be open with the world of our sins.
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I'll throw out a few things and hopefully they will help.
Wisdom and discernment needs to be the leader when sharing. We as Christians are not obligated to be open with the world in the sense of giving them something to gossip about, but the Lord does want us to testify to the things He has done for us. So in the example of the sister asking, I would want to know why she wants to know and proceed from there.
Yes, there are situations when we need not go any further than repenting to God, but more often than not, there is another person involved and the Lord will require us to make things right.
My husband just "happen" to read this story to me while I was typing this to you. To coincidental not to be lesson.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070326/ap_on_fe_st/belated_payment_1
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This weekend at a church event, I accepted Christ. It was quite amazing, my leaders and friends helped so much, but now the weekends over and I'm not sure what to next. I talked to a few people who recommened baptism, but I don't feel like that is what I really should do, not yet anyways. I attend a church on occasion with my mom, but my family isn't religious, which makes me wanting to be a stronger Christian difficult. I havent told my parents about being saved yet, I'm unsure of their reactions.
So, what should I do now? How do I start to help my relationship with God grow? How do I explain to my parents whats going on? Is there anything I should know? (link)
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Welcome to the Family! The next step is what's called being discipled which means being mentored in the ways of God. This can be done through a bible study or youth group, but finding someone to teach you one on one is the best. This someone should be be a person who has been a Christian for awhile and has an understanding of biblical truth. Talk with the leaders you mentioned. Since they have been helpful in leading you to the Lord Jesus, I can't imagine they wouldn't want to teach you what the bible says.
In the past, I have mentored people from the advicenators website through email. And I'd be glad to do that for you. I have a statement of Faith at my website so you can read about me and what I believe. There is a link to my website at the my advicenators column. Let me know.
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